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  1. norefusal
    in retrospect i was most probably born a bottom. i love it, love everything about. always have. as a virgin i'd jerk off to fantasies of gettin fucked and even started fucking myself w toys. i've been in a couple of relationships where i only bottom but other than w women i've never had a bf i only topped. but not only did i fight being gay but once i was sleeping w men i fought the bottom label. in the 80s/90s there was a lot of prejudice against bottoms even by (perhaps especially by) gay men. add to that the prevelant idea that bottoming led to aids and more conscious denial that i was a bottom. if a name change would have helped me "pass" as vers i'd probably head straight to court lol it's great to see so many out loud and proud cum dumps nowadays but back then it was hard enough downgrading to second class citizen by coming out but coming out a someone even your own minority group saw as inferior and not a real man? no thanks
  2. norefusal
    this! just not an issue i'm confronted w often that being said: for me it falls under how accommodating you are to others. for example: the few condom guys i've encountered are usually st8 cheaters on the dl so it makes sense why they'd prefer to be safer. at that point my choices are between complying or rejecting the sex. i wouldn't want to live w the implications of having coerced someone into something.
  3. norefusal
    i believe there are currently two: eagles nest and megaplex. megaplex if a typical cruising spot filled with a variety of people, not just different ages, races, types but also open minded sluts vs people who just wanna watch vs picky people etc sat nites are the most crowded for better or worse. some will get into group scenes but many just want a 1on1 behind closed door in my experience there is currently an over abundance of bottoms lookin to get anon bred multiple times, so if that's your bent be prepared for competition considering the amount of bare cock i've taken there combined w the number of holes ive shoved my cock in its almost shocking i've never caught anything once
  4. norefusal
    i'll never understand the conservative perspective. it's shocking to me in 2023 to read on BZ of all places sentiments like " porn/ hollywood made me do it" and "all gay men are immoral hedonists perusing sex, drugs and rock n roll, that's why they're all diseased" etc
  5. norefusal
    wtf lol this story is either my wildest teen jerkoff fantasy come true for some lucky bastard, or a horrific confession of some poor kid's years of repeat sexual assault by multiple abusers. the op doesnt seem to clue us in on if he enjoyed being the town pass around rape bitch or not. either way, i assume the "how did they all know i was a faggot?" question is less about how limp his wrists were but more about "i gave off strong im a horny teen literally up anything" or "i'm a passive victim type you can bully and feel confident i'll never squeal" vibes.
  6. norefusal
    i've got the opposite problem. predictors suggest i best stay where i am but i yearn so for a change!
  7. norefusal
    well it wouldnt be a day on the internet if someone didn't feel the need to intentionally misrepresent your opinions in order to mansplain to you what you already know, complete w name calling, insults and condescending lectures. yes, the neglect of an actual platform has labeled the gop "crazy" but anyone paying any sliver of attention will notice that the executive branch is seen as the spokesman of the party's platform and the legislative branch members of the same party are pushed by their speaker and whip to promote laws that reflect that platform. united we stand, divided we fall. but please, go ahead and schoolhouse rock us on how the judicial branch is wholey independent and recent changes like the repeal of roe v wade has nothing to do w which party the nominating president belongs to and nothing to do w the majority of the legislative branch approving nominations. chief justice merick garland is all ears about how washington runs on these three entirely independent bodies that never coordinate along political party goals.
  8. norefusal
    between climate change, political conservatism and income inequality we're all screwed. sunday i was walking down the street in ptown (my current fantasy retirement home) and overheard the following conversation between 4 white 60ish gay men: guy 1: what did u think? guy2: it was a basement! guy 3: it was $1.1M! guy 4: so... $1M to live in a basement. they then all just walked on in stunned silence.
  9. norefusal
    not really buyin it. derailing your boss's entire business plan to tenuously hang on to your mid- management job a bit longer isnt wise or "same" and the two open appear to bath in all the fake drama and attention they create by acting against conventional wisdom. Plus they are both almost insanely pro corporate max profit w no care for how abusive their policies are to average people. they don't care about the majority or the health of the planet but act in a way that is beneficial to themselves in the short term. the both have very obvious personality disorders but perhaps u have a different definition of "crazy"
  10. norefusal
    crazy is subjective but in recent years i'd nominate Kisten Sienna and Joe Manchin as having bought tickets to board the crazy train. All these years later im still not over the craziness of admitted serial adulterer Bill Clinton signing something called "the defense of marriage act" but politics are rarely sane so... life goes on i guess
  11. norefusal
    have u thought about discussing your attraction to risky sex w a counselor? i've had plenty of risky sex over the years and it's usually a in-the-moment decision and i then have to live w the possible results after. if it starts to repeat i change my behavior. but even your description is salacious: why do u gotta bb w a sleezy older guy? it seems like you're obviously turned on by the chance of gettin pozzed - hello, that's why most of us are here, so no judgement - but personally, the gambling w my own life wasn't sustainable. low risk is still risk. good luck w your personal journey but it would help to understand motivation imho
  12. norefusal
    wow, it's only been 30+ which isn't even about 1 per week - far too few lol
  13. norefusal
    same perhaps we're just insanely lucky IDK
  14. norefusal
    you're already ahead of the game since you've already made your mind up to do it. my first time he just kinda slipped it in and i had to think fast. we compromised on bb w pull out as this was early on in the aids crisis but truthfully raw felt so much better i didn't want to make him put a condom on. it wasn't until much much later that i started gettin bred. a couple of times the guy came so much w such force i could feel my guts gettin hosed down. unfortunately, i've found thats more the exception than the rule. some guys u can't even tell if the came or not.
  15. norefusal
    topic A: sex w a cold - like most guys it sounds, i might jo but i don't hook up when under the weather topic B: this guy's inability to hear NO when u say no pissed me off.
  16. norefusal
    213 and i don't regret a single one 😜
  17. norefusal
    let those among us without sin cast the first stone. can any of us, especially us older guys, honestly say we never once ever tried to pass? there was a time when it seemed like basic survival. and as for the closeted guys at the bathhouse: isn't the whole point of anon sex to avoid all such conundrums? i don't relish the idea of suckin maga dick but im sure it's happened 😜ignorance is bliss imho
  18. norefusal
    talk about better in theory than practice: 3 ways w couples! one always wants it more than the other who's just tryin to hang on to his man. the last time i got spit roaster by a couple, me an the top enjoyed ourselves but by the time i stopped focusing on giving the reluctant guy the best bj in order to enjoy the brilliant ride his hubby was giving me, it was just the last straw for his 3 wheel ish ness. it didn't help that his hubby wouldn't shut up about what a great fuck my ass was and bred me 4 times! long before we finished i knew i was never gettin invited back lol
  19. norefusal
    i'm often attracted to people who are more "out of control" than i am as it creates an environment of permissiveness different than the "you better be careful" advice of most people. if we listen to our friends we'd all sit home alone at night 😜 for me the cut off point is institutional intervention: if i fear either an ambulance or the police are gonna be called, i book it. the usual struggle for me tho, and perhaps you are the same, is fear of myself. what does it say about me that i love playing sub in bed? am i selling myself short? dimming my own light? etc only you can answer this about yourself. personally, i'm always beggin my regular doms to whore me out. sounds like you're livin the dream. but is it your dream? are you scared for yourself or of yourself?
  20. norefusal
    i don't out people in my everyday life. if i choose to continue to deal w them i differer on an individual level. for ex: i'll have sex w a married "str8" guy and have 0 interest in his personal decisions. i kinda get the "this is just sex, not my identity or my life" aspect of it. however a gay guy i once slept w who after told me he was closeted just cause it helped his business i got mad at an never saw again. to me this was cowardice. i'm out an although it may have hindered me professionally this is the price i was willing to pay for the sake of equal rights.
  21. norefusal
    i was very heavily influenced by the Batman tv series. not just the gay camp aesthetic and the fun celebrity villain drag chewing up the scenery but also it was tv's first real gay couple: a daddy/boy relationship as solid as any st8 marriage. but the imagined sex! i imagined that after so many cliffhanger close calls w death, the dynamic duo went home and fucked like animals just to celebrate being alive. def my first tent pole "what's happening in my pants" moment as a kid.
  22. norefusal
    in the most literal sense yes. i've been bred by total strangers in cruising areas, that i never see again. i've also been bred by nameless grindr hookups but they tend to hit me up for more and eventually i get to know them as they develop into FWBs. this scenario is more common.
  23. norefusal
    average twice a day.
  24. norefusal
    do guys fetishize the homeless now? not sure how i feel about that one hmm my experience: a cute young guy hit me up on grindr. i agreed to host. we met. he was nice, polite and intelligent. he admitted to being homeless. then explained he was recently made homeless by getting kicked out of a post-rehab sober house for relapsing. i agreed to let him smoke in my house although i didn't partake. the T made keeping hard difficult for him but he ate my ass like it's never been eaten before or since. we fooled around and chatted for hrs. i agreed to meet a few more time and often gave him hand me down clothes or small amounts of cash for the bus etc. he was interesting and well read and one of the nicest guys i ever met off grindr. but in addition to struggling w addiction he also struggled with mental health. the two combined made him volitile and super paranoid and he could go from mr wonderful to a raving lunatic in a heartbeat. it was too much and i had to step back and stop contact.
  25. norefusal
    thanks for sharing. we all have our experiences that shape how we view things. it's interesting to hear other people's stories. yours is very different from mine and that's interesting to me. having been here a while taking it all in like a sponge i see all perspectives. i personally don't find the site only full of just naive people who act like it will be all rainbows and unicorns once they're poz, although you are correct that that perspective does exist.

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