blackrobe

To your point, was the Texas university DEI a "not specifically target(ed)" program? What are the indicators of this? How did this manifest in Texas? Specifically, what outcomes did it need to meet that it failed in and for what communities? It seems like you have a standard in mind for what makes a group qualify for targeted assistance. What is that standard? What groups do you think qualify for some assistance? I'm really struggling to nail down where you think Texas actually failed, and what you think needs to be different to make an effective intervention. The implication is that somehow people who needed help got shortchanged and it went to people who didn't need it. I'd love to see that data that leads you there.

To summarize what I think I heard from you: "The DEI programs at Texas Universities did not effectively or authentically represent the concerns of black people and address their issues. That these programs were in fact a way of paying lip service to helping black people while instead providing a vehicle to help white people and those looking to pass as white. Direct advocacy by communities and their organizations would be more effective at getting their issues addressed within the Texas university system." As someone who's had to work inside a DEI structure to try and move forward a specific set of issues and concerns, I well aware of the way a DEI organization can structurally slow or prevent progress. Do you have specific data, citations, or evidence on how DEI in Texas universities failed and justified the creation of this ban? Based on the broad reporting it seems as though it supporters are more ideologically than specifically data driven. That is, I don't think the proponents of the ban are proposing a better, more effective solution for driving up under-represented minority enrollment and graduation, but instead simply wanted to remove the program and let the chips fall where they may. The author of the bill that created the ban stated that his goal was in "promoting a merit-based approach where individuals are judged on their qualifications, skills, and contributions" which would seem to structurally disadvantage students across the black community and many others. I'm trying to figure out if your support is based on specific knowledge of the situation in Texas, a general belief that DEI is always structured to fail or be unfair, or a simple idealogical agreement with those proposing and securing the ban.

@BlackDude and @topblkmale, I'm interested in the reasons and rationales for why you think banning diversity, equity, and inclusion programs is a good thing. Can you help me understand your thought process here?

A young black man who is a frequent flyer is addicted to the way my hole opens up around him, becomes so wet, and makes such slutty sounds as he fucks into me. I start out snug, but it's how my hole surrenders wetly to him that brings him back again and again. The last three times we fucked he fucked so hard and deep, and orgasmed so powerfully into my juicy cunt. I think its not just about looseness, I think it's about being very wet as well so that if you are snug to start, it easy for them to get inside and enjoy our holes as they relax into their most receptive state. That transition is one many men enjoy deeply.

This is the fundamental misunderstanding I think exists about bottoming and this kind of profoundly primal human drive. Apart from the obvious human drive for sexual activity which in some way we all take part in according to our natures, its worth remembering that sex is always about control, whether it's given up, taken, or shared. Wilde was dead on the money when he opined “Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” If you look deeply enough, I think you'll find much of the time men with a deep need to impregnate, and men with a corresponding need to be impregnated, are both happy and joyfully male and not looking for a gender shift. What lies underneath this dynamic is a need to dominate/impregnate and be dominated/impregnated. Thinking about the ultimate acts of submission connected with sex, the idea of becoming pregnant for a man, yolked as an incubator for his DNA for months has to be near or at the top of the list. Being same-sex attracted is a normal human sexual variation, but the biological drives pattered into our species by millennia of evolution find a way to express themselves just the same. The assigned male at birth bottoms who present their ripe, fertile cunts for impregnation do so knowing they won't get pregnant (duh). The reptile brain inside us doesn't care. It wants to do what instinct tells it too - fuck, surrender their cunt to a worthy breeder, and come away changed by it. Claimed. Owned. Transformed. There is also the transgressive nature of a men yearning to be impregnated by a man with that clear intention, as though the yearning to bottom and accept men's cocks in their bodies wasn't already a step along that same path. Just a deeper submission, a more complete surrender. Some imaginative bottoms focus on the idea of a man transforming them in some way as a result of their fucking. Pregnancy is just one of the ones that align with the reptile brain, but submission and surrender can be seen in other transformation kinks like imagining being made a werewolf, vampire, or even poz conversion (no, I'm not equating them) by a intensely focused primal top. Male breeders are following the biological imperative to fuck and deposit their seed in every hole they can. Some of these breeders become aware of how their primal need to fuck and seed resonates more strongly when they connect it to impregnating, claiming, owning, and or transforming the bottom they are using. I completely get @Pnp-pig's point of view. Being a male is a pretty good gig in many ways, although there are downsides too. Being a male is seen as consequence free in many ways. Now, I don't get guys who cross dress and it's not something I see myself getting a sexual charge out of. At the same time, I don't feel any strong reaction towards the men who do get into it. It's well covered in research how homophobia, external or internal, has deep roots in misogyny and is grounded in a sense of male primacy. As gay, bi, and men who have sex with men its worth some quiet reflection to excavate where our feelings and attitudes towards men who exhibit *any* aspect of what is traditionally seen as the female role (Receptive in sex, reproductive drive, sexually subordinate) might be coming from.

It's likely about short notice cleaning, but our bodies and our rhythms are all different. For my big guys (over 8") I like to do a routine that takes several hours. That's not always possible if it's an On call or short notice hookup. I use a 10" silicone nozzle to prep and test that I'm good to go. Honestly though, top guys quite often want hole on their schedule, not ours. Compliant bottoms who want to be bred often need to be available when breeders need ass, so not all preparation is going to be as long as we'd like.

Now I'm curious what words you exchanged...

Perhaps you have experiences that inform your restrictions, but I really recommend opening yourself up to men of all races and ethnicities, uncut, as well as men over 40. If I were to plot my best experiences on a graph, many of them were older, uncut men of color.

Based on your description, you were raped. No consent, being physically overpowered, and forced penetration = rape.

I would perhaps say he's been perfected and found his calling.

It brings to mind a saying an old friend used to say to me... "Long and thin gets right in, but short and thick does the trick." There are different average dick sizes in different countries. There are datasets that exist and can show what the average is for each. You can explore and get a more realistic sense of what is average at [think before following links] https://calcsd.info.

Yeah, I get that. It's a very different vibe. The holy grail for me is a connected fuck with what I think of as "long-haul" fuckers and breeders. An intense experience that unfolds over a few hours without rushing. My best experiences tend to be 2 to 5 hour long sessions where we lose ourselves, get primal, and don't even feel the time passing. My daddy and regulars can always tell how much I'm enjoying them inside me and pleasing them. I'm told I make great sounds when I'm being fucked, but what they love most is how much my dick leaks while I'm being fucked well. Multi-cummers, long-fuckers, or guys who take a long time to cum are ideal playmates. I like giving the guys who can go long the time to do that, since they tell me so many bottoms are one and done and not up for the long-haul. I like to really surrender and earn the moments when a man can't help but lose himself completely and throb his seed inside me.

The slow intensity building sounds very tantric in quality. Men who are that patient and capable of deferred gratification aren't as common as I'd like.

Side was coined for men who have sex with men that don't have or want anal sex. I support the use of the term and them in that choice. People have already started confusing and diluting what side means. I see lots of profiles with "Top/Side" or some other union of buttfucker and non-buttfucker. Any profile with side on it (in any combination) I don't approach. I've had some conversation with "Top/side" guys who are annoyed at my passing on them because they are sides. When I point out that top means you do anal, and side means you don't, things seem to go downhill fast from there. It's an oxymoron like "carnivore vegetarian" and "religious atheist". I am vehemently in favor of respecting what people want for themselves. It's not a good sign when some of them don't understand what that is or can't express it coherently. When it's ambiguous or confused, I'm politely uninterested.

I was drugged and raped when I was 12 by the dormitory master for my year, a religious brother, at the boy's home I was in. It completely fucked up my sexuality and personal relationships for decades. I didn't even realize what happened to me was child sexual abuse until I was reading an article in the newspaper in my 20s about the outcomes for child rape survivors. As I went down the list of impacts my stomach felt like it dropped out of me, almost every impact applied to me. I started therapy that week. I did all the work to get my head right, but no one has a roadmap for how to deal with how your body holds on to what happens to you. It took a long, long time to undo the abject terror of getting fucked and try it in a way that let me feel safe and in control. That's when I realized I was wired as a bottom and discovered incredible joy from getting fucked and bred. Rape affects men as deeply as it can women, but for children there's significant research showing child sexual abuse affects how our brains work (fMRI studies) and alters structures in the brain and how they function. Child rapists don't just fuck our bodies for however long they want us, they fuck our brains and they stay that way. We have to learn how to manage the results for the rest of our lives.

I love the fucking a lot too. It's how you drive up the intensity and connection and its certainly what distinguishes a regular breeder from a Special Guest Star.. At the same time, if a man isn't a long-haul fucker I'm fine with him breeding whenever the spirit moves him. I'm into meeting breeders where they are and connecting with them there. After all, the same man who impregnates you after a half-dozen thrusts one week might wear out your hole before breeding you the next. Be open to whatever he's bringing into the room and maybe he'll do the same for you.

This. The best way to receive a breeders seed is with him in full rut like this. It's a feeling like you're trying to merge bodies completely. There are different vibes to this through. Some breeders are cunt-stabbers who pull back enough to really stab their cock into your soft guts, as though impregnating you properly must involve some momentary pain. Some breeders are cunt-pounders who want your whole body to feel your impregnation in your blood, bone, and sinew. Other breeders are cunt-stretchers who have to pop open your inner cunt when they impregnate you and hold it open until they are finished seeding. While still other breeders are cunt-grinders who seem like they need their cock to touch and claim every part of your cunt and coat it with their DNA. I'm content with whatever vibe so long as he's in full rut.

That's inexcusable. In the same way bottoms would like tops to be understanding of the complexities and difficulties of bottoming, bottoms have to understand the challenges of topping. I've had meetups with men who said "I don't always get hard" or something like it. I smile and just say I'm there to make them feel good and just relax and do what feels good to them. Every time they relax, we make out, and they get very turned on and have no problem getting hard. Arousal is such a multi-factored thing. I try to take the pressure off tops so they know whatever happens, it's going to be fine and fun.

I've found Recon to be very inactive in my area. FetLife isn't gay/queer enough for me. I've found most of my power dynamic fwbs and my daddy through regular hookup apps. At the end of the day, you need to meet more guys who are open to your kinks, talk about power dynamics in your profiles. Regular hookup apps and in person cruising are the best way to meet more men in my experience.

I don't know what this is supposed to mean. Is it meant to imply they have no dicks, that they only do oral, that they have no sex at all (lesbian bed-death)?

My nipples are wired to my hole. I love having my nipples touched, but having them sucked and nibbled and licked passionately drives me crazy. Men who do it while their dick is inside me connects to something primal in me.

Some of my best sexual experieinces have been with men who produced lots of precum. Every time I tasted a surge of their sex-drive juice it made me moan around their cock and feel more and more desperate to feel them precumming inside my cunt and making me wetter and wetter (these also tend to be the men who love a hole that talks back to them).

There's some enlightened self-interest in taking "small" dicks too! Every fuck is an opportunity to expand your horizons and I've had awesome fucks from smaller guys that were scorching hot, and tepid fucks from a bigger guys where the vibe dragged. Filtering out men by size robs you of the surprise brilliant fuck.

It's not at all weird to want to be attracted to the bottoms you fuck. I greatly enjoy spending time with a top breeder who is into me. Don't get me wrong, I'll take care of any man I connect with, but when you're both really into each other the experience is so much more intense.

There's no need to be curious, there is data. At 5.5" using the global data, you're at 50.69%. That means that in a room of 1000 men, 493 would be bigger. At 6" using the global data, you're at 78.11% and in a room of 1000 men 219 would be bigger. 5.5" is slightly above the global average, and 6" is significant;ty above the global average. Length isn't the only metric, there is data for girth as well, so having BPL "Bone Pressed Length" and widest girth while erect is the best way to see how you actually measure up based on the data at [think before following links] https://calcsd.info. Note that there are different datasets for different regions of the world, but I'm using the Global data. 5.5" to 6" sounds eminently suckable to me.