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I think all that sounds good if we are living in a world where people were just politely “scroll” or ignore if they are not interested. Part of the problem is that some of these preferences are not part of some and conscious bias. Many are very calculated and I’d say about half the guys it’s not just about the actual preference, it’s about letting everyone know you have a preference. For example: 1. I’ve been message before out of the blue and called “monkey faggot,” among other things 2.Guys messaging other guys chastising them for BB, on a BB site and for not being HIV negative 3. Asking for pics just to shame the guy 4. Messaging X type when your profile states “no X type” 5. Starting a convo with a guy, with the full intention of letting him know he’s not your type. All this stuff happens. Folks like this are very aware of what they are doing. To a lot of these guys, it’s about ego gratification, and not being able to discreetly troll or cast down the men they don’t like takes away their power. That’s why I like an upfront approach. I state right up front in my profile names what your a getting. (BTW, I had fun with quite a few rednecks/southerners in my time. It’s those “liberal” SF/WeHo/Midtown types who tend to be more biased…just saying….)
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No, I’m not into the whole gumbo pot “some like black, some like short, some like twinks we all have preferences! Racism, preferences it’s all the same!” Guys who won’t fuck twinks or red heads won’t attack or not hire twinks or redheads. But guys who don’t fuck black guys WONT hire blacks guys. Thats another reason I say if you have a preference, put it out there. Don’t be ashamed or waste folks time.
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Funny this post came back up. I had the most amazing sexy older Armenian/Arab looking left the driver today. Beautiful hairy legs arms and nice feet. Smelled of faint cigar, air freshener and cheap cologne. Shorts went up past mid thigh. I was staring and boned the whole time If I was younger I maybe would have tried to seduce him. But all I could come up with was a week “your car is clean.” Sad. Maybe it’s just the whole quarantine thing and I’m super horny and my imagination has gotten the best of me haha
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Does wanting to BB mean you have to take loads?
BlackDude replied to ScaredAndShy's topic in General Discussion
Between the constant hypergemy, guys pretending they “don’t fuck on the first date,” trolling for attention, body obsession, pulling out, sexless relationships, I swear ever year, dealing with men, hooking up and sex has become more and more like dealing with women….. -
90% of the time, when we talk about preference (which is different from racism) it’s white guys just preferring to be with white guys. And that’s okay! And I won’t speak with any other race, but I really wish alot of black men would stop literally begging these preferences white guys for attention or even worse a pity fuck. If he doesn’t want you, move on. Sure, they’ll call you bitter (even tho they don’t want you but I digress) but at least you’ll spend your time looking for guys who want to fuck.
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I like Drew. I think mine would be Karrion Kross and Seth Rollins. Seth is 100% my type. Ricochet too
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Ok I’m know I’m going to get shit for this, but my old roommate got me watching it again for first time in years. And hey, it’s hot sweat guys. Any other fans in here, and who do you think is the hottest?
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I agree. There is a difference with being objectified and with being glorified.
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I understand your sentiment. Although I wish the world was perfect, and we didn’t even have to think about this kind of stuff in a community that supposed to represent equality, we do. My whole thing is two can play that game. Most of the time I really don’t care if you wanna look at me as BBC because I can look at you as just a piece of ass. Just don’t you be offended when I do. Throughout the years I have had plenty of (non-black) guys tell me they wanted more but they really just want a hook up, pump and dump type of situation. Then when I give them just that, and only contact them to fuck, and won’t chase them, they want then they act all offended and hurt. It goes both ways. LOL And I think a lot of this stuff stems from some guys really can’t calculate that a person may prefer black men. Sure they get white person would prefer white guys, but if someone prefers a black guy there has to be something darker or some deep psychological defect as to why. Ha ha Also, Both black women AND MEN were used for sexual gratification. Often the men were raped to break the spirit of the other slaves and show dominance.
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I get that, but there is a risk going bare with anyone. I guess I just have a hard time with the concept that outside of your wife (who you are legally and morally obligated to) your first option for sex is to bang a dude? And your straight?
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I definitely were not trying to knock you or any other guys who mess with married guys because I think most of us have. I think my point was just that if they really just needed someone to get off with and we’re straight, why wouldn’t they find another woman to get off with? maybe guys are easier, but from what I’ve seen especially at work any married man has at least three other women who are willing to fuck them.
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I actually like reading these posts and I don’t feel objectified at all. Let me know what it is upfront. If we a going to be real, a lot of black guys look at it the same way. “If you’re a white guy, we have nothing in common, and you’re not fucking, I don’t care.” Hell, if I’m following a porn dude on Twitter, and he’s not showing enough ass, or talking too much I unfollow. So how can I be mad? And not responding to anyone here, cause I don’t folks personally, but a lot of these guys who bring up this objectification issue don’t give a damn about black gays.... They just see that a preference is being shown, or in someway black men are strangely being “highlighted” about sexual prowess and they feel some type away about it. They use all type of a racial epithets to condemn a guy for missing a goal in soccer, but as soon as someone says they prefer black dick it’s “hey, wait a minute….”
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I think a lot of gay guys just like idea of thinking they are the person who can turn a straight man. It’s kind of an ego thing. Myself included. I use to get a boner when I seen a weddding ring. Now it’s kind of a turn off. I get a one time curiosity thing, but if you’re fucking guys you’re not straight by definition. Doesn’t matter how you identify. Hell, I can identify as a member Rockafeller fortune, but my bank account ain’t changing. I actually think continuing to allow these guys to hide behind some “straight persona,” hurts gays. Cause let’s face it, to most of these men straight=normal. If they identify as something other that that, it’s irregular and a step down.
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Top Who Fuck Anon at Hotels vs. Tops Who Don't
BlackDude replied to ErosWired's topic in General Discussion
I think Anon/ hotel appeals to a lot of guys because it gives them a chance to fuck guys they may feel they otherwise don’t have a chance too. -
I understand the “I only play safe” or “I don’t bb until I get to know a person” comment because I feel those are folks are trying to lead what they feel is a safe sex lifestyle. But “I only play safe the first time” means two things: 1. I don’t think your hot enough to bb with 2. I have to meet you to see how hot you are first, then decide if I’ll BB. Again, totally within their rights, but let’s just call it what it is.
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Who is your favorite actor in bareback porn?
BlackDude replied to a topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
Matt Muck Fyrfli Shamus O’Riely -
JustForFans or OnlyFriends? Favorite Guys?
BlackDude replied to Prairiefire's topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
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Am I being rude competing for tops?
BlackDude replied to Openmouthpolicy's topic in General Discussion
As long as your fucking, I don’t see a problem hogging I think it’s first come first serve. It’s when you start screening dudes heavy, or see no one is interested at that time, it’s when it gets annoying. -
I this this is funny, but accurate, especially the monogamous part. I think you forgot “it’s complicated” ( I’ve used that one).
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I’m glad I read this because I was about 75% Going to plan to go on one next summer after I had seen this special on Netflix. Looked like a second party on a boat. And now I’m like 25% going 😂😂
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Actually no. The equivalent of “bat in your league” would it be if I said what I said and he had not tried to Collage together a bunch of posts I made and do a psycho analysis on me. His advice was based on the fact I’m hurt. I’m not, just annoyed. That’s why I called it a “rant.” If he wanted to get that personal and ask a question he could’ve always messaged me. Most of the advice and opinions in the forum are general, obviously because Folks don’t know the ins and outs of everyone specific situation. I think I have a good reputation here and I am not as nearly as combative as some other members here. Hell, you have guys on here that are constantly correcting people’s grammar and spelling.
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I appreciate you reading my posts, but I have posted many things on here and taking some of them to draw a conclusion or do some psycho analysis on me isn’t fair (to be PC) Just as it wouldn’t be for most members on this board. Would you go to a member who consistently posts under the PNP or father/son topics and quote a proverb to them? I don’t think I am the only person on here who has posted about some of their negative experiences. If you think it’s a different variation of the same rant, that’s fine. If I see a topic that doesn’t interest me, I usually move on. I, like most people on this board, Use this as a place to share certain experiences or I get advice certain things that “normal” society would not understand. And while I commend you for having it all figured out, I still believe I am a person who has a lot to learn about this community and I value hearing the opinion and thoughts of others and learning from them.
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Not to hijack your post but older “bi curious” guys are some of the worst. Most of the time, that just means “I’m pretending I’m not fucking guys because you’re not hot enough.”
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Possible Incoherent Rant Coming: First off I totally agree with the “bat in your league” concept. I believe everyone has the right to preferences and should be able to express them anyway they feel like it, even rudely. Just about every sector of our society as a ranking people and if you feel somebody is below your level (in this case not hot enough) you should not feel obligated to deal with them socially or sexually. (I always add the disclaimer is see this more from average guys than good looking/successful ones). The problem is I am now reaching age where let’s just say a lot of the “it” guys are not in the league that they used to be in. The guys who spent more time in the club instead of the classroom, the guys bartending or barista retirement didn’t quite work out the way they thought, or that five day a week routine just doesn’t work anymore; it has Caught up to them as something will catch up to all of us eventually. My problem is be consistent and don’t whine about it If you no longer live up to the high standard you placed on everyone else. I don’t know if it’s Covid or what, But recently I have had a lot of guys hitting me up who had no Interest or former flakes. They were “white only,” friends only (pretending like they didn’t fuck), non responsive or a bunch of other gay hypergamy BS. I guess point is If you did not want guys in your sexual and social prime, don’t expect them to you want to theirs. And Don’t go online whining or responding all emotionally or rudely to the same treatment you gave. Remember to “bat in your league.” Rant Over.
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Ghosting is allowed and continues because it’s not punished. Too often guys ghost us, and if they are hot and we can make exceptions and go crawling back. Exchanging messages is one thing because no agreement has been made. The arrangements to pick up has been made, and the guy ghosts, they should be immediately blocked. Recently had a guy who was totally my type hit me up online. We used to fool around but I got tired of his excuses “oh I’ll hit you back in a few” and never messaged me back or sorry “ I was in the mood right now I’m not.” I basically called him out on his flakiness and he never messaged me back, probably knowing he was guilty of ghosting. Do I want to hook up with him again? Hell yes, but I’m sorry my pride is more important and maybe it will save the next guy from the same treatment.
