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I did some research in to the evolution of sites. Broken out by "Period" the below describes the various phases of the evolution of the ways gay men in the US have connected and met each other, and the technology evolutions that came with them. Tomorrow, I have some interesting information about some of the trends ya'll noticed (flakes/spam/etc.) impacting the efficacy of the sites! 🙂 History and Timeline of Gay Men's Online Dating and Hookup Culture in the United States PERIOD: Pre-1960s (Sickness Era) Key Trends and Tactics • Secret meetings in hidden spaces • Subtle signals like eye contact or coded language • Cruising in public areas Description Homosexuality was illegal and pathologized in the US, leading to high risks of arrest or violence. Gay men often met discreetly in speakeasies, basements, or behind fake walls in bars. Tactics included "cruising" (seeking anonymous encounters) in parks, restrooms, or theaters, using nonverbal cues to avoid detection. This era emphasized secrecy and community networks for safety. Platforms/Tools • No formal platforms • Reliance on word-of-mouth • Underground bars • Public spaces (e.g., Central Park in NYC, public restrooms known as "tearooms") End User Feedback • High risk of raids and arrests created constant fear, but essential for any connection in a stigmatized era • Subtle signals like eye contact or accessories (e.g., green carnation) were effective but nerve-wracking due to potential violence or rejection • Provided thrilling, semi-anonymous encounters, fostering a sense of community despite dangers PERIOD: 1960s-1970s (Liberation Era) Key Trends and Tactics • Emergence of visible gay spaces • Cruising in bars, bathhouses, and outdoors • Use of hankie codes for signaling interests Description Post-Stonewall (1969 riots), gay liberation movements increased visibility, though sodomy laws persisted until later. Tactics shifted to more open socializing in gay bars and clubs, with casual hookups in bathhouses or parks ("bushes"). The 1970s saw an explosion in cruising culture, including anonymous sex parties and signals like colored handkerchiefs (hankie code) to indicate preferences. AIDS fears began emerging late in the decade, tempering some activities. Platforms/Tools • Gay bars (e.g., Stonewall Inn) • Bathhouses (e.g., Continental Baths in NYC) • Cruising spots (e.g., parks, beaches) • Personal ads in underground newsletters or magazines End User Feedback • Bathhouses offered discreet, exciting spaces for orgies and liberation, feeling like a "rite of passage" with fond memories of freedom pre-AIDS • Bars and cruising spots built community and solidarity, but police raids remained a constant threat • Hankie code was clever for signaling preferences, but some wished for safer, less clandestine options PERIOD: 1980s (AIDS Era Begins) Key Trends and Tactics • Continued cruising but with caution • Personal ads in print media • Hidden speakeasies persisted in conservative areas Description The AIDS epidemic (starting 1981) hindered mainstream hookup culture but didn't stop it; many shifted to safer, more private connections. Tactics included ads seeking "houseboys" or partners, and cruising in bars or outdoors, though fear reduced participation. Gay men built solidarity through community support. Decriminalization in some states encouraged openness. Platforms/Tools • Print ads in magazines (e.g., Advocate) • Early Bulletin Board Systems (BBS) like Backroom for dial-up connections (late 1980s) End User Feedback • Personal ads were discreet and led to meaningful connections via letters, but slow and hit-or-miss with negative language or restrictions in some papers • Allowed covert meetings amid stigma, but users wished for faster, less risky alternatives • Early BBS offered privacy, but limited access and tech barriers frustrated users PERIOD: 1990s (Early Internet Era) Key Trends and Tactics • Dial-up online chats • Personal ads evolve to digital • Group chats leading to private meetups Description Internet access grew (from ~2.4% in 1994), enabling anonymous online connections amid ongoing stigma. Tactics involved banal banter in chat rooms to gauge interest before private messaging or in-person meets. AIDS awareness promoted safer sex discussions. Gay men adopted tech early for solidarity during the crisis. Platforms/Tools • BBS like Gay.Net (1993) • AOL gay chat rooms • Websites like Gay.com (1994) • Gaydar (1999) End User Feedback • AOL chats (GayOL) were revolutionary for community and cybersex, with nostalgic fondness for word-based interactions • Gay.com fun for hookups, fewer fakes initially, but some miss the thrill; great for teens seeking non-sexual support • Dial-up glitches annoying, but privacy and 24/7 access transformative PERIOD: 2000s (Web 2.0 and Mobile Shift) Key Trends and Tactics • Profile-based websites • Emphasis on photos and quick messaging • Home-based browsing over in-person scouting Description Broadband internet made sites more interactive. Tactics focused on "new message" alerts for efficiency, reducing time in bars. Sites catered to hookups with minimal text. The Lawrence v. Texas ruling (2003) decriminalized sodomy nationwide, boosting openness. Apps began emerging late in the decade. Platforms/Tools • Websites like Manhunt.net • Adam4Adam.com • PlanetRomeo (2002) • OkCupid (2004, queer-friendly) • Early mobile app Grindr (2009, geolocation-based) End User Feedback • Manhunt efficient for quick, targeted hookups; photo-based shift convenient but led to more superficial judgments • Adam4Adam free and straightforward, but scammers and fakes became issues; users appreciated specificity in profiles • Better than bars for efficiency, but some wished for less anonymity to reduce flakes PERIOD: 2010s (App Dominance and Equality Era) Key Trends and Tactics • Geolocation apps for instant nearby connections • "Less is more" profiles (photo + distance) • Integration with social media Description Smartphone proliferation transformed hookups to on-the-go. Tactics: Quick swipes or taps for matches, often leading to immediate meets. Marriage equality (2015) normalized dating, but apps emphasized casual sex. Concerns arose over app addiction and safety. Platforms/Tools • Apps like Scruff (2010) • Jack'd • Hornet • Tinder (2012, popular among gay users) • Grindr's growth (10,000 downloads overnight post-launch) End User Feedback • Grindr instant and convenient for meets, but addictive and glitchy; users missed deeper connections • Scruff safer, friendlier for "real men," with better filters; preferred over Grindr for masculine types • Overall, easier but less personal; some wished for fewer fakes and more safety features PERIOD: 2020s (Modern Hybrid Era) Key Trends and Tactics • App-based with AI/matching algorithms • Return to in-person events post-COVID • Focus on diverse identities and safety features Description Pandemic accelerated app use but sparked fatigue; tactics blend digital screening with real-world meets. Apps now include video chats and health badges (e.g., HIV status). Broader acceptance allows integration with mainstream social media, though cruising persists in niche forms. Platforms/Tools • Apps like Sniffies (2019, map-based) • Grindr/Scruff updates • Mainstream like Tinder/Bumble with queer filters • Social platforms (e.g., Instagram, TikTok) for indirect connections End User Feedback • Sniffies direct and efficient for quick sex, no small talk; better than Grindr, with anonymous cruising appeal • Grindr updates frustrating with ads, bots, glitches; users fleeing to alternatives like Sniffies/Scruff • Scruff reliable, cheaper, functional; great for community and real connections • Post-COVID fatigue; wish for better safety and less scams SOURCES Pre-1960s (Sickness Era) and early cruising history: · George Chauncey's Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World, 1890-1940 (1994 book, foundational for public cruising spots like Central Park's "Fruited Plain") — [think before following links] https://www.supersummary.com/gay-new-york/summary/ or [think before following links] https://search.worldcat.org/title/Gay-New-York-:-gender-urban-culture-and-the-makings-of-the-gay-male-world-1890-1940/oclc/29877871 · Brian Gerald Murphy's "A Brief History of Gay Cruising" (covers raids, molly houses, and pre-internet tactics) — [think before following links] https://www.briangerald.com/history-gay-cruising · Bearwww blog: "Gay Cruising: From Clandestine Origins to the Digital Era" (discusses molly houses, public spaces, and early risks) — [think before following links] https://www.bearwww.com/blog/gay-cruising-history-renaissance-to-digital-era · Them.us: "Gay Cruising 101: What It Is, Where It Comes From, and How to Do It" (details historical spots like Central Park, waterfronts, and nonverbal cues) — [think before following links] https://www.them.us/story/gay-cruising-101-what-it-is-where-it-comes-from-and-how-to-do-it · Atlas Obscura: "The Rise and Fall of Cruisingforsex.com, a Digital Atlas of Casual Encounters" (contrasts pre-internet reliance on gossip/luck with digital shifts) — [think before following links] https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/the-rise-and-fall-of-cruisingforsexcom-a-digital-atlas-of-casual-sex 1960s-1970s (Liberation Era), bathhouses, hankie code, and Stonewall: · Them.us articles on the hanky code and leather/BDSM scenes (origins in 1970s San Francisco/LA leather communities) — related coverage in [think before following links] https://www.them.us/story/what-is-the-hanky-code-gay-flagging (cross-referenced) · Agnes & Edie: "How To Flag - The Hanky Code Explained" (history from 1970s guides like Bob Damron’s Address Book and Drummer magazine) — [think before following links] https://agnesandedie.com/blogs/news/how-to-flag-the-hanky-code-explained · Queerty: "Bathhouses And Beyond: A Brief History Of Gay Cruising" (covers 1950s-1970s bathhouses, raids like 1903 Ariston Hotel, and post-Stonewall explosion) — [think before following links] https://www.queerty.com/bathhouses-and-beyond-a-brief-history-of-gay-cruising-20140821 · Allan Bérubé's "The History of Gay Bathhouses" (2003, evolution from Turkish/Russian baths to gay-specific venues in the 1950s-1970s) — [think before following links] https://www.researchgate.net/publication/10577680_The_History_of_Gay_Bathhouses or PDF at [think before following links] https://johnkamys.files.wordpress.com/2010/03/the-history-of-gay-bathhouses.pdf 1980s (AIDS Era Begins) and impact on culture: · Various historical overviews on AIDS stigma, fear reducing public sex venues, and community solidarity (e.g., from UN Chronicle, SF LGBT Center; no direct British Academy match found, but aligned with broader epidemic retrospectives) · NIH/PMC articles and retrospectives on gay men's internet use (1990s-2013, noting caution in cruising and shift to private/safer connections) 1990s (Early Internet Era), AOL, Gay.com, BBS: · Out South Florida: "The Evolution of LGBTQ Online Dating" (Gay.Net 1993 BBS, AOL "GayOL" chat rooms, Gay.com 1994, Gaydar 1999) — [think before following links] https://outsfl.com/history/the-evolution-of-lgbtq-online-dating · PG Dating Pro: "LGBTQ+ online dating: a historical overview" (BBSs, AOL gay chat rooms, Gaydar launch) — [think before following links] https://www.datingpro.com/blog/lgbtq-online-dating-a-historical-overview · Queerty and Vice nostalgic pieces on pre-Grindr online cruising (AOL, Gay.com, Yahoo Messenger) — e.g., [think before following links] https://www.queerty.com/memory-lane-look-back-online-cruising-age-grindr-20170527 · Slate: "When AOL was GayOL" (dial-up chats, anonymity, and community building amid stigma) — referenced in multiple sources like [think before following links] https://outsfl.com/history/the-evolution-of-lgbtq-online-dating 2000s (Web 2.0 and Mobile Shift), Manhunt, Adam4Adam, early Grindr: · IN Magazine: "A History Of Hooking Up" (Manhunt.net, Adam4Adam, PlanetRomeo 2002, shift to profile-based sites post-Lawrence v. Texas 2003) — [think before following links] https://inmagazine.ca/2019/11/a-history-of-hooking-up · NIH/PMC: "Dating in Motion" (generational use of sites like Gaydar/PlanetRomeo, transition to geolocation) · Guardian oral histories and pieces on Manhunt, Adam4Adam as key hookup platforms before apps 2010s (App Dominance) and 2020s (Modern Era), Grindr, Scruff, Sniffies: · The Guardian: "'There's a gay bar in my pocket!': how 15 years of Grindr has affected gay communities and dating culture" (Grindr 2009 launch impact, Scruff 2010, Hornet, Sniffies 2019 map-based) — [think before following links] https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2024/mar/25/theres-a-gay-bar-in-my-pocket-how-15-years-of-grindr-has-affected-gay-communities-and-dating-culture · Wikipedia and DatingNews.com timelines (Grindr launch, growth, updates) · Multiple Reddit threads (e.g., r/grindr, r/AskGaybrosOver30, r/Sniffies; 2017-2025) for authentic user feedback on efficacy, glitches, ads, fakes, preferences (e.g., Sniffies for quick/anonymous, Scruff for reliability/community, Grindr frustrations) General user feedback across eras: · Aggregated from Reddit discussions (nostalgic views on bathhouses as "rite of passage," complaints about modern apps like addiction/superficiality/paywalls, praises for efficiency/privacy in digital shifts) — sourced via community forums like r/grindr and r/AskGaybrosOver30

He walked over and sat at the other end of the couch facing me. He opened his legs and stroked his hard huge obelisk of a cock. "Massage my balls and finger my perinium please", he said I thought for a second. It seemed safe enough. It's not like he asked me to suck his cock. I crawled over to him and sat between his legs. As I did that he lowered his left leg around my waist and his right leg came up from the ground and around my waist as well locking me in a bit. I started to massage his balls and search for his premium. He quickened his stroking of his mammoth cock. I worked his balls and found his perinium. He "Yeah boy work Daddy's balls and knot", he moaned. I couldn't help but stare at his huge cock. It was gorgeous. It was not just long at least 9" but thick and his veins made it so sexy. His cock head was large too like a plow. Being this close for the first time I noticed there was a hole like a piercing under his cock head. I kept massaging his balls and knot. He kept moaning. "Ahhh yeah. Go ahead and play with my hole baby, please" he moaned. I paused. He wants me to play with his asshole I thought? Isn't he a top? What about his disease? He must've seen me think. "Dan don't worry you can't catch AIDS from rubbing my hole or sticking a finger up it." he said jokingly "Oh yeah I know just never been asked to do that to a guy before. And aren't you a top" i said casually I reached further down and found his hole. He slide back and up to allow easier access. I played with it teasing it and massaging his balls. "Go ahead and stick you finger in", he said "I thought you were a top" I said "Yes I am but it feels good and second a good top knows how to take a dick too once in a while. That's what makes him a good top" Rick said "I don't have any lube near by lets use our cum" Rick said He pointed at the cum on me and his leaking precum. I rubbed my finger in both and then tried to stick it in his ass. He was tight and I didn't want to hurt him. "Go ahead don't worry just stick in easy. Slowly" Rick said looking at me I slowly pushed in and my finger went. He let out a moan. I pushed my finger in deeper. "Swirl it around and pushed it deep and hook it back to you" he moaned I did just that. It felt tight and wet and warm, like a pussy. It reminded me this first time I fingered Jane. Rick kept moaning and stroking his cock and playing with his nipples, all the while his eyes locked on me. I love the way he looked at me. It made me feel safe, loved, beautiful, sexy and that he was in caring control. As I hooked my finger back, he let out a deep moan. "Ohhh yeah do it baby do it for Daddy", he yelled My fingers went into overdrive, I worked his sweet spot and his balls. After another 20 seconds, he yelled. "Ughhhhhhhh here it comes", he moaned My eyes left his and focused on his huge hard cock. I was focused on it. He was slowly pumping not fast or erratic and his precum was just oozing out and then a small spurt of this cream popped, then a spray of drops all over, then large spurts came shooting out of his hot cum. I felt his ass squeeze hard around my finger as he orgasmed.

I was playing with a pig bud in St Lewis. After we fucked around at his place for a while he slid a huge dildo into my hole. Within minutes I started to spin hard. A buddy of his who was still sober showed up. He herded me naked a tweaking out into his car. On the way my buddy put a few fresh shards on my dildo and shoved it back in. We pulled up to a railroad siding and they dog marched me naked and spun into an abandoned railway car. I was cuffed and spread between two stanchions. For the next several hours I was fingered, bred, force fed piss and cum, just fucking used in any way the guys coming in and out of the car wanted. I lost track of the fucking after 17, but I left plugged and full of cum. I only wish someone had filmed it

Oasis in Montreal. First time getting fucked in a steam room. First time walking completely naked into a dark room full of other naked men and getting used anonymously by a crowd. First time kneeling on a the floor in a puddle of jizz. Wish I could experience it for the first time again like that

I have a. very active sex life and don't really have new goals. I guess maybe just keep better track of what I've done so I can brag about totally next year?

Well woof, I love that he can flip and take loads too. Then, if he lets me, I'll just felch out those loads and using it as lube for his cock while he opens me up to a decent gape. Anyone had him as a top? He is not the roughest of tops, but ive seen a few videos where he has good rhythm and intensity, rough thrusting. that's what my fantasy is.

[think before following links] https://thisvid.com/videos/muscle-cumdump-gangfucked-by-bbc-and-nasty-anon-cocks/ Found this recently and holy fuck is it hot and nasty! Anyone know who is the guy doing all the talking? And how can I get an invite?

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I don't think you did anything wrong at all. I also think the presence of his friends there in the same building may have to do something with his reaction. I've often heard that we spend our time in high school (and from what you describe he is pretty close to that age) trying to fit in, and the rest of our lives trying to stand out. He may still be in that trying to fit in stage and more worried about what his friends would think while simultaneously trying to find way to be a slut like I think he probably wants to be. I wouldn't be surprised if you see him there again very soon. If you do, try to be the helpful mentor that many of us never got growing up. Talk to him if you can, ask if you did anything wrong, listen to him and don't be too surprised if it ends up being him apologizing to you for acting like a scared little kitten. It's sometimes hard to remember what it's like to be that age after living a life and having the hindsight of a lived life. Try to remember all of those things that we all go through at his age which seemed monumental back then but we barely remember now.

Where will you be? There's at least 50 seedy motels and 50 more that are totally accessible and decent. There's some by truck stops, a lot by the interstate, and some a bit more into the metroplex.

Ironically the session I had with him was pretty much the opposite, he was the bottom. 4 or 5 of us bred him one after the other, he did do the growl every time he was bred or a new cock was inserted in his cummy hole (I'm pretty sure he was already full of cum when he joined our little group). He is a huge man and his cock is proportional, so you don't get a true sense of just how big it is until you've actually copped a feel of it.

slow build on his bareback journey

Club 14 was definitely interesting, I have to say those Mormon boys could be pretty uninhibited.

That's the best way to start in my opinion!

Philly did have some excellent ones but as you said they have all shut down one by one. I wish I would have been more experienced when I went to some of the sleazier ones in center city.

Part 8: Nick was due to return sometime today. We'd communicated via text while he was away, and I confessed that Daniel and some random guy had fucked me on my lunch break. Nick asked if either of them had used condoms, and I told him that both fucked me bare and bred me. He told me I was a good boy. I don't know why, but seeing that message maybe my dick jump. I think he likes being called a good boy. Nick told me to drive to the airport to pick him up. I couldn't say no to him, so I was lucky that I was able to take the afternoon off work. Nick said that he had a surprise for me, but wouldn't tell me what it was. I would just have to find out. I arrived at the airport and met Nick, who was standing and talking with a guy I didn't recognize. Nick introduced me to Pedro, a hot Latino guy Nick met while waiting for the flight. Nick and Pedro were both on grindr in the airport, and realized that they were booked on the same flight. Nick noticed that Pedro's profile said that he was poz, and with a little probing, Nick discovered that he was taking a med break, but would have to go back on meds soon. Apparently Pedro hadn't cum in a few days and was keen to drop a load in the airport bathrooms before the flight, but Nick talked him into waiting and told him that he could fuck me after they landed, and my ass would welcome his cum. Obviously no one asked me if I wanted Pedro to fuck me. Nick and Pedro got in the car, and Nick instructed me to drive to a park near the airport known for cruisy toilets. Once at the park, the three of us walked into the bathrooms together. I'm usually nervous about approaching like this because I think it makes it obvious that we're hooking up. Nick, on the other hand, likes it because he hopes that other guys see us and guess what we're doing, and decide to join in, or at least watch. As usual, when Nick and I have different opinions on the best course of action, we compromise by doing whatever Nick wants. Inside the bathroom, Nick just looked at me and said one work. Strip. We weren't even in a cubicle, we'd have no warning if someone entered the toilet block. Even so, I stripped my clothes off, and handed them to Nick. Pedro fished his cock out and told me to suck it. It was thick, uncut, and half hard. I sucked as best I could, knowing that I needed to get it hard so that he could fuck me, and knowing Nick, my saliva on his cock would be the only lube I'd be allowed. Pedro's cock grew to a decent 7 or 7.5 inches in response to the attention my mouth and tongue were giving it. When he decided that he was ready, Pedro got me to stand up, and bent me over at the sink, then plunged his cock inside me in one hard thrust. I yelped at the sudden intrusion and pain and begged him to go slowly, be gentle, let me get used to it. Nick told me to shut up, and told Pedro to fuck me harder, and tear up my insides to help his eventual gift take hold. Pedro didn't hold back, he gripped my hips tightly and pounded my ass hard and fast. I held on to the sink as a couple of tears dripped down my face, hoping that he'd cum quickly and the ordeal would stop. My other head was having the time of life, hard as steel and bouncing around due to Pedro's fuck, and splashing precum everywhere. Why does my own dick betray me in these situations? Pedro sped up and started fucking me even harder, a feat that I didn't think was possible until he proved me wrong. He got vocal, apparently forgetting that we were in a public park and the walls weren't soundproof. "I'm gonna cum soon, I'm gonna fill you up, take my toxic load you dirty slut" Nick said "yes, poz him, push in deep when you cum and fill the bastard up" With a sound that was something like a combination of a grunt and a groan, Pedro followed Nick's orders and pushed in all the way, hard, and throbbed inside me, filling me with his toxic baby batter. He rested inside me for a while, making sure that he release his entire load inside me. As he started to slowly withdraw, Nick told me to clench my butt muscles tightly to squeeze out and remaining cum from Pedro's shaft, and to prevent any of his precious load escaping. When Pedro's head left my ass, I expected Nick to thrust in to take advantage of my loaded hole because he loves sloppy seconds (or thirds or fourths... ) but instead he was holding a butt plug and said that he would fuck me later, he had another surprise for me and wanted to save his dick for then, and it was important not to let any of Pedro's swimmers escape. He pressed the butt plug against my hole and told me that I'd need to relax slightly to let the plug in, but not too much because he wanted to force it in and make it hurt. That comment caught me by surprise, though maybe it shouldn't have and I was just naive. I said "what do you mean by make it hurt?" and Nick rammed the plug home, making me scream and yell "fuck!". Nick laughed at my pain and said he'll fuck me later. He let me get dressed and the 3 of us walked back to the car. I was silent for the walk, my brain was confused about how hard I got from being in pain and from being abused. Nick and Pedro were talking about Pedro's medical situation, and Pedro said that he would have to go back on meds in about a week, so the two of them swapped numbers, with Nick making Pedro promise to fuck me as much as possible in the next week. We drove Pedro back to his place and then headed towards ours. When we were alone in the car, Nick told me that he was really turned on seeing me in pain, with a few tears making their way down my face, and he was happy that I clearly enjoyed in because he noticed how hard my cock was throughout the whole event, and he promised to make my cock hard like that again. He had an evil smirk on his face when he said that, so I was a bit scared at what that might mean.

My last loads were in Sydney. I went to the sauna, got three loads there. All three from great fucks, one dick was huge, but huffing some poppers made it slide right inside. It made a nice gape which felt great, so I just staued on all four and waited for another top. Great sex that night, but unfortunately all 1on1, no threesone or group. I guess it was too early for that. Then, back at my hotel room I found one more breeder on scruff, and he came over, rimmed me to feel the loads already in my cunt, then he rammed his big cock inside me, mixing it well together before adding his own. Since he reopened the gape, the cum started leaking out when he was done. But i I scooped it back inside, and tasted some of it too, so it wasn't wasted. Tasted so ficking good!!

Wow, hot as all get out.