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It's not like they're not there. I'm sure that if you grabbed him in the love handle region you could feel the body fat (not that that's a bad thing, the dude in the pic is quite hot and totally fuckable). I think it's a combination of a few factors: 1.) As Jake said, genes play a big role, that goes for the bone structure (e.g. hips / shoulder width ratio), the softness of the fatty and connective tissue, the elasticity of the skin as well as fat distribution. 2.) When talking about the skin, age also plays a role. The guy in the picture is made to look mature (beard, hairy breast etc.), but probably is quite young still. 3.) Then there is overall muscularity. The guy is seriously muscled, also when it comes to the center section / lower back. Most guys who want "to look good on the dancefloor" train their arms, pecs and abs, and magazines like Men's Health cater to that market. But dumbbell curls and crunches alone don't help shit when you're beefy. You gotta put in the work and do all the uncomfortable stuff (300lb+ deadlifts, heavy squats, pull-ups etc.). 4.) Also look at the legs. Many guys in the gym just ignore them, but you need substancial legs like the guy in the picture to balace the upper body. Broad shoulders, substancial lats / lower back and tree-like legs make for a harmoniously wide frame. 5.) Clothing. Expertly chosen for the guy in the picture. If you try to fit a beefy frame - even a muscular one - into e.g. skinny jeans your love handles will show. IMHO - besides genes - one of the most important factors would be if you train correctly, i.e. heavy and intense with the right exercises. Yeah, but there's a lot one can do. Believe me, switching from a Men's Health type training regime to serious weight training will pay off.

Playing devil's advocate here, but: Why should anyone feel proud about being poz? Or ashamed for that matter? For most gay guys it's just an incidental aspect of life, not a reason to behave or be treated differently. For most guys it's something that happened along the way because they liked natural, bareback sex, but the vast majority didn't seek out HIV. I didn't seek out being white / european. I just happen to be. Just as some guys happen to be poz. Big whoop. There isn't something wrong with appreciating poz culture, but neither is there an imperative to celebrate being poz. I'd compare it with MENSA. Yes, it's obviously nice to be able to talk to likeminded individuals and to be stimulated in a way only such a setting can, but most smart people don't join MENSA, they just happen to be smart and contribute to society in any other way they see fit. So to me - same as with so many things - it's about choice. Accepting being poz still means one gets to choose what to do with it, how to define oneself. I mean, why should this be any different for poz guys than for neg guys? Why should a neg jock be allowed define oneself as a jock but a poz triathlete can't do that? Why should a poz guy just want to be sought out because of the virus, not because of any other aspect he deems more important, be it body hair, athleticisms, culturedness, whatever? So I think there is a huge difference between being in denial about being poz (bad) and just choosing not to let it define one's (sex) life (one's right as an individual).

It is a breach of etiquette. He was out of line. And you should make him pay, or else he won't learn his lesson. Punishment is necessary, what kind is up to you, you know the guy best. Maybe he has to organize the next three gangbangs before you bring your fuckbuds over again. Or he has to organize 3 or 4 bottoms and share you with them. Or you organize a very hot gangbang for another slut and he has to watch gagged and tied to a chair. Be creative! At least he certainly has lost his right to be picky.

I prefer my sex partners to be SANE, OPEN and HONEST. That usually means discussing status. Not knowing doesn't turn me on. On the other hand, someone who is able to stand by his status, actions and preferences shows me he has his shit together and can act like a man. That is a million times hotter. I have knowingly seeded both neg and poz guys, but that doesn't mean I will seed ANY neg guy or ANY poz guy.

That is fantastic to hear!

Again, just my ramblings: I think there is a difference between intensity (One thing I hear from Americans all the time is that "you Germans are so intense", I think you might fall into the same category.) and - for lack of a better word - heavy-handedness. TIM is very successful with the heavy / raunchy stuff (gothic setting / design, ominous music, drug allusions, "come join the club" text intros etc.) and I don't want to criticize that in any way. It's a valid market. I just think that the majority of the (gay) population wants to be young forever and act carefree as if their deeds didn't have consequences, in the same way that Hilfiger advertise their clothes. I think it's a choice: Do you want to be McDonalds and have the broadest audience possible (at least 50% of all gay men bareback if the circumstances are right, so that's a very broad target group) or do you want cater to the poz fetish crowd. I actually agree with coyotesmiles: Many guys on breedingzone are looking for a better HIV fetish platform. You could totally corner that market. But you would limit yourself to a niche (nothing wrong with that). So I don't think you should turn everything upside down. But I think the question of what route to take hinges on which market you want to serve: Do you want to be no.1 in hardcore poz fetish? Then it's about community and a feeling of security (from censorship, condom nazis etc.), not necessarily cutting edge technology. Do you want to bring barebacking into the mainstream? Then it's about being welcoming, unoffensive and offering interactive features). Or do you want to bring new guys to barebacking? If you want to get the 19-year-olds everything has to center around mobile devices and cater to a 15-second attention span like Twatter. Don't take me too seriously, but yeah, something like that (It's just to hot and humid here right now to think clearly). What I probably want to say is: Maybe you should come up with a kind of mission statement (what do I want my new platform to be / to be the best at) first and then think about ways of implementing that. Without abandoning BreedingZone, of course . I just think that having a tube site isn't a purpose in itself. It's just a means to an end. As coyotesmiles said, if that end is creating a social experience for HIV fetishists, it clearly serves a purpose and certainly isn't a thing of the past.

Take it as philosophical meanderings, I'm really not a specialist myself, either. But personally I think that HTML5 and with it the ability to directly access videos, webcams, location data and navigation is the future. But it agree that this probably will lead to a technological arms race between internet sex companies. So again, the middle-sized players are probably gonna get squeezed between the big businesses and individuals that just use somebody else's infrastructure. I think this community as it is now works. So I wouldn't say "change the formula". I just don't think that this is the kind of community one could exponentially grow and take mainstream. I think that a truly mainstream bareback offering - and I think now is the time that is possible - has to be light(er) and fun. But there is always a market for the heavy, raunchy stuff if you focus on it. As many successful prostitutes would agree: People will pay for stuff they don't get at home.

Just my two eurocents: Blogs and Tube Sites are mature markets. Generally speaking: Many of the guys who started blogs 10 years ago either went corporate and now serve as some kind of gossip dispensary or now stay in contact with their friends via facebook. Same goes for porn: Blogs are great as a "cheap" tool to promote existing content, but if you want a blog to succeed as a traditional blog it has to have its distinct personality as a main selling point. You said it yourself: Otherwise microblogging like Tumblr serves up cheap visual thrills as well. Tube sites are great if someone tells me "hey check out that pornstar". They just don't involve one emotionally and make me want to spend money. So as I see it the business model relies on advertising, which is never future-proof in an already overcrowded market. When I watch porn I either go for high-quality stuff with beautiful guys (the likes of Sean Cody, Chaosmen etc.) or true amateur stuff. I don't see a point in paying for "normal" guys having sex (like it was the case with HDK ten years ago) if I can either see them for free on a cam site, which is much more real and therefore interesting, or fuck them myself. So I believe the "middle of the road" is indeed eroding. As always, it's about the value proposition. If you want your sites to be a hit, you have to offer something fresh that doesn't exist yet and make a personal connection with the user. I'm always amazed how much money some guys spend on Cam4. So it's about the interactive experience with other "normal" guys and lowering the threshold between pros and just eager amateurs. That can mean something totally new, I'm sure an interactive site that combines the functionalities of Grindr, Twitter and Cam4 would be a huge hit. Or it can just be better integrating existing platforms, like Facebook took blogging and messenging and sold it as something new. I think you are on the right track when you say you want to be community-focused. One caveat however. Bareback is the new mainstream. There is no denying that. But breedingzone isn't. Many of the most prolific posters are here because of the backroom forums. HIV fetishism will always be a niche, whereas fucking without rubbers is the most normal thing in the world. So you have to ask yourself which market you want to serve, how broad you want your audience to be.

That is probably true for 1% of all poz guys, namely the aforementioned long-term-nonprogressors. So you can count yourself lucky that you belong to this select group. However, your truth doesn't apply to the other 99%. These 99% live longer and healthier lives thanks to ARVs. But he was cute nonetheless. Like the kid with the killer smile who so many of us choose to ignore, because he doesn't wear the right clothes, because he doesn't fit in, doesn't belong, or worst of all, isn't doing the right drugs. IMHO opinion it's not insulting to call a clearly handsome man cute, especially as such a statement is tinged with the melancholia and sadness of loss and what-could-have-beens. If you are looking to find insult, I would like to paraphrase one of the guys from the documentary METH IIRC he basically said that it's an absurd waste to survive AIDS and then stick needles in your arms to shoot up meth. Not caring about others and letting meth rule one's life, that is the real insult.

The simple truth: 99% of all poz men will have to go on meds at some point in time in order to survive. Eating healthy is not a substitute for that (one should do that anyway as it is always a benefit to your general wellbeing). WHEN you will have to start meds depends on your body's reaction to the virus. Some need to go on meds after 5 months, others after 5 years, only your doctor can tell you which category you belong to. Many say that with all the new regimens starting meds early will help you in the long run, so you can always start taking them before you absolutely have to. That is your decision. But it's not recommendable to wait beyond the point where your body can't put up enough of a fight. So discuss your options with your doctor. Eating healthy, sports, yoga etc. are allways good, but the only thing proven to fight the virus itself are antiretrovirals. There is no alternative to starting meds at some point in time (at least for 99% of all poz men).

Totally agree! I think it also has to do with guys being in relationships. Let's be honest, at least 50% of all gay men in "monogamous" relationships cheat, plus the huge number of open relationships with certain rules (e.g. sex with strangers only using condoms). Many of these guys will admit to some "harmless" cocksucking but not to getting fucked raw outside the relationship.

I think what les is saying is that the guy is on medication, therefore the viral load in his blood is quite low, also ingesting it is probably less risky than e.g. sharing a needle. Hep C in this regard can be more of a problem as it usually requires fewer copies of the virus to successfully infect, especially when sharing the same needle or razor. So there's a really good chance you're still HIV neg. On the other hand, if your partner were HepC pos, there's a very good chance he would have passed it on to you. Other than that you'll have to wait for the test. But you should be realistic: Blood sex is risky. If you sincerely want to avoid infection, stay away from it (otherwise at least minimize the risk by e.g. only getting fucked with your own blood, safely extracted using e.g. a syringe beforehand). Having doubts and regrets after cumming is never good. You clearly are conflicted. Take a step back and assess your priorities: What is more important to you: Your blood fetish or your health? Try to find the answer that is right for you and act accordingly. A constant cycle of acting out, regret, shame, self-imposed pressure and then acting out again will just FUCK YOU UP. FIRST, try to get to a point where you're at peace with yourself.

Prep does not lead to resistance. Resistance develops because of mutagenic pressure. If you're poz, the virus will replicate in your bloodstream. Antiretrovirals supress replication. From time to time mutations happen, but if you're sticking to your dosage schedule, viral activity is low so that it's unlikely these mutations will survive and get a hold in your body. Developing resistance to a certain drug means that one of the mutated viruses is immune to the mode of action of a certain ARV and that this mutation was given a chance to prosper (e.g. by not adhering to therapy guidelines). Bottom line: you need to carry HIV in order to develop a resistance. If you're not poz, there's no mutagenic pressure working against the meds in your body. If you're neg and taking PreP as prescribed, one of two things will happen: 1.) HIV enters your bloodstream. Because of the PreP it cannot replicate and will die off shortly thereafter. It cannot build reservoirs in your lymphatic tissue. No infection, no virus remains in your body. No mutagenic pressure, no resistance. 2.) The HIV that enters your system is already resistant to ALL the components of your PreP regimen. Then there is a chance of infection. BUT the virus was already resistant in the first place. Also many cases of multiresistant HIV are often on some kind of salvage therapy, meaning lower viral loads (less likelyhood of infection) whereas HVL fresh infections are mostly "normal", unmutated HIV. The only real problem is not adhering to your dosage schedule, as with poz guys. Not enough ARVs in your blood mean better chance of infection, and once infected, a better chance for mutations to survive. As to the issue itself: I think PreP is great because it slows / stops the chain reaction of one guy infecting another one and so on. All the guys doing PreP are working towards a world where HIV has been starved out, and therefore ALL gay sex is bareback again.

Do you mean that as "he was a dirty pig" or simply that he didn't apply deodorant? Because IMHO often the deodorant is the problem, some are nasty, chemical weapons. Also, while most deodorants work well when wearing a collared shirt, that isn't always the case when being naked and covered in sex sweat. Some develop a really weird tang. I think that "freshly showered, no deodorant" (of course using a neutral, not a heavily perfumed shower gel) is always the safest bet. That way a man still smells like himself, but doesn't stink. When asked, that would always be my recommendation for sex dates with strangers. Personally, I'm an adventurous guy, so with the right guy, I'm open to a variety of smells. A few examples: - Guys in their late teens usually haven't really learned how to use deodorants / eau de toilets. But if I'm seeding an 18-year-old boy hole, I don't even mind the Drakkar Noir. - The musk of a hard day's work is always ok with me, same as with fresh gym (soccer/biking etc.) sweat. - So is the smell of a day at the beach, that mixture of sunbathing sweat and salt. - Talking of swimming, if you are indeed a swimmer and look the part, even a whiff of chlorine can be very hot. - Some raunch can be ok, but only with the right guys. I had a fuckbuddy, one of those clean, athletic types, who loved fucking bareback after not having showered for one or two days (especially with that slight smell of piss in the crotch area). Because of the total contrast it was very, very hot. I don't really like raunch when it comes to mature, hairy guys. Just not interesting to me, because it's what you expect. Sometimes even comes across as slobbish. But that's not something for a ONS / the first hook-up. As I said, IMHO, you can't go wrong with freshly showered, no deodorant.

Agreed. I also don't get bottoms who don't like condoms but are willing to shove dildos up their asses. Plastic is plastic and it doesn't belong in asses.

First of all, all that talk of "straight guy", "met him on the street", "spontaneously decided to fuck his ass" is usually bullshit. At least there has been some kind of talk, ID verification and signing of some legal documents / waivers. Anything that looks likek coercion or shady dealing on screen is cleared beforehand (just think of baitbus.com, if that was real they'd be in court all the time). Or do you believe all the drama on so-called reality TV shows like "The Biggest Loser" or any show with Gordon Ramsay is in fact real? No, it's all scripted. As to the sero-sorting, I can only speak of European porn (I know some German porn producers and fucked the occasional actor), but that is more or less in line with what RawTop said. Legitimate porn companies usually fall into one of three categories: 1.) Those who work with a lot of young neg guys, because it's their business model (in the US that would probably be Active Duty, Sean Cody or Chaosmen, but I don't know for sure), who do their own rigorous testing (usually they have friendly doctors / labs who will do PCR tests for them). 2.) Those who work with a more diverse set of actors, many (or even most) of whom are poz, who insist on medical paperwork, which can be an HIV / STD test for neg models or in the case of poz actors documentation that they are on meds and of course tests for other STDs. Those producers often do get somewhat involved and serosort. 3.) Others do not get involved. They just have the actors sit down with each other and afterwards have them sign that it's their responsibility and that they've discussed all the pertinent issues. That can sometimes lead to ironic results, like one neg actor who's only fucking other neg guys for one company, seeding poz holes when working for another one. Then there is a fourth category. 4.) Amateur and street-hustler porn, where pretty much anything can happen, because no professional looks out for potential legal trouble.

Where's the "I haven't really changed" option? The thing is: of course the sex I have in a year differs from the one before. Different opportunities lead to different outcomes. But my tastes haven't really changed over the last 10 years or so. I'm a top. Just the way God made me. And, yes, that means anal. I've always been adventurous, so from time to time I have extravagant daring sex. But I never mistake the garnish for the main protein of the meal. Overly fetishistic sex leaves me cold. I do enjoy piss and the smell of a real man, just as I did when I was 23. But again, it's still the whole man that interests me, my focus hasn't shifted.

If anyone is wondering: Androgel is a testosterone ointment. It's usually prescribed to younger men with abnormally low testosterone levels (testosterone deficiency is also more common amongst poz guys), but it is also helpful against wasting in HIV patients. That shouldn't be confused with testosterone use as an anobolic steroid, as e.g. bodybuilders usually take much, much higher doses. But iff your natural testosterone levels are on the low side, it can indeed lead to a more pronounced sex drive. Tried it once (not that I really needed it), gave me acne where applied and not much else happened. I think it depends on your personal body chemistry and maybe a bit on whether you actually believe in its efficacy. Just as a caveat: Once you substitute testosterone, your body will react by lowering its own production. So the best and safest way is to talk to a doctor first and if need be, get a prescription.

I'm with RawTop on this one. Had half a dozen over the course of nine months and then nothing for three years (while fucking at least two different guys per week). It's totally random. I don't think STDs are a badge of honor. Neither do I think it's something to be ashamed of. It's just something that happens along the way. The important thing IMHO is to be honest about it and treat them immediately.

Exactly. It's a plastic toy for those who like their sex playful. But to me it isn't even real fucking, it's masturbation by gluteus. It's the same as with bareback bottoms who send you dozens of pics showing them using dildos and butt plugs. Why would anyone think that's supposed to be enticing for a bareback top? Those guys are confused!

Excuse my harshness, but: If you need encouragement from strangers on the internet you shouldn't have sex all. Sex should be about doing something you enjoy, not something you got talked into. Should poz guys just be cumdumps? No, they should be whatever the fuck they damn well please. Same as neg guys. Same as everyone. HIV doesn't change a damn fucking thing when it comes to your elementary right of self-determination. If you want to be a cumdump, be a cumdump. If you want to seek enlightenment, do that. YOUR LIFE, YOUR CHOICE.

First of all: Congrats on always being honest. That is by far the best policy. As to guys fucking you bareback while insisting on condoms when bottoming: That is for you - and only for you - to decide. Some submissive guys get off on the double standard. Most guys feel akward like you. You should do what YOU feel comfortable with. If you really want to fuck the guy and that's the only way, why not? But noone has the right to dictate the way YOU want to have sex. Be open about what YOU want. You'd be surprised how many guys suddenly agree to your terms once you show them that you're willing to walk away from a fuck. Just don't be an asshole: Don't stealth. Stick to what you agreed upon. If you agree to condoms, don't pull them off. If you agreed on bareback without seeding the ass, shoot outside. But don't agree to something you're not comfortable with in the first place.

To the best of my knowledge: The risk when having "normal" bareback sex (e.g. using lube for anal penetration, no fisting or oversized toys, slowly working up to anal penetration, so the ass is relaxed etc....) is indeed very low. However, one should avoid blood. So no cruel condom, being careful with rough sex and so forth. Also keep in mind that group settings and anonymous situations can be risky. Imagine a big bareback party, where a bug chaser comes with a toothbrushed asshole. If he has HepC, the tops who fuck him will also most likely fuck a few drops of his blood into other other asses. On the other hand, HepC, if caught early is usually very treatable, so if you are worried, make sure to get tested regularly. I know guys who had it two or three times over the last years. Sure, treatment was a b*tch, they had problems with depression and the Hepatitis treament fucked up their digestive system, but after a few weeks months they were cured.

From personal experience: While syphillis leads to swollen lymph nodes and a rash, I personally didn't have that flu-like malaise feeling with muscle soreness and stuff. However, what is a dead giveaway for syphillis is the ulcus durum, the hard-to-the-touch chancre, where the first bacteria entered your body. If you find one in your mouth or on your dick, it's probably syph. It's more complicated if you got infected with syph deep in the ass, where you can't see the chancre or feel it with your tounge. But as hollywoodslut and jjjeep said: The guessing game is totally pointless. GO GET TESTED for all STDs, not just HIV! GO see a doctor or check the web for anonymous testing locations in your area. You can take a home HIV test after four weeks and if you're poz it will already show in 60-70% of the cases. It's good first indicator if that helps soothe your mind. But you MUST repeat the test after another 2 or more months to be sure. However, with syph it's VERY important to start treatment early. Because that's the difference between two shots of penicillin in the ass (and your done) and hours / days of IV antibiotics in a hospital and / or weeks of pill-popping. So for fuck's sake, just GET TESTED.

I'm with RawTop on this one. It sounds hot in theory and it can indeed be fun to try it out and experiment, but it often lacks the natural rhythm and instinctive quality of (1)-man-on-(1)-man action. If the situation arises, I'm game. But it's not something I really instigate or seek out (same as fisting in my case).