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I gotta say I agree. A safe sex top can go into a dark room and pull out a rubber. And a safe sex bottom can go into a dark room and suck dick. But a safe sex bottom who throws his legs in the air or bends over a fuck bench in a dark room is just being incredibly stupid. They need to find a more appropriate place to get fucked. There is one exception to that - if the context of the dark room is a safe sex party. But if there's considerable barebacking going on, then the bottom should not be getting fucked in a dark room.
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There's a great article in POZ this month - I urge all of you to read it (the reader is a bit irritating, but it's worth the effort)... http://issuu.com/smartandstrong/docs/poz_hiv_aids_0188/32 Basically the author goes through all the different ways we're divided as a community. Neg guys think less of poz guys because they should have been more careful, etc. Poz guys think neg guys are holier-than-thou assholes. Neg and poz guys think guys who've recently gotten pozzed were foolish and irresponsible. Some poz and neg guys think barebackers are evil - spreading death and disease. Others think guys on PrEP are sluts who are cheating the system somehow. Very few respect our elders who often still suffer from serious HIV-related conditions. And so on... So do you agree with him? Is stigma as big of a problem as he says? I live in a bit of a bubble. I'm in NYC, have lots of poz friends, I'm part of the bareback community, etc. The majority of people around me are pretty accepting. And in general I think barebackers are some of the most accepting people you'll find. But HIV still scares my boyfriend. My best friend (who's poz) can't stand the thought that HIV is running around his body - he feels unclean and dirty (in his case he's a victim of his own stigma). And at the porn conference a few months ago he heard neg bareback porn stars talking negatively about the poz size of bareback porn. So stigma exists even in the "good places" - I'm sure it gets worse when you get outside of the big cities. What's your experience been with stigma? And by that I'm talking about the way gay guys stigmatize each other - not so much about how the straight world stigmatizes us - that's another discussion completely. [And if you're wondering why this is under the Sexual Health Section - it's because I wanted to put it in a place where it wouldn't get lost and it would classify as a mental health issue...]
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The negative effects of drug use can be discussed outside the sub-forum specified for discussion of PNP. Your mention of triggers for recovering addicts is a good way to define what's allowed outside the sub-forum and what's not. A discussion that reinforces their decision to stay sober is always OK.
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I take it you haven't been in a long-term relationship. Let's say the term "long-term monogamous" is a contradiction in terms for all but a very small group of people. There are a whopping 2 gay couples that I know who are long-term who I believe are monogamous. The vast majority have open relationships. In fact when you talk to gay couples the vast majority agree that if they had stuck to monogamy their relationships would be long over. Do not think of monogamy as a way to stay neg. There are plenty of stories of guys who's partners played around on the side, got infected, and then infected the monogamous partner.
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Florida Hottie With A Body Needs Master & Home!
rawTOP replied to the.sexiest.super.slut's topic in New York Metro Area
I'm in NYC and have been wanting a boy... Tell me more about the type of scene you're looking for? Do you have prior experience being owned by a dom? -
Sounds like it could be an STD, but probably not HIV. Whatever it is, you need to get tested and treated.
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Taking PrEP has been completely uneventful. No side effects. It's nice knowing I've got the protection. I can be an even bigger pig and not worry about the risks I'm taking.
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I go to Callen-Lorde. There's a lot of turn over in their doctors/NPs. Some are better than others. I recently started seeing Victor - he seems pretty good, and he's definitely OK with PrEP since he's prescribing it for me.
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A couple weeks ago I went to Hunter College and participated in a study about PrEP (taking HIV meds while you're neg in order to stay neg). It just takes a couple hours and all they want is to understand is people's attitudes towards PrEP and what types of marketing messages communicate the facts most clearly and are the most compelling. Much of the study is done via quantitative, computer-based surveys, but at the end you talk 1-on-1 with a researcher about what you know about PrEP and how you feel about it. To be completely honest, I didn't love the study - it wasn't bad - it just wasn't great. So I won't say it's for everyone. But if you've got questions about PrEP I think it's a good use of your time. The study has flaws (IMHO), but it is good at explaining the fundamental facts and you can talk 1-on-1 with someone who understands PrEP really well. If you're interested, contact the researchers... PrEPARE NYC 212-396-6084 preparenyc@hunter.cuny.edu http://www.cunyhart.org When you talk to them tell them you were referred by someone and give one of the following referral numbers: 72261, 72262, 72263. Oh yeah... They'll pay you $60 to be in the study...
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Meet Other Breeding Zone Members @ CumUnion
rawTOP replied to fuckboy20's topic in General Discussion
I've ordered the wrist bands. Here's the digital proof... So it's light gray text on a dark gray band. It'll be debossed and color filled. The text is the same font as the Breeding Zone logo - though it doesn't look as good when it's all out in a row. I moved away from doing glow-in-the-dark and went with a color palette that's more in line with this site. For $10 more I could have put a second message on the band. I thought about repeating the logo, but decided against it. I was holding off ordering - trying to figure out a phrase. Then this morning in the shower (a day after ordering the bands) it came to me... "BAREBACK ONLY". The idea being they'd be in a box or bowl as people checked in and that way the safe sex guys would know that person doesn't want to use condoms. But the purpose of that band is very different it would be to identify Breeding Zone members it would be for marketing purposes so guys who are only into bareback would know about the site. So for now we'll just run with the original idea - a band to identify members. In the future I may do a more marketing oriented band. So if you get one of the membership bands hang on to it.
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That's one of the weaknesses of the site - finding people close to you. You can do an advanced user search and search for particular phrase in the City field. NY will also bring back NYC (since it's a contains search), but you'll also have to search for New York (which will include New York City).
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Let me fuck you. I'm neg and on PrEP...
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Meet Other Breeding Zone Members @ CumUnion
rawTOP replied to fuckboy20's topic in General Discussion
Censoring, no. Discretion, yes - but that was in the works before I got the offer to sponsor CumUnion and has nothing to do with them. Basically I'm going to make it more difficult for people casually browsing the Internet to see people discussing things like chem sex and bug chasing. But once you have access to those areas the discussion will be the same as it is now. -
They were underage. The stories have been edited to make them legal AFAIK.
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I don't think this story is the reason why the OP is banned. HungLatinDom gave the infraction - I'm not sure what exactly triggered it. Also sometimes we just modify the story to change the age - so you never know there was a problem. But people have gone to jail for fictional stories about minors, so we have to be strict about it.
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Well, at least not for very long. HotLoad84 is the moderator who specifically reads all the stories (it's sort of his thing). But HungLatinDom and I are on the lookout for that stuff as well. If any of you see it, please click the little triangle under the post just to the left and report the post.
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Imagine a neg guy who's unjustly paranoid of all poz guys - even undetectable ones. (There are lots of guys out there like that). In that case the undetectable top could stealth the bottom and not really cause any harm. Not saying it's good or right - just saying there's a big difference between that and an unmedicated poz top stealthing a bottom.
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New Here and New to Barebacking
rawTOP replied to POZCuriousBoy's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
You're a perfect candidate for PrEP (I'm on it). Talk to your doctor about it. If you're doctor doesn't deal with a lot of gay guys you'll probably have to educate him on it. There's a link to a document that explains PrEP to doctors on my website - print it out and give it to him/her if you think there may be an issue. If you have decent insurance the insurance will cover the cost. Basically you'll take Truvada - an HIV med with very few side effects and it will be about as effective as a condom in preventing you from getting HIV (possibly more effective - but that study isn't complete yet). The only thing is it's really important that you take it every day - they'll probably do more studies to see if less-than-daily dosing is possible - but again those are studies that probably haven't even started yet. Once you're on PrEP you can explore your desire to be a cumdump for poz guys. You can live out the fantasy with minimal risk. Realize the risk isn't zero - but nothing in life that's worth doing is zero risk. Now, the one caveat is that you're taking pretty powerful drugs and not having a lot of sex. So if I were you I'd probably wait until you really want to make your fantasy a reality and will actually go through with getting your ass out there to take anonymous loads on a regular basis. -
On a bareback site it's not necessary - there are no condoms involved, hence no opportunity to stealth. And on mainstream hookup sites the question is inappropriate for completely different reasons.
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I gotta agree with the others. Just because it's a dark room doesn't mean the guy can't reasonably ask for a condom. Better if tops just walked away making it clear he's not getting much dick unless he's takes it raw. The only thing that makes some types of stealthing a bit more acceptable is when the top is completely confident they're neg (or undetectable) and hence unable to infect the bottom. I'm not saying those situations are right, but they're less wrong IMHO.
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What your talking about is streaming (where you can jump from point to point) vs. progressive download (where you have to wait for the video to load from start to that point). Most tube sties do streaming, but I'll make sure not to use ones that do progressive download.
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could you be versatile, or are you committed to your role?
rawTOP replied to Fickloch's topic in General Discussion
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Find an "urgent care" facility near you. They're where you go when you need to see someone now, but aren't so sick you need an ER. Insurance companies love them since they're way cheaper than going to the ER. But even after going you should still go to see your regular doctor.
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Meet Other Breeding Zone Members @ CumUnion
rawTOP replied to fuckboy20's topic in General Discussion
I can put you in touch with the CumUnion organizers, but they tend to look for people who run and promote sex parties as a full-time business. I asked whether the parties I have at events like MAL or IML could be branded CumUnion parties and the answer was 'no' - not because they didn't like me, but because I wouldn't be working out of an established sex venue. There's often a tricky balance that has to be struck with local health departments and the like, and when the party organizers aren't well known to the local cops and health department things can go horribly wrong. Case and point is what happened to Robby Mendez recently when he was thrown in jail for a party in North Hollywood (erroneously reported initially as being in Palm Springs). CumUnion has a brand they have to make sure doesn't get tarnished. If a health department in one city hears about problems in another city, then it could create all sorts of complications. -
Breeding Zone is now a proud sponsor of CumUnion, so we want to encourage you guys to go to the parties and tell others what you liked, what to expect, etc. (Even what you didn't like). CumUnion isn't officially a bareback party (condoms are provided), but given who promotes it, there's typically a lot of barebacking going on. So tell the other guys about your experience specifically with CumUnion Tampa ... Is it mostly bareback, or do a lot of guys use condoms, or is there a lot of oral and not much fucking? Were you able to give or take loads? How many? Would you say it's easy for a bottom to get loads or a top to find willing cumholes? What sort of guys attend? How piggy and uninhibited were they? And bottom line - would you recommend other guys go? CumUnion Tampa is held at Ybor RYS Resort and Spa, 1512 East 8th Ave. The next party is on Saturday, May 18th starting at 9:00pm. If you go and they ask where you heard about the party make sure you mention Breeding Zone - even if you also saw it mentioned elsewhere. We want the organizers to know that Breeding Zone members are going to the parties. Click here for more details about the party.
