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Gives a very literal meaning to "hindsight."

Conversely, i'm 6'5" and have size nine feet. i once asked my yoga instructor if i could wear snow shoes to class so i wouldn't fall over when standing on one foot. While my endowment is not enormous, it's above average. When someone talks about feet being an indicator of endowment, i quip: "yep, i have a size 9."

Lmao. "!" indeed. Perhaps an indirect response of a woman stuck in Stockholm Syndrome?

Well, yes and no. Yes, particularly if it's instant. i have nothing against kisses, or hugs (xo), but for me it's a major red flag when the guy uses it as part of his introduction or i don't have any history (even short history) with him. Another one that makes me cringe is when they call me "honey" or "dear." LMAO, i immediately picture some guy on a computer in Russia who is unfamiliar with western culture and taking their scamming cues from Turner Classics movie channel. In my experience, scammers are notorious for asserting they are "looking for love" or, "ltr" or "their soul mate" or some similar. The red flag with these guys is they obviously have not read my profile because they really have no interest in what's in the profile. If a guy ends up telling me his life story medications, i'd feel it's a lead up to asking for money, iow, "scammer." There's so many scammers online, i've actually developed some pretty standard responses to their standard approach.

i think it's a fundamentalist mindset. It's not based on understanding, or even belief. It's an emotional disposition that convinces the person they know 'God' and their biases and notions are therefore authorized and untouchable. It's sleight of hand they practice with one another in their gathering places. Have you been to one of those mega churches? It's downright creepy. They call it 'worship,' but they drum this hypnotic, manipulative music filled with their ideas to start. A 'leader' upfront tells you when to sit or stand. After you are tranced, they send containers around to collect money, then some guy stands up front and purports to speak for God for an hour or so. Any human responsibility is repressed and shoved into a tight corner, often utterly destroyed, and replaced by their construct which they call "God."

History is replete with Mike Johnsons, "... handing tickets out for 'God.' Except their "ticket" is not a free pass to an event, but a criminalizing citation. They, at one time, touted themselves as "the moral majority." They are neither, but they know how to join themselves to a larger group end up adding their agenda to the mix.

"How" and "where" are two different questions, eh? Fetlife is a mix of straight and gay peeps, might try Recon, it's a gay BDSM site. Also, if you're looking for older/younger dynamic, SilverDaddies may help.

"In the wake of an unprecedented three-week void without a House speaker, Republicans on Wednesday elected Louisiana Rep. Mike Johnson. While he is recognized within some Washington circles for his deeply conservative stances, Johnson, who was most recently the House GOP conference's vice chair, remains relatively obscure beyond the Capitol. But prior to joining Congress in 2017, he spent years building his career and profile by denouncing gay people and fighting against gay rights, which he staunchly opposes, citing his Christian faith and views on liberty." "...Johnson described homosexuals as "sinful" and "destructive" and argued support for homosexuality could lead to support for pedophilia. He also authored op-eds that argued for criminalizing gay sex." [think before following links] https://abc7chicago.com/mike-johnson-house-speaker-gay-rights/13972396/

This is such a big and complex question. i think the answer is both individual and fluid. i think Top, versatile, bottom (and everywhere in between) is more a psychological disposition than a physical position, that the psychological largely finds expression in the physical? i sense (and see) a wrestling match among some on this topic, trying to establish a right or wrong stance on position. Some would argue it's a choice, others swear they were born that way... neither can substantiate their claim scientifically. The feel of the argument triggers feelings i encountered when i was religious and those convinced they knew the truth of it insisted that one could choose to not be attracted to the same sex. i've landed at a place where i just take the persons word for it. Socially, as long as it doesn't violate another, i figure you are in the best position to self define and live and function within that definition. In that context, i usually pursue those identifying as Top because i know i'm going to mesh best with them. But life isn't that simple, eh? Many who read my posts know that i've had a FB for three (approaching four) years Who hit's me up a couple of times a week to breed me. About a year ago, He wanted to suck me... something as a "total bottom" i have not wanted or practiced with another. But my ongoing connection with this Guy is more involved than an anonymous hook up, so i 'allowed' it. Even was clear with Him that i don't do that. He's not very open or vocal, so i have no idea what's going through His head when i tell Him that, but He still wants to do it? But, i'm letting Him, so He does it. The way i've adjusted is He has never made me come that way... actually, in all the hundreds of times we've had sex, He has never made me come, and i don't touch myself during sex, so the only orgasm has been His. Which fits for me. i love sharing His orgasm between us, it's like His orgasm becomes mine when He comes inside of me... which He has always done. Last six months or so, He has gotten into me giving Him BJ's, though that is really like foreplay as well since He's never come that way with me. i'm sort of a selective cock sucker. If the Guy i'm sucking is expressive and clearly into it, His lust energizes me and keeps me very hungry. If He shows little to nothing, my desire shuts down. He is usually quiet, but when i suck Him it's like something in Him gets opened and He is verbally expressive of how good it feels, and that puts and keeps me in a zone where i am loving what i am doing. Last three months or so, that has started to include me rimming Him. You see where this is going/has gone? my bottom identity has never involved or wanted ass, oral or otherwise. i consider any kind of penetration, oral or otherwise, to be a "Top" attribute. Yet i've been all over this Guys ass like it was my last meal on earth lol. The reason i think i've been able to do it is because of His clear, vocal enjoyment and participation in that way. But then, it seems recently, he is getting quieter and that feels passive to me. Last time we were together, i actually was getting pissed off, feeling used in a way that i am not. Given past conversations/explanaitions that i know He hasn't understood , i cannot imagine being able to explain this to Him/him. i would not be surprised if he wants me to fuck him. Functionally, physically, all my equipment works. Psychologically, i know i 'm not wired to fuck and that's not sustainable as part of a dynamic. So, the question of "how versatile" i am is complex and not black and white in its clarity.

i can only speculate about the rationale behind your question? Are we talking just hook up sex? Are we talking relationship? Or____________? Take two gaggles of gay guys to the local gay retirement home. One gaggle is labeled: "Free," the other is labeled "For Rent." my guess is, the "Free" guys are gonna get used up first. Check out (ostensibly assumed) gay sites like "SilverDaddies" [think before following links] https://www.silverdaddies.com and you'll find >120k guys, young and old, looking for each other. Many of those profiles will specify: "not a sugar daddy," or respectively, "not looking for a sugar daddy." And then there are those not so subtle profiles where guys are clearly looking for a sugar daddy. To me, it really depends on what it is you want? Are you looking for money? Something along the line of "rent boy" would be an avenue to take. If you are looking for just sex? i'm gonna guess free will get you more than charging. If you are looking for some form of romantic relationship? my sense is anyone looking for that would find paying for it contradictory to the intent.

my closet was built from ethnocentric religion and culture that had been influenced by religious notions. AID's didn't figure into it for me. i had a gay brother was 13 years older than me. He died of AID's during the 80's. i massaged his Kaposi sarcoma scared and emaciated body as he died, but that didn't daunt my need or desire for sex or seed. i tried condoms a few times, but to me, that was like going without the connection i needed/wanted with a Man. Back then, i was more ashamed of who i am than i was scared. i was trying to be straight because i was conditioned to believe being gay was "sick, broken, sin, etc.." Sure, i was afraid, but i was so needy for connection with a Man that my fear didn't have a chance at keeping me from hooking. For me, anonymous hook up sex was the only affirmation the gay part of me had while i was chained in my prison of conditioned belief. Eventually, being gay saved me from 'god' (i.e., my conditioned notions of "God."). Reality forced me to question conditioning. To me, the STD part of it was stigmatized by the same religious culture. Recently, we learned you could die from Covid you caught while having sex... but that didn't stop people from fucking lol, and probably most didn't wear masks. Disease, sickness and the threat of death are part of living. We risk death going to the grocery store, but we don't even think about that because there is no social stigma attached to that function. Sex, on the other hand, is a natural need/desire that controllers have exploited forever.

All our feelings are in our head. So, in the case of ones nips and cock being "hard wired," the wiring runs through the brain and our feelings/sensations are experienced there. i'm speculating here, but studies of neuroplasticity show that we can increase brain connections through exercising them. I.e., the more we play with our nips, the more our brain grows connections in response (again, i'm speculating). And i think there's also the psychological factors, not just the sense of touch. Our thoughts and emotions play into that 'wiring.' i had an online Top once Who sent me a breast pump because He wanted me to have "titties" for Him. He told me later that had He lived nearby, He would have found a way to slip me hormones so my breasts would produce milk for Him (look it up, it's possible lol). my point is, that our physical fuck can be connected to mind fuck and be complex and involved. Here's some 'science' for those interested: "Can men orgasm from nipple play? In the same way that some women can orgasm from nipple play alone, some men are capable of the same phenomenon. "For some men, there is a direct link between the nerves in their nipples and sensations in their penis," says Hirschman. "Men can get an erection from nipple play and might even orgasm from nipple stimulation alone." To make this type of orgasm happen, Hirschman says you'll likely have to find the sensation patterns that your partner feels most aroused by and then be willing to stick with those for a while. "A nipplegasm may take longer than it would if he was getting direct stimulation to his penis and his nipples at the same time," she explains. "Some men will like a variety of stimulation, while others will need one type of stimulation for a while. In order to get his perfect combo, ask him to show you how he touches his own nipples or how he might like you to touch them."" [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/male-nipple-play

i think this is a great question. We are sensual beings: vision, taste, touch, smell, hearing. i think through experience, we can our needs/desires can be fed and evolve through the exercise of all of those senses, switching them up and not being dependent or allowing certain senses to dominate our choices. i had a FB for about a year and a half Who visited about once a week. i was always waiting door open, lying face down/ass up, naked... and blind folded. i never saw Him, so my experience with Him was through my other four senses... and wow, we had a great thing going.

i'm with Davidc on this one, albeit from a bottom's perspective. i get it, the idea of the other being in charge, control. i've been stealth pissed before and it really turned me on when i realized what happened. Similar idea or energy behind it i think. To me (i'm speculating), what you are describing is a desire for the Top to be in control and independently do something to/with you that you really want/need. I.e., you want His desire/need to breed you to be His own, independent of your influence. you don't want His motive to breed you to be because you want/need it but because He wants/needs it. As i see it for myself anyway (again, speculating about you), any manipulation on your part to somehow lead or trick Him into doing that would be ultimately self defeating because you'd still have the question: did He breed me because it was all His desire or because i lead him that way? To me, the question is: who do you want to be in charge of the decision to inseminate or not?

i have a FB Who is blurring this for me, well, sort of. my perception of being bottom is about more than fucking, A major component is about penetration, be it finger, dildo, tongue, __________. i read of a lot of 'tops' who like to be rimmed, and to me that's something i've always felt is a bottom trait (it's a purely emotional response for me, not a rational one). Same mostly goes for having my penis sucked or even touched. "Mostly" because there are circumstances where it works for me. If a Top is purposely touching my penis just get me hornier for His Cock, but never to make me cum that way, it connects to the bottom in me and is really hot. So, back to my FB of three and a half years now. He hits me up regularly for sex, Saturday was twice. the last year or so He has gotten into sucking me. At first, i hesitated, but i really like this Guy, so even though i've told Him i'm not into it, i did it for Him, and now it's a pretty regular thing. i think what makes it okay for me is He has never once made me cum in the 3.5 years we've had sex (hundreds of times). So, psychologically, His sucking me falls into the category of just getting me more needy for His Cock. As i think about it, He has never touched my penis, just sucks it. Last six months or so, He has really gotten into me sucking Him... which has morphed into really me being oral with Him. He is normally really quiet and unexpressive when we have sex, but when i am giving Him oral sex, He gets very verbal in a way that super charges my lust for Him, puts me and keeps me in the zone until He is ready to fuck and breed me... and it always ends up with Him breeding me, He's never cum in my mouth. The "morphed" part is He loves me to suck, kiss, lick pretty much anything between His knees and navel... including His hole. He loves to be rimmed. Again, this is something i generally feel is a top activity, but He is so into it that i end up pulled in by His pleasure. It's been some time now, but i even fucked him once when he was very new at male with male sex (he's bi). i was clear i was just doing it once, and He's never asked or hinted at me fucking Him again. But He really gets into me rimming Him and always fucks me hard afterwards. To me, being oral and a cocksucker are bottom. The rimming part is blurry for me, but so far it doesn't feel to me like He is feeling bottom when i do it. lol. i know, complicated.

This is pretty much me too, verbatim. For me (and i think for a lot of guys), it's not just a physical cock i am looking for but His desire to use His cock in me. His lust/desire/need triggers and fuels mine, and i've seen signs that the same is true for Him, that my lust/desire/need triggers and fuels His.

Speculating, i'd bet You have a better, more detailed sex drive now than You did as a teen, that with practice, You've built up neuro pathways that enhance Your sex drive beyond the fuel of testosterone. 🙂❤️

Yesterday evening. He fucked me missionary, which almost never happens, i'm almost always face down. Prior to getting bred, my face was buried for some time between His thighs and my mouth was everywhere. i had His scent on me for hours afterwards and was high from it most the night.

i so agree with you. me receiving a 'small dick' is in no way a sympathy or altruistic gesture. i want a Mans Cock in me as much as He wants to put it inside of me, physical size is not a determining factor for me. 🙂

It's a complex topic. As BootmanLA notes, "responses...will be all over the map." Our sex drive/libido has more than one source fueling it. For instanstance, there is gonadal production of testosterone, which tends to decline over time. Butt having sex also stimulates the vagal nerve and that affects mood centers of the brain: "There is preliminary evidence that vagus nerve stimulation is a promising add-on treatment for treatment-refractory depression, posttraumatic stress disorder..." [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2018.00044/full Then there's factors like this, which to me suggest that the more we have sex, the more we will want it. "Replicating past findings, no significant correlations between testosterone (T) and desire in men were apparent, but these analyses showed that the null association remained even when psychological and confound variables were controlled. Men showed higher desire than women, but masturbation frequency rather than T influenced this difference. Results were discussed in terms of challenges to assumptions of clear links between T and desire, gendered approaches to T, and the unitarity of desire." [think before following links] [think before following links] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22552705/ i'm being speculative here, but the above evidence to me suggests that the more one has sex, the more one's sex drive increases or maintains. i thought the second study was interesting in that the frequency of sex ("masturbation") with men was the driving factor over testosterone production. To me, this may in part account for the "all over the map" differences in our sex drives. To me, the implication is, the more we exercise the libido, the stronger the libido becomes, or maintains. And then there's edging lol.

my wiring is like several others who have responded. To me a Tops Cock is much more than a physical organ betwixt His legs. It's part of His psychological make up. i have had some incredible breedings by Men Who have smaller physical Cocks, but Their internal Cock is huge. When a Man fucks me, i get more than a penis and cum, i also get His desire/need to penetrate and inseminate me. i also get His orgasm, which i see as connected, but a distinct part of copulation. Sure, a big physical Cock is great, but if size is all that matters, one can purchase some huge dildos. i've been with Guys Who had big physical cocks, but Their "internal" cock was small. I'd take a big internal Cock over a big physical Cock if it came down to that.

Wow, some great responses! i was one of those (not rare) gay guys who was conditioned by both religious and straight culture to believe that being gay is "sinful, broken, sick, etc.", ad nauseam. That was really hard for me to process out of, especially when one equates such belief as equal to "God." A trick of some forms of religion (fundamentalism) is to transfer human agenda onto an invisible and unaccountable being one cannot nail down. Long story short, as a result, i married (a woman). Seven years into marriage, i had my first sex with a Guy and after that, there was no going back. i tried to be straight. i was still mind fucked thinking i was wrong, so i stayed married and cheated, all the while going to 'reparative therapy' and trying all the voodoo stuff my religion proffered as a 'cure.' Personally, i think the reasons for cheating are destructive and a waste. i too am for deconstructing the notions that result in lying and cheating vs staying imprisoned by ideas that do not fit reality, that result in fake or dishonest living.

i can't speak universally, but for me the connection is mutual, primal lust. When i realize the lust in Man to penetrate and breed me, it connects to my desire/need to be penetrated and bred... it almost seems autonomic lol.

i think we're on the same page with this, or at least in the same chapter? The way i look at it is we all have connecting places in us along the sexual spectrum (really, i think in general and i don't think sex is connected to other parts of our make up, but we're talking sex). To goal for me is to have mutual connection with as many of those places with a Man. i have "wanton behavior" as a connecting place and connect with Men Who are feeling and exercising it too. i don't experience connection as a strictly defined event, it's different with everyone. Yeah, i do want to connect to as many places as i can with a Guy, but wanton (casual) is connection too for me. i think i find connection more in the mutuality of the desire/need.

Makes perfect sense to me. i don't see any reason that the drive would be any less in a Top than a bottom. The difference? A bottom doesn't have a physical refractory period to deal with. Many bottoms take a cock and it whets their appetite for more once he gets seeded. A Top needs recovery time, and that varies from Top to Top. i do see the distinction i think You're making between a Top and a Breeder. To me, there's an added psychosexual layer the more connected a Top is to His need/desire to breed. i think that feeds into His lust and helps give it muscle, make Him more virile?