tallslenderguy

i, generally, despise "chat rooms." To me, more often than not, it's an endless stream of drivel. Frankly, BZ is the only gay site i know of where Men actually engage in lengthy communication and exchange. "...generally." There is the rare occasion where i get into a pm exchange in a chat room, and it can be great, but that's rare. my experience is that messaging has changed communication. Many guys seem either incapable or unaware of how to engage using writing. i have found that many guys even treat email like it's text messaging, writing and responding in short, three word sentences. To be fair, a lot of guys go online to find a hook up and "are interested in actual sex" vs "verbal/videochat about kinky stuff, share stories, ideas, experiences etc." Those guys will often put something like: "no endless emails" in their profile lol. Which i sorta get, testosterone is not known for its patience. On the other hand, there are guys online purportedly looking for connection online, "something more, etc., " and i find myself frustrated by their lack of communication to facilitate that goal. i have come up with all sorts of reasons: 1) Ignorance. Some guys have simply never learned how to communicate in writing. They do not realize they are only as visible as what and how they write. 2) laziness. Some guys want the other guy to do all the work. In a sense, we are just porn they are watching vs a connection or exchange they are having with another person. 3) Fear. A lot of conflicted guys are online... it's a "safe" place and they are there because they are afraid/conflicted of/about who and how they are. Gay sites are full of this kind of guy, empty profiles, no response when someone reaches out. 4) immaturity/self absorption. This one sort of overlaps with all of the other reasons. Some people do not mature or develop beyond a state where it's all about them, they only want to get, not give. 5) They are altered. It may be alcohol or some mind altering drug, something that renders them incapable of actual mutual exchange, more of the one sided stuff. As a critical care nurse who frequently has patients who've blown out their brain or heart using meth, i don't think it's a great choice of substance. To me, the only substance altered guys i've ever experienced who are engaging are guys using marijuana. i'd much rather be with someone stoned on marijuana than alcohol or other drugs.

Absolutely. Especially when He is consciously opening that "hole", it's like a door into a room within a room (womb within a womb?). For me, there is physical fuck and mind fuck. and connection is effected by both. i've had Guys pound my second hole who didn't seem aware of what they were doing or where they were. Then there have been Those Who obviously know when they reach that place and purposely/knowingly open and enter it. Conscious breeding always connects me deeper to The Breeder. For me, "breeding" is more than His Seed or Piss, it's also His penetration and opening of me. From a physical standpoint, once He has planted His Cum or Piss past that place, i'm going to retain Him and absorb Him and it's made possible because i can use that same curve to help hold and keep Him inside of me.

sorry, i'm a nurse, so i have a switch. my desire is to level the ground between a guys hole and a woman's.

No, thoroughly analytical me thinks. Thanks for grabbing hold and further opening and dissecting this can of... snakes. What stands out to me with Project 2025 is how brazen, open, those who would pull the strings are with this. They plainly state that this is about way more than trump or the 2024 election. This is about changing the infrastructure of our country that guards against having a king. Get that kind of control and it won't be the president who controls things but the ones who pull his strings. It's appalling to me how evil these people are and what makes it really scary is i am intimately familiar with the emotional mind set of those who believe they know what "God" wants. They are delusional, truly believing they know God, so their only conscience or moral guard is what they have convinced their self is "God." And "God" can do no wrong. Keep in mind, these people follow a "God" who's gonna send all of us to hell to burn in eternal flames and torture. So, how could anything they do to infidels be worse? If you think i'm exaggerating, check out the list of Project 2025 advisory board members, then start googling them. How about "Liberty University." Pat Robertson and the 700 club. That show gives me the chills. Pats university still gives out counseling degrees in fun stuff like 'reparative therapy." Here's the list of the Project 2025 advisory board members: The 60 groups that make up the Advisory Board include: 1792 Exchange  Alabama Policy Institute  Alliance Defending Freedom  America First Legal  American Accountability Foundation  American Center for Law and Justice  American Compass  American Cornerstone Institute  American Council of Trustees and Alumni  American Family Association American Family Project American Legislative Exchange Council  American Juris Link American Moment  American Principles Project  Center for Equal Opportunity  Center for Family and Human Rights  Center for Immigration Studies  Center for Renewing America  Claremont Institute  Coalition for a Prosperous America Competitive Enterprise Institute  Concerned Women for America  Conservative Partnership Institute  Defense of Freedom Institute  Ethics and Public Policy Center  Family Policy Alliance  Family Research Council  First Liberty Institute  Forge Leadership Network  Foundation for Defense of Democracies  Foundation for Government Accountability  FreedomWorks  Heritage Foundation  Hillsdale College  Honest Elections Project Independent Women’s Forum  Institute for Education Reform Institute for Energy Research  Institute for the American Worker  Institute for Women’s Health  Intercollegiate Studies Institute  James Madison Institute   Keystone Policy  Liberty University  Mississippi Center for Public Policy National Association of Scholars  National Center for Public Policy Research  Pacific Research Institute  Patrick Henry College  Personnel Policy Operations  Public Interest Legal Foundation Recovery for America Now Foundation  Susan B. Anthony Pro-Life America  Teneo Network  Texas Public Policy Foundation  The American Conservative  The American Main Street Initiative   The Leadership Institute  Young America’s Foundation  [think before following links] https://www.heritage.org/press/project-2025-continues-grow-60-partners-preparing-next-presidential-administration

Conversely, and on the positive side (at least for me). That same second hold/sigmoid curve is a sweet spot for breeding/being bred. When a Top gets His seed or piss in that part of a bottoms gut, it can be more easily retained and absorbed. i've slept all night with a Mans piss in me and ended up absorbing most of it, and the next morning when i pee, i can smell His piss mixed in my pee and know He's impregnated me. That drives me wild.

Nature has a sense of humor, it made every sex organ with the dual function of waste removal, they just don't all have the culturally conditioned stigma that feces has. A woman's vagina has what amounts to a week long ... movement, every 21 days or so (i.e., a "period") where their body sloughs the wall of the uterus and blood and tissue are ejected by the body as 'waste.' Most people are not grossed out by their own shit, just another's. The fabled (and often revered in the gay community) "second hole" is really the sigmoid, a curve that separates the rectum from the colon. The colon is approximately 4 feet long, and feces can be anywhere along that long tube. It has an ascending portion, transverse and descending portion before it becomes the sigmoid and then the rectum. Again about 4 feet of convoluted, almost accordion like, tubing. The whole human intestinal tract is about 27 feet long including the small intestine. i can pretty much guarantee that none of us is cleaning out that entire tract when we douche. Oh, and it's in constant motion with peristalsis. i'm a critical care nurse, and when we are prepping someone for a colonoscopy, we give them a gallon of this stuff called "Go litely" (obviously the maker has a sadistic sense of humor) and preparation starts 24 hours prior to the procedure. Even one gallon of laxative and 24 hours later, many are still not 'cleaned out' and have to go even longer... though most lower GI doctors are not grossed out by what they encounter, and yeah, it happens all the time. Where most of us bottoms run into challenges is really that "second hole," or the sigmoid curve. i've been totally lucky and never had a shit accident, but i've definitely had trapped water up there from douching.

John Oliver does a great job of deconstructing project 2025, and we get to laugh simultaneously.

Wow, OP was nine years ago, kinda cool to revisit the discussion. First off, i thoroughly agree that "judgements are not the solution." i think such judgements are often based on unsubstantiated bias. Life is so damned complex, we know so very little. i've had a few thousand cocks inside of me so far in this life (i cannot account for former lives lol), and i can count on one hand the number of times a condom was involved. i watched my oldest brother die a horrible death from AID's during the 80's, and it didn't really even pause my pursuit of Men or Their desire and need to cock me. i also, cannot account for my own need/desire to connect or bond fully with a Man where He leaves some physical part of Himself inside of me, but i do not see that as that much different than "chasing." Yeah, it does have the added element of acknowledging a virus, but i don't really see it as all that different from receiving any Man into me Who expresses need or desire to penetrate and seed me? To me, it's a pretty narrow distinction, and seems to have a lot of similar driving components behind it. When i first started this post, i was neg. With @tallbtm encouragement, i went to get prep and discovered i was poz when getting tested for it. i immediately went on meds and have been undetectable since. i still advocate for PrEP, but feel no judgment for those who opt out. i do think it's the better way to go, but i also like prime rib and eat it even though i know it'll give me vascular disease. And, i think all of us can identify similar choices, so who is really in the superior position to judge?

Turns out the backers of Tump have a plan: "Project 2025. ill put the link at the bottom to the actual document, i think it's about 900 pages. Here's an excerpt from an Advocate article on the conservative plan of action if trump gets elected. "It calls for barring transgender people from the military and to stop what it considers the “toxic normalization of transgenderism” across the government and American society. It seeks to abolish the president’s Gender Policy Council, “which it views as promoting abortion and the ‘new woke gender ideology,’” Accountable.US notes. The next Health and Human Services secretary, Project 2025 recommends, should reverse what it calls a focus on “‘LGBTQ+ equity,’ subsidizing single-motherhood, disincentivizing work, and penalizing marriage, replacing such policies with those encouraging marriage, work, motherhood, fatherhood, and nuclear families.”" [think before following links] https://www.advocate.com/politics/project-2025-anti-lgbtq [think before following links] https://www.project2025.org/policy/

Ha, your take on their age gave me pause, so i went looking for their ages, all i found was a reaction on youtube. The blond guys name was "Dallas Quick" and stated his age as 28, the guy with the long dreds was "Rank Ramon" and said he was 24. i'd guess most of them to be in their 20's, maybe a few in their 30's? idk. These are the only two i found.

This was cool to watch, see and hear the responses, as soon as i saw it i wanted to share it with you guys and read your responses.

This is encouraging: "There was even a bit of good news emerging from the debacle. A senior Biden campaign official said the operation raised $14 million on debate day and the morning after “in a sign of strength of our grassroots support.” The post-debate hour proved to be “the single best hour of fundraising” since the campaign’s launch more than a year ago, the official said." [think before following links] https://www.yahoo.com/news/biden-allies-rush-reassure-anxious-010007867.html?.tsrc=daily_mail&segment_id=DY_VTO&ncid=crm_19908-1202929-20240629-0&bt_user_id=voQPmy27IilYxvj2u%2BW3UK7BE5iUdjn9%2B0WBU4%2FDniOlm9416vXiVFJOmXS%2F08jT&bt_ts=1719672282440 i appreciate both @BootmanLA and @hntnhole had to say, i'd echo them both. We currently only have one choice for president as far as i'm concerned. At the very worst, the American people have something to vote against. Summed up, we are voting for an administration, not just one person. One of the bigger problems with trump is he is such a control freak, he wants to be king, not just the boss of an organization.

i too know how to touch type, but the method i learned uses two hands........

i agree, whole heartedly! i got HIV and syphilis from a FB who claimed to be disease free. i do not blame Him or feel badly about getting either infection from Him. He was an awesome fucker and i would receive Him and His cock happily again. Except in the case of rape, i believe anytime i have sex the risk of disease is there and it is a risk i choose, not something i can make or hold anyone else responsible for. i hate that certain cultures have succeeded in stigmatizing sex, and worse, that many of those who partake continue to promote the stigma, often unconsciously. All of life is risky, yet sex has been turned into a morality play. fuck that.

Replace keys on their computer because they've been eaten away by lube? lol, i'm pretty sure this questions never been asked on BZ, but i've had to replace both the "n" and "m" keys and realized they were eaten away because of lube on my fingers when typing. i clean my keys routinely with alcohol wipes, and that does a fair job, but i thought it a funny observation. i'm a total bottom and don't use lube often, usually only to edge, so i can imagine this might be even more of an issue for someone who uses their computer to purposely cum on a regular basis. 🙂

i have no desire to break anyones resolve. Really, i think you were just nurturing His resolve and overcoming His hesitation, and ignorance really. A funny sort of teaching moment. The actual evidence is, U=U, so while you are poz, since you are on meds, if you are undetectable, you cannot transmit HIV. Of course, "clean" doesn't just mean HIV. This guy is fucking at an Arcade. If He does enough fucking at an arcade, without a condom, His odds of getting an STD go way up. It's sort of like going into a hospital and going from room to room kissing random patients. If He ends up kissing without a mask, His risks of catching something go way up. One doesn't need a medical degree to understand the odds. To me, the real issue is the social stigma we place on having sex. i do not see it as a question of unprotected sex... to me, sex is all about connecting. We never hear the above scenario of people kissing with masks on for fear of catching something, most would deem that ridiculous. I.e., if one is to afraid of catching something when kissing, they are going to forego kissing. Guys who go to an Arcade, or other sex venue, and try to make everyone else responsible for their health concerns are way out in left field. The responsibility is on them, not the guys they are having sex with. Yet still, he tried to abrogate his responsibility twice by asking you if you are "clean." Going back to my above analogy, that's sort of like going to a hospital and going from room to room asking patients if they are "clean." They may indeed be there for another reason and not infected or contagious, but most people do not know when they have a pathogen that they can pass along. Knowingly having a contagion and not disclosing it is another matter. If i know i have an STD, i don't have sex till i'm no longer contagious. i get tested every 4 months, but the in between time it's a risk for all parties concerned.

Okay, wow, i've never really considered this before, but out of the thousands of times i've been fucked, i've only cum twice while being fucked, and both of those times were 'hands free' and a sort of shock (didn't see it cumming lol). Each time it was a OMG moment and two of the most possessed and totally out of control moments of my life, and no, i had no need or desire to stop. Otherwise, i never have cum while getting fucked. In more recent years i have discovered (or evolved into?) that the only orgasm i want is the One another Man has while inside of me. i've found if i am getting another Mans orgasm inside of me often enough, i do not want... or need, one of my own. If that isn't happening, and i go too long without one, i'll start edging and can go a week or so doing that. For me, edging is about building a preserving my desire/need for a Top's pleasure and orgasm inside of me. i do reach a point though, if i don't get fucked, where i'll jack off and cum. It's a sort of substitute for me though, and while it feels good physically and there is a sort of release, it's always a disappointment for me, not what i need or want. It's really a wonder to me that i have discovered i don't need or want an orgasm from stimulating my own penis, that i am most fulfilled sexually from the orgasm a Man has inside of me.

Kissing on the lips? There has to be visual, or some other connected attraction beyond the surface. But, kissing other parts of the body? i have a FB of four years Who kissed my back, neck and shoulders while fucking me and it drives me absolutely wild, puts me deep into subspace for some reason. Within the last year or so, He's really gotten into me giving Him oral as foreplay and turns out He loves when i kiss Him too. Thighs, cock, balls, back, ass... i'll spread His beautiful ass and kiss His hole too. He's not very vocal when He Tops, but just the opposite when i'm giving Him oral. He is normally all sex and lust, but when i am kissing Him, He gets more open and vulnerable. Regardless, He obviously loves it and i love the deepened effect it has on our bonding... it's a little magical. But i don't view kissing as routine or just physical, i want it to further open and affect, deepen our lust.

Ha, just seeing this discussion, missed it first go round. Out of prolly a few thousand connections with guys, i can count on one hand the number of times i've felt "anger." Twice to be exact. i was pretty faggoty as a little kid and, before i constructed a closet to hide in, i attracted a lot of bullies. i got picked on and beat up, seemed to attract bullies like a magnet to lead filings. Retrospectively, i've come to believe that what i often experienced was early age, and an immature/ignorant version of, D/s dynamic. i'm pretty naturally sub and i think a lot of the bullies were naturally dom, but at that early age none of us had a clue how to deal with our attractions or nature. But the bullying did leave its impression on me, it molded me. To this day, i have an almost visceral aversion to force, meanness, bullying. i also practiced martial arts for 25 years, and i think that was largely a compensatory thing for me, a response to childhood bullying. One guy tried to dominate me using a bullying approach as he started to fuck me. i didn't have to say anything though. my response was reflexive and my body tensed in a sort of attack response, he read my body language immediately and changed his approach just as fast. The emotion i experienced was definitely anger. It wasn't a rational response though, just suddenly there and just as suddenly gone once he backed off on the aggressive part. The other time was at a bathhouse. i was lying on my back and the guy was straddling me and suddenly pinched my nipples really hard lol. i'm not a masochist at all (well, maybe spanking), and my nipples are only erogenous with very light touch. Same immediate reflexive response, he was suddenly on the floor with me straddling him and this look of shock on his face. Again, once the 'threat' was gone, so was the anger, which he seemed to see as well, so we continued and He knew not to try that again . i think it's easy, and pretty common, for guys to be presumptuous in the easy sex hook up world we live in. Mostly i attribute that to immaturity, and i equate self absorption/self centeredness with immaturity. For me, sex is about connecting mutual need/desire. i believe it should be symbiotic, and that requires some amount of communication. That "communication" may be as basic as a hole silently presenting in a dark room or at a GH, but it gets the message across. And really, having a cock up ones ass is pretty intimate. Some may take that as an invitation to fist, how they attempt it and how permission is granted can vary though.

Have always been a level 6. Even prior to PrEP and meds that reduce HIV to a non issue for most, i still found the risk to be less of a factor than the need/drive for that kind of connection with a man. i was never a chaser, never wanted an STD. If a guy tells me he is currently infected with some pathogen, i'm going to forgo sex with him... but that's pretty rare knowledge, especially with anonymous hook up. Sero sorting is mostly an illusion because few guys honestly know their STD status every moment. Over time, i've come to see the fear and attitudes towards sex, and the STD's we may encounter in the process, as largely culturally conditioned. We don't give up on driving to the grocery store because there's a risk we could die in a fiery car crash. Life is full of risk. It seems the fuller the life, the fuller the risk. i see living as a sort of balancing act. We can live in a bubble and go to our grave having never experienced half the wonders that life offers, or we might rush through our life quickly by doing stuff that ends it faster. For me? i look for balance... what can i do that brings pleasure and joy to myself and others and is the cost worth it? For me? BB has always been a risk that is worth it. If i get an STD, i don't see it as much different from getting a cold from someone at a fine restaurant i ate at.

i hear this. Fiber is key. Rice is an easy source that you can get just about anywhere when traveling. When i travel, i also buy food at a grocery store from the produce section. Supplements can be iffy, veggies, grain and fruit are what our bodies are adapted too. Knowing the difference between soluble and insoluble fiber is also key [think before following links] https://www.healthline.com/health/soluble-vs-insoluble-fiber For long term health, i'd suggest following EuRawBull's example and not take drugs like imodium, or on the other end of the spectrum, laxatives as they are just short term fixes with negative side effects. Most of us wanna be fuckable our whole life, so i'd advocate for proactive prevention and colon health, and that means a managed diet full of natural fiber.

i bought a cheap shower head with a flexible hose for travel and a pair of pliers. i already have the douche nozzle. Takes 5 minutes to remove the shower nozzle and attach the hose with the shower head, then i just exchange the shower head when i need to douche and put the shower head back on when i need to shower. Cheap and easy, did a quick amazon search, here's one for $17 US [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.amazon.com/FASDUNT-Pressure-Handheld-Stainless-Adjustable/dp/B0C45VWVF9/ref=sr_1_7?crid=8RP9F5QZ1RGE&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.YPQaAJESLUFdGlYkHu9vLeCy7qkUv0s-IYq3CBvoBA-8_f_9biO-J68qZiVRPmlRlkvrIMNaNMCvJwFjmcCnm1WruI_hEdJUk9UU-Ur2rh9ZjAdO0L1L3ZdjzIAN7zs1cvAztYLSou7fcb0gpUSmiUmsuwqjIn4YaVxwN1TTdVN0X_PsaCWHHQXc1ds8jPpXWuifWBM9tW3XM_AJq7CQinQlD3L0z6ZWXK91gx65iQGIHN632COTnAtgLxCtXuTEIIXwS0DjKPRlc9WsuS4vnEBavwomWnPpwmdhg7LWrSI.chgVSW5PviseXqbCA8HSZGl0-tZzZ8dxZizEhqQwDHY&dib_tag=se&keywords=shower%2Bhead%2Bwith%2Bhandheld&qid=1717934721&sprefix=shower%2Bhead%2Bwi%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-7&th=1

A bit more... Beyond the chemical component of an added, external drug (i.e., the cognitive and emotional elements). The fact that you "want to top/breed," to me speaks of a part of you that is not bottom. As i see it, the sexual spectrum is infinitely individual, and can be fluid (for some more than others). i wonder if you've been habitually bottom, and if you maybe psych yourself out, fearing you cannot get hard can keep you from getting hard. Do you wake up hard? Or do you get hard when not really thinking about it? That would indicate that, physiologically, you can get hard. If that's the case, then i'd suggest that you keep nurturing your desire to breed this guy, fantasize, masturbate, imagine, etc., fucking and breeding this guy to sorta overwhelm your habitual practice of being a bottom? i'm totally speculating here, just some thoughts.

i think it depends on why you cannot get hard? Sex is physical, but it's also hugely affected by cognition and emotion. i get rock hard when a Top talks to me about wanting to breed me, use my hole, inseminate me, piss on/in me, etc.. (my list is pretty long lol). If a guy wants me to fuck him? No response. Even when i want to try, nothing. i love Mens asses, they are one of my favorite parts of Their anatomy, a huge turn on, but i have no desire/need to penetrate. Even getting sucked. i've had FB's where i allow getting sucked, but it really does little to nothing for me. i will get sort of hard while it's happening if i don't think about it, but any focus on my penis as a penetrative organ, it goes flaccid. i do think meds like viagra can help, but i also think there can be a placebo effect in play with those drugs.