GermanFucker

But IMHO that only becomes apparent when you're actively participating here. It takes a few weeks to distinguish between real guys that speak from experience in a nuanced way and the repetitive "I knocked up a dozen neg virgins last week alone" masturbation fantasies. We as members know whom to take seriously and what not to. But to the uninformed visitor it's probably all the same. Interestingly in Germany many bathhouses (e.g. in big cities where there are two or three, it's always at least one) offer some bareback events. Usually that means that part of the club is reserved for a "private party", but of course there's mingling with the regular customers. But such events are often marketed inoffensively. Either as gatherings of poz guys or as just another sex party (e.g. the "YoungsterB" orgy. The passer-by wouldn't know that "B" stands for barebackers). And IMHO being discreet that way is completely ok. Not only as a business decision, but also because it's the organizers' prerogative to define what they want to stand for. Just as it is everyone's right to go elsewhere.

I'm just not sure the guy in the vid is "Liam Driver", xtube member since the 23rd of this month. The "Ach Scheisse" at the end kind kinda doesn't sound Irish. But it does sound like he came.

I think some guys on this thread are masturbating as well when they suggest 11 or 12. Yes, early bloomers exist. But even those don't seek guys in their mid-fifties to have sex with, instead having sex mostly amongst themselves. So age of consent laws don't really cramp their style. Most preadolescents are more fascinated with sex per se than with having sex with a specific person and when it happens early, it's more playful. It's not the same kind of sex a grown man has. Everyone should have the right to develop naturally without having someone older's idea of sex forced upon them. I think I said it before, but I find the German model very sensible. The general age of consent is 16, with only minor restrictions. Having sex with a 16 year old is legal, but it is not legal for a 16 year old to do porn or work as a prostitute (prostitution being otherwise legal in Germany). Also it's not ok for a person of authority to have sex with e.g. apprentices or students. It's also ok for someone of the age of 14/15 to have sex with someone who is just a few years older (I think 21 is the cut-off), and / or if the parents don't mind. I really think that this is the real problem here. Laws dictated by moral outrage, eschewing common sense.

My 2 eurocent: - Barebacking is an everyday reality, not a rare transgression. - The young generation hasn't seen the ravages of AIDS, scare tactics are lost on them. - It shouldn't be treated with moral outrage. - Most barebacking isn't called "barebacking", rather "I forgot the condom because I was drunk". - Because the end result is the same, one should make responsible, sober decisions. - Condoms are scientifically proven to work, they save one a lot of hassle - However, that doesn't mean that not using condoms is insane or that there aren't valid reasons for that. - Poz guys who have sex with poz guys only have to fear "minor" diseases. - Others have unprotected sex with people they trust. - For some it has to do with a drug or alcohol problem. - Again others make conscious choices to take a certain risk, sometimes trying to minimize that. - For some the risk assessments or expectations what it means to be poz are unrealistic because of a lack of knowledge. - When councelling barebackers its important to ask "where they come from" and respond accordingly, i.e. instead of villifying or simply promoting condoms, rather ask oneself how to best help the person at the other end of the line, be it by offering knowledge or helping one make sense of one's behaviour, or simply encouraging a poz guy to get tested for other STDs regularly because those can be more of a problem if you already have HIV. PS: I found BBC's "Unsafe Sex in the City" to be an interesting watch, they might still have it on their website, but I think most episodes should be available around the net (youtube etc.), if you do a video search with Google (Bing etc.).

I think the most important question is: Where in the world do you live?

When I'm in the mood for pussy, I'll find me a girl. When it comes to men, I prefer the term ass / arse. The ass is a muscle, because that's what I like to feel when a fuck a guy: something tight that milks my dick.

Fantastic post, BB, couldn't agree more. It is very, very rare for someone to be undetectable without meds, even long-term nonprogressors usually have a measurable, albeit relatively low viral load. But such cases of "elite controllers" do exist (fact). But not everyone who claims to be one actually is. I've seen the problem with late diagnoses in a friend of a friend, although his viral load went undetectable quickly, he still has been fighting Karposi's for quite some time now, because of the damage the virus did to his body and because his immune system hasn't yet recovered quickly enough. Many guys, especially if they're young, make a quick recovery once on meds, with the increasing T-cell count reversing / pushing back the effects of the disease.

My respect for guys putting veggies up their ass is about the same as for guys using condoms for fucking. Both don't belong there.

A fuckbud of mine says: Ich habe kein Alterslimit, aber ein Attraktivitaetslimit - I don't have an age limit, but I have an attractiveness requirement. So no, I don't have a number set in stone, but age does play a role when assessing compatibility. Others might look for maturity, experience, i.e. daddies or even granddaddies. When I fuck around I look for adventure, comradery and yes, sometimes youth. I need to be able to relate to a guy, so that usually means that we have to at least belong to the same generation (i.e. +/- 15 years). Of course, having other things in common helps, too, like when you're both gym rats.

I think the most common reason for this disconnect is paranoia. Some fear their new boss will suddenly develop an interest in gay dating sites, even though she's a mother of three daugthers. Some say they don't want the local condom nazi seeing a save sex optional profile and badmouthing them in their small gay community. The guys who openly advertise their willingness to have unsafe sex on mainstream sites (A4A, Gayromeo etc.) are often already well known amongst their friends for being HIV-positive and having a very adventurous sex life. In German there's a saying: Ist der Ruf erst ruiniert, lebt sich's fortan ungeniert", once your reputation is ruined, you're free to live your life without false inhibitions. Those who still try to maintain an image of responsibility might fall into one of three categories, and often there's no telling which one from first impressions. - Sluts who really never use condoms, but think that way they can avoid controvery. - Guys who will bareback in reality, given the right circumstances (e.g. neg-neg), although they might embellish on barebacking sites (e.g. "any and all loads taken") - Guys who don't usually bareback, but fantasize about it. The fact that you don't know beforehand makes it more complicated and sometimes frustrating. As to the bugchasing thing: Bugchasing is 98% fantasy and this includes Breedingzone. On the one side all these fresh young virgin asses who discovered gay sex three weeks ago, but beg to be knocked up asap. On the other side all these no-meds tops, who have been full blown for 6 years and counting. Yeah, right. Don't get me wrong, bugchasing exists, but it's more nuanced. Some guys realize they probably are poz already, so bugchasing gives them an illusion of control when it has already been lost. Other submissive guys just give in to the inevitable.

Also keep in mind: Many guys feel some kind of inner pressure to "confess" their sexual "depravity" at the doctor's office. But most doctors aren't interested confessions, only in medically relevant information. (Yes, when assessing if something might be HIV it can be relevant to know whether the patient has a lot of unsafe sex. Or if someone is into fisting when looking for HepC.) You can get syphillis by receiving a blowjob. So you don't have to tell anything that you're not comfortable with. You can be as specific or not as you like to. Some of my standard lines are "I'm young and sexually active. .... No specific risky situation comes to mind, but out of responsibility and for the sake of my partners I just want to be sure."

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To the best of my knowledge. The difference between an ingrown hair and a syphillis chancre is that the first will turn to pus, so after a while the "hardish" part will move to the surface and will become more elastic, usually you can just pop it like a zit in the end, whereas a syph chancre is more like a frozen pea stuck under your skin (you can't "pop" it, because it isn't pus, it's infected tissue), and it will become wet and oozy not unlike a herpes sore. The thing about syphillis is: The earlier it's diagnosed, the easier the treatment, sometimes it's just one shot of penicillin. Once you get to the stage where body is covered with the typical rash, it has spread throughout your body, often requiring more antibiotics / longer treatment. So if you think that it's syph, get tested and treated ASAP and PLEASE: Don't have sex with other until you treatment is finished. Be fair. As to the "freaking out" part: Syphillis is 100% percent completely curable, if it's caught early, the only possible effect might be some scarring where the chancre was. Be calm and relaxed, just don't procratinate: see a doctor, if necessary get treated.

I don't know about Dr. Phil, but I know there are many scripted "reality" shows and talk shows. The producers look for a certain type and usually go through talent agencies to find "ugly hooker", "underage sex addict", "overweight cuckold husband" or whatever the script for that episode says. It's sometimes funny to watch the same amateur actor play a straight pizza guy, a gay boyfriend and a naked cleaner within ten days on three different channels. But hey, it's a paying acting job. Being used to performing in front of the camera, there are a number of porn stars who also do that kind of acting job. Some do it for the fun, some for the extra cash, for some its a stepping stone to a more mainstream acting career. So if I don't know the exact rules of the format (scripted vs. actual reality, pseudonym vs. verifiable identity, etc.), I wouldn't necessarily believe everything I'm being presented.

As to German: Germans will know what you mean when you talk about fucking bareback, the term is quite common, but will think of minced meat when you use the word "raw". Mostly you'd say "blank ficken", with "blank" meaning naked or uncovered. Also used is "ohne Gummi", without rubber. Sometimes the term "AO" as in "alles ohne" (everything [goes] without [protection]) is used in personal ads / on message boards, but mostly by heterosexual hookers ("AO Nutten"). To breed / seed would be "besamen" (inseminate) or "abfüllen", as in "füll mich ab" = "fill me up". To knock up would be "schwängern" (impregnate), rarely also "befruchten". But that can mean anything. If you are talking about pozzing, you'd use the English word (but with a German ending): "pozzen". HIV is HIV, and negative is "negativ", positive is "positiv", sometimes also "poz", as in English (depending on the speaker with a soft "z" at the end as in English or with a hard german "s"). There are thousands of words for cum, such as: Sahne (cream), Soße (Sauce), Rotze (literally "snot"). A term often used for cumming in a guy's ass would be "in den Arsch rotzen", to blow snot up his ass (it sounds a lot hotter in German, believe me). Seldom, the portmanteau "Potze" / "Pozze" (pronounced po-tse) is used, made up of "pos" and "Rotze", i.e.: poz cum. But that is mostly only with HIV fetishists. I'll add more terms when I have the time / think of them.

AFAIK the problem with "mild strains" is that it's never the strain allone that decides the progression rate, but rather the specific interaction of that strain with the patients immune system, whose response is largely determined by his genes. So IMHO there is an ethical difference between experimental treatment for cancer patients, be it immune or even gene therapy and infecting a hitherto healthy patient with something that might be harmless to many, but still has the potential to do harm in specific cases.

IMHO fat vs. skinny isn't the most important factor, it's muscularity that counts. Fucking an overly skinny, bony guy isn't enjoyable, because without muscle to cushion the blow you immediately hit bone which is uncomfortable after a short while. Neither is fucking an overly soft and wobbly ass fun, because it lacks the muscle tone to milk your dick. Pun intended, it's like pounding water. Some belly fat is ok, if there's overall muscularity. E.g. I do enjoy fucking stocky weightlifter types. So one shouldn't get obsessed with being skinny, which in itself isn't all that attractive.

You misread completely. I didn't judge. At all. My statement was in response to the question if there's a need for discussion. If you look at the echo Lee Daniel's recent statements had in the media, there sometimes can be such a need. As I said, it usually (as in "in most of the cases") really doesn't matter. Not to me or others. However, there are exceptions. And I listed two examples of criteria (there are others), when it begins to matter. If these criteria don't apply to you, you needn't identify with them. As to integrity: In the end there's isn't much difference between cheating on your boyfriend or your wife. Being bisexual doesn't make one morally superior or more acceptable than the other. What makes it forgivable is the fact that we're human. Men are cheating horndogs. Pure and simple. I've cheated on partners. With other cheaters. Bad, bad me. But it was hot. As I said: Most of the time I really, really don't give a flying fuck. If one however strives for total integrity, that demands total honesty. It also means giving your wive / partner the same chance to look elsewhere. Which can end in open marriage or divorce. Because as long as there are lies involved, we either have to chalk it up to human fallibility. Or we are indeed living delusions if we keep pretending to be morally unassailable. One has to live by the standards one sets for oneself or else the self-deception will fuck one up in the end.

Well, agreed. It's just sex. Fucking around should be fun and not burdened with reading too much meaning into it. However: It matters when someone's sex life is a lie wrapped in a delusion inside a deception, when someone is pretending to be things he is not and aspects of his double life begin to have a negative impact on others. It's not ok to be a bugchaser while pretending to be faithful to your wife. It's not ok to be an asshole to your children just because you have problems accepting you're bisexual. As with everything: It usually doesn't matter - within reason. Speak of yourself, dude. I'd rather fuck Nick Jonas (well, I'd fuck Nick Jonas, period). Sure, Adam Levine is somewhat doable, but not someone I'd fantasize about.

[quote name='cougkdc99;107812 ]I love straight guys' date=' but when there dicks are buried in man ass and all they can think about is depositing their nut juice, are they really straight and what are they thinking? [/quote'] If a man who usually sleeps with women, is willing to put his dick into a man's ass or mouth, he isn't straight, he's bisexual. Period. Simple as that. Depending on where he falls on the (Kinsey) spectrum, it is possible that he enjoys fucking a guy even more than fucking his wive, but sticks with her due to social conventions. Or it can simply be a matter of a combination of horniness, alcohol and the availability of a male ass and the guy fantasizes about wet pussy the whole time while pounding manhole. Sexuality is indeed fluid that way. But if someone is "really" truly heterosexual (i.e. he falls into the very heterosexual end of the spectrum), he wouldn't fuck around with guys. So when you talk about "straight" in this context, what you are talking about bisexuals who are either (at least slightly) more into women, so that they usually have no need to seek out sex with men, or whose lives are dictated by social pressure to conform. I'm always amazed (or should I say amused?) how in the US heterosexuality is more of a social concept than a sexual reality. To quote Tony Kushner's "Angels in America": "Because what I am is defined entirely by who I am. [i am] not a homosexual. [i am] a heterosexual man who fucks around with guys." I believe this indeed has to do with the fact that the traction the fundamentalist notion that you can choose your sexuality has gained traction within the public discourse. It's the other side of the same coin. Just as fundamentalists believe that being gay is a choice, they are willing to accept that you're straight as long as you declare that you are, so that they don't have to concern themselves with the somewhat more complicated and murky reality.

I don't do it often, but yeah, I sometimes jerk off thinking of nothing, mostly when I'm not in an especially sexual mood, but would like to enjoy my cup of endorphines before falling asleep. Sometimes it's kind of a zen thing. Just wanking without a special goal or purpose. But mostly I jerk off to the memories of good fuck dates.

There's another possible explanation. Just look at how Leah Remini is trying to stick it to Scientology. Maybe Jackson Taylor really believed that he would just do a normal porn shoot and naively trusted TIM not to portray him in a certain light. So when he was made to look like the posterchild of bug chasing, his feeling were hurt and his ego bruised. In that case some people take their revenge by throwing as much shit as possible at who they feel wronged by, knowing that one way or another some will stick (In Remini's case I'd say: You go girl, Scientology richly deserves it). That is not meant as taking sides with Taylor or anyone involved with the matter, I wasn't in the room for the contract negotiations and when the content of the shoot was discussed. I'd just like to point out that when some people feel wronged they go at it regardless of the consequences.

I don't get that Justin Bieber thing. Though I have to admit I'd like to handcuff and gag him. No sex, god forbid. Just gag him. Taylor Lautner on the other hand, why not, I'd seed that ass.

I truly believe that everyone has the right to look for sex according to his own preferences. Even if that means that most of the dating pool doesn't match these criteria. If someone is just looking for a certain thing and is willing to forgo having much more sex with a wider variety of guys, who am I to judge. I reserve the right not to have sex with someone, so I really can't expect others to have bareback sex with me if they are into different things. The only thing is: one doesn't have to be a douche about it. There are always two ways of saying the same thing. OK: "Neg bottom looking for neg tops to have bareback sex with" - is a factual statement of preference, even if one thinks it's naive, it deserves to be respected. Stupid: "Be clean" - Manages to be both confusing and insulting at the same time. OK: "Sexually not attracted to XXXX" - not the nicest thing to say, but sometimes necessary. Sometimes a guy always attracts a certain type of suitor, and if the interest isn't mutual, its better to be upfront. I also know Asian bottoms that have to defend themselves against "pervy old white men" spamming their inboxes. Douchy: "No Asians" (categorically), "Blacks not welcome", or even more surreal "I don't like Israel's politics, so I won't have sex with jews"... seriously, WTF? OK: "Gym rat looking for other muscular guys" - If that pisses one of more that "bear looking for other bears and otters", it says more about one's own insecurities than the guy who wrote the profile. Why should one scene be worse than the other? Shallow and mean: "No fatties" - As if that was all that is to another person. OK: "Just checking things out", "not looking for sex right now" etc. - Not everyone has the experience, time or sex drive to manage ten hookups per week and it's ok to say so. As RawTop said: Also gives others a chance to move on. Just pointless: Misrepresenting oneself - Pretending to be aloof when you're constantly looking for dick. Or saying you're up for fun when in reality you rarely show up and just jack off to online conversations. OK: "Especially into Latino types", "age 22-25 preferred", "more into tall dudes" - Precise statement of preference without being denigrating Nonsensical: "Be hot" - as if there were an objective standard, just like MMM said, it doesn't mean anything because it's all in the eye of the beholder.

For otherwise healthy poz guys: no, it doesn't. Other than diet a number of factors can influence taste like the genetically caused variations in metabolism in general, metabolic diseases like diabetes or the broken-down metabolites of chemical compounds such as medications or tobacco smoke. But in general, diet is the major factor, with hydration and time of day determining the "strength" of the piss' taste (Drinking lots of water -> weak piss, morning piss: quite strong.)