Submissive Bottoms: Work-Life Balance

[bttmsubslut]

I serve Dominant Tops regularly, usually daily. It's the biggest part of my life, followed by work, friends, and time to myself. For me, serving Dom Tops is more than a hobby. It's an insatiable, uncontrollable desire. It's all I really want. I wish I could somehow be a cumdump full time, to devote myself to serving men all day. But I need a job to pay for rent, food, clothes, etc. Sometimes my desire to get fucked is so strong that I take off days from work to serve lots of men. Or I'll take long "coffee" breaks to serve men in a nearby stairwell, bathroom, or parking garage. My employer notices my absences, and I've been given warnings. It's hard to serve Dominant men on demand and still have time for other things. Some of my regulars get annoyed when they hear that I am busy at work, with friends, or serving someone else. And I sympathize with them. I agree that they should always be my priority. I'd always rather be serving them, but I also know I need a job and I need friends. There just isn't enough time in the day. How do other submissive bottoms, who serve daily, strike a balance? 

 

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Edited March 8, 2015 by bttmsubslut

[drscorpio]

Honestly, you need to find some Dom Tops who aren't irresponsible, self-involved assholes. A sexual partner should respect your need to earn a living unless he is willing to support you. Perhaps, you should look for a Master who wants a full-time slave who can provide for you in return for your obedient service.

 

If you really find yourself unable to put down the cock long enough to keep a job, you need to seek counseling. 

[HotSeed]

Honestly, you need to find some Dom Tops who aren't irresponsible, self-involved assholes. A sexual partner should respect your need to earn a living unless he is willing to support you. Perhaps, you should look for a Master who wants a full-time slave who can provide for you in return for your obedient service.

 

If you really find yourself unable to put down the cock long enough to keep a job, you need to seek counseling. 

I agree with drscorpio.  I'm a submissive bottom and service a number of Dom Tops.  All of them respect my work and personal life. They know they can use me and my hole as they wish but generally know when I am available and contact me then. I hook up with some of them at regular times that are good for both of us.  Some of them are very much into S&M and I hook up with those guys at times that allow me to recover before I have to go into work.  It works out well,  I am sexually satisfied and so are they.

[bttmsubslut]

I'd love to be a full-time slave/ cumdump. But, like a lot of boys, a lot of Masters aren't serious, or they're unrealistic about what a life like that looks like.  I like serving assholes. Every time I've sought a counselor, they're horrified!

[TigerMilner]

You have to look at it like you are serving them when you are out there supporting your self because in doing so you are making it possible to be available to them next time.  You have to have a roof over your head and to meet your basic needs and that is a part of being a good slut.  Do not feel that you are neglecting your duties when you are taking care of yourself because they need you which means you need to take good care of you in order to please the men in your life.  So do a good job of it. Be a good whore in every aspect of the word.  And do it with pride.

[gaysk8er86]

I wish I could be one full time too. Ive thought about escorting to get my needs filled and make some money

[ridemehard]

You're life has to come first. Surely a decent top respects that you have to keep a roof over your head, pay bills and so on.

I've got regular master tops and they all understand if I'm not available. Surely that's a good top.

[AlwaysOpen]

I have a few regulars I  offer my holes and sling up for --and they know I work and also  insist  on offering my hole up spotless--which  means, as a rule, no spontaneous I want it in 5 minutes kind of servicing-unless I have posted that I am ready for immed service. I would still love to  find a position in a business,one where I could provide a real function like inventory  management or some function where I would  contribute, and earn  a wage and more importantly, insurance (health) benefits- but also have the understanding and flexibility that I would be there fro satisfying men  throughout the day.

[twink-hearts-loads]

I'd love to be a full-time slave/ cumdump. But, like a lot of boys, a lot of Masters aren't serious, or they're unrealistic about what a life like that looks like.  I like serving assholes. Every time I've sought a counselor, they're horrified!

 

You can be a cum dump full time just become an escort and advertise on sites like craigslist, backpage or adam4adam. I use to escort full time and the hobby became the job lol. I dont do it any more because I already have a job that I am more satisfied with (though I thought about doing it again part time). Is this your only reason for going to a counselor? Because if it is than you should have nothing to be ashamed about.

 

And I think you are probably, like maybe...looking to be a live in slave for a dominant master type? Guys like that are hard to find because after a few months..or even a year they might get tired of you and throw you out on the streets and move on to the next boy (I know because I went thru this myself.) Majority of those guys out there are like that, but if you want to do it full time you might as well make $$$ doing it lol Thats my advice.

[bttmsubslut]

Thanks twink-hearts-loads. i've thought about escorting but i think i would make more money and have a steadier income at my current job. plus other kinds of benefits not provided by the health care system. i'm poz so i have to think about that. 

 

i would love to be a live-in cumdump. but you're right, men can lose interest and care nothing about your future. it takes a long time to know you're with the right Master or Dom Top, and many of them don't want to give you time to get to know them. or they have unrealistic expectations of that life. like you, i've been there. was owned for a year, and spent it as a full-time cumdump/ house boy. 

Edited March 11, 2015 by bttmsubslut

[twink-hearts-loads]

Ya I tried it with a guy once and it wasnt fun for me at all cuz he was a douchebag and the sex was never fun. Maybe its something you could do on your time off for work (escorting). With the whole live in slave thing, Id guess that its a low percentage of guys (masters) that would be willing to keep a guy for a very long time. Im sure they are out there. But probably the best way to find that person is place a few hookup ads (depending on what site you use) for a  master. You know get together with the guy once a week or a few times a week (depending on your schedule). Build trust with the guy and eventually, when you know him well enough try to talk about the live in slave fantasy.

[bttmsubslut]

Thanks twink-hearts-loads. I have a few regulars, but I don't think they're looking to own. I agree, though; it's about building up trust over time, as with any relationship. Best not to rush into it, even if the Master insists. 

[Guest faggot hole]

You're life has to come first. Surely a decent top respects that you have to keep a roof over your head, pay bills and so on.

I've got regular master tops and they all understand if I'm not available. Surely that's a good top.

Ridemehard doesn't understand.  Serving Tops IS a faggot's life.  This is what he was born to do -- born to be.  A cumslut is ALWAYS available.  he organizes his life so that he is able to respond to any Man who calls upon him, because that is what he NEEDS to make his life meaningful.  And who is ot say that it is improper for a fag to seek a "meaningful" life? 

 

To tell bttmsubslut to take care of his own needs (food, rent, job) first misses the point.  To fags such as bttmsubslut, sucking cock, getting fucked, serving real Men IS his primary need.  THAT comes first in the life of a bottom slut (i know, believe me).  Taking care  of himself is a luxury -- something that he does when he is not on his knees or not on his back, fulfilling the purpose for which he was put on Earth

[bttmsubslut]

Ridemehard doesn't understand.  Serving Tops IS a faggot's life.  This is what he was born to do -- born to be.  A cumslut is ALWAYS available.  he organizes his life so that he is able to respond to any Man who calls upon him, because that is what he NEEDS to make his life meaningful.  And who is ot say that it is improper for a fag to seek a "meaningful" life? 

 

To tell bttmsubslut to take care of his own needs (food, rent, job) first misses the point.  To fags such as bttmsubslut, sucking cock, getting fucked, serving real Men IS his primary need.  THAT comes first in the life of a bottom slut (i know, believe me).  Taking care  of himself is a luxury -- something that he does when he is not on his knees or not on his back, fulfilling the purpose for which he was put on Earth

 

Thanks faggot hole. i agree. At least, that's how i see myself. my job gets in the way of that; it's a necessary evil. So that's where i was coming from: how to balance this necessary evil with my destiny, being a cumdump. 

[gwmxyz]

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