Does size really matter? + Advice for smaller guys

[Txyyxxxb]

I know this is a question that is replayed over and over again and always seems to end with somewhat of an indecisive answer but still, I ask the question to form a general consensus amongst members of the forum and hope that some of you can share your honest opinions/thoughts/experiences about penis size and whether it really matters for your top to have a larger penis during sex. Do you prefer your top being on the 'bigger' side and why? In your opinion, does a top with a bigger penis perform better? Is he able to use more positions when you have sex? Does the 'feeling', the friction and penetration of a bigger cock honestly feel better in your hole than an average sized cock? Like does it really make a significant difference? And a question for tops with large penises, what kind of impression and compliments did you receive from your bottoms after sex if any? Pain, discomfort or pleasure? Just anything you guys want to share about your thoughts and experiences on size and whether it really matters, I would really appreciate all your thoughts and oh yeah, don't forget to vote in the poll as well!

Edited August 14, 2018 by Txyyxxxb

[Txyyxxxb]

Lastly, I needed some advice. Being a guy on the more modest, smaller side of the spectrum (5.5in) I feel discouraged about the whole idea of topping. It's one of the many insecurities I have about myself. I really want to try topping but I just feel like I can't because my penis doesn't necessarily wow guys over or girls either for that matter (I'm BI) so I just skip the idea and play bottom. Any thoughts or advice you guys could give me? Should I try topping or should I just learn to adapt to being a bottom and just forget about being a top? I will say, some of the best sex I have ever had was when I was a bottom but still a part of me feels like I would be better suited as a top although I just can't get over the insecurities anymore. Your advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

Edited August 14, 2018 by Txyyxxxb

[drscorpio]

A top with a big cock has an amazing asset. If your meat is big enough to be memorable, then your technique only has to be adequate for the bottom to have a good time. That said, a well-hung top with no technique won't get a lot of return business. A boring fuck is still a boring fuck. 

A smaller hung guy has to rely on his technique. That comes with practice and conscious effort to pay attention to your bottom while you are fucking him. You can learn what a guy likes and give him more of it. That will make a bottom happy. 

All that said, if you want to top, then you should top. My cock is about the size of yours. When I was younger and still into topping, I fucked lots of guys who were scared to take a big cock. 

[Txyyxxxb]

41 minutes ago, drscorpio said:

A top with a big cock has an amazing asset. If your meat is big enough to be memorable, then your technique only has to be adequate for the bottom to have a good time. That said, a well-hung top with no technique won't get a lot of return business. A boring fuck is still a boring fuck. 

A smaller hung guy has to rely on his technique. That comes with practice and conscious effort to pay attention to your bottom while you are fucking him. You can learn what a guy likes and give him more of it. That will make a bottom happy. 

All that said, if you want to top, then you should top. My cock is about the size of yours. When I was younger and still into topping, I fucked lots of guys who were scared to take a big cock. 

Amazing asset indeed. Not everyone is born with those kind of genetic gifts. I know I should top if that's what I feel like doing, I just can't get over the insecurity part of it. 

On the bright side, I was doing some research and came across a website that is dedicated to penis exercises to gain some length and width on the shaft (won't mention it here because I don't know if that's allowed), I might try it for a couple of months and see how it goes. I'd definitely feel a lot better if it all works out. 

Until then I'll just reap all the amazing sex as a bottom. lol.

Edited August 14, 2018 by Txyyxxxb

[jeff238]

First of all, 5.5 to 6 is exactly average. I'm in that average range, and have never been turned down due to size. I'm vers, and have had cocks from 3ish to porn star big, and they all have their pluses and minuses.

It's been said here many times that small to average cocks often get and stay harder than the larger variety. It's also a lot more work/technique to take a big cock.

I think you are being too "cock centric". There are a whole host of erogenous zones on a body that crave attention, as well as everything that comes out of a cock, regardless of size.

One of the best, most intense, and long lasting sessions I have ever had was with a guy that was quite small. That didn't stop us from having 7 intense, non stop hours of flip flop fun.

Like they say in the used car business... There's an ass for every seat...

Lastly, I would bet that you have passed on some great sex because of a percieved problem that only exists in your own mind. In fact it's not your choice, but your potential partner that decides if you are desirable to them. When you make those choices for them you both lose.

Just relax. This shit is supposed to be fun, not a job.

 

[Guest Memphian]

A big cock excites me but I have a regular who is probably 5.5 inches who is one of my favorites. It’s the right shape or something, plus he does have great technique. 

But like a lot of bottoms I don’t like to be choosy. It’s about the top’s pleasure. He has made me cum from fucking me a couple of times and now he’s disappointed when it doesn’t happen. I’ve tried to tell him that’s irrelevant but I guess he likes the idea that his cock can be that pleasing. 

[crawford912]

There are a lot of bottoms who will love your cock. Just make sure to fuck a whole lot, so you get your technique down. 

I'll be honest, for myself, size definitely does matter. Totally my own fault for being a huge size queen whore for years now, but my hole takes bigger dicks easily, and I really enjoy the feeling of my hole being stretched. I still let smaller guys fuck me, but that's because I'm also a cumwhore and I want their seed in me... Not because it makes my hole feel good/gets me off.

Either way, though, I'd take your load in a heartbeat man.

[bicep]

Bottoms way outnumber tops. Realizing these numbers, you are more likely to find a bottom than compete for the limited number of tops. As a top, your technique will develop and improve.  The legendary porn star tops fully connect and pleasure their bottoms. Being a top isn’t just a sexual position. It is an attitude and presence. Develop this aura and bottoms will be lining up. 

[drscorpio]

Also, the most important things to most bottoms are that your cock gets hard, you fuck bare, and you give them a load. 

[phukhole]

I've had many cocks over the years - from small to HUGE. The huge ones are jaw-dropping when you see them and i confess, they make my hole twitch, BUT....

I've been fucked very well and gone back for more by more modestly hung men.  Fuck. and fuck a lot.  Get your technique down and really listen to your bottom (figure out what makes them moan and do that - a lot. Plus, work my nips, grab my throat, pull my hair if you're so inclined. When you fuck me, pay attention to all of me...  I'll happily let you practice on me... 

[NLbear]

I too must confess that huge dicks make me drool. However, I had tops with really big dicks who were lousy fucks and guys with smaller dicks, around your size, who were skilled tops and fucked me to bottom heaven making me orgasm several times. So from that perspective size doesn't matter.

Having said that I recently have a new fuckbud who is 9.5x7" AND is a skilled top. I must admit I am addicted to his dick. He is usually (not always) a one-load-only-guy but loves to make me cum several times (even though the last ones are dry orgasms) before he shoots. He loves to see what his dick can do to his bottoms. But I can say from experience that guys who are not as big as him can do the same to me. It's all in the technique!

[catcher4you]

While a large cock is fun, it’s not the most important thing for a great fuck. My favorite top buddy is average size and thickness but we always have amazing sex. One good thing is that he can slip right in pretty easily and can pull it out and repenetrate me without it hurting while we’re fucking. We can also fuck for a really long time. His technique is awesome and he knows how to use what he’s got.

We normally fuck with me in a sling and that makes penetration easier for him. We also have a height difference, with me being about 10”taller than him and the sling is a great equalizer for that. 

Like others have said, there are plenty of bottoms out there who will happily open their holes for your cock. Keep it hard, keep it bare and keep it coming. 

[Guest Cumlaut]

haha... after the 1st dozen or so votes, it was 90% yes...... didn't expect it to change.

I thought we were all size queens deep down

[grayhoss]

I'm stuck in the 80s in my head, when huge-cocked and hypermasculine was the ideal. For me, it still is, I guess.

[Guest]

For me, the size of a guy's dick (or muscles) is meaningless compared with the size of his dark, twisted imagination.