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What is the bathhouse like in Providence RI ?
norefusal replied to cman54's topic in Boston / Providence Metro Areas
eagles nest is downtown (above the eagle bar) and i believe it used to be a different name w perhaps different owners before covid. there may have even been a 3rd place nearby that also closed during covid. not sure what you're asking about mega. it's a short 5-10 min uber ride from train but quite a walk. 20-30 min maybe. doable but not for everyone. -
most guys cum tastes the same to me which also tastes like my own. it's a unique flavor and i often think salty is just the closest adj most people think of although it isn't exactly right. it really doesn't taste like food, its tastes like jizz. same with piss. bitter isn't exactly the right word but it's the closest food/drink flavor to bescribe piss that tastes like piss.
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if we go solely by jo im oversexed and always have been lol but i think there a lot more to sex w others than just physical need. one week i've no desire to actually hook up while another week im doing multiple guys in same day. i do think there something to this " sex makes u want more sex" hence my habit of scrolling grindr in my car seconds after sex to see which of my hook up's neighbors are also up for it. or the days i spend hours in a cruising spot until the question " how many is enough" gets answered 😜
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Where do you think your desire to eat cum came from?
norefusal replied to camelblue's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
i def got the idea from porn but in the beginning it was an easy thing to avoid. it wasn't until much later that i got hooked on it after an unexpected and non-consenting mouth flooding. for me it's an offshoot of the whole dom/sub dynamic. there's just something about a random stranger blasting his load down my throat without warning or permission and then just walking away speechless that turns this used sub on big time. -
I don't understand the desire to get pozzed
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
i want to see this slogan in a descovy add 😜 -
I don't understand the desire to get pozzed
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
two reflections: brotherhood and belonging: this the the justification I'm most suspicious of. when i first came out i found my tribe with the act-up crowd and formed life- changing bonds w men i no longer speak to. brotherhood is fleeting. also, joining the chaser brotherhood seems a slap in the face to the silence=death brotherhood i was once so committed to. loneliness and apps: this cuts both ways. after 20 years of monogamy the acute loneliness i felt as my marriage crumbled before my eyes was overwhelming. just to be able to text with some random guy in another state going thru a similar fate probably saved me from offing myself. it certainly helped me be seen and feel connected and hopeful. and let's be serious, anyone who's gotten all of their courage up to go out on a sat nite only to be snubbed and ignored by snooty gays.. all alone in a packed queer bar.. knows the destructive loneliness of belonging to a group that refuses to acknowledge your validity. -
wishing u the best
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lol to me "i get off on cheating" = "i get off on shop lifting from big box stores" you're focusing on the idea that people demand monogamy because it's what they truly want and need. honestly, i believe 60-70% demand monogamy because basic people go w societal norms and don't want to either think for themselves or be judged by the crowd for straying from the conventional path. how "adult" is it to demand fidelity and refuse to even consider an alternative. like finding the right person for a relationship is super easy that none of us ever compromised. it's all too unrealistic thinking to me.
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same
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cheating can be a fetish with the guilt trip afterward being part of the kink. only u know if this is true for you. ive tried open relationships but without much success but that might just be the particulars of those situations. i may try again in future. but i can say that i love the thrill of cheating and also find cheaters very sexy so i suspect it's just one of my kinks
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Is the experience of taking a monster cock worth the pain?
norefusal replied to luvblack77's topic in General Discussion
absofuckinglutely first of all, it won't hurt if you're both doin it right, second of all big dick just hits different. sure, maybe you don't want to finish every meal with the triple brownie fudge sunday but my god, i feel bad for anyone who's never had one 😜 -
same. one thing i have notice a prevalence these days is anti-depressant side-effect ED. not that's its = to people being jerks or misbehaving, but it def lends to the frustrations that cruising isn't workin out. cruising is kinda cool tho as it shows very quickly which guys were raised right and which guys were raised by wolves in a barn 😜
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in retrospect i was most probably born a bottom. i love it, love everything about. always have. as a virgin i'd jerk off to fantasies of gettin fucked and even started fucking myself w toys. i've been in a couple of relationships where i only bottom but other than w women i've never had a bf i only topped. but not only did i fight being gay but once i was sleeping w men i fought the bottom label. in the 80s/90s there was a lot of prejudice against bottoms even by (perhaps especially by) gay men. add to that the prevelant idea that bottoming led to aids and more conscious denial that i was a bottom. if a name change would have helped me "pass" as vers i'd probably head straight to court lol it's great to see so many out loud and proud cum dumps nowadays but back then it was hard enough downgrading to second class citizen by coming out but coming out a someone even your own minority group saw as inferior and not a real man? no thanks
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How do you convince guys to bareback you?
norefusal replied to bbttmm77's topic in General Discussion
this! just not an issue i'm confronted w often that being said: for me it falls under how accommodating you are to others. for example: the few condom guys i've encountered are usually st8 cheaters on the dl so it makes sense why they'd prefer to be safer. at that point my choices are between complying or rejecting the sex. i wouldn't want to live w the implications of having coerced someone into something. -
What is the bathhouse like in Providence RI ?
norefusal replied to cman54's topic in Boston / Providence Metro Areas
i believe there are currently two: eagles nest and megaplex. megaplex if a typical cruising spot filled with a variety of people, not just different ages, races, types but also open minded sluts vs people who just wanna watch vs picky people etc sat nites are the most crowded for better or worse. some will get into group scenes but many just want a 1on1 behind closed door in my experience there is currently an over abundance of bottoms lookin to get anon bred multiple times, so if that's your bent be prepared for competition considering the amount of bare cock i've taken there combined w the number of holes ive shoved my cock in its almost shocking i've never caught anything once -
I don't understand the desire to get pozzed
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
i'll never understand the conservative perspective. it's shocking to me in 2023 to read on BZ of all places sentiments like " porn/ hollywood made me do it" and "all gay men are immoral hedonists perusing sex, drugs and rock n roll, that's why they're all diseased" etc -
CAN MEN LOOK AT YOU AND KNOW YOU ARE GAY FAG? OR ITS NOT SO OBVIOUS?
norefusal replied to a topic in General Discussion
wtf lol this story is either my wildest teen jerkoff fantasy come true for some lucky bastard, or a horrific confession of some poor kid's years of repeat sexual assault by multiple abusers. the op doesnt seem to clue us in on if he enjoyed being the town pass around rape bitch or not. either way, i assume the "how did they all know i was a faggot?" question is less about how limp his wrists were but more about "i gave off strong im a horny teen literally up anything" or "i'm a passive victim type you can bully and feel confident i'll never squeal" vibes. -
i've got the opposite problem. predictors suggest i best stay where i am but i yearn so for a change!
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well it wouldnt be a day on the internet if someone didn't feel the need to intentionally misrepresent your opinions in order to mansplain to you what you already know, complete w name calling, insults and condescending lectures. yes, the neglect of an actual platform has labeled the gop "crazy" but anyone paying any sliver of attention will notice that the executive branch is seen as the spokesman of the party's platform and the legislative branch members of the same party are pushed by their speaker and whip to promote laws that reflect that platform. united we stand, divided we fall. but please, go ahead and schoolhouse rock us on how the judicial branch is wholey independent and recent changes like the repeal of roe v wade has nothing to do w which party the nominating president belongs to and nothing to do w the majority of the legislative branch approving nominations. chief justice merick garland is all ears about how washington runs on these three entirely independent bodies that never coordinate along political party goals.
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between climate change, political conservatism and income inequality we're all screwed. sunday i was walking down the street in ptown (my current fantasy retirement home) and overheard the following conversation between 4 white 60ish gay men: guy 1: what did u think? guy2: it was a basement! guy 3: it was $1.1M! guy 4: so... $1M to live in a basement. they then all just walked on in stunned silence.
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not really buyin it. derailing your boss's entire business plan to tenuously hang on to your mid- management job a bit longer isnt wise or "same" and the two open appear to bath in all the fake drama and attention they create by acting against conventional wisdom. Plus they are both almost insanely pro corporate max profit w no care for how abusive their policies are to average people. they don't care about the majority or the health of the planet but act in a way that is beneficial to themselves in the short term. the both have very obvious personality disorders but perhaps u have a different definition of "crazy"
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crazy is subjective but in recent years i'd nominate Kisten Sienna and Joe Manchin as having bought tickets to board the crazy train. All these years later im still not over the craziness of admitted serial adulterer Bill Clinton signing something called "the defense of marriage act" but politics are rarely sane so... life goes on i guess
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what if i get BB without being bred?
norefusal replied to kotcas's topic in HIV Risk & Risk Reduction
have u thought about discussing your attraction to risky sex w a counselor? i've had plenty of risky sex over the years and it's usually a in-the-moment decision and i then have to live w the possible results after. if it starts to repeat i change my behavior. but even your description is salacious: why do u gotta bb w a sleezy older guy? it seems like you're obviously turned on by the chance of gettin pozzed - hello, that's why most of us are here, so no judgement - but personally, the gambling w my own life wasn't sustainable. low risk is still risk. good luck w your personal journey but it would help to understand motivation imho -
wow, it's only been 30+ which isn't even about 1 per week - far too few lol
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How often do you get something extra?
norefusal replied to cheatingjock's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
same perhaps we're just insanely lucky IDK
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