Sensual/affectionate and Pervy at the same time?

[Guest Cle216fkr]

Im all for nasty, pervy, raw uninhibited sex, and i understand the thought process behind being just a hole, but when guys tell me theyre not into making out or any foreplay i tend to be turned off. I find something sluttier about a man that wants to tongue kiss me and suck om my nipples like tits, etc. in addition to giving me a load or two. Now granted this doesn't mean i can't be face fucked, slapped, choked, and fuck like a toy (cuz that's affection too?) but i just prefer a fuller experience. Anyone else like this? 

Edited January 11, 2018 by Cle216fkr

[NLbear]

Best sessions are always the ones with foreplay, sucking, fucking - break - fucking, sucking - break - and so on that last a long while and end with a few loads from either one or more guys. Like you that doesn't exclude quick loads but those are just the ones that stand out and I will remember and will seduce me for a follow up meet with him/them.

[barecubtop]

I think there's a time and place for both.  For instance, I don't expect the kissing and body contact (intimacy) at a bathhouse or group situation.  But, with 1on1s, I would definitely prefer some intimacy in addition to just the lusty fucking.  Some of the best hookups I've had were ones where we got right to it with the lust factor, but with some kissing and touching as well.  Then after I unloaded in him and we laid there chatting for a bit (with or without cuddling), we started on round 2 and it was more of a "love-making" experience rather than just a fuck.  Round 3 would generally be more of a "fun" fuck at that point...comfy enough with each other to still make each other feel great but be a little silly/fun in the process.  

Having said that, most of my hookups are just lusty fuck and go situations.  :-(

[Poz-Mcr]

For me it depends on the top - if I'm not overly attracted to them, or if they have bad personal hygiene then I'm more likely to want them to 'cum and go'. On the flip side if I'm attracted to the guy I like the kissing and sensuality to alternate with the pure pig fucking, and once we've both come and relaxing I like a decent cuddle.

[bredbiyou]

From the beginning, I've always enjoyed sensual and affectionate things like letting my partners helping me undress, caressing, stroking, back rubs and massages. I'd even include rimming under the sensual category too, although it does feel a bit less 'vanilla' than the other things I've mentioned.

My relationship to kissing has been an evolving one - at least in terms of male partners. For many years it wasn't something I particularly enjoyed. I'd only kiss reluctantly if I felt really pressured into it, or if I felt obligated to someone who had shown me a really good time. And being in relationships with women throughout all of this, I convinced myself that as long as I reserved that one intimate act for my actual female partners, it wasn't so bad that I was sucking cock and getting fucked behind their backs. Ironically, it was only after I had fully bought into the notion that if I don't make out with my hook-ups it's not cheating - it's just sex, that the idea of kissing anonymous strangers began to really turn me on. I had already kissed dozens of men, but I remember how thrilling the first time I went to the bathhouse after making the conscious decision to try to approach it with a fresh attitude. A white-haired bear arrived in my room and ended up being the first man I ever kissed willingly and enthusiastically. I got so into it that as we were laying together making out, all it took was for my cock to momentarily brush up against his belly and I spontaneously shot all over both of us.

[evilqueerpig]

I've always considered myself a passionate pig!

[bjbottom]

I am a passionate pig as well.    My dad and brother used me just as a hole to deposit their cum, piss and spit.    Later I learned while some men are like them, others like to be intimate.   For me, if the tops would body attention I give it to them, I get my intimacy needs met as I am worshiping their cocks and bodies.   There is quite a bit of intimacy and passion as I am tongue bathing a hairy, sweaty, daddy bear.    Equally I experience quite a bit of sensual pleasure as my nipples are pinched, twisted, and bit.     I also receive sensual please as cum, sweat, and piss is rubbed into my body while I am fucked in a sling.    I don't need to cuddling and kissing from strangers or anonymous fucks, I get that from my husband and my fuck buddies.

[Guest Cle216fkr]

On 1/12/2018 at 1:27 PM, barecubtop said:

I think there's a time and place for both.  For instance, I don't expect the kissing and body contact (intimacy) at a bathhouse or group situation.  But, with 1on1s, I would definitely prefer some intimacy in addition to just the lusty fucking.  Some of the best hookups I've had were ones where we got right to it with the lust factor, but with some kissing and touching as well.  Then after I unloaded in him and we laid there chatting for a bit (with or without cuddling), we started on round 2 and it was more of a "love-making" experience rather than just a fuck.  Round 3 would generally be more of a "fun" fuck at that point...comfy enough with each other to still make each other feel great but be a little silly/fun in the process.  

Having said that, most of my hookups are just lusty fuck and go situations.  :-(

See thats the thing,  i dont quite see it as love making. I actually think its sluttier to swap saliva and tongue kiss random guys at a bathhouse in addition to being bred/ fucked. Its a special kind of slutty feeling lol. I get what u mean tho. 

[Guest Cle216fkr]

On 1/12/2018 at 3:52 PM, bredbiyou said:

From the beginning, I've always enjoyed sensual and affectionate things like letting my partners helping me undress, caressing, stroking, back rubs and massages. I'd even include rimming under the sensual category too, although it does feel a bit less 'vanilla' than the other things I've mentioned.

My relationship to kissing has been an evolving one - at least in terms of male partners. For many years it wasn't something I particularly enjoyed. I'd only kiss reluctantly if I felt really pressured into it, or if I felt obligated to someone who had shown me a really good time. And being in relationships with women throughout all of this, I convinced myself that as long as I reserved that one intimate act for my actual female partners, it wasn't so bad that I was sucking cock and getting fucked behind their backs. Ironically, it was only after I had fully bought into the notion that if I don't make out with my hook-ups it's not cheating - it's just sex, that the idea of kissing anonymous strangers began to really turn me on. I had already kissed dozens of men, but I remember how thrilling the first time I went to the bathhouse after making the conscious decision to try to approach it with a fresh attitude. A white-haired bear arrived in my room and ended up being the first man I ever kissed willingly and enthusiastically. I got so into it that as we were laying together making out, all it took was for my cock to momentarily brush up against his belly and I spontaneously shot all over both of us.

Same here man.  Kissing, especially anon guys and especially more than one at a time in a session has its own slutty feel to it. Definitely turns me on. 

[breedmeindy]

On 1/12/2018 at 1:27 PM, barecubtop said:

I think there's a time and place for both.  For instance, I don't expect the kissing and body contact (intimacy) at a bathhouse or group situation.  But, with 1on1s, I would definitely prefer some intimacy in addition to just the lusty fucking.  Some of the best hookups I've had were ones where we got right to it with the lust factor, but with some kissing and touching as well.  Then after I unloaded in him and we laid there chatting for a bit (with or without cuddling), we started on round 2 and it was more of a "love-making" experience rather than just a fuck.  Round 3 would generally be more of a "fun" fuck at that point...comfy enough with each other to still make each other feel great but be a little silly/fun in the process.  

Having said that, most of my hookups are just lusty fuck and go situations.  :-(

I love the progression you talked about... wish I had a top like you!!!

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

I'm a passionate pig here too but there's room and a place for both. I love kissing, cuddling, caressing and so on, but know in a hookup I may not get that. Some bi and straight guys are circumspect and just won't do that, or save it for their GF/BF/wife/husband. That's cool. So long as they're breeding my hole or letting me breed them I don't care. I know if I pick up some rough trashy looking guy cruising a bathroom he's not gonna want to kiss or make out, he just wants to fuck or get fucked. To me kissing and making out is a huge bonus but I don't expect it on hookups or anon. I'll ask up front cause I don't want to make the guy uncomfortable. And sometimes I just don't want the engage,ent either. If I'm just gonna blow a guy Andrew nothing more then I'm there to blow him and swallow the load. I want to move on quick to the next guy.

[rawsatyr]

Our attitudes are an 'evolving' thing... we have long gone from our naive, teenage puppy-love expectations to habitual horn-dog copulating, when we meet in a forum like this... lol

I like strangers slobbering on each other on any part of the body they! Preferably ass and cock, going at it like a randy goats with the tongue out! Some of the hottest pictures that give me the biggest rush (i.e. on tumblr) is when guys are interlocked, bareback, the bottom with a raging boner, both with tongues out, the tips touching!

The grossest thing a guy (trick) could say to me NOW on grindr,  is:  'I want to MAKE LOVE to you by candle-light and play Barry White'. HURL! Fuck that! Been there done that! When I came out as a self-declared promiscuous barebacker, no fears, no inhibitions, no reasonable offer refused, RAW every time it was like my second coming out. New terms, new protocol!

After coming out 'as gay' for years I fell into the CONVENTIONAL 'relationship trap' and saw hypocrisy and cheating that goes with it, drama and divorce, EVEN and especially with straight people. I recall (when I was single) being HOSTILE to guys who were trying to cheat with me on GF, wives and BFs. Hated all that! Blocked them! Called them out! Promiscuity, getting 'something' you couldn't was off, unsafe sex, orgies, all that was... all that was frowned upon...

So as a late convert to the BROTHERHOOD all those fears have been REPEALED and replaced (pardon the term). Now, anything suggestive of LUST, debauchery, carnal pleasure, risky behavior and fornication gets my attention! Such behavior was historically embodied and celebrated by the demi-gods of less repressive regimes. PAN, the seductively-scruffy satyr with his perpetual boner and cloven feet (later portrayed as 'THE DEVIL' by 'the church' to the frightened and intimidated) playing his magic flute and seducing sexually-impressionable shepherds to the dark pleasures and taking it up the arse....

TEMPTATIONS: I recall these guys here in Memphis, YEARS ago, always having 'parties' themed like that with 'satyr and Dio...something'. SEX-PARTIES when AIDS was scary! They always invited me but I never went. Mostly out of FEAR and I was trapped in a standard-gay relationship with an arrogant local stud-muffin who played the old-fashioned patriarch! Big dick but emotional misery and him lying and cheating like his dad did on his mom! Still does!

I have drifted to the lusty scene with my new beau who is on the same page. My new role models or all SATYRS!!! Fornicating, shameless horn-dogs! Kissing? Well I suppose when it is in a manner that could shift from one guy to the next or the stranger he invited and back with no jealousies or commitments!

One of the guys that used to live with those sex-party boys still talks to me. He doesn't speak fondly of the group, which apparently shunned him as he talks dismissively about 'the promiscuous scene': "I bet they all died, whatever, moved to Nashville!" . He doesn't know I have 'joined the bb brotherhood' and talks to me with the hypocritical, judgmental filter of the old school... but it arouses me, he doesn't know that IN SPIRIT I'm one of THOSE. He said: "Yeah they would invite like 20 30 guys over and there NEVER were any rubbers ANYWHERE  (HOT to me now).  Most of the guys were strangers I had never seen before. There was jizz flying everywhere and they would run trains and cum in each other and you never knew who would be in your bed in your room, it was DISGUSTING! I know they always talked about INITIATING YOU!!!"  (I'm fanning myself. I think I'll call him later as I want to know more)

I have to admit: the first few tricks (in 2015) from bbrt was a stretch for me! Both in terms of mind, manners, kissing and stretching ass, my own and my man's. Turns me on seeing others breed my man! I take pictures! One dude after consummating his jizz-load into my man and me being totally turned on proceeded to passionately make out with him on the couch! But it seemed like a painfully long time to me. I got 'nervous'. I told ON REFLEX: "Stop that shit! You guys act like fucking Lesbians!"   My bad! I think I want to try that again, a 'TAKE TWO' and this time this porn-producer won't say 'CUT' at all...

Later that year my man and I hooked up with two sexy inked and pierced 'circuit boys' from Chicago going to NOLA. All was well until the more insecure one of the two reprimanded his more assertive hubby as he was kissing my man with his cock buried deep in his ass: "NO KISSING!" he said in a stern voice and the fun left the room... I don't want to be that guy!

[seekingversatility]

there is nothing more sensual than swapping a load of fresh jizz face-to-face or enjoying a long sloppy wet kiss while folding him in half, mounting his hole, and driving a hard rough fuck deep into his guts.