norefusal
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Where do you find dark rooms? Aside from bath houses.
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in General Discussion
🤮 i don't know if it's because i'm a hippie at heart or a big old slut or just a cheapskate but the whole idea of paying for sex pisses me off -
our two top priorities are always to protect ourselves and to be kind to others. you can't force this guy to have sex before he's ready as that will just backfire on you. so the ball is in your court now. can you hang out and wait till he's ready knowing that the possibility he may never be is real? are you ok with the status quo? or are you setting yourself up for a fall? only you know.
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the most obvious answer is the gym. unlike gay bars or cruising areas, it's the only spot i can think of where guys regularly hook up despite other people just using the space for non-sexual purposes. there's always some guy going "oh jeez. come on guys i just wanted to shower" 😜 once someone actually complained about me and when i checked out the desk told me and just said "try an be a bit more discrete in the future please" 😜
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Where do you find dark rooms? Aside from bath houses.
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in General Discussion
the eagle in providence still has their back room. -
addiction is often subjective so we are always looking for rules like " most people only do this common thing 2-3 times a week so if you're doing it 8-10 times a week you may have a problem" i sat in on a SA 12 step for a few meetings years ago mainly because i found myself increasingly barebacking and that worried me. the people speaking at the meeting were literally out of control and ruining their lives so it just made me think i wasn't addicted after all. i've kinda come to think it's a problem if YOU think it's a problem. otherwise, what does it matter what benchmark you passed or not.
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workin my way there 😜 monday did my first door open blindfolded for complete stranger. st8 daddy skull fucked me rough w fat 8" uncut an fed me tonite, again door open blindfold, hot st8 guy on dl again stranger never met came in and fucked me hard n long with his 7.5" meat. he wore a condom, shot a huge 3 day load an after he left i took the used rubber and swallowed all the jizz this is my new fav thing can't wait for unseen stranger to breed me
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im not trying to dismiss how other people feel, including myself and my bug chaser fantasy life ... but these are emotions not facts and highly flexible. ex: back in 1985 condoms allowed me to be "piggy slutty power bottom". deciding that bb was a thrill was just me moving my own goal post of what defined "piggy slutty power bottom". once i went on prep the goal post was moved even further. chasing will only make me feel more piggy slutty power bottom if i choose to throw more chips on the pile and once more up the ante on what makes a "slut" a slut cause i gotta say, takin dick over decades from literally countless strangers seems pretty fuckin slutty 😜
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follow up question im curious about: how many of you, like me had been using condoms, experimented w some occasion bb, got an sti and instead of being most strict w condom use, started BBing more frequently?
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stayin in ptown tday WE n lookin
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What is the bathhouse like in Providence RI ?
norefusal replied to cman54's topic in Boston / Providence Metro Areas
street parking. i've never had an issue at either. megaplex is a bit more isolated, adjacent to ABSs but otherwise non-busy industrial type area so parking close by is easy. eagle is downtown so surround by bars and pizza places etc people walking around. still i've never had to park more that a few blocks away and u don't have to feed the meters after hours. -
as people have mentioned, it happens but usually for periods of time only. years ago i sucked off this guy in park and then we kept running into each other there. then he joined my gym and so for several months, everyday we'd finish our workouts w some head in the shower rm 😜then i moved away. so it was only about 6 mo that i got a non-stop daily feeding but oddly enough, we never once spoke and i have no idea what his name even was 😜
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what you are describing is a very particular sort of vibe or fantasy that only works sometimes. it's amazing how quickly the spell can be broken often mid stream no matter the situation (male/male, male/ female, bottom vs top etc ) when it works it's great but when it doesn't it can get very uncomfortable very quickly. especially with regard to your specific question. yes, like most men i've fantasized about it. but in order to act on such desires you have to tap into a part of you you are not sure you even want to admit exists. most of us take pleasure from pleasing but the entire fantasy is to take w no regard for the other and that's a harder concept to pull off vs fantasize about.
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yes. "tide you over" is right. 😜it's like the need to drink is so strong i gotta take matters into your own hands.
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What is the bathhouse like in Providence RI ?
norefusal replied to cman54's topic in Boston / Providence Metro Areas
eagles nest is downtown (above the eagle bar) and i believe it used to be a different name w perhaps different owners before covid. there may have even been a 3rd place nearby that also closed during covid. not sure what you're asking about mega. it's a short 5-10 min uber ride from train but quite a walk. 20-30 min maybe. doable but not for everyone. -
most guys cum tastes the same to me which also tastes like my own. it's a unique flavor and i often think salty is just the closest adj most people think of although it isn't exactly right. it really doesn't taste like food, its tastes like jizz. same with piss. bitter isn't exactly the right word but it's the closest food/drink flavor to bescribe piss that tastes like piss.
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if we go solely by jo im oversexed and always have been lol but i think there a lot more to sex w others than just physical need. one week i've no desire to actually hook up while another week im doing multiple guys in same day. i do think there something to this " sex makes u want more sex" hence my habit of scrolling grindr in my car seconds after sex to see which of my hook up's neighbors are also up for it. or the days i spend hours in a cruising spot until the question " how many is enough" gets answered 😜
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Where do you think your desire to eat cum came from?
norefusal replied to camelblue's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
i def got the idea from porn but in the beginning it was an easy thing to avoid. it wasn't until much later that i got hooked on it after an unexpected and non-consenting mouth flooding. for me it's an offshoot of the whole dom/sub dynamic. there's just something about a random stranger blasting his load down my throat without warning or permission and then just walking away speechless that turns this used sub on big time. -
I don't understand the desire to get pozzed
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
i want to see this slogan in a descovy add 😜 -
I don't understand the desire to get pozzed
norefusal replied to btmdad's topic in What's It Like To Be Poz?
two reflections: brotherhood and belonging: this the the justification I'm most suspicious of. when i first came out i found my tribe with the act-up crowd and formed life- changing bonds w men i no longer speak to. brotherhood is fleeting. also, joining the chaser brotherhood seems a slap in the face to the silence=death brotherhood i was once so committed to. loneliness and apps: this cuts both ways. after 20 years of monogamy the acute loneliness i felt as my marriage crumbled before my eyes was overwhelming. just to be able to text with some random guy in another state going thru a similar fate probably saved me from offing myself. it certainly helped me be seen and feel connected and hopeful. and let's be serious, anyone who's gotten all of their courage up to go out on a sat nite only to be snubbed and ignored by snooty gays.. all alone in a packed queer bar.. knows the destructive loneliness of belonging to a group that refuses to acknowledge your validity. -
wishing u the best
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lol to me "i get off on cheating" = "i get off on shop lifting from big box stores" you're focusing on the idea that people demand monogamy because it's what they truly want and need. honestly, i believe 60-70% demand monogamy because basic people go w societal norms and don't want to either think for themselves or be judged by the crowd for straying from the conventional path. how "adult" is it to demand fidelity and refuse to even consider an alternative. like finding the right person for a relationship is super easy that none of us ever compromised. it's all too unrealistic thinking to me.
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same
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cheating can be a fetish with the guilt trip afterward being part of the kink. only u know if this is true for you. ive tried open relationships but without much success but that might just be the particulars of those situations. i may try again in future. but i can say that i love the thrill of cheating and also find cheaters very sexy so i suspect it's just one of my kinks
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Is the experience of taking a monster cock worth the pain?
norefusal replied to luvblack77's topic in General Discussion
absofuckinglutely first of all, it won't hurt if you're both doin it right, second of all big dick just hits different. sure, maybe you don't want to finish every meal with the triple brownie fudge sunday but my god, i feel bad for anyone who's never had one 😜 -
same. one thing i have notice a prevalence these days is anti-depressant side-effect ED. not that's its = to people being jerks or misbehaving, but it def lends to the frustrations that cruising isn't workin out. cruising is kinda cool tho as it shows very quickly which guys were raised right and which guys were raised by wolves in a barn 😜
