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This. I was drugged and then raped at 12. My memories end when he climbed on top of me in his briefs and pick up again the next morning when I'm in the shower feeling weird (post-drug haze or disassociation) and with a really sore hole. I don't have memories of the experience, but my underwear was quite bloody so that says a lot. Part of the human mind's evolutionary development is to make sense of the world we live in and to rationalize our experiences. I spent plenty of time getting help when I realized what had been done to me and how it had affected me years later. I've been in men's groups where we talked about what happened to us and how we came to understand and integrate it into our lives. We renovate our memories after the fact and give new and different meaning to them as part of finding a way to make sense of them and to live with them. The same thing happens in near real time as well. Almost every kid finds a way to make what happened to them their fault. It's only in the process of understanding what happened to them that they see their limited agency and the part the adult played in a more objective light. There is no clear correlation between the severity of the experience and the impact it has on the individual. Some men who had a man expose himself to them, but never touched them, are horribly scarred, while others who were brutally and repeatedly raped over years are much more functional. It's not what was done to you, it's how it affected you. That varies wildly according to the individuals nature, knowledge, and gifts.
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Pick your favorite dick and explain why you like it...
blackrobe replied to camelblue's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
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I had no idea these had a name, let alone one so alliterative.
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I think anything that stimulates some more broad-ranging self-examination in people is not entirely a bad thing. There are certainly occasions where a dialog is contra-indicated. For example, when someone has a PTSD-based response to something posted here. There are plenty of threads where it's very clear there are people who don't have open minds on their certitude or fallibility. In the past, I've had a dialog with those people elsewhere for the benefit of everyone *else* who is reading the thread. I know nothing will change their minds, but the other people with critical thinking skills will get to understand better in the process.
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A thoughtful response, as always. I vastly prefer giving positive feedback myself. I'd offer at least one counterpoint to your thought though. In a lot of discussions commenting can add more fuel to a fire that you might think should just be allowed to go out. In those cases, I think downvoting is a way of signaling that without adding that fuel. To your point, however, in some cases it's pretty clear that some individuals have used downvoting in a vengeful way. I think those cases are fairly easy to see.
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That's far too long. I'm sure you must be able to get some respite care from some local agency. Have someone else take care of your charge for a day so you can have a break and breed.
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This is a tale as old as time. I was a sysop of a BBS in the pre-internet days (you can look it up). Sysops were responsible for moderating content in forums originating on their system to be compliant with local laws even then. I've been hearing the same kinds of "big bad sysop/moderator was mean/unjust to me" stories since the late 80s. With the global reach of the internet, the complexity is multiplied by the need to comply with laws in *all* jurisdictions your users come from, not just the ones where your site is hosted. It's a difficult, unenviable, and completely thankless job. It's also an entirely necessary one if you want a site to continue to exist for your use. That's not to say some sysops back in the day didn't have themselves a power trip and get too controlling. But back then the restrictions were less stringent, the consequences less harsh, and the likelihood of LEO engagement much lower than today. The amount of content that needs to be moderated now is staggering. I can guarantee that moderators hope they don't *have* to take any kinds of actions, because it's just work.
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Some great past breeders have been Asian and Pacific Islanders and South Asian. I think that's just a function of population statistics rather than any specific choice. I have had great experiences with Vietnamese and Filipino men who have been piggy, kinky, and passionate. I like strong looking and obviously sexually mature men, so if they are furry, older, and with facial and body hair I'm going to be paying attention. To the OP's point, I've always found strong, furry, and tattooed Japanese men very sexy.
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You want bottoms that are sluts for the whole man - his vibe, his cock, his cum. We exist. The best way to make a bottom prefer you fucking them is by being the best fuck for them, by pressing their buttons and making them need you to fuck and impregnate them more than any other man.
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I think everyone has different things that they think of as emotionally intimate. For me, kissing is a very basic sexual act that's tough to do without. It does have levels of intimacy, but it's the connection with the man that adds that, it's not intrinsically in the act of kissing itself. Some find being bred deeply intimate, for others its mindful touching, for others it's just being held. I think a much more likely culprit for the OP's experience with this man is internalized homophobia. It's not at all uncommon for same-sex attracted men to create arbitrary lines in their minds that keep them "straight" so long as they don't cross them. Many gay men's coming out stories have shown this dynamic. However he identifies, that this man used the word "dangerous" to describe kissing makes me think he's decided kissing is on the super-gay side of the line, which makes kissing a threat to his straightness. That way, provided he doesn't kiss a man, he can protect and maintain his "straight" identity. It's a form of bargaining that we do with ourselves as a way of rationalizing our behavior. For example, "No matter what I do with men, provided I don't kiss them or have feelings for them, I'm not gay. I'm just getting off with a mate." The human ability to rationalize our behavior to maintain our equalibrium cannot be underestimated.
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I think there's a simple formula that shows as age increases, less fucks are given about what anyone might think. Ergo, slut.
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The second ring. What does it feel like to the top?
blackrobe replied to neg4charge's topic in General Discussion
When guys breed me, I feel profoundly content cherishing their seed. Keeping it inside me until it becomes part of me is the ideal. I prefer men with a strong instinct to impregnate, so I'll text them hours after we fuck or the next morning to let them know I still have them inside me and that I'm thinking about them. I pinch my nipples and think about how they felt fucking my hole tender and how it felt when they inseminated me. A few men will pound me extra hard to "shake an egg loose" for them to fertilize when they cum. That kind of primal intent is so hot for me to feel. The breedings that feel best are the ones past the sigmoid flexure, as I never see that seed again, it's so far inside me. I had one top who did this to me every time he fucked me. I've taken well over 100 of his loads in that deep place and never seen them again. I can't clearly articulate how incredible it feels to be fucked and fertilized that deeply. -
Pick your favorite dick and explain why you like it...
blackrobe replied to camelblue's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
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Don't forget that lots of big guys have trouble finding bottoms that can take them without tapping out. Feeling someone do it eagerly and without complaint is going to be pretty great for him. Take the compliment that his load clearly is, and just be there for him, help him find his way in your ass without putting any expectations on him. Take the compliment that his promt load signifies and be open for what's next.
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News Flash: You're hot now too. I'm not the only bottom here who would be thrilled to catch an encounter with you. Just sayin'...
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Fair warning... I'm almost entirely composed of such mordant observations and thoughts not shared.
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I like profiles that tell me about the personality of the man who wrote them. They give me a sense of who he is and is fuel for finding a connection between us. I've also heard from men that they don't care to know anything about me except what I'll do for them and when I can do it. Knowing I love to cook and feed people doesn't matter to them, and I'm sometimes mocked for showing some of who I am. At the same time, I'm really clear I'm there for intense bareback fucking and breeding and that, depending on their vibe, I'm a submissive bottom. What the experienced and intelligent breeders know is that good food and good sex are strongly correlated. The profiles that really make me shake my head are the obvious scam profiles. A set of very professional looking pics of generically handsome men that are, let's face it, TGTBT (Too good to be true) with "Looking for the love of my life" and "Only interested in LTR". I get between 1 and 4 of these TGTBT "Love scam" profiles approaching me a day on Grindr. As a rule the pics are of Boy-band handsome Asian men (so it sucks extra hard to be a nice genuine Asian guy on Grindr right now) and the English language skills of the people trying to chat you up are pretty terrible. I've found telling them you're only interested in intense bareback fucking and breeding makes them lose interest in you as a mark. How dumb are these scammers? I mean, isn't looking for love and marriage on Grinder like looking for a christening robe in a whorehouse? It's not impossible, but it's sure as hell not likely.
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Interesting. I've found that a hungry, horny, hole ends up opening more. Early on in my bottoming journey I expressed concern about whether a heroically hung top would be able to get all of his dick inside me. He dismissed my concerns, saying "If you are horny enough, you'll fit a Buick in your ass."
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This captures a lot of feelings that I share, as per usual. I'm seeking the top breeder's pleasure and release, as that gives me strong fulfillment. My goal is to stay eager and receptive to him for as long as he needs to use me. Breeders can always tell how I'm responding to them by the amount of precum their fuck forces from my dick. A top breeder who sees the core of what you are and values and uses that as his nature tells him to is a joy. A few tops have forced me to cum before the fucking started either to take any focus on my pleasure away (I was already there), or to get my hole to be as tight as possible for them (I can do that on request). Both of those can be achieved without making me cum. As I feel a breeder's seed flowing inside me, I don't get the same feeling of deep contentment if they've made me cum. He's actually *lessened* my focus on his orgasm. That doesn't make much sense to me.
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I haven't needed a plug to keep men's DNA inside me until it's part of me. My ass naturally wants to keep it inside me, but I do have a small plug I can use if I ever get my ass fucked so hard that I need it.
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I love a sweaty top breeder as getting marked with their scent inside and out is a huge turn on for me. I'm also into long-haul fucking and breeding so that's going to end up generating some sweat. I've had a couple of breeding tops who were really putting in the work on my ass who drip sweat on me and get embarrassed. I tell them that I love it and not to worry on my account. I love smelling like a man's just fucked me down and impregnated me with his seed. I have a few breeders who love to mount up after I've just worked out and am sweaty and smelling like I've been working hard. My sweaty pit scent seems to really turn some breeders on hard, and I love that. They smell and taste my sweat as they fuck and I love that primal vibe.
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Best friends brother and my teachers son
blackrobe replied to Benjay23's topic in General Bareback Sex Stories
I think it's valid to give praise and offer such neutral, but fair, constructive criticism. I stopped reading the story part way through because of the lack of punctuation to break up the ideas and establish the rhythm of the story. If you're serious about writing and something technical throws people out of your story like that, it's good to learn and have the opportunity to fix it. -
I use a really good grease cutting dish soap on my one silicone toy to wash it, and then I boil it before I let it cool and pat dry.
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I agree about the connection. I love kissing, it's the strongest and fastest path to establishing a connection and complete arousal for me. Great kissing and making out can make my hole open fast and really pumps up my need to be fucked and impregnated by them. I'm horny and receptive without it, but with it there's an extra dimension.
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