Is there a particular experience that first made you know you were gay or bi?

[profwhtforhung]

Did you have a particular moment, or did you just figure things out over time?

[versamarried]

When I was left home alone during my early teens and started playing with my ass while masturbating. Even then it was obvious I would be the size queen I have become as I just kept trying to find the thickest / longest object in me. Did not try the real thing for a out 15 years after.

[NHeat]

When I was 14, I had a wet dream about a boy I went to school with. He wasn't that cute and was kind of a jerk, but my mind must have thought otherwise.

[YourNoLimitsBottom]

The first time I did anything sexual with another man had a lot of lead up. I was on the fence for so long, there was a lot of inner turmoil from years of thinking but never pursuing. There was a Craigslist ad that I answered and the entire drive there was fraught with opposing thoughts. Getting to his front door was nothing but anxiety.

Then in his house he pulled down his boxers and there it was... and something in my mind clicked. There was no hesitation. I dropped down and grasped his cock and started licking. When he was hard he told me to strip and I didn't hesitate as he lead me to the bedroom. We didn't fuck at the time, just sucked each other off and played, the fucking was another encounter, but there have been no doubts or hesitation since.

Edited November 28, 2022 by YourNoLimitsBottom

[hungry_hole]

My first experience, pre-AIDS, was at the YMCA in New York City, and I immediately knew not that I was gay, but that sex with men was in a different league.

[Guest]

No particular experience but I knew I was different around the 6th grade. I knew I liked boys however I chalked it up as being a late bloomer & that I’ll eventually like girls. I grew up catholic and went to catholic school my whole life so I was a late bloomer about sex and sexuality. Even in high school I didn’t take sex Ed. We had what was called, “family planning” and sex was not a topic. I figured I was gay my freshman year of high school when I had a crush on a teacher and it was at the point I realized I was gay as all my friends were talking about girls girls girls and I was the one guy who didn’t have a girl to talk about or crush on. At 15 I began dating a guy in his 40s and it just felt right, comfortable and natural so I figured then that yup, I really am gay. When I turned 17 I came out to my family, which is a story for another day 

[topblkmale]

Watching WWF wresting as a kid. Hulk Hogan but especially Jimmy 'Superfly' Snuka gave me raging hard-ons.

 

Then at age 15 I discovered cruisy toilets at the department stores. One had a glory hole.

[Pigforcum]

When I gave my first blow job it confirmed that I loved sexual stuff with men much more than women. Then once I got fucked for the first time that just backed it up even more. It just feels natural and how it should be

[truepig]

I knew I was gay in the 4th grade and had a crush on a number of the male teachers. I never wanted to be with someone my age, I wanted someone older.

[blkboibtm]

I think there were numerous things but some that stick out when me and my friends saw our first porn which was 2 girls it did nothing for me, but  when we sneak looked a porn that had a man and woman i was more rock hard but because i was focused on the dude and his huge dyck.  I realized my first crush was on my friends father whom i hadn't seen until later due to him being deployed (he looks like the main villain in avatar and don't breathe)

[OzzieCumdumpster]

I kind of knew when I was 12 and started sticking things up my ass, by the time I was in high school 13 I would get excited in the boys locker room seeing cocks, that same year my virginity was taken behind the school's sports shed by 2 seniors, thats when I truly knew I loved cock. I was well known then for being a total cock slut, students used me to lose there virginity back then no one was using condoms so I was getting loaded up regularly. At 15 had my first gangbang in the locker room..

[atlboy]

I don't know what made me think of it, but I would think of men 30-50 years old in speedos stacked on top of each other at the beach. I was really little but that thought was so erotic to me. Then maybe at 8 years old I learned what gay meant and connected the dots.

[baldwin]

for me it was a bit later as I was out of college.  My best friend and I were hanging out one afternoon at my house and conversation got to talking about sex.  I didn't know it at the time but even though we both dated women, he was gay.  anyway the topic got to gay sex and I told him the thought had crossed my mind.  He said " would you" I said maybe but only with him as I trusted him explicitly.  He then went to use the bathroom and returned naked.  next thing I was naked and we were in bed.  It was then I was fucked for the first time.  Plus I sucked him off after he had just pulled out of my ass.  So from then until now I knew I loved sucking cock and ass being filled. 

[mblad99]

Looking around in the locjer room in hs was the first clue. But was totally straight in college. Didnt try anything with a guy until about 25. Something told me to go to a video store to rent a video, I got picked up by another customer and the journey began. We went to his place and started watching porn, and the next thing you know his cock was in my mouth. Still enjoy sex with a woman, but guys are great because there is less drama.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[PozTalkAuthor]

In what I'm telling there is NOTHING sexual but from there I felt I loved body contact with guys, rather than girls. I failed once at school and cried in disappointment, I was 12, and dad took me in his arms. The man I call dad, my mother's second husband, the one who conceived me I call him my sperm donor as he damaged me in many ways. No matter... Dad held me and I felt safe for the first time in life. Then afterwards, i was 15 and noticed to feel sex excitement looking at men, but as many people might do, I thought "it's a phase". Till I met the guy who later became my first date ever, at first he was my best friend. We were 16 and he just discovered to have leukaemia. In that moment, that embrace I felt a chemistry I never had with a girl. And the more family said "it's because you haven't found the right woman yet", the more I confirmed to myself who I preferred to stay with. Even if, with that fear of AIDS it was in 90s, I feared anal sex like no other. 

That first date went on with kisses, cuddles, cinema and nothing more as fear was mutual. Till his illness became more serious and he died. I then had sex with a couple girls and yes, I enjoyed sex but no love from there. Girls do not disgust me at all, but I have learnt that only a man knows how to satisfy another man. I don't hide or deny it then, first anal experience was at my age of 21, bottom. As a top I experienced it later. If only I had the open mind of now! Currently I have discovered that sexuality can be satisfied by all body, penis is just one part; but the concept of "sides verse" was not yet considered at that time; it was already difficult to be accepted as homo or bisexual.