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Advice or encouragement for first time bareback
norefusal replied to Youngbottombb's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
you're already ahead of the game since you've already made your mind up to do it. my first time he just kinda slipped it in and i had to think fast. we compromised on bb w pull out as this was early on in the aids crisis but truthfully raw felt so much better i didn't want to make him put a condom on. it wasn't until much much later that i started gettin bred. a couple of times the guy came so much w such force i could feel my guts gettin hosed down. unfortunately, i've found thats more the exception than the rule. some guys u can't even tell if the came or not. -
topic A: sex w a cold - like most guys it sounds, i might jo but i don't hook up when under the weather topic B: this guy's inability to hear NO when u say no pissed me off.
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213 and i don't regret a single one 😜
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let those among us without sin cast the first stone. can any of us, especially us older guys, honestly say we never once ever tried to pass? there was a time when it seemed like basic survival. and as for the closeted guys at the bathhouse: isn't the whole point of anon sex to avoid all such conundrums? i don't relish the idea of suckin maga dick but im sure it's happened 😜ignorance is bliss imho
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talk about better in theory than practice: 3 ways w couples! one always wants it more than the other who's just tryin to hang on to his man. the last time i got spit roaster by a couple, me an the top enjoyed ourselves but by the time i stopped focusing on giving the reluctant guy the best bj in order to enjoy the brilliant ride his hubby was giving me, it was just the last straw for his 3 wheel ish ness. it didn't help that his hubby wouldn't shut up about what a great fuck my ass was and bred me 4 times! long before we finished i knew i was never gettin invited back lol
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Every been scared or freaked out by what happens to you?
norefusal replied to Sub-Cocksucker's topic in General Discussion
i'm often attracted to people who are more "out of control" than i am as it creates an environment of permissiveness different than the "you better be careful" advice of most people. if we listen to our friends we'd all sit home alone at night 😜 for me the cut off point is institutional intervention: if i fear either an ambulance or the police are gonna be called, i book it. the usual struggle for me tho, and perhaps you are the same, is fear of myself. what does it say about me that i love playing sub in bed? am i selling myself short? dimming my own light? etc only you can answer this about yourself. personally, i'm always beggin my regular doms to whore me out. sounds like you're livin the dream. but is it your dream? are you scared for yourself or of yourself? -
i don't out people in my everyday life. if i choose to continue to deal w them i differer on an individual level. for ex: i'll have sex w a married "str8" guy and have 0 interest in his personal decisions. i kinda get the "this is just sex, not my identity or my life" aspect of it. however a gay guy i once slept w who after told me he was closeted just cause it helped his business i got mad at an never saw again. to me this was cowardice. i'm out an although it may have hindered me professionally this is the price i was willing to pay for the sake of equal rights.
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i was very heavily influenced by the Batman tv series. not just the gay camp aesthetic and the fun celebrity villain drag chewing up the scenery but also it was tv's first real gay couple: a daddy/boy relationship as solid as any st8 marriage. but the imagined sex! i imagined that after so many cliffhanger close calls w death, the dynamic duo went home and fucked like animals just to celebrate being alive. def my first tent pole "what's happening in my pants" moment as a kid.
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in the most literal sense yes. i've been bred by total strangers in cruising areas, that i never see again. i've also been bred by nameless grindr hookups but they tend to hit me up for more and eventually i get to know them as they develop into FWBs. this scenario is more common.
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average twice a day.
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Would you ever fuck with a homeless person?
norefusal replied to Sharp-edge's topic in General Discussion
do guys fetishize the homeless now? not sure how i feel about that one hmm my experience: a cute young guy hit me up on grindr. i agreed to host. we met. he was nice, polite and intelligent. he admitted to being homeless. then explained he was recently made homeless by getting kicked out of a post-rehab sober house for relapsing. i agreed to let him smoke in my house although i didn't partake. the T made keeping hard difficult for him but he ate my ass like it's never been eaten before or since. we fooled around and chatted for hrs. i agreed to meet a few more time and often gave him hand me down clothes or small amounts of cash for the bus etc. he was interesting and well read and one of the nicest guys i ever met off grindr. but in addition to struggling w addiction he also struggled with mental health. the two combined made him volitile and super paranoid and he could go from mr wonderful to a raving lunatic in a heartbeat. it was too much and i had to step back and stop contact. -
I don't understand the desire to get pozzed
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
thanks for sharing. we all have our experiences that shape how we view things. it's interesting to hear other people's stories. yours is very different from mine and that's interesting to me. having been here a while taking it all in like a sponge i see all perspectives. i personally don't find the site only full of just naive people who act like it will be all rainbows and unicorns once they're poz, although you are correct that that perspective does exist. -
this!
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I don't understand the desire to get pozzed
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
i'm not sure where your hostility comes from. i get that this is different in the "no turning back" way but you literally can't come up w a rational answer for any kinky desire. why get tied up? why get slapped? why get pissed on? most kink is a reaction to trauma imho and if one wonders where my desire to be pozed comes from look no further than the pearl clutching overly hysterical safe sex movement of the late 20th century. having spent my early sexually formative years kept in a constant cycle of fear of it's likelihood, imagine my surprise to find bug chasers actively trying to get infected and failing in the quest. couple this with mainstream society's habit of considering gay and aids interchangeable synonyms and it's no stretch to "are you even a faggot if you're not poz" i don't feel this is on the level of "the gov puts a tracking device in vaccines" fear of being stealth pozed is pretty fucking irrational in and of itself but that's what prep is for. i struggle emotionally with an intense desire that's counter productive, so i don't appreciate being scorned and victim blamed by people in my own community. -
First time fucked. Unexpected and shocking
norefusal replied to Teeslad70's topic in Your Last Load...
wtf know what "normal" is but yes this is a very common desire. -
i love servicing st8 husbands but let's face it, they're just people. some are great, some not so great. i like the ones who are cool with their decisions. but my two pet peeves are: 1. the post orgasm guilt self-flatulators that feel the need to explain they were supposed to be out getting boston market, not head. dude, i'll happily swallow all your unwanted babies, but i don't want to hear about your live kids. 2. the pre-game nervous nellies, obsessed with the privacy of the hook up, the risk-free aspects, the whole i wanna cheat but i don't want to do anything that seems like cheating guys. uck shut up an pull your pants down already
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i agree with what people are saying and it's true of GOOD amateur porn but omg have you seen some of the shit thats out there? bad sound, poor lighting and don't get me started on the number of people who drop the camera in the middle of it lol and i'm sorry, but prof porn is its own form of acting and what's hot live isn't the same as what's hot on film. it may have felt great but watchin two guys silently pant and grind is not good viewing. if your gonna cum inside on film you better get verbal. jmho
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in the parking lot outside some guy's storage unit. he was weirded out by all the cameras but i got off on it. somewhere out there is grainy footage of me gettin rough fucked n bred like a cheap whore 😻
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it's a roller coaster ride and i'm just tryin to find that happy medium. i held off on having sex w men as long as i could but then once i gave in i went hog wild and i loved it. then the sex for sex's sake routine became a burden and when i gave myself over to monogamy it was great at first. but then it too became a prison of the soul. now i can't imagine ever giving up my freedom. plenty of gay couples prove everyday that it doesn't have to be sophie's choice. as for the risks, i think it's a fools errand to factor that in. personally i'm struggling to balance the fear mongering that the safe sex movement drilled into our brains with the information i get here which seems to say it's hard to get infected even when your actively trying to make it happen. i don't regret it all, but there are a couple of exBFs that i regret not lettin breed me. but i get that im coming from a place a priv ledge or luck: ive fucked countless random strangers yet im apparently covered in STI resistant teflon. 🤞my luck holds out because i'm not ready to close up shop anytime soon
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this part of my brain just doesn't work. i'm a doer not a watcher. even if i was jerkin off w some bro outside a window it would be impossible for me to not try an go down on him. seriously, this is the one thing i'll never get: how many guys are into denial and holding back. when it comes to sex i have 0 impulse control. even as an exhibitionist, i prefer the guys watching to be waiting their turn rather than just observing 😜
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guys who run off 2 secs after nutting are rude imho. i honestly don't know how they do it as i need a minute to return to "normal" breathing, heartbeat, etc. i hate the feel of shoving my now over sensitive , still half hard junk into clothes etc it's so uncivilized and imho shamefilled. cuddling etc is different and requires somekind of emotional connection even if it's as thin as "god you're a good lay!" but i agree that the possibility of round 2 action does sometimes help me stick around 😜The guy has to be a pretty shitty lay for me to be "hit the road jack"
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i got a thing for mantits i won't lie 😜
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i probably spent too much energy on loyalty and "bros b4 hos" in my youth but also there were so many guys, i didnt need to "go there" w a potentially problematic hook up. the closest i came was a relationship that grew out of sloppy seconds from my best friend's hook up. i actually asked permission first lol but it was no big deal as we just had a connection they didnt.
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hairy to each his own. personally, if i wanted smooth, soft, hairless, i'd fuck a woman. but if eatin a man's ass, i want the look, feel and taste of a man's ass. love buryin my face between those fur covered mounds 😜
