tallslenderguy

Wow, OP was nine years ago, kinda cool to revisit the discussion. First off, i thoroughly agree that "judgements are not the solution." i think such judgements are often based on unsubstantiated bias. Life is so damned complex, we know so very little. i've had a few thousand cocks inside of me so far in this life (i cannot account for former lives lol), and i can count on one hand the number of times a condom was involved. i watched my oldest brother die a horrible death from AID's during the 80's, and it didn't really even pause my pursuit of Men or Their desire and need to cock me. i also, cannot account for my own need/desire to connect or bond fully with a Man where He leaves some physical part of Himself inside of me, but i do not see that as that much different than "chasing." Yeah, it does have the added element of acknowledging a virus, but i don't really see it as all that different from receiving any Man into me Who expresses need or desire to penetrate and seed me? To me, it's a pretty narrow distinction, and seems to have a lot of similar driving components behind it. When i first started this post, i was neg. With @tallbtm encouragement, i went to get prep and discovered i was poz when getting tested for it. i immediately went on meds and have been undetectable since. i still advocate for PrEP, but feel no judgment for those who opt out. i do think it's the better way to go, but i also like prime rib and eat it even though i know it'll give me vascular disease. And, i think all of us can identify similar choices, so who is really in the superior position to judge?

Turns out the backers of Tump have a plan: "Project 2025. ill put the link at the bottom to the actual document, i think it's about 900 pages. Here's an excerpt from an Advocate article on the conservative plan of action if trump gets elected. "It calls for barring transgender people from the military and to stop what it considers the “toxic normalization of transgenderism” across the government and American society. It seeks to abolish the president’s Gender Policy Council, “which it views as promoting abortion and the ‘new woke gender ideology,’” Accountable.US notes. The next Health and Human Services secretary, Project 2025 recommends, should reverse what it calls a focus on “‘LGBTQ+ equity,’ subsidizing single-motherhood, disincentivizing work, and penalizing marriage, replacing such policies with those encouraging marriage, work, motherhood, fatherhood, and nuclear families.”" [think before following links] https://www.advocate.com/politics/project-2025-anti-lgbtq [think before following links] https://www.project2025.org/policy/

Ha, your take on their age gave me pause, so i went looking for their ages, all i found was a reaction on youtube. The blond guys name was "Dallas Quick" and stated his age as 28, the guy with the long dreds was "Rank Ramon" and said he was 24. i'd guess most of them to be in their 20's, maybe a few in their 30's? idk. These are the only two i found.

This was cool to watch, see and hear the responses, as soon as i saw it i wanted to share it with you guys and read your responses.

This is encouraging: "There was even a bit of good news emerging from the debacle. A senior Biden campaign official said the operation raised $14 million on debate day and the morning after “in a sign of strength of our grassroots support.” The post-debate hour proved to be “the single best hour of fundraising” since the campaign’s launch more than a year ago, the official said." [think before following links] https://www.yahoo.com/news/biden-allies-rush-reassure-anxious-010007867.html?.tsrc=daily_mail&segment_id=DY_VTO&ncid=crm_19908-1202929-20240629-0&bt_user_id=voQPmy27IilYxvj2u%2BW3UK7BE5iUdjn9%2B0WBU4%2FDniOlm9416vXiVFJOmXS%2F08jT&bt_ts=1719672282440 i appreciate both @BootmanLA and @hntnhole had to say, i'd echo them both. We currently only have one choice for president as far as i'm concerned. At the very worst, the American people have something to vote against. Summed up, we are voting for an administration, not just one person. One of the bigger problems with trump is he is such a control freak, he wants to be king, not just the boss of an organization.

i too know how to touch type, but the method i learned uses two hands........

i agree, whole heartedly! i got HIV and syphilis from a FB who claimed to be disease free. i do not blame Him or feel badly about getting either infection from Him. He was an awesome fucker and i would receive Him and His cock happily again. Except in the case of rape, i believe anytime i have sex the risk of disease is there and it is a risk i choose, not something i can make or hold anyone else responsible for. i hate that certain cultures have succeeded in stigmatizing sex, and worse, that many of those who partake continue to promote the stigma, often unconsciously. All of life is risky, yet sex has been turned into a morality play. fuck that.

Replace keys on their computer because they've been eaten away by lube? lol, i'm pretty sure this questions never been asked on BZ, but i've had to replace both the "n" and "m" keys and realized they were eaten away because of lube on my fingers when typing. i clean my keys routinely with alcohol wipes, and that does a fair job, but i thought it a funny observation. i'm a total bottom and don't use lube often, usually only to edge, so i can imagine this might be even more of an issue for someone who uses their computer to purposely cum on a regular basis. 🙂

i have no desire to break anyones resolve. Really, i think you were just nurturing His resolve and overcoming His hesitation, and ignorance really. A funny sort of teaching moment. The actual evidence is, U=U, so while you are poz, since you are on meds, if you are undetectable, you cannot transmit HIV. Of course, "clean" doesn't just mean HIV. This guy is fucking at an Arcade. If He does enough fucking at an arcade, without a condom, His odds of getting an STD go way up. It's sort of like going into a hospital and going from room to room kissing random patients. If He ends up kissing without a mask, His risks of catching something go way up. One doesn't need a medical degree to understand the odds. To me, the real issue is the social stigma we place on having sex. i do not see it as a question of unprotected sex... to me, sex is all about connecting. We never hear the above scenario of people kissing with masks on for fear of catching something, most would deem that ridiculous. I.e., if one is to afraid of catching something when kissing, they are going to forego kissing. Guys who go to an Arcade, or other sex venue, and try to make everyone else responsible for their health concerns are way out in left field. The responsibility is on them, not the guys they are having sex with. Yet still, he tried to abrogate his responsibility twice by asking you if you are "clean." Going back to my above analogy, that's sort of like going to a hospital and going from room to room asking patients if they are "clean." They may indeed be there for another reason and not infected or contagious, but most people do not know when they have a pathogen that they can pass along. Knowingly having a contagion and not disclosing it is another matter. If i know i have an STD, i don't have sex till i'm no longer contagious. i get tested every 4 months, but the in between time it's a risk for all parties concerned.

Okay, wow, i've never really considered this before, but out of the thousands of times i've been fucked, i've only cum twice while being fucked, and both of those times were 'hands free' and a sort of shock (didn't see it cumming lol). Each time it was a OMG moment and two of the most possessed and totally out of control moments of my life, and no, i had no need or desire to stop. Otherwise, i never have cum while getting fucked. In more recent years i have discovered (or evolved into?) that the only orgasm i want is the One another Man has while inside of me. i've found if i am getting another Mans orgasm inside of me often enough, i do not want... or need, one of my own. If that isn't happening, and i go too long without one, i'll start edging and can go a week or so doing that. For me, edging is about building a preserving my desire/need for a Top's pleasure and orgasm inside of me. i do reach a point though, if i don't get fucked, where i'll jack off and cum. It's a sort of substitute for me though, and while it feels good physically and there is a sort of release, it's always a disappointment for me, not what i need or want. It's really a wonder to me that i have discovered i don't need or want an orgasm from stimulating my own penis, that i am most fulfilled sexually from the orgasm a Man has inside of me.

Kissing on the lips? There has to be visual, or some other connected attraction beyond the surface. But, kissing other parts of the body? i have a FB of four years Who kissed my back, neck and shoulders while fucking me and it drives me absolutely wild, puts me deep into subspace for some reason. Within the last year or so, He's really gotten into me giving Him oral as foreplay and turns out He loves when i kiss Him too. Thighs, cock, balls, back, ass... i'll spread His beautiful ass and kiss His hole too. He's not very vocal when He Tops, but just the opposite when i'm giving Him oral. He is normally all sex and lust, but when i am kissing Him, He gets more open and vulnerable. Regardless, He obviously loves it and i love the deepened effect it has on our bonding... it's a little magical. But i don't view kissing as routine or just physical, i want it to further open and affect, deepen our lust.

Ha, just seeing this discussion, missed it first go round. Out of prolly a few thousand connections with guys, i can count on one hand the number of times i've felt "anger." Twice to be exact. i was pretty faggoty as a little kid and, before i constructed a closet to hide in, i attracted a lot of bullies. i got picked on and beat up, seemed to attract bullies like a magnet to lead filings. Retrospectively, i've come to believe that what i often experienced was early age, and an immature/ignorant version of, D/s dynamic. i'm pretty naturally sub and i think a lot of the bullies were naturally dom, but at that early age none of us had a clue how to deal with our attractions or nature. But the bullying did leave its impression on me, it molded me. To this day, i have an almost visceral aversion to force, meanness, bullying. i also practiced martial arts for 25 years, and i think that was largely a compensatory thing for me, a response to childhood bullying. One guy tried to dominate me using a bullying approach as he started to fuck me. i didn't have to say anything though. my response was reflexive and my body tensed in a sort of attack response, he read my body language immediately and changed his approach just as fast. The emotion i experienced was definitely anger. It wasn't a rational response though, just suddenly there and just as suddenly gone once he backed off on the aggressive part. The other time was at a bathhouse. i was lying on my back and the guy was straddling me and suddenly pinched my nipples really hard lol. i'm not a masochist at all (well, maybe spanking), and my nipples are only erogenous with very light touch. Same immediate reflexive response, he was suddenly on the floor with me straddling him and this look of shock on his face. Again, once the 'threat' was gone, so was the anger, which he seemed to see as well, so we continued and He knew not to try that again . i think it's easy, and pretty common, for guys to be presumptuous in the easy sex hook up world we live in. Mostly i attribute that to immaturity, and i equate self absorption/self centeredness with immaturity. For me, sex is about connecting mutual need/desire. i believe it should be symbiotic, and that requires some amount of communication. That "communication" may be as basic as a hole silently presenting in a dark room or at a GH, but it gets the message across. And really, having a cock up ones ass is pretty intimate. Some may take that as an invitation to fist, how they attempt it and how permission is granted can vary though.

Have always been a level 6. Even prior to PrEP and meds that reduce HIV to a non issue for most, i still found the risk to be less of a factor than the need/drive for that kind of connection with a man. i was never a chaser, never wanted an STD. If a guy tells me he is currently infected with some pathogen, i'm going to forgo sex with him... but that's pretty rare knowledge, especially with anonymous hook up. Sero sorting is mostly an illusion because few guys honestly know their STD status every moment. Over time, i've come to see the fear and attitudes towards sex, and the STD's we may encounter in the process, as largely culturally conditioned. We don't give up on driving to the grocery store because there's a risk we could die in a fiery car crash. Life is full of risk. It seems the fuller the life, the fuller the risk. i see living as a sort of balancing act. We can live in a bubble and go to our grave having never experienced half the wonders that life offers, or we might rush through our life quickly by doing stuff that ends it faster. For me? i look for balance... what can i do that brings pleasure and joy to myself and others and is the cost worth it? For me? BB has always been a risk that is worth it. If i get an STD, i don't see it as much different from getting a cold from someone at a fine restaurant i ate at.

i hear this. Fiber is key. Rice is an easy source that you can get just about anywhere when traveling. When i travel, i also buy food at a grocery store from the produce section. Supplements can be iffy, veggies, grain and fruit are what our bodies are adapted too. Knowing the difference between soluble and insoluble fiber is also key [think before following links] https://www.healthline.com/health/soluble-vs-insoluble-fiber For long term health, i'd suggest following EuRawBull's example and not take drugs like imodium, or on the other end of the spectrum, laxatives as they are just short term fixes with negative side effects. Most of us wanna be fuckable our whole life, so i'd advocate for proactive prevention and colon health, and that means a managed diet full of natural fiber.

i bought a cheap shower head with a flexible hose for travel and a pair of pliers. i already have the douche nozzle. Takes 5 minutes to remove the shower nozzle and attach the hose with the shower head, then i just exchange the shower head when i need to douche and put the shower head back on when i need to shower. Cheap and easy, did a quick amazon search, here's one for $17 US [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.amazon.com/FASDUNT-Pressure-Handheld-Stainless-Adjustable/dp/B0C45VWVF9/ref=sr_1_7?crid=8RP9F5QZ1RGE&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.YPQaAJESLUFdGlYkHu9vLeCy7qkUv0s-IYq3CBvoBA-8_f_9biO-J68qZiVRPmlRlkvrIMNaNMCvJwFjmcCnm1WruI_hEdJUk9UU-Ur2rh9ZjAdO0L1L3ZdjzIAN7zs1cvAztYLSou7fcb0gpUSmiUmsuwqjIn4YaVxwN1TTdVN0X_PsaCWHHQXc1ds8jPpXWuifWBM9tW3XM_AJq7CQinQlD3L0z6ZWXK91gx65iQGIHN632COTnAtgLxCtXuTEIIXwS0DjKPRlc9WsuS4vnEBavwomWnPpwmdhg7LWrSI.chgVSW5PviseXqbCA8HSZGl0-tZzZ8dxZizEhqQwDHY&dib_tag=se&keywords=shower%2Bhead%2Bwith%2Bhandheld&qid=1717934721&sprefix=shower%2Bhead%2Bwi%2Caps%2C161&sr=8-7&th=1

A bit more... Beyond the chemical component of an added, external drug (i.e., the cognitive and emotional elements). The fact that you "want to top/breed," to me speaks of a part of you that is not bottom. As i see it, the sexual spectrum is infinitely individual, and can be fluid (for some more than others). i wonder if you've been habitually bottom, and if you maybe psych yourself out, fearing you cannot get hard can keep you from getting hard. Do you wake up hard? Or do you get hard when not really thinking about it? That would indicate that, physiologically, you can get hard. If that's the case, then i'd suggest that you keep nurturing your desire to breed this guy, fantasize, masturbate, imagine, etc., fucking and breeding this guy to sorta overwhelm your habitual practice of being a bottom? i'm totally speculating here, just some thoughts.

i think it depends on why you cannot get hard? Sex is physical, but it's also hugely affected by cognition and emotion. i get rock hard when a Top talks to me about wanting to breed me, use my hole, inseminate me, piss on/in me, etc.. (my list is pretty long lol). If a guy wants me to fuck him? No response. Even when i want to try, nothing. i love Mens asses, they are one of my favorite parts of Their anatomy, a huge turn on, but i have no desire/need to penetrate. Even getting sucked. i've had FB's where i allow getting sucked, but it really does little to nothing for me. i will get sort of hard while it's happening if i don't think about it, but any focus on my penis as a penetrative organ, it goes flaccid. i do think meds like viagra can help, but i also think there can be a placebo effect in play with those drugs.

Great question and discussion, thanks for starting it Iker80. Coming out of a conservative religious traditional marriage to a woman, one of the things i questioned for a long time was social notions of masculine and feminine. i still don't have black or white definitions, a lot of shading. i tend to put my sexuality in terms of Top/bottom, Dom/sub... me being very bottom with a decided dose of sub. i do not relate to being feminine. Indeed, sexually speaking, women are a turn off. There's a 'feel' (beyond physical) i get from a woman that i have never gotten from a man, Top, bottom, Dom, sub or otherwise. i've been with a FtM transperson, who i really liked, but sexually they didn't work for me... and it wasn't their lack of a penis. To me, sex is about "cock" and giving or receiving it. And "cock" is way more than a penis to me. It's the drive, energy, need, desire to penetrate, fuck, control, possess, inseminate, impregnate. Those are all things i crave and am wired to receive. Is that "feminine?" Not fully in my experience. i question if it's even possible for a man to be feminine in the same way as a woman? i have videos of me being fucked. The first time i saw one, i was surprised at the sounds i made. i sounded pretty fem to me lol, and was a little embarrassed that i make those sounds. So there is that. Another thing is i am very responsive to my Tops energy, lust, need. Those things do not create my response, but He does evoke my response. For instance, If He wants and sees me as His "bitch," that 'submissive bitch' surfaces in me. Again, it's not role play, or me putting on for Him, to me it may be experiencing part of that expression or of Masculine/feminine where He has possession and control of me... i've had Guys Who wanted me to wear lacy panties or lingerie, similar response from me. Those are not things i do on my own, but responsively. i know my sexuality is connected to and controlled (not created) by the Man i am with... i do not know if that has fem tone, but it's never 'woman.'

i've never been straight or Bi, but tried to de-gay myself and was married to a woman for many years (for those who do not know me, the cause was religion). Straight sex fucked me up for sure during that period of my life. i did learn that sex is so much more than physical during that time, and i learned a great deal about myself and my nature. Trying to be something one is not only causes harm to all involved. i'm really glad i'm not Bi, that would seem schizophrenic to me, but then i'm at the far end of the sexual spectrum.

i don't wanna cum... it really disappoints me if a guy wants to use my penis to make me cum. i love Him controlling my need for orgasm, owning it and redirecting that need/energy towards His orgasm and cum. i wasn't sure if this was just an untenable fantasy, but i've had a FB for 4 years Who breeds me a couple of times a week... He often sucks me and i Him, but He has only ever cum in my ass and He has never made me cum in the 4 years He's been breeding me. i've learned that when i am getting regular orgasm and cum from a Man, that's all i need or want. If i havent gotten it in awhile, i'll jack and cum, but i'm always disappointed... it's not what i need or want. The only orgasm i want "guaranteed" is the one a Top has in me.

Not all that scientific, but fun to see. i suppose it's not far off, but i think where tests like this fail is in defining terms... for instance "degradee" has pretty individual and specific meaning to me. If it's done in a mean or bullying way, it totally shuts me down, definitely doesn't evoke the sub or bottom in me. On the other hand, a subtle, affectionate connection? Totally arouses and bonds me to the Guy. == Results from bdsmtest.org == 91% Submissive 76% Degradee 68% Rope bunny 66% Experimentalist 62% Boy/Girl 60% Ageplayer 59% Voyeur 50% Non-monogamist 49% Vanilla 44% Exhibitionist 35% Primal (Prey) 25% Pet 13% Slave 0% Daddy/Mommy 0% Rigger 0% Brat 0% Brat tamer 0% Degrader 0% Dominant 0% Masochist 0% Master/Mistress 0% Owner 0% Primal (Hunter) 0% Sadist 0% Switch

Four years. Ranges from Him breeding me a 3 or 4 times a week to once a month. A Bi Guy , 27 now. i love Him, sweet and passionate, vocal when i am doing oral with Him, front and back, quiet when He He fucking me... alternating from kissing my back affectionately to pounding and "bitching" me (He's a Muscle Guy"). i think He's conflicted as a Bi Guy. Talks of women, is passionate as fuck until He cums, then He's totally done, pulls out and showers, but always leaves me full of cum.

i own several cages, but for me, over time, they've become more accessories, sort of jewelry that accessorize. For me (and i suspect for many others), chastity is more than physical, though on the sexual spectrum, i figure chastity is still an individual experience. i see a "cock" as way more than a penis. Most of a "Cock" to me is the drive, desire, need, behind it, to penetrate, fuck, control, inseminate, impregnate, possess, mark, etc.. In that respect, i don't have a "cock," so caging it is a sort of false affirmation and can miss a true connection between me and the Top Who sees it. i've tried cages on, but i've never caged myself... to me (again, not making universal assertions), that feels contradictory. In a sense, my 'cage' is already in place, it's natural. But i don't really see it like i have a cock in a cage, because i don't see myself as having a "cock" (as described above). i don't really feel i have a word to describe what i have. Some call it a "clit," borrowing from heteronormative culture, but that isn't accurate. i'm not a woman, i'm not trans, i'm not effeminate (not saying anything wrong with those, but none describe me). On an infinite spectrum, i'm somewhere in between. my penis is a sex organ that can derive physical pleasure from being used, but the typical ways our cultural conditioning has of relating to it don't fit for me, so while it may feel good to me physically to orgasm from having my penis used, does not feel good or fitting psychologically. Guys Who see and want my penis as it is are the most effective cage i have experienced. i find the only time i am tempted to masturbate in order to climax is when i have not been receiving enough cock. The only "cock" i have is the one a Man uses with me. The only orgasm i want is the orgasm a Man has inside of me. When i am getting that, i don't need or want a separate one of my own, my sexual energy is focused on His Cock and Orgasm as the connection that we share and bonds us.

Beauty is great, but to me, lust and need are better. i'd much rather get bred by a Top Who lusts/needs to breed me than a good looking Top Who's just fucking yet another hole. For me? The greater the desire/need, the better the breeding. Looks are not top of the list for me.