BlackDude

Why all the vitriol toward Thomas?

The gay tops are here. We’re waiting for the bottoms to stop chasing “straight” married guys.

Okay I’m going to say it: This post is about standards. I haven’t read each post in this thread but I’ve read a few. And I’m not surprised at what I see. As a black person, and to a lesser extent other non black people, we have a standard placed upon us. And we have be to be honest, the standard people have sexually for white guys is almost non-existent until they hit about 55. Some of the people in this thread are so shocked and offended that others would actually have a standard placed on them. They are just so used to their whiteness being the standard and getting where they want they can’t fathom a world where they are told they will be rejected sexually. And you have a group of guys who will say “yes, I don’t care what happens, as long as you’re white, I’ll fuck you”. (See the post about Q-Anon). Join the club, for the rest of us it’s not “just about sex.” We get asked millions of questions that have nothing to do with sex. To me, this is just checking to say “hey, all that matters is your white still right?” And seeing if people are still on code with that.

I believe this post got the reaction that was intended.

I don’t get the logic that says the media should cover the dealing of a private charity over the dealings of the president of the United States (Trump, Clinton, etc. equally). Because even if you believed that to be true, that $2M-$3M stolen by those black immigrants pales in comparison to 80% of the Red Cross “administrative costs.” I also don’t get the logic why the loss is private property should get equal coverage of a “demonstration” that resulted in the breach of our nations capital. You have black panthers who have been in jail since the 70s for even talking to a foreign government, but these “demonstrators” are getting slaps on the wrist (with little coverage). I also seen little coverage of the assassination attempt of the governor of Michigan.

Interesting perspective as a bottom. I was more think of guys who are able to fuck but won’t. But I guess as a bottom The reasons don’t matter!

What does Nancy Pelosi wearing a kente cloth have to do with anything? None of the links you provided have anything to do with “black supremacy.” By it’s very definition you cannot have two things as supreme. Fighting for Justice and equality is not supremacy, and comes off as a projecting. When other groups fight, they fight for domination. Though I do agree that the term POC is outdated. Most blacks people now realize POC is an identity immigrants use only when it benefits them, only to identify with the same anti-black, pro white Supremacist ideologies in their home countries. And I’m not going to even argue about CTR because that’s a vague term that was intentionally created with no clear definition to hide anti-black rhetoric. It’s actually kinda cowardly in my opinion. Just say what you feel about black people and stand on it.

Exactly. I think Don Jr. is kinda cute but I recognize he doesn’t Believe anything he says and he’s doing this one for the money and two he’s an attention starved ego maniac. I probably bang him one Just to fuck with his head, but that’s it. Unfortunately there are people who are taking what he says seriously.

Divisiveness is good. If you are going to have an ideology, be principled and stand on it. You cannot expect people to make common cause with people who’s ideology put you survival in jeopardy.

I don’t think relationships are feminine, but you ca have a feminine mindset when it comes to sex. Women must be selective when it comes to sex because the result can be procreation. whether they choose to follow that instinct or not his one thing, but a woman should be selecting a made based on his ability to protect and provide. Two men cannot procreate. However, Some of these guys have been hanging with the girls so long, they pick up their dating habits.. For women it is mostly about protection and providing. Even a woman who doesn’t qualify for a man who can provide, will still give the illusion she is looking for that, just out of pure narcissism. These men are the same way. It’s all about putting up a front. Yes their fucking, but like their single mother role models and “girlfriends,” they Pretend to everyone else they’re looking for Mr. right.

This post, and the response, reminds me of a saying: ”When you call for attention, you can’t hang-up!”

That Alpha aesthetic of MAGA is your perception. How are they to answer yes or no if they don’t agree with your premise?

What in the world is a black Supremacist? And how can you be a black supremacist and pro establishment? Lol

It wasn’t 15 years. Hahaha This reminds me of this “straight” married guy in town. He’s been showing up to the spots for years playing straight porn on his phone and jacking off. He won’t let anyone touch him or the holy married cock. He’s trying to do the whole curious married guy thing but no one is curious for 15 years. And I’ve seen him fuck before. So his whole act is just to use desperate gay men who have a straight fetish to feed his ego until he finds someone he deems worthy. Interesting thing is guys Who have been around a few times now his act and don’t give him the time of day anymore.

Alpha males lead with accomplishments and production. Seeking attention as a form of validation is actually a feminine characteristic. “Bad Boys move in silence”

I will give a pass to a guy I’ve never seen do anything. I will admit I was that guy who use to watch when I was younger. I was scared. But if I see you fuck other guys, then try to act coy, ur just playing games. And I agree the end result is the same: you’re not fucking.

American, since the early 1800s

Shout out to you for that insight. From what I’ve seen, a lot of what you describe are from guys with a lot of female influence in their lives. These guys take on that feminine ideology. Women lie to themselves and only count the sex that happens in a “relationship.” They pretend feel guilty about casual sex. It’s a weird rationalization game they play. Big secret is that are fucking, but that like to have that orbit of attention from guys they won’t fuck. Single mother mentality 101. I really didn’t expand on “younger guys” because I didn’t want the entire post to go left. Just saying that people count out younger guys but alot want to get off. I recently visited a cruising spot I abandoned because guys were not doing anything. It’s now younger guys there. As soon as the coast was clear, this younger twink had his pants off and was getting spit roasted bareback. They didn’t know if I was cool or not. They didn’t care. Big change from years ago when guys would hold out forever for the perfect 10.

With all the talk about time wasting, and fantasy posts, I decide to make a post about getting laid in real life. As a caveat, when say say “not fucking” it’s the same as “not worth the effort.” Of course their are always exceptions, but why spend life chasing exceptions? Of course this is all based on my experience and generalizations. I would like to hear others experiences. It’s always fun to get tips and hints from others! Who Isn’t Fucking: Everytime Guy-This is the guy who is always online or at the cruising spot. Mostly because he’s picky as hell and never finds what’s he’s looking for. Hot Unsuccessful Straight Guy-These are guys who fucked a lot of girls when they were younger. Now their older, and women require them to produce, they can’t. But they’re so use to the attention, they’ll take it anywhere they can get it. Often, these are the “jo only” guys or guys who sit in their cars at known cruising spots. They secretly hate the gay men and what their doing. They value attention, not really men, and it will be mission trying to get anything action out of them. Has a BF of The Same Type-Seen this lots of times. For example, if a white guy wants to fuck, and has a black BF, I usually decline. I’ve heard the same from bear types. Yeah these guys may fuck, but it’s not worth the hoops if they have a jealous BF whose identity is tied to who they are in a relationship with. Self Described Twink Over 40-These guys will always see themselves as the 20 year old version of themselves. They’re on an eternal quest to turn back the clock, and are gonna mess only with guys that give them that lost magic. Complete basket cases The 4-Play Guy-Dudes kiss, suck, rub, and do anything else to make you forget theirs no fucking. Guys who want to fuck usually say so or do out front. Who Is Fucking: Successful Married Man-Successful men, especially straight, have plenty of sexual options. Especially good looking ones. If they are online, cruising etc it’s because they want to be. Younger Men-I mean of age. The Older Nerd/“INCEL”-These guys have usually tried and failed to get the attention of women. They’re over it and eager to try something new and feel appreciated. The Hot Guy-I’ve always said hot guys are easier to talk too. They usually have low ego’s and are very secure. The 6:00 Guy-If a guys hitting you up after work or looking for sex, he wants to fuck. He has other options but he’s choosing you or to be in that location. Go for it!

I think everyone in here understands we mostly speak in Generalities and based on personal experience. And I’m Gen-X as well. As from my experience, we are the most flakiest. So I guess we have different experiences.

I concur. Also a culture change. Guys are less piggy and more content to live under rules of straight society (I.e. SF).

We’ve had promiscuity like with all families, but no downright sluts. No nuns or anything, but pretty conservative/average.

I’m noticing a decline in number and quality of posts as well. I don’t even post as much. I like to hear about real guys experiences to get off or just educate myself. But all these exaggerated, clearly fiction posts mess up the vibe. Way too much attention whoring in here. I also think it’s a generational thing. I would guess most of the people who use the side of generation X. We were not raised with the pigginess of the 70s or with prep. We were raised to be afraid of sex so a lot of things we wanted to do we can only fantasize about. So we got into the habit of going on the Internet and talking without ever actually having to deliver. These are the same guys who would sit on A4A way back when, and invent new reasons as to why they could never meet. Eventually guys just got tired and it killed the site. Also, Gen X were the main ones pushing to ingratiate themselves with straight society in hopes of gaining acceptance. So a lot of the topics that come up alot really have no experienced, have no interest or have never done it. They are just on here looking for their particular niece or a fetish in there out. Hopefully guys don’t get apathetic and it hurts this site as well because although I don’t agree with a lot of stuff on the site I think it’s very informative and fun at times.

would want to place themselves in the situation where the old ways are reinforced? Why would any Black man put up with the racist crap, let alone seek it out? Why would any Black man put up with the same old racist garbage? Long story short, when you’ve been told for centuries that your community isn’t on-par with other communities, some people start to internalize that. Hence my comment about “graduating from black society.” A lot of these guys look at proximity to whiteness as “leveling up.” Also, oppression is not possible without collaborators. Unfortunately, a lot of black men feel the choice is simple: sell out to the winning team. We seen this is nazi-Germany. Of course, it never ends well. Again, I’m not against interracial dating or sex. I’m just saying know the game and don’t be taken advantage of. And always maintain your self esteem and dignity!

I’m actually above her indirectly.