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About PozBearWI
- Birthday March 5
Profile Information
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Gender
Male
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Location
SE Wisconsin
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Interests
Sex with men. I try to not box myself in with one or another exact sex play; although as ED tends to interrupt me more often than I desire; cock sucking seems to be my dominate activity recently. Pre ED flip fucking was my most frequent play. I am not a fan of pain. Have played scat stuff and don't find it appealing. Being the one to have to clean it all up after; it is more chore than pleasure for me.
Our men who enjoy sex with men part of our community; I have enjoyed lots of conversations here on BZ that are not sex based. In those circumstances I feel more part of a community. I don't have a hard and fast "type"; definitely willing to try once at least and we'll know how we clicked sexually. And even if we don't click much sexually; I am happy when those develop into friendships.
As a group here, now, in 2023; my sense is our rather open social acceptance is at risk of moving back to fantasy based decisions. Facts and "I don't like" (aka; opinion or thougths about) are often at odds.
WRT DADT; in part poz social acceptance in the coming years might very well get pretty vicious. I don't know that it will, but my observations of social (fueled by political) tolerance is that we're moving away from it while talking a good game. I am a fan of social tolerance about things we do to ourselves. I am not a fan of tolerance about prohibiting others rights to what happens within their own body. In my opinion each of us should have decision domain over our body. And for me there is a big difference between that and restrictions about where I can put my body. While a flawed system; restricting a social abusers contact with others makes sense. Sentencing seems deeply flawed; fueled also more by religion than risk mitigation.
I also realize that while I will always find it interesting to discuss the above matters; I fall strongly in the "you do you" camp. Whether it is in opinion or our varied and rather widely differing abilities and talents. The why behind disagreements is often interesting to me; even if the founding principle. I am rather startled at the claims "it's worth any amount of money if we can save just one child"... We each have a time living; some quite short, some quite long, most somewhere in the middle. Perhaps it is simply my stage in life; 3/4 of a century. Being out and gay for half a century now has exposed me to quite a bit of change in public and private opinion. Experiencing a new fatal illness in my communities mix has our recently ended COVID pandemic a relative "walk in the park".
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HIV Status
Poz, Not On Meds
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Role
Versatile
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Background
Been out and active since the mid 1970s. My pozzing was by choice to see if I could counteract my genetic resistance to HIV infection. And it wasn't a guarantee. But five months of monthly testing after my exposures I finally tested reactive in 2023. Twelve years ago I would never have done it; and I am certainly cognizant that HIV is not a trivial disease. However it is mostly controllable with a lower side effect profile. I already have diseases for life. I have too many dead friends and I only have a comparitively few years to "walk in their shoes". It is an experience I most definitely am grateful to be experiencing. Will it be much like other stuff I have, not terribly invasive to my ability to self care, get around, experience other facets of living.
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Porn Experience
None; save for home videos.
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Looking For
Primarily a happy exchange of energy. Raw only though. Might be my place in rural America but the majority of my play buds just want my talented oral skills. I definitely enjoy that and would never say no to sucking a guy off. I would like to redevelop a good topping/bottoming reputation again. It is perhaps excellent that u=u has taken hold somewhat. But largely guys in my area seem to want to avoid poz guys.
More Info
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BarebackRT Profile Name
jizzdumpwi
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Adam4Adam Profile Name
JustJim
Contact Methods
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Website URL
pozbearwi@curiouschaser.com
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I don't know for certain the motivation. But I know that were I on meds I present less a risk than purportedly "neg" guys who often just don't know. So why not put 'neg' on PrEP and get hit up more?
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Indeed nearly all the guys I fuck with are cheating on their wives.
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So you like cheating sex or sex in public place
PozBearWI replied to Ronitsingh's topic in General Discussion
It is impossible for me to have "cheating sex" as my quarter century relationship has always been sexually open. I don't make the moral choices for my sex partners. If they want to lie to their mate - it tells me a lot about who they are. Happy to have sex with them; but unlikely they will become trusted associates. And of course, that really isn't the point of our tryst anyway right? -
There really isn't a single good one. I used to like Scruff but they booted me. I never found out why; but it wasn't too long after I seroconverted. I guess I was to keep that a secret??? Grindr hit or miss. BBRT sadly almost always a miss. NKP almost always a miss. BZ isn't a hookup site so I never approach it that way. But there isn't anyone I chat with here who I wouldn't gladly enjoy a naked romp with... I see some of my fellow poz guys are just outright putting neg. And honestly I don't see that changes the risk significantly if at all. PrEP is clearly an option for those who want to avoid HIV, so why is this even a question. HPV, HSV were never even mentioned. They were just widely accepted, at least in my circles.
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Wisconsin Poz Guy Play Group
PozBearWI replied to PozBearWI's topic in United States: Other: Central
Yes we put out condoms, but only some used them. My thinking going forward though is that if a guy wants condoms he'll need to bring his own. I want my events to be thought of as bareback events, even if that means fewer guys show up. -
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Thanks @rawTOP and safe travels to you.
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CD4 and RNA numbers fluctuation
PozBearWI replied to Malesack's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
Yes our VL and CD4 vary over time. I'm approaching the two year point and there have been pretty wide swings although my number overall have been pretty tame compared to most fellow poz guys I know. -
Wisconsin Poz Guy Play Group
PozBearWI replied to PozBearWI's topic in United States: Other: Central
Thanks my friend. Let's see how this post works.... Then I'll go from there... -
I used to belong to a club, now defunct, called Wisconsin Bares. They've been gone for years. But started in 89 as a BB Nude play group. It evolved to be tame and social, and eventually disbanded. Being poz and coming to understand that I am just a ton more comfortable with fellow poz guys (or guys who truly don't fret it). I would be the host in the greater Milwaukee metropolitan area. I have always been a barebacker, and I don't really want to host sex parties where we all enjoy bareback fun with each other, taking responsibility for our own sexual health as we see fit. As I would be the host, guys coming would have to be comfortable with me being poz not undetectable as I plan to be an active participant. Which isn't to confuse my purpose as a host, which is man to man sexual pleasure open to all the others there. Not sure how/where I'll make it known. I suppose in these weird times maybe I should just suggest guys contact me about my events via email? I'm looking for some feedback. Am I probably barking up a tree that won't go anywhere?
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Brian would have me nervous... He is already misrepresenting himself. If he isn't to text while at work, at least limit to 1 saying something like "I'll message you after work". It should be crazy easy to be honest about our texting boundaries. Not an accusation of dishonesty; quite possible he isn't in touch with himself yet. My next conversation with him would be about that. Suf perhaps needs more in person time with you.
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We still live in a world where some at least continue to utter "it's worth any amount of money if only....". I think we have a responsibility to each other in a civilized society to make reasonable attempts to protect each other from harm. But it is up to each of us to decide what we, ourselves, define as harmful to ourselves. Keeping developing humans out of harms way until they can make an informed decision makes good sense. But if said developing human is smart enough to work out how to get around blocks or over fences - something youngsters have been doing for centuries - we've done our part. A lot of the current strife we're experiencing globally is how to define our boundaries. We seem to get caught up in trying to define everyone else's boundary even though those are more restrictive than those, we ourselves, define for ourselves. Why?
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A good point Philip about profiles and fellows we meet online. Hardly anyone who chats me, or who I chat, reads my profile. Honestly that confuses me. The sites all have a means for us to describe ourselves, give the relevant high points. I still complete mine. But maybe it is time to drop the whole profile pretense. Maybe just a face pic with minimal if any description makes more sense. Like we were the guy across the room strangers saw. (or visa versa; we're the stranger across the room and they notice us). Maybe it is much more natural to drop the descriptions which are often used to arbitrarily edit out "guys we don't want"; when things like occupation, interests are best answered in the moment we meet.
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So far I've managed to keep up
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Shoot if a guy I'm sucking starts pissing I just swallow.
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Reconnecting with my gay uncle
PozBearWI replied to Jaygusher's topic in Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION
He has in Part 7
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