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Society is mostly heteronormative, and a big part of that is what's become the 'traditiona' notion of intimate relationship: i.e. marriage, monogamy. Society, and the dominant cultures like religions, set the tone for everyone whether it fits or not. Individuals can choose to try and conform to "the norm" or one can custom make a relationship that fits who they actually are, not who society presumes everyone should be. As i see it, relationship should be custom made by the individuals involved, based on who and how each is. That requires self knowledge, the ability to articulate that knowledge and the willingness to risk openness, vulnerability. 1. Know who you are, your most vital wants/needs 2. Learn how to express and explain those wants/needs. 3. Find someone else who does one and two and is the Yang to your yin, or vice versa.

lol... this is not a hard one. Wear a cage and write "bottom bitch" on your ass with a felt tip pen.

i have a little different take on this. Speculating. Your cousin reads to me like a guy who is closeted Bi (at the very least) or gay and is homophobic. The only way he can experience his desire and attraction to men is by telling himself, and those he fucks, that he only "does it for money." That's his 'beard' so to speak. It may be that the fact he is so unsettled and has made kids with women but has never settled into a straight relationship... is because he's not straight and cannot/has not accepted that. Not to burst your bubble, but i don't think he's "superior" at all, i think he's a scared guy who has not come to terms with who and how he is. And, of course, i don't know this guy, just the way it looks to me. i'm a total bottom and i love Dom Men, but to me guys who call themselves "dom" and bully, force, are mean , are faux dom. They use those things to compensate, they're a big truck with plastic balls hanging from the tail gate. To me, a real Dom knows a sub wants/needs to submit and please and knows He wants to be in control and be pleased. To me, it's attraction of opposites, not superior. But i understand this is a very individual thing, psychological and emotional.

What do you crave most? Cock or loads deep in you? Cock... but to me, "cock" is more than penis, it's also the drive, desire, need of the Top to penetrate, fuck, inseminate, possess, etc.. In that vein, i crave His orgasm most, His ultimate satisfaction inside of me. Do you ever feel satisfied or are the cravings insatiable? i feel satisfied when my Top feels satisfied. How many loads does it take to turn you into an “any cock, any hole, any load” guy? For me it's not a question of number of loads, but the Tops need to breed. Pretty much if a Guy expresses a need/desire to breed me, it opens/evokes my need/desire to be bred. How old were you when you first realized it was about your hole/pussy/cunt and not your cock? Was it innate and there from the beginning or did you learn it over time? 7 The hottest opening line I ever heard was, “I don’t care about my cock.” Do you even think about cumming? Do you have a need to? i have a need for orgasm, a Tops orgasm inside of me. If i am not getting that enough i will masturbate to relieve the tension, but it's a disappointment. my need is for my Tops orgasm inside of me and that becomes my orgasm. When you are home alone, do you play with your hole or your dick? my penis. i'm not top and have no desire/need to penetrate even myself, i need a Top for that. i'll edge my penis to get/keep me horny to receive a Tops cock, not because i want to cum. Are you afraid of how deep your cravings are and the levels you will submit to in an effort to satisfy them? No, it's a big part of the motivation. That connection of His desire/need to be submitted to and satisfied connects to my need desire to submit and satisfy. Do you tell your friends about your cumdump desires or are those separate and secret? i share it in places like BZ where there are Guys/guys with similar feelings. What would you choose…sucking a hot guy’s huge dick or taking a taking a heavy-set Daddy’s load up your ass? For me it's more about the desire/need energy being expressed by the Top. All things being equal? my ass is my primary receptive opening for a Mans need to penetrate and release. Anonymous sesssions or do you prefer to see who is fucking you? It's not about seeing my Tops face, it's about receiving His fuck energy... so however He wants is how i want. Is there anything mor important to you than taking loads? Yes, receiving and satisfying a Tops need/desire.

"Up my ass." i''m one of those guys (not unique lol) who will empty the contents of a found condom into my hole. It's definitely not the preferred method of delivery, but i hate to see a Mans seed wasted, i feel it belongs in someone. my sole (soul?) focus is not on a Mans cum though, probably equally, if not more, on His orgasm that results in ejaculation. The greatest bond for me is when a Man desires/needs to release, and He wants to release in me. Consequently, His piss can be a similar breeding bond, depending on whether He feels similarly. That said? Definitely in my ass, as deep as i can get it... around the curve/through the 'second hole' where He can be retained and absorbed.

i like some indication when a Man plants His orgasm inside of me. For me, His orgasm is almost as important as the seed that cums with it. Very loud isn't necessary for me, but it that Him and it's real, i want it. Contrived, or trying to hard is a turn off... can tell when someone is trying to copy porn or putting on some sort of act on how He thinks He's supposed to be. For instance, i'll never say to a Top: "talk dirty to me." Not because i don't love it, but i want it to be real, spontaneous. Fucking is intimate and vulnerable, it can be a chance for two guys to connect at a deep level. i don't have a standard way i want to receive His orgasm, but i do want to know when it's happening. The only time that is a challenge is with Guys Who fuck through Their orgasm. Some Guys slam balls deep, and that is a language all its own. Some Guys keep fucking while they are having Their orgasm, and it can be harder to tell. i have a FB Who is a muscle Boy. He pounds me very hard when fucking, but alternates between lying on top of me and holding my body in various ways. When i am giving Him oral, He is very verbal. When He is fucking, He is not. 90% of the time, i cannot tell when He cums. His fucking is so energetic, but when He is done, He is not one to linger inside of me. He pulls out, gets up and takes a shower. It can feel very sudden going from pounding to suddenly gone. i often finger myself after to reassure myself He has cum, and i am always gaped and sloppy with cum. my favorite is a Top Who wants me to know He has cum though, Who wants to make a point of letting me know He's bred me.

Anyone can "stand behind" their own comments. What does that actually mean though? In this case it means one anonymous contributor on a discussion forum making claims. It carries the weight and force of "one anonymous contributor on a discussion forum making claims." In debate, the burden of proof typically lies with the person making the claim. "Shifting of the Burden of Proof onus probandi (also known as: burden of proof [general concept], burden of proof fallacy, misplaced burden of proof, shifting the burden of proof) Description: Making a claim that needs justification, then demanding that the opponent justifies the opposite of the claim. The burden of proof is a legal and philosophical concept with differences in each domain. In everyday debate, the burden of proof typically lies with the person making the claim, but it can also lie with the person denying a well-established fact or theory. Like other non-black and white issues, there are instances where this is clearly fallacious, and those which are not as clear." [think before following links] https://www.logicallyfallacious.com/logicalfallacies/Shifting-of-the-Burden-of-Proof If you were making a claim like: "the Pacific Ocean is full of water," that would be a "well established fact" that pretty much no one would have to research to accept, because it truly is a "well established fact." "Most of the gay people i know believe in Republican or conservative values." Coming from a self defined conservative Republican, that's sort of like a church going Christian saying: "most of the Christians I know believe in Jesus." That mostly establishes one's ethnocentricity, not a universal reality.

Kennedy's reaction is "unvarnished?" The tree hasn't even been felled, or left the forest, let alone been refined and turned into a piece of useful, functional furniture that one would apply varnish to. His entire response is insubstantial drivel. All he does is recite a list of emotional trigger phrases, a recipe to feed mindlessness, not nurture "fair minded Americans."

Ha, yeah, two fairly recently, but after years and a few thousand cocks, only twice is a surprise? Guys i work with, and both on Recon. i don't meet many guys on Recon, to many instadoms/instasubs. For me, D/s is a complex process that requires getting to know each other pretty intimately. One of the guys tried to go there, the other one was more demure, but didn't hook with either. i talk to the 'demure' guy at work fairly often. He's flirty, but hasn't made any advances and i'm not really sexually inclined with him.

BootmanLA beat me to this one. Here's a bit more info. The human body is about 60% water. Normal Saline (NS) is made by boiling water and adding sodium chloride ( that's what table salt is), using a mixture of about 250mL of water with a teaspoon of salt. Sodium chloride (NaCl) is a water attractant, one molecule of NaCl will attract seven molecules of water. The way it works as an enema is it pulls water out of your body through and into your colon, thus affecting stool softening and evacuation. Since it pulls water from your body, NS enema can dehydrate you and that can lower your blood pressure. Fleet enemas use Sodium Phosphate, which is different from a NS enema, not the homemake NS type. Overuse can result in too much phosphate (hyperphosphatemia) and too much sodium (hypernatremia) in the blood stream. People with kidney disease should consult their doctor before using a sodium phosphate product. Over use by anyone can cause an electrolyte imbalance. Over use of either can end up affecting electrolyte balance. Even plain water can result in "water poisoning." Without the added sodium, tap water can be absorbed by your colon instead of drawing water out if you hold it in for long periods and one can become hyper hydrated, diluting the blood, and throwing off electrolyte balance. Most of us here are not using any of these things so much as an enema as we are using them as a douche. Douching the rectum is different that a colonic enema. I douche, and yeah, sometime that involves some of the tale end of my colon if water goes into the sigmoid. But i (and i suspect most of us cleaning out) am not holding the water in, i am flushing out. I have a shower shot and water goes in and i pretty much instantly expel it, so i'm not absorbing much if any water. Enema fetish is a whole different ball game, and depending on what one is using, can have profound effects on the body. i'm notta doctor and not giving medical advice here, but i think the safest method is just plain water quickly in and quickly out to avoid absorption and simply flush out waste. Try and avoid going deep, the more colon you involve, the greater the effects on your body. None of this stuff is without side effect, so i'd suggest minimizing is key. Healthy, high fiber diet is the only one of these things with a positive side effect, promoting a healthy gut micro biome and maybe balancing out some of the other stuff we put up in there lol.

Rectums are like bodies in general, 'one size does not fit all.' I.e., You have to learn your own size. i've read things like guys who insert and count to 3, but then that doesn't say how high the water is if it's a shower shot. That said: "Rectal balloon volume and pressure at maximum tolerable sensation in comparison with age. (A) Rectal balloon volume. Almost all patients had an increased rectal volume suitable for their age and it can be seen that rectal volume increased with age. In accordance with our unpublished data and previous studies, the normal values of rectal volume at maximum tolerable volume for a child of 6 years is 135 mL and for an adult it is 240 mL. 25,26 (B) Rectal balloon pressure. Although the volume of the rectum increases with age, pressure remains relatively stable. Rectal pressure is a sensation and it is, therefore, not influenced by the existence of dyssynergic defecation. " [think before following links] https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Rectal-balloon-volume-and-pressure-at-maximum-tolerable-sensation-in-comparison-with-age_fig1_272198218#:~:text=In accordance with our unpublished,age%2C pressure remains relatively stable.

As others have noted: "diet." Like @lker80, i eat mostly Whole Food Plant Based. i make my own granola that is really good, but also adds a ton of fiber to my diet. Being real here, so close your eyes if you get grossed out lol (as if). A proper diet means your stool should come out large and formed, when you wipe nothing should be on the toilet paper. Both of those are indicators of fiber in your diet. Fiber is the parts of food we eat that our body doesn't use, but feeds our gut microbiome. It's a vast topic and i get very nerdy about it, i'm a critical care nurse with certification on reversing disease through diet, so you don't want to get me started on this lol. As to drying out and bulking up the stool, which makes for a much cleaner colon and rectum, and much easier to clean, is all about fiber. There's both soluble and insoluble fiber... soluble means it absorbs fluid and makes the stool dryer, insoluble is the opposite. In healthcare, when someone has diarrhea, we put them on a diet with rice...i've also found Quinoa also has a very drying effect. The granola i make has Oats, puffed millet, puffed rice and ground flax as the 4 grains, and a bunch of other stuff to make it both healthy and taste good, but the fiber is so much that it almost constipates me eating only a cup a day (i eat it dry, which makes it very absorptive). The other side of this is knowing some anatomy. The colon is about 4 feet long. The rectum is what gets fucked, and some Tops are long and will get through the so called "second hole," which is really the sigmoid curve (see the pic). What can defeat you with clean-out is when water goes beyond the rectum, past the sigmoid and gets into the colon. The colon is always moving stool out, but putting water in (or anything else for that matter) stimulates movement. If your colon has stool in it, and water goes there, you're stimulating it to move down and out... which can result in an extra long cleaning session. Also, eating stimulates movement. If you've been a practicing bottom for awhile, you've likely experienced all of this over time. A diet with lots of soluble fiber dries out and bulks up making for a sort of self cleaning colon. Diets without enough fiber result in a wet, pasty consistency that is much harder to clean ("pasty"=paste). Even if you go past the sigmoid when douching, what's in there makes a lot of difference.

Yeah, have had lots of sex "in nature" (aka "out doors" lol). Parks and preserves can be cruisy. When i lived in Virginia, Grandview Beach on the Chesapeake Bay was a very popular sex spot. You had to hike back in, a long beach on the bay. i've been walking that beach and have seen a hetero couple fucking as i walked by. Was really popular with gays. i'd lay on a blanket ass up and naked and guys would come by and fuck me, it was a great isolated place for sex. As to the PNW? Rooster Rock Beach near Portland Oregon has a "clothing optional" beach where sex happens... it's a known gay cruising location.

Not any studies i can find of the effects of semen on men, but there is some with heteros that semen has bonding powers effecting the brain of the person who absorbs their Tops semen. One can speculate that the colon is also absorptive and a man absorbing his Tops semen may experience similar bonding effect as well. "Human Semen This list makes one wonder whether some of the many proteins in human semen could also have such manipulative effects. If they do, then this would be one way to explain the results of a study by Gordon Gallup and Rebecca Burch. In this study, they had almost three hundred female students fill out questionnaires relating to sex and mental health. The results showed that women who always use a condom — and so are protected against the effects of proteins in the semen — score almost 50 percent higher on a scale of depression-related symptoms than women who never use condoms, which might indicate (but doesn’t prove) that substances in semen interfere with the female nervous system." [think before following links] https://www.discovermagazine.com/health/semens-chemical-cocktail-can-hijack-a-mates-brain

Last Friday and Saturday (i had to work yesterday and Sunday). i had contacted my FB on Thursday and invited Him. He said He didn't know if we could fuck anymore because He found out He had herpes and got panicked. He's Bi and has had sex with a lot of women, He tells me i'm the only guy He's been with. Not sure that is true, but it doesn't really matter to me. i gave Him some healthcare info about herpes and how it hides in the body, 50 million people just in the US are estimated to carry the virus, etc. etc. i advised Him to research and read up on the topic. i also told Him it didn't matter to me that He has herpes, that i really like being with Him and i would not choose to stop having sex with Him just because He's a carrier. Turned out He had a sore in the mouth, which He pretty much never uses with me, and He'd been taking medication, so the outbreak passed. i was pretty surprised when He contacted me on Friday and wanted to breed. We talked some more, and i reassured Him how much i like Him and want Him. He bred me Friday, then again on Saturday.

Another thing that happens is some Tops like to pump air in Their bottom, that usually happens when a Top continuously pulls out all the way and re-enters when fucking. That air can put a lot of pressure to expel, but i have found if i lie on my back and finger my hole, i can let the air out and keep His cum inside. It takes practice, but it can be done.

The colon is about 4 feet long, but a lot of cum doesn't get there if the Top doesn't breed beyond the 'second hole" (i.e., the sigmoid curve). It's the seed that stays in the rectum that can trigger sensors in that part of the body to expel. i fight those and clamp down like i do when squeezing a Mans Cock when He is inside of me and eventually those feelings to expel pass. They come and go, and just have to repeat the process. It can be hard, and crampy, but i've done it for hours and usually if i sleep with His seed in me overnight, it gets absorbed. i have also woken up with a wet mattress too though, so sometimes His seed comes out when i sleep.

Fun question. To me it's the other ingredients in semen that matter, the ones that can get absorbed and facilitate bonding... but i did a look up on the topic, looking for some real info beyond speculation, this is what i found... answer from a medical doctor with link, not sure how reliable the source is. "I see you have inquired – “How long can semen live in the anus before dying, and what's the possibility of getting pregnant if some seamen leak into the vagina from the anus?” Please see, the sperms in the semen can live for some time where ever there is some moisture and warmth etc, and the ansus provides both moisture and warmth so sperms can live there for some time. The actual duration they may remain alive in the anus may vary from situation to situation or person to person but they can remain alive there for few to several hours." [think before following links] https://www.justanswer.com/medical/hz7yl-semen-live-anus-dying-what-s.html

In the absence of gays on this site giving their reasons for voting for Trump (not just voting republican, but voting for Trump?), just read the results of this AP pole along with the article writers take: "It isn’t just Trump’s margin of victory that shows his dominance of the party. It’s that most Republican voters in South Carolina share his entire worldview. The Associate Press’s “VoteCast” voter survey showed, at least in its early results, that around six in 10 GOP voters in the Palmetto State oppose continued U.S. aid to Ukraine. That was bad news for Haley, and striking in a state with a strong military tradition. Around seven in 10 GOP voters in the state accept Trump’s argument that the various investigations into his conduct are attempts to undermine him, according to the survey. Given those numbers, it’s no surprise that around 6 in 10 Republicans here consider themselves to be supporters of the MAGA movement. The GOP, for good or ill, is Trump’s party now." [think before following links] https://news.yahoo.com/five-takeaways-south-carolina-gop-032128253.html?.tsrc=daily_mail&uh_test=0_00 The hardest part of me to wrap my brain around (and it's all hard) is Trumps comments about Putin and the Ukraine. Trumps recently reiterated comments that he'd actually encourage Putin to invade any country, let alone an ally, is just so categorically insane to me. It also strikes me as un conservative and un republican? i can still hear Regan saying: "Mr Gorbachev, tear down this wall." It seems to me the new sentiment is to allow Putin to rebuild it. It does remind me of another war in another era where Republicans were more isolationist, WW2. FDR had to be sideways in his efforts to support the efforts against Hitlers attempt possess and subjugate Europe. To me, Putin has from the beginning copied many of Hitlers strategies, almost like he has Hitlers play book in his back pocket for reference. It wasn't until Japan devastated Pearl Harbor and Hitler declared war on the US (because of Japan), that the US even ventured into the war. i do not understand the isolationist ideals that so many republicans hold. How would a Putin take over of Ukraine possibly benefit the US? Pulling support from a country that wants independence and seems so contrary to American ideals, but even if one takes an "America first' attitude, it still seems against our self interest to encourage dictators to have their way in the world.

Yep... i think with many, "raunch" is often code for feces. To me, his "deflection" would be further evidence of that. i believe 'Scat' is still pretty universally gross and disgusting to most, and he's likely feeling insecure about disclosing that info. i wouldn't include any of the things the OP mentioned as "raunch." Well, maybe strong smells, man musk multiplied? Spit also comes to mind, and some are into vomit. i was at a gay resort in PS a couple of years ago and was playing with a guy. He asked if He could spit in my mouth, and i demurred, that has not appeal to me and strikes me as gross and aggressive (vs assertive). It's obvious to me that my response is emotional when i consider where my mouth and tongue will go and where they have been lol. He sort of proved that when He spat on His cock and offered me the 'package' deal, and i didn't hesitate to put the whole thing in my mouth with desire.

affirmation?

but still has an authentic voiceover. [think before following links] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iGOmqfMKhXk

About a half hour ago. my regular FB Who breeds me a couple of times a week for going on 4 years. We're really fortunate, we simply have great chemistry. Usually we're done in 30-40 minutes, but for some reason He was full of fire today. He's a Muscle Guy and pounds hard, so i'm usually gaped and sloppy at about the 15 minute mark, then i fluctuate between conquered and squeezing HIs Cock with my hole. Holes totally sloppy now and will be for most of the night. i don't know, He's super vocal when i'm giving Him oral, but i'm the one making all the noise when He's fucking me... can't help it, so i don't know how much He likes fucking a sloppy hole? So i go back and forth between just giving in and squeezing, giving Him both. We're obviously doing it right, because He keeps coming back and i'm feeling the bliss of having my ass pounded for an hour.

i didn't expect that they would be.

It's a shame this kind of conservative isn't prominent, or as influential as those against gender identity in the Republican party. May i ask what are some of the conservative factors that cause You to choose to be Republican?