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This kind of thing makes me laugh. I'm a bottom (pretty submissive, but also primal) and wear Andrew Christian briefs because the construction of the pouch is more comfortable for my cock. Nothing to do with loving taking dick and seed in my ass. If I'm getting fucked they're going down or off anyway, no matter what type they are.

Of course you do. As we all know, nothing says you support an organization unreservedly like refusing to interview with them on ethical grounds. 😏 It's time to hang a "Don't feel the Troll" sign on this thread.

If that's what it looks like to you. Once again, I won't be engaging on your facile and specious hypotheses. Cheers.

You managed to take my having worked on PR issues in the technology industry and extrapolated that into having worked at Grindr. I'm beginning to see how you might have arrived at your highly speculative hypotheses. Full disclosure: I have never been employed in any capacity by Grindr. I was approached by an executive recruiter once several years ago regarding a senior position there and, knowing their history, I declined.

We bottoms, pussyboys, and fags appreciate you men who are born wired to fuck and breed us and fill and mark us with your cum. Our seed taking instincts match and serve your own.

Grindr is a for-profit company, of course its actions will be self-serving. Attempting to blunt and manage to neutral the PR problems it saw at the last two Olympics was about protecting its brand and stock price. I'm critical of Grindr on many issues, but there is nothing surprising or sinister in their actions on this issue. I've worked in technology and been part of team dealing with PR issues. Based on my experience, this looks like business as usual. My lack of comment on the above mentioned hypothesis was quite intentional.

TL;DR: Not a ban, not homophobic, and not the whole story. I have lots of problems with Grinder, from its technology, to its ethics and business practices. The temporary and geofenced changes they've made at the Olympic Village in Paris aren't among those problems. Firstly, I don't think anyone could convince me that Grindr or the French are sex-negative or homophobic, but secondly the history of Grindr and other location-based hook up apps at the Olympics and other International events give a pretty clear context and justification for their actions. In 2016, a 'writer' and editor for The Daily Beast, Nico Hines, wrote a click-bait story that outed gay athletes at the Rio Olympics causing an uproar that earned him Internet infamy as the epitome of the self-serving and amoral journalist. Hines, who is straight, set up a bogus profile on Grindr and used it to trick Olympic athletes into chatting with him. He didn't identify himself as a journalist unless he was challenged, and his sex-negative and shaming article described the athletes he spoke to in enough detail that it was very easy to identify them. Some of the outed athletes were from extremely anti-gay countries, meaning that Hines’ irresponsible piece put them at risk when they returned home. Hines used the location-based features we're discussing to explore inside the 2016 Olympic Village and find the athletes he ultimately exploited and potentially endangered in his story. The uproar of condemnation that met his article resulted in The Daily Beast very quickly stripping out the identifying information, but even with the details removed the furor continued and the article was taken down completely. At the time I remember thinking, "Why is a straight guy writing about gay hookups at the Olympics rather than the overwhelmingly more numerous straight hookups? I guess there's no clicks in outing straight folks..." Then at the 2020 Tokyo Olympics, TikTok and Twitter users decided that using the same features and method to find gay athletes was a great way to "create content" in the form of screenshots and screen recordings of athletes on Grindr. The same furor arose for the same reasons and TikTok and Twitter took down the exploitative content at Grindr's request. Grindr had found themselves in multiple PR fires at multiple Olympics being used as kind of digital accessory to outing and endangering athletes. Is it any wonder they finally sat down in the wake of this high-profile negative press to find a way to protect athletes and prevent people doing the same thing at future Olympics? In 2016 I'm pretty sure they thought the Olympics PR problem needed a PR solution, but after 2020 they realized they would need a combined PR and technology solution going forward. Here's what Grindr says they are doing at the 2024 Paris Olympics to mitigate past problems and give athletes the safest experience possible (Source: Grindr and Enhanced Privacy for Athletes at the Paris Olympics, July 24th 2024): I don't see anything that could be framed as a "Grindr ban" in these steps. What I do see is a company trying to figure out how to prevent bad actors (yes, Nico Hines and those specific TikTok and Twitter users, I mean you) from using their platform to breach a high-profile group of users privacy and safety. Looking at the history, any suggestion that Grindr's actions for the Paris Olympics are "homophobic" is nonsensical to me. Positioning it as a kind of "ban" is, at the very least, uninformed, if not actually intentionally misleading. I can only assume that the OP was themselves the victim of some lazy or sensationalized reporting to frame the survey question as they did. I'd assert instead that Grindr has credibly attempted to thread the needle on preserving capabilities for athletes in the Olympic village while protecting them from those bad actors outside the village trying to monetize the athletes sexuality at the expense of their privacy and safety.

There's some of the bait-and-switch, for sure, but that's certainly not all of it. Let's be real, on some sites nothing but a cock pic gets any traction at all. I think sometimes guys learn that lesson and think it's the same on every site and app and, in some locations, maybe it is. We all try and learn what works through experimentation and iteration. I've ditched these cock-gazing sites as they are primarily old technology and the user base is more about getting imagery for their wank back than hooking up. OP, I don't think all these guys are intentionally doing a bait and switch. I think at least some of them learned what works on legacy sites and they are mentally stuck there. I tried going with no cock pic on Sniffies, but then everyone wanted to see one before getting together. So, I put up a cock pic and, then even though my main profile pic is my ass full of dick and the others are two hungry ass pics and my profile clearly says "Submissive Bottom", I still got guys asking me to fuck them. Sigh. Then I tried a caged cock pic to send the message that I wasn't going to be topping anyone, but that reduced and narrowed the guys who I connected with unacceptably. In the end I deleted the hard cock pic, found one that was semi-hard, and put that on my profile to satisfy the tops who need to know what you're packing (either for a fetish or insecurity), and a head-fake to the zero reading comprehension crowd that my dick isn't going in their ass. In the end, it's all wishful, or more accurately, dick-ful or ass-ful thinking. No matter how diligent you are about representing yourself accurately, someone is going to be so single-minded about what they want that they completely ignore what you want and project their needs onto you. P.s. On tops with ass pics, put me in the 100% support column. I absolutely love hot-assed top men, so seeing an ass pic on a top's profile totally works for me. It's one of the things that encourages me to contact them. Not everything is strict position signaling. Sometimes tops just have hot asses that bottoms love to grab and pull into them while we're fucking.

I think this one needs some elaboration.

I've been to Stockholm a couple of times. What sex or cruise clubs do you recommend?

Are we sure that it's ignorance driving this behavior and not some kind of straight entitlement or plain old magical thinking?

I had the same error and it was fixed. There have been at least two app updates since that bug.

It's about more than counting to count coup. You can track how good the experience was with your partners with notes, when you were tested, when you got results and what they were, treatment, and reminders for future testing. Based on what you've done since your last round of testing, you can determine what testing needs to be done as well. You get reminders to take Doxy PEP within the window after unprotected sex and for PrEP, and record when you took PrEP and Doxy PEP. The UW sexual health clinic has a raft of detailed questions about your number of partners and BBB helps me answer accurately. When I have a spontaneous fuck with a stranger, I record it under Anonymous. Quick and easy. The app gives me tools to be proactive and help manage my sexual health. Knowledge is power.

I'm a daily user and that bug was fixed. Update to the latest version.

Ethical Non-Monogamy is a valid option as well, let's not ignore it. Open relationships = No cheating.

Unless they already are a housewife who is wired to service and satisfy breeders.

I think many bottoms would find your idea of their inner sanctum familiar and resonant, regardless of their belief or non-belief. Your decision not to knowingly breed atheists or agnostics intrigues me. There's a missionary imperative in most religious traditions, a drive to bring ecstatic awareness of the divine and ultimately convert people with the power and presence of your own belief and faith. It's striking that, given the missionary tradition, the powerful anointing of breeding someone so deeply is something you avoid.

I prefer long-haul fucking with skilled breeders, especially those who need to cum multiple times. It's rare to find top breeders interested in long-haul and overnight fucking (3-5 hours of solid fucking if it's not an overnight). I'm very lucky to have found a man recently that I have an intense connection with. He loves my body and wants to be inside me as long as possible. Last time we fucked for three solid hours and only stopped because I had another commitment. What you're seeing isn't a phenomena limited to bottoms, the vast majority of tops are looking to get off fast and move on. So much so, that I've been tempted by a t-shirt that says "I cleaned out for this?"

I think you're embodying the "Platinum Rule" here. The Golden Rule is to treat others as you would want to be treated. Well, it's pretty clear that how people want to be treated when fucking varies wildly. The Platinum Rule is to treat people the way *they* want to be treated.

The intent is good, but consider the law of unintended consequences. If you do, you'll see this $olution would be a terrible and unfair burden on some of us. On Grindr I'm solicited by 12 to ~20 100% fake scam profiles a day. These are mostly "love scams" and PII mining scams run out of China. Reporting them all has become too onerous (I've reported hundreds of them) so I've been blocking them instead. Requiring users who are targeted by scammers that Grindr has totally failed to prevent from engaging in their platform (thus driving their internal engagement metrics up) to PAY to block the bad actors Grindr's negligence has allowed to fester is every kind of unethical and fucked-up.

I think it's very individual. But there needs to be a follow up clarifying question - to whom are we asking the *original* question? Bottoms and tops will have different points of view. My daddy started out surprised that I didn't need to cum when he fucked me. He learned that the more orgasms he had inside me the happier I was independent of ever having an orgasm myself. In fact, *not* cumming means I can be horny and hungry for more fucking and breeding as long as men need it. That feels to me like a bottom sluts first duty, be as horny as possible to help men breed for as long as possible. There's a lot of satisfaction in earning a breeders nut impregnating you deep in your guts. However, it's his bone-deep satisfaction and desire for a repeat that is my true goal, whether I'm someone who he's really turned on by and instinctively needs to impregnate, or simply a convenient utility fuck hole to give release and keep his nut safe for him. Specific men have been able to get my hole to spasm around them to varying degrees, some of them causing my whole body to spasm from the intensity of their fuck. Recently a man has managed to fuck me into incredibly intense sensations and anal spasms with his cock and body. We're both trying to take every chance for long sessions (the longest we've kept it up is 3 hours) to explore and experience this more. If these spasms are a form of anal orgasm, does it count? Does only cumming count? The anal spasms he fucks me into milk and pleasure his cock and, as they peak, my hole brings him over the edge and he breeds me intensely. If these spasms count as cumming and they deliver pleasure to a breeder, then the top might say it does matter if their bottom cums because of he extra pleasure it brings them. The degree to which the top gets pleasure from giving pleasure will be a big factor, versus focusing on their own satisfaction exclusively.

There's lots of ways to tell. AI images leap out at me for their inauthenticity (for now). There's a bunch of tells depending on the AI system producing the image, neutrality of expression, eyes missing aliveness, skin/hair too regular and perfect, wrong textures, missing any text/nonsense text, nonsense tattoos, physics errors (E.g. douche attendant above has no reflection in the mirror behind him - not a vampire), too handsome/homogenized good looks, missing arms/legs/bodyparts, abnormal symmetry, anatomical improbabilities and impossibilities, mythical creature/animal hybridization, multiple subjects too similar/obvious micro-variations of two models, duplicate body parts, uncanny resemblances to famous people, airbrushed look, etc. etc. The better AI image systems can turn out very realistic looking people - mostly. For a fair sample across the spectrum from the obviously fantastical to the harder to spot, take a look at mengen.bdsmlr.com.

Yeah, I've been on that ride too. I was shocked at first (disassociating level of shock) but it ultimately led to us opening our relationship (Ironically, I'd proposed it several times in the early days and got shot down hard). Sound familiar? I started out thinking I'd avoid guys who are cheating for ethical reasons, but at the end of the day there's no way to know what's the truth about someone else's relationship. I ended up deciding their conscience is their responsibility and it wasn't my job to police other people's behavior and that I just didn't have the data to do it effectively. The reality is that where I live about 80% of gay male relationships have some degree of openness (I recall hearing about 50% is the national average). For some men cheating is a kink whether it's real or imagined. I have a couple of regulars who love pumping their load inside me because they know I'm married (and open). After they fuck and impregnate me with their DNA I'll be going home to make dinner for my husband with their fresh seed in my ass. They fucking love that. I also have a guy who is an Alpha breeder in a monogamous relationship and sometimes he needs to cheat to stay with his man. Life is (hopefully) long and it gets complicated fast. I try to access my compassion and avoid judging others.

BTW, using the Western dataset at CalcSD, at 5" in a room of 1000 men, 825 would be bigger than you, at 5.5" on 634 would be bigger. At 6" only 401 of the 1000 men would be bigger, and 6.5" only 199 would be bigger. Using the Global dataset the average sized dick goes down, penis size in Western countries seem to be larger on average.

You lucky, lucky bastard.