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I can't think of any family members I'd want to have sex with.
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Sluts & Relationships - Have you ever seen it succeed?
rawTOP replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
How slutty are you guys? Are you in a big enough city that you can get lots of loads? Are both of you versatile? -
Are you happy with your current hookup sites?
rawTOP replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
I'll be moving this site to a new server in a week or two. At that point I'll be able to do 2 things I can't do on my current server... First, you guys will get chat capabilities... Text chat will be unlimited and free, there will also be video chat sorta like Cam4 - you'll get a bit of that free each day, but given the cost to run it, heavy use will be a paid upgrade. The other thing I'll implement is a map of where online users are located. The map won't tell you who is near you (too many privacy issues for that), but it will tell you that someone is near you. I'll look into refining it... -
Sluts & Relationships - Have you ever seen it succeed?
rawTOP replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
I've got an open relationship too - 13+ years now, but neither of us is a slut... I only average about 1 fuck a week. Just wondering whether it can work if one or both of them are CONSTANTLY hunting dick and getting fucked? -
First, a few definitions... By "SLUT" I mean someone who's averaging at least 5 loads a week from lots of different guys including a lot of complete strangers. By "SUCCESSUL RELATIONSHIP" I mean a relationship I mean a solid, meaningful relationship that lasts for at least 2 years where the boyfriends live together and rely on each other. It seems a lot of sluts are single. I'm not sure if they're sluts because they're single or if they're single because they're sluts, but I sorta get the sense that people think that sluts can't have successful relationships and still be sluts. I don't see why it can't work. If I were single I'd probably look for a slut for my next relationship. I'd love someone who came home with a cummy ass or someone who'd disappear at a bar and I'd find bent over taking dick when I went looking for him. Honestly, it would be a blast to pimp out a boyfriend... But I'm guessing a lot of gay guys just want to settle down and be "normal" (by heterosexual norms). They might be OK with a somewhat open relationship, but the idea that you're boyfriend's life is largely dedicated to getting fucked and taking loads from other guys might not work for some tops. And vice versa - bottoms might not like sharing their man's dick with other bottoms. I'm guessing so many sluts are single 'cause it's just hard to find compatible boyfriends. OR, there's the possibility of a partners-in-crime relationship where both guys are sluts - either they're versatile or they're both (vers) bottoms. In a relationship like that their recreational activity would be hunting for cock and loads. They could advertise on hookup sites together, etc. I've seen a few couples like this online, but they're pretty rare and I don't know how long the relationship lasts... So what's your experience? Have you ever been in a long-term relationship where one or both guys were sluts? How did it work out?
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I did a little investigation and it seems cam sites are pretty lenient, probably because the video isn't persistent. So basically if you can do it on Cam4 you can do it on my cam/chat site... Technically there will be certain things I have to moderate - scat is out. Pissing IN someone is out (pissing ON someone is fine)... But what I don't see I can't penalize you for... So it's pretty much a free-for-all if you're in a private chat room. Public chat rooms will have more scrutiny - those will need to conform to the standards laid down by my credit card billing company. When I launch a tube site (January?) I'll need to be stricter on that because the video is persistent... In other words, I'll be as liberal as my credit card biller allows me to be. But if I catch you crossing the line, expect to get your hand slapped...
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Tops not caring if a bottom catches something?
rawTOP replied to submissivefaggot's topic in General Discussion
That's so not cool. What comes around goes around - literally. He may not care if you get something but he should care that bottoms like you will pass it onto tops like him. -
Good question... I know for commercial porn it's not allowed 'cause someone who's high can't legally consent, but I need to find out about amateur stuff...
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Later this month I'll be installing a video chat feature for this site. I'm in the middle of migrating to a new host. They've got my server racked and and are configuring it now. As soon as the server is ready I'll install the chat software. I'm looking for beta testers who spend a lot of time on cam sites like Cam4 - especially guys who like to have sex on cam. Cam sites are expensive to run because of the bandwidth they use. While everyone will get free unlimited text chat and probably 20 minutes of video chat each day, unlimited video chat will be a paid feature once the site is up, running and established (not initially). HOWEVER, I'm thinking of comping memberships for guys who regularly fuck on cam just because other people will want to buy memberships to watch them. If you want to be a beta tester, let me know. And the reward might be a free cam membership if you're a big enough exhibitionist. [i'll also comp porn stars who've done multiple videos for well-known studios - contact me if you fall into that category too...]
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The little Latin muscle boy stopped by this morning and took my load. LOVE fucking him... Hope he becomes a regular...
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I've added a profile field for porn experience. If you've been in porn fill out the field and let everyone know who you are.
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Poz Guys: How Has HIV Changed Your Life? (aside from sex)
rawTOP replied to komfort570's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
It depends on which state (or city) you live in. Here in NYC meds are covered even for illegal immigrants. -
http://www.efukt.com/2339_The_Worst_Sex_Accident_Of_All_Time.html I don't know how the guy isn't screaming in pain... Don't ever put anything glass up your ass!
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Depends on the party... Some are better than others and the crowds vary from party to party and night to night. I'm guessing you'll have the most fun at one that's pretty inclusive and uninhibited. The "jock only" type of parties can be intimidating and the guys can be more standoffish... Wear a jockstrap, clean out your hole really well before you go, and then lube it up a bit when you get there and you should do fine. It doesn't hurt to be a bit assertive. If you find a top you like just line up his dick with your hole and push back gently and he'll get the hint... In other words, just have fun being a slut...
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My last load was last Friday. It was a guy I've fucked before. This time he also drank my piss (quite a bit of it) and it lasted a lot longer than before. Turned out to be a good hookup.
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Right - a country with universal publicly provided healthcare would be ideal, but it could work elsewhere too... One of the rooms could be set up as a live cam room, though there should always be a bottom available off camera. It could either be on one of the paid cam chat sites or if you got really into it - could be a dedicated site like the college house cam sites that are out there - cocodorm, fatpad, etc. Personally if I were running the house I'd require the bottoms to do porn with the proceeds going to household finances.
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This thread is (supposed to be) about PrEP... To me the biggest argument against PrEP is that they want you to take pills for the rest of your life so you can avoid taking pills for the rest of your life. The logic of it just doesn't make sense.
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Right... It's about devoting your life to getting fucked.
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Not exactly. I'm saying that a life with zero risk isn't one many of us would ever want to live. Stop telling us to live it.
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KinkyFucker - The problem is that those studies only say that 1) people are more comfortable barebacking with people who are undetectable, 2) that undetectable in blood doesn't mean undetectable in other areas and 2) that mathematical models say that HIV transmission should be possible with people who are undetectable. To which I say "so what"? The biggest fallacy is your conclusions are based on the notion that no risk is acceptable. People just don't live their lives that way. We take risks all the time. Crossing the street is a risk. I could trip and fall and get run over by a bus, but I still cross the street. The Swiss Statement was within that context. They acknowledged that HIV transmission risk wasn't zero but basically said it was low enough that it shouldn't be a concern. It's an issue of priorities. Smoking is killing 5 times more gay men yet there isn't nearly the stigma around that, why? Poz guys on meds need to understand that they're not the source of the rise in HIV infection rates (they're shooting blanks). The stigma of sero-discordant sex with undetectable guys needs to be lifted. The problem today is that people are finding out too late that they're poz - after damage as been done. But people aren't getting tested because of the stigma and fear. When you focus on studies like the ones you cite you perpetuate that stigma and fear and make the real problem worse. If you want to bring down the HIV infection rate get people tested - it's guys who think they're neg who are causing most of the infections. If you want to reduce AIDS related deaths get people tested before HIV does damage to their bodies. And deal with issues like substance abuse that are central to risk taking and guys not taking their meds...
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No. I'm right... Condoms are only 90 to 95% effective - see the study that's attached to this post... http://breeding.zone/threads/2855-How-Risky-Is-Barebacking-Per-incident-risk-quantified... Of course that 5 to 10% gap gets reduced because people don't, on average, get pozzed on the first fuck - even with a poz top who's not taking meds, but the point is there's still risk and condoms don't bring it down to zero. Bottom line, there is no such thing as safe sex with a poz top who's not on meds. Yes, the Swiss Statement said being consistently undetectable puts you close to zero risk. The idea that pills are more effective than condoms (and no pills) was studied and discussed at this year's International AIDS Conference... http://breeding.zone/threads/3993-ARVs-Better-Than-Condoms-Immune-Therapies-amp-Therapeutic-Vaccines Of course, being on meds and using condoms is the lowest risk.... BTW, contradicting anything HungLatinDom says about science is foolish - he understands the science behind all this stuff far better than most of us.
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Poz Guys: How Has HIV Changed Your Life? (aside from sex)
rawTOP replied to komfort570's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
Wow. Thanks for sharing that... I guess my question is what's at the root of your depression? I know so many poz guys who are living productive, purposeful lives - just being poz doesn't mean everything has to fall apart. Do you feel like you're worth less or life isn't worth living because you're poz? I see a fair number of poz guys who can't seem to stay in relationships and wonder if stuff like that isn't at the root of it - that they don't feel like they deserve happiness. But then I know poz guys who don't let it get to them or define who they are and they have great long-term relationships. (And then there are poz guys who have no interest in relationships and are completely happy that way - but it doesn't seem you're wired that way). Just as gay men used to (and some degree still do) have to come out of the closet and take pride in being gay. It seems to me it would help if you were able to accept being poz and take pride in who you are as a person. It seems you'd really benefit by seeing yourself as a wonderful, valuable person who deserves a fair measure of good things in his life. Being poz didn't change who you are. It's an obstacle - nothing more. You're still the same person you always were. Learn to love yourself. ----- To everyone else... Stories like Tatttooed Bottom Guy's are the reason why I say understand and accept the risks of barebacking before you bareback. If you understand and accept the risks your less likely to fall apart when you test poz. It's also the reason why I'm rather angry at mainstream culture and medical professionals. Being poz is so horribly stigmatized that people genuinely feel life isn't worth living after testing poz when that's totally not true. It's very similar to the homophobia that drives gay teens to have really high rates of suicide. Both are based on attitudes which are just false and they're literally killing us. -
BREEDmeRAW's fantasy of a house where a bunch of bareback pigs live got me thinking... This is also sorta related to the whole Cumdump Network idea people have been discussing... It makes sense to me that bottoms band together and create houses/apartments where tops can drop by at any time and there will be at least one hole available to fuck. It would sorta be like a brothel, only the tops wouldn't have to pay. I mean drug addicts have crack houses, why can't there be the same idea for sex? Logistically it could be a bit complicated... The guys would probably have to work (unless they're on disability). Which means work schedules would need to be coordinated so someone's available 24/7/365. And there would probably need to be a master/madame sorta figure who makes sure things run smoothly. But wouldn't it be cool to know there's always a place you can go when you need to drop a load?
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You should add one saying you'll get tested for STDs regularly and get them cleaned up as quickly as possible.
