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And when one runs out of "reactions" then just post a reply post. That is sort of the point anyway.

People do strange things. I think it is the nature of our species. I agree though, his precum is also viral and so the notion that pulling out takes away the risk is false. Besides, I just hate the idea of ruining what is hopefully a pleasurable fuck. For my own self almost always, if a guy is putting his cock into me I am intending he unload in me. It is a disappointment to me when he doesn't. Still, no matter; if at any point the top or bottom says "I'm done" (tap out as it were) we should comply. It might very well spell the end of any future encounters. But a tap out (as it were) needs to be respected. One can discuss the reasons and consequences after. Fucking or getting fucked is not a contract. No one is "obligated to finish". But the one agreeing to "A" and getting "B" is equally allowed to disengage from the other party; perhaps permanently. While there is plenty of dom play to imply ownership, it is in fact something not legally allowed (at least here in the US). If someone is told in advance that a tap out is not going to be respected (told using actual spoken words, with check for understanding); the bottom truly made an explicit agreement. They might say something; but I can understand the top thinking "you specifically agreed that I was breeding you even if you protested" is in rather a pickle. Which agreement is he to follow? The bottom would have to be abundantly clear that they know they agreed to it but no longer are agreeing to that.

There are a few who stay stuck in the weeds of early life. I've met them, sure you have as well. I think life, no matter the circumstances is always finding ones way.

I don't know if there is some sort of official abuse scale. But it seems clear you were significantly abused @Kayne. I have spoken with others who carried on a sexual relationship with their dad (only) from a young age (not as young as you); who seem to have appreciated that experience and grown from it. But then that wasn't the sort of systematic abuse you endured. Thanks for your post. It sounds like you are finding your way out of that rocky start. Jim

If he won't fuck me raw than I ask him to let me suck him off. If the cum ins't going in me we can just jack off together.

As long as you post in the backroom you should be fine. But messaging me them could work too and violates nothing.

@BootmanLA As always, well said. I imagine there were alliances, "brothers" or "cousins" living together who when alone with each other might very well have enjoyed anal quite a bit. Pre 1970 I am ignorant of bookstores. So they might have always been when I started then. Certainly video had to be simple so super8 might have been the first porn video booth place. And I have no clue if they were women only, men only or mixed in the 50's, 60's and 70's.

@Kayne I'll be looking for those stories

I don't know. You snagged part of @Kayne quote as if it were mine. I think he just has a family situation that makes in person connections (and it sounds like even private bate) impossible.

It would be a pleasure to be the next man you do that with... Jim

It will vary by polling location here in WI; but locally we split the day into two shifts with a bit of cross over. In a big election I've been known to come back post closing to assist. We're paid hourly (not much, but....).

I have varied as well, from shaved hole to hairy hole. Right now hairy hole and unshaved dick.

Yes, same here in Wisconsin. We're a dedicated lot which makes some of the assertions all the more insulting. They haven't done it but think they know...

On one hand the court might not be entirely wrong. I just think owners of an interstate corporation should not be held to the same standard as a one shop business. Large corporations have, IMO too large a reach already. They fund nonsense ads that in another time were topically experienced by us as humor rather than an assertion. I recall so many of the Q stuff I was reading in the Onion. Only now it seems people read the Onion as if it were a news source rather than the parody it is. I am concerned at what the courts are doing this week. There seems too little mention of the hypocrisy spoken during their so called hearings. I am concerned about our democracy. Being a poll worker here we are preparing for a Presidential sized election meaning we're in for a long day. But, crowds do make my time seem to fly by.

Well sometimes the meatloaf is particularly delicious and so a few repeats are in order. But indeed, variety for me is important too.

I've met one for sure and one I seem to recall, but not taking bets on that. The one I recall for sure is still here and we've chatted in the year plus since my return to BZ. (my diversion for Covid was to BateWorld as it was a time to be alone - good and productive place; enhances what used to be "jacking off" and I am grateful for that. Met even more from there. ) If my friend happens across this I'm sure he'll recall it as we've chatted here recently. But I don't disclose unless I am 100% certain disclosure would not cause strife. If he is reading this however, he is invited to jump in and out us as having met. Sadly not sexual although I have always wished we had. There are many I actively interact with and at a point in time we privately message and ascertain whether if we're traveling to each others area sex is ON the Table; although our pillow talk might continue certain "conversations". The other I am pretty sure was a sexual hookup, the I'm in your city/state next week, let's connect one night. And sadly that was in my former forgotten profile and we haven't stumbled across each other. Interesting that I recall more vividly the intellectual hookup. There were circumstances going on with him at the time where he took sex off the table; which is OK. At the time I agreed. Here as 2022 is coming to an end; as far as I'm concerned with any of the guys here, I am all in to have sex. Accepting if we meet and you don't wish to play.

I have sexual friends who are in exactly this position. And in my generation it was not uncommon for spouses to stay together for a variety of reasons. Save for the death of one there was nothing unhappy in their relationship. They chose to experience each others lives to the end. The exact foundation of my present relationship. What we do sexually has evolved and that is no one else's business. Our choices do not cause each other suffering; something we are aware of with each other because we communicate candidly. There is a big world out there of couples (and even couples +) who navigate and negotiate meaningful, fulfilling relationships with rules between them you might not accept. I don't understand this returning penchant to define what the rules are in others private lives? Especially in our relationships those rules belong only within that relationship.

Ah lovely recollections of my last relationship. Sweet guy but traveled a lot globally and had a family in every city.... Every time he came home from a week or three long trip he broke up with me. Then a few days later he "UN-brokeup". It became the defining characteristic of that relationship. Ended when I decided to not accept the UN-breakup. Once it was clear monogamy was one sided that ended long before we broke up.

@downtownswallow it really isn't up to you to decide that. Those who are IN the relationship define it; and they are the only ones who should decide whether cheating invalidates their agreement so badly that they dissolve the relationship. But good that you've a handle on what your requirements are for your relationship(s).

I suspect some of this is sort of learning to reengage with humanity. That lock down sort of fucked with my head a bit. I got too used to isolating. Something I never used to like. Plus social strife just seems so fucking intense some days.

I'm with you evilqueerpig. Shame we aren't in the same state.

Yes I have off periods from time to time. Not unusual and thankfully not long lasting.

Honest I am glad the mods have left this in place. That small group of malcontents seem to be bullies. Similar to a lot of recent political behavior, their way of "absolving" themselves seems to be to self describe in the form of blaming others. This is a great thread to discover who some of them are... As a thread though, I'm done with this particular one. So glad that most of us are understanding of our mods here; and as Hillary said, there are some "deplorables". 🙂 Peace my brothers!

( including @BoyStrangler) Do you equate a downvote as bullying??? That seems to mean then that anyone who disagrees with you is bullying you? And you find them "sad". Or anyone who disagrees is "getting off".... To the extent that is so; man I hope that eases up for you. In a healthy forum we should be able to disagree with each other. If you're getting downvotes; then asking about that is the only way you'll learn why someone disagrees with you. Perhaps you'll learn that your assertion was mistaken. Perhaps you'll be able to add supporting fact on your position. Maybe you were getting downvotes as a reflection of your own bullying? Absent clarifying text though; a downvote is simply an "I disagree". That's how we inform each other and learn other points of view. It is fundamental to how we learn. If we stop supporting healthy dialogue what do you imagine our future to be? I ask because history doesn't frame humans in a loving, caring, friendly light aggregating first human to now . When we stop exchanging ideas and differing points of view we risk isolating ourselves into closed pods of thought. Disagreement joined with understanding helps all of us evolve. My direct interactions with @viking8x6 was definitely not bullying. He properly called me on posting a particular POV that belonged in the back room. He was absolutely correct. It was my eff up and I know better. I didn't have to, but I apologized; as one might expect when we are behaving respectfully towards each other. He was very friendly in replying to that. I would have to look to see if he has downvoted any of my posts. But even if he had; I would have been glad he expressed his opinion. He is a member here; and was a member before becoming a mod. Under a different handle and at a different place in life I was a moderator here on BZ. I am glad to not be doing that; but I am grateful for these guys as they are the fellows charged with helping keep us in line. Which in turns helps @rawTOP keep this site alive. There is more than one moderator here; but all of them see what each other does; in effect moderating each other. If any of them were actually exhibiting bullying behavior they would have checked each other. @rawTOP is an active participant here, not just the site owner. I love it when he joins in the "conversation" that is BZ. We're all on the same team here. That doesn't mean we have to always agree. Just be respectful, ask and learn, or make your point and be happy you said it. Nothing "sad" about that. On the plus side, if this was bullying you; then this is great news! Because in that case you are one of the lucky ones who has never actually been bullied; with fists and broken off beer bottles... With actual palpable threats of physical harm. I don't condone any of that BTW, but I have personally experienced it just for being gay in the "wrong place". Disagreements are not bullying.

I have never found the rule or intention hard to follow here on BZ. I really don't think there is anything that needs fixing. I like for example that there is an acknowledgement that comes with an infraction. It assures the member (like me today) who made a mistake understands it. I have a difficult time believing that any mod here is bullying anyone. It is an unfortunate habit many have followed to treat any text as a "blah blah blah" bunch of junk. Context helps as well. We the consumers of BreedingZone are not under a financial contract; post or certain way or we're exposed to financial ruin. So to the degree we choose to ignore instructions, I really don't see how we're harmed or penalized in any significant way. Maybe I am just weird. I actually read my insurance policies cover to cover. It is worth understanding what I am paying for. It saddens me how many I know who didn't read and then some event happens and they're shocked that they were not covered. For example, most policies have limits above stated limits to account for additional costs to rebuild. Post covid rebuilding costs have sky rocketed. But I am one of the few clients of my insurance agent who contacted them once the actual costs of a rebuild rose above my policy limits. To bring this back to this topic, not reading the rules and then getting angry because one didn't isn't an excuse. rawTOP nor any of the mods nor the modlike members like BootmanLA should feel compelled to change anything. It's perfectly fine the way it is. But then, that's just my opinion...