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idk, this is such a big and complex topic, it's hard for me to sum it all up in one word: "capitalism." i think life in general, along with all the labels and points of reference we assign for the sake of communication, is always fluid ("evolving"), and the only static state is death... and one can debate if there really is such an absolute state, or if death is just another state of evolution? What is/are the qualifier/s of "entitlement?" That's an honest question, not intended to be a challenge. This is my experience in the American capitalist system. i can see the argument that i grew up advantaged as a white male. i grew up the only non-hispanic in a working class neighborhood. my neighbors were all trades people, and they were evidently progressing. my dad was the child of off the boat immigrants, lost his mom the first year after his birth and was (literally) farmed out to his grandmother and raised on a farm with his grandmother and uncles till he was 12. At that point, his aging and dying grandmother sent him to in Los Angeles with a father and stepmother who he'd really never met or known. His dad tried to molest him, stepmom intervened, but his dad required him to quit school and get a job, so he only ever had an 8th grade education. He provided a life for me that he never had, one where i was secure and provided for until i graduated high school. i had a job from the age of 14, and my dad built a strong 'work ethic' into me (lol, made me do a lot of labor around the house from age 7). He considered me an adult who would make his own way after i graduated HS. i had worked and paid for my own car while in HS, and at 17 went to Canada to bible college. He loaned me the money for my first semester, and that was as far as i got. When i came home at semester break, i found he and my mom had sold my car, and a lot of my childhood belongings, to reimburse himself for the school loan. So, obviously, there is a "God" as evidenced by the fact i only went to a semester of bible college. Still, i was religiously conditioned and became a member of a cult is an effort to not be gay (long story). Got married, to a woman, and worked in the system managing to make my way into executive management over time. i built and ran a business for an absentee owner for 21 years. Took a nearly bankrupt business and 21 years later the owner came to me and informed me he'd sold the business, which was then a 14m a year business. It changed hands the next day. At the same time, i had finally processed myself out of religious conditioning and was separating from my then wife. As a sideline to running and building a business for another, i also flipped houses for 18 years and made a small fortune and was debt free at age 43, with a home valued at half a million, owned free and clear, on 31 acres of 100 year old hardwood growth. The sale of the business, and my divorce, all happened about the same time, and my former wife got everything (another long story). But at 52, i started over in every sense of the word. i found another job running a business for another person, but lost that job during the 2008 economic downturn. That turned out to be a good thing. i lost the job on a Friday, went to check out a private nursing school on Monday, took an entrance exam for that school on Wednesday, and was accepted on Thursday. i was the first person in my family to earn a college degree (BSN).. at age 56. Because of my prior position and making six figures, i had to take school loans at a very high interest rate (9%) to pay my way, even though i was jobless and my former wife had gotten everything materially that i had worked my whole life for (not whining, that is what happened though). i wracked up over 100K in student loans and got my first job as a critical care nurse making less than 30k a year. Essentially, i've worked my ass off that last 12 years, the student loans were paid in full 4 years ago and i will have my current house paid for in another 2 years. This is not an argument for the American system of capitalism, just a short summary of my own experience. Granted, i've worked really hard, and still do, but i do not resent having to make the effort... i'm even grateful (to whom or what, i know not) for what i have and have been able to do. Oh, and i'm a huge Star Trek fan. And i have no idea why i wrote all of this? Maybe because it's my life in this system and i can only speculate how things might have gone in another system. i'm glad i wasn't born in North Korea, but i do think the French, Spanish, Scandinavia, have some things going on that we are missing out on, and i appreciate the discussion.

i think it's near impossible to truly know "what is it with some people." We cannot honestly substantiate a 'ghost.' i think we can learn more about our self than we can "some people," when we have the kind of encounters that we all seem to experience online. There are all sorts of theories that have been bandied about on BZ for years (do a BZ search, this is about the bazillionth thread on this topic lol). Some of the theories: 1) The other guy chickened out or decided you weren't what he wanted last minute 2) The other guy never had any intention of hooking in the first place 3) The other guy got so excited that he jerked off a bit beyond his edge and came, entering a refractory period that you became a victim of 4) A combination of any of the above 5) ________________________________ While any one of those is speculative since we cannot get into another persons head to find out the real reason/s (and even when they tell us, we cannot be certain they are not altering the truth). i think it can tell us something about our self when we consider the reason we attribute to them ghosting us.

Just left... my sweet fb. Damn if he hasn't gone versatile on me, fucked him for the fourth time today, and i really have to psych myself to do it. Just isn't in my wiring, but i care about him and he's bred me 2-3 times a week for going on 5 years now, so it's a really different dynamic. i do it because he wants it, not because i do, so he's sorta tapped into my desire to please. Everything on my body works, but i only get rock hard when a Top shows His desire to penetrate and breed me, or sometimes if He is obviously enjoying getting sucked. my fb gets really verbal when i'm sucking him, really enjoys it, and gets into face fucking me and i can feel His lust and i get hard, and lately when that happens, he presents, so i go for it, but don't stay hard very long, just doesn't turn me on. Weird. It always ends with him breeding me though, which is the only time he's not verbal, and as soon as he pulls out, he hits the shower, so i tend to wonder how he feels once he comes? Still, grateful for him. Our relationship is just fb, we have little else in common, but it's been good.

i'm a critical care nurse in a hospital. i estimate that about 85% of my patients are in the hospital with diseases related to what we eat. While a lot of the symptoms show up as we age, they are often the result of a lifetime. The good news is, the body is very resilient and, given the opportunity, can heal itself. A lot of what is being discussed in this thread is related to diet. This is a great evidence based resource for any who may be interested.

Love, love, love John Oliver. The world needs more of him, and it's encouraging to me how many fans he has. To me, he represents a social counterbalance . Here's a great interview he did on 60 minutes.

"President Donald Trump floated the idea Wednesday of returning some of the savings recouped by Elon Musk’s Department of Government Efficiency to U.S. citizens, with an equal amount going to pay down the federal debt. "There's even under consideration a new concept where we give 20% of the DOGE savings to American citizens, and 20% goes to paying down debt, because the numbers are incredible," Trump said." "DOGE is currently planned to exist only through July 4, 2026, after which the organization will be dissolved." "Trump has not clarified what his administration would do with the remaining 60% of DOGE savings if he moves forward with the plan." [think before following links] https://www.foxnews.com/politics/trump-floating-returning-20-doge-savings-american-people

i think i must have done a poor job explaining my thoughts, some almost seem to take umbrage at the suggestion. i get that, because i know many here revere Dom's. i see the desires that come along with being dom, or sub for that matter, are naturally wired in. i don't think someone just chooses to have those desires, though i think they can be refined, modified, etc.. To me, guys like Trump and Musk are good examples of what happens to a person with dom wiring when they don't develop or mature. i don't think having dom or sub wiring automatically confers respectable attributes or that the person possessing that nature is intrinsically good or bad. On the other hand, i get that there are those who don't see Trump or Elon as "dom." Honestly, they are not my idea of "dom" either. Sort of like a bird that never learned how to fly isn't much of a bird. i was looking at this as nuanced.

Damn, did i write "dom?" i meant to write "dumb". Never mind.

Yes, to all of the above, i think this is well put and explained. To me, Trump is an example of a person with a dom nature who hasn't developed or matured. He's a quintessential bully, stunted. i think that there are many like him, both sub and dom and all the infinite variations on the human spectrum, who respond to the illusion of strength and confidence because they relate or something of their own stunted nature is sparked on an unconscious level. Not a universal thing that can be applied to all, but thinking it could be a factor for some. i count myself as having a sub side to my nature, but have encountered more than a few guys identifying as "dom" who would disagree because i did not respond as they wished or expected. As a kid, i attracted plethora bullies until i learned how to not present as a faggot. Retrospectively, i realize i was pretty sub in my nature and presentation as kid. i believe attributes like dom, sub, etc., are wired in, part of ones nature. What one does with what they have can be worlds apart. i've also come to believe that some of those bullies were probably guys that simply did not know how to deal with their own nature, who did not trod the path of attaining self-knowledge and developing attributes like character or compassion.

i've been thinking of this for awhile, thought i'd throw it out for discussion. This is a little tongue-in-cheek, and a little serious too. To me, Trump qualifies as a type of dom. Not one i measure as attractive or my idea of an intelligent dom, but to me he has the energy and nature of a dom person. What i have wondered is weather this, in part, played a part in his election? Simply put, i wonder how many people with sub type natures voted for him because they were somewhat dommed by him, and possibly some with dom wiring related to him on some level? i also have my bowl of popcorn waiting for the outcome of Trump choosing Musk, also another guy who strikes me as have dom wiring, because both also seem to have alpha aspirations. In a sense, both have realized those aspirations and continue to pursue higher heights. This is of course all just fun speculation. i do think dom/sub is part of human nature though, and have long seen it in Trump, but just recently considered how that may have been reflected in the voter population.

Yesterday. my regular FB, usually 2-3+ times a week. As i've mentioned, about a year ago, he expressed interest in being penetrated and fucked. The last 8 months or so we always start out with me sucking him and eating his ass. i'm not usually into rimming, that 'feels' top to me, but when i do it, he is so verbal and expressive, obviously enjoying it, so the sub part of me kicks in and gives him what he wants and the sub part of me is fed, if not the bottom part. He also likes to suck me sometimes. We've been fucking for about 5 years now, and no matter how many times i've explained that i'm "total bottom,' with all that means to me, he just doesn't get it. He's sucking me yesterday and looks up: "do you like that?" and i just smile and say: "feels good." And physically it does, just doesn't connect with me psychologically. But sex has so many layers, eh? He is obviously enjoying it so much that i end up getting hard. i've never cum that way with him. Actually, out of 100's of fucks, i have never cum once with him. It always ends with him breeding my ass (except one time he came in my mouth, but only once). Yesterday, after sucking me awhile, he gets on all fours and wants his ass eaten. That's usually about 2/3 of the time these days, and then always finishes with him fucking and breeding me. But i always feel like he wants more when i am eating his ass, so yesterday i was hard, so i lubed and fingered him to open him, then slid in and fucked. He so obviously loved it, again, so verbal and expressive. Then he asks if he can ride me, so i acquiesce... at least he's on top that way lol. Well, i can see his face and hear all his ecstasy, he was really liking it. i was married to a woman much of my life and trained myself never to cum until my partner has, so i didn't cum, not sure he even wanted that. But after some time of him riding me, he fucked and bred me.

Guantanamo seems his primary choice to send people he wants to relocate.

Our current knowledge and response to both Ebola and Covid are based on antiviral research because of HIV. "One undeniable fact is that most of our current knowledge on viral and antiviral science comes from the study of HIV. The science of antiviral research was well established when HIV/AIDS appeared as a major viral disease in early 1980s. An increase of antiviral therapy studies with no equal took place when the first cases of HIV were reported. " [think before following links] https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S166557961500037X

"At the direction of the Trump administration, the federal Department of Health and Human Services and its agencies are purging its websites of information and data on a broad array of topics — from adolescent health to LGBTQ+ rights to HIV. Several webpages from Centers for Disease Control and Prevention with references to LGBTQ+ health were no longer available. A page from the HHS Office for Civil Rights outlining the rights of LGBTQ+ people in health care settings was also gone as of Friday. The website of the National Institutes of Health's Office for Sexual & Gender Minority Research Office disappeared. (Most of these pages could still be viewed through the Internet Archive.)" [think before following links] https://www.npr.org/sections/shots-health-news/2025/01/31/nx-s1-5282274/trump-administration-purges-health-websites

Research from Rutgers University with excerpt and link to the published study at the bottom. "TikTok algorithms promote the Chinese government’s narratives on hot-button issues such as Tibet, Taiwan and the Uyghurs — while suppressing content critical of Beijing, a new study has found. When users search for terms on TikTok — owned by Chinese company ByteDance — that are sensitive to the ruling Chinese Communist Party, or CCP, such as “Tibet” and “Taiwan,” the results show much more content that is pro-China than content that is critical of China, researchers found. Compared to similar searches on Instagram and YouTube, the results showed a pronounced pro-Beijing bias, according to the study, titled "The CCP's Digital Charm Offensive," by the Network Contagion Research Institute, or NCRI, at Rutgers University. The findings, “while not definitive proof of state orchestration, present compelling and strong circumstantial evidence of TikTok’s covert content manipulation,” wrote NCRI co-founder Joel Finkelstein in the report." [think before following links] https://www.rfa.org/english/news/tibet/tiktok-promotes-pro-china-bias-on-tibet-taiwan-uyghurs-study-08162024102338.html "In December 2023, the Network Contagion Research Institute (NCRI) published an initial report that found a strong possibility of content on TikTok being either amplified or suppressed based on its alignment with the interests of the Chinese Government. The report concluded with a warning: “should future research find that TikTok users exhibit attitudes and assessments of world events aligned with these information distortions, democracies will need to consider appropriate countermeasures to protect information integrity and mitigate potential real-world impacts.” These findings underscored the urgency of investigating the specific mechanisms and broader implications of potential algorithmic manipulations." [think before following links] https://networkcontagion.us/wp-content/uploads/NCRI-Report_-The-CCPs-Digital-Charm-Offensive.pdf

"Donald Trump issued an executive order rescinding two orders that Biden signed on his first day in office four years ago, one advancing racial equity for under-served communities and another combating discrimination based on gender identity or sexual orientation." “As of today, it will henceforth be the official policy of the United States government that there are only two genders, male and female,” the president said during his inaugural address." [think before following links] https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/jan/20/trump-executive-order-gender-sex

To me, sex is a holistic connection between me and another guy. i think we can connect with people intellectually, emotionally and physically, and for me the ultimate sex is when all three of those are in play, the chemistry is right, and we connect in all three of those places mutually. A step further is when all of those elements get exercised and experienced with one particular guy over and over and the connection becomes a bond. i've come to see that as the 'real' bond of "bondage." i see a 'Top' as someone wired to penetrate, fuck, mold, create, inseminate, impregnate, possess, control, _________ and a bottom as having the corresponding needs/desire to be penetrated, fucked, molded, created, inseminated, impregnated, possessed, controlled, __________. The wonder of it all is we are all individuals and can experience all of these things, or some but not others, in varying amounts and levels of intensity. For instance, to me, a Man Who not only wants to penetrate and fuck me physically, but that also extends as a desire/need to penetrate and fuck me mentally, or emotionally, or both. The variations, combinations, levels of intensity can be infinite. i also perceive myself as having a sort of womb that only a Top can penetrate, impregnatie, possess, etc.. That there is a mutual need, yin/yang. i see it expressed in nature at the most basic level of atoms, positively and negatively charged elements that naturally attract, connect and sometimes bond to form ("create") something other, additional, while still remaining their individual self.

Here's some more substantial benches, butt expensive. [think before following links] https://pleasurefactorys.myshopify.com/collections/benches Here's a pic of a wood, saw horse design [think before following links] https://metro.co.uk/2018/01/17/bdsm-enthusiasts-heres-where-you-can-get-handmade-sex-furniture-7237039/ i wonder if a child sized picnic table could not be padded/modified as a cheap alternative? [think before following links] https://www.homedepot.com/pep/Costway-Blue-Kids-Picnic-Table-Kids-Dining-Table-Set-for-4-Wooden-Bench-Seats-Backyard-HCST02837/332111074?mtc=SHOPPING-BF-HDH-BNG-D59H-059_034_INT_FURN-NA-MULTI-NA-PLA-HDH-HDH-NA-NA-NBR-NA-NA-NA-All_Subclass_New&cm_mmc=SHOPPING-BF-HDH-BNG-D59H-059_034_INT_FURN-NA-MULTI-NA-PLA-HDH-HDH-NA-NA-NBR-NA-NA-NA-All_Subclass_New-11561183930-107925097170-2361450124465&msclkid=fd271756dc8e179b4b70702fbc92e593&gclid=fd271756dc8e179b4b70702fbc92e593&gclsrc=3p.ds

Speaking as a total bottom, it's not really a matter of elected or unelected, it's more about the dickwad.

Agreed. Given the original question, i'm assuming it's not the Top having and orgasm inside of the bottom that the bottom is concerned about, but the question is having the Tops resulting "cum" inside? I.e. a top wearing a condom may still have his orgasm inside of the bottom, but the seed is contained in the condom and doesn't go inside of the the bottom. For me, a Tops orgasm and cum are different, though connected, and i want Him to plant them both inside of me. The bottom who doesn't want semen inside of him, in my opinion, has no right to expect bare sex. Anyone with the internet can learn in less than a minute that a bottom is at risk of infection from pre cum that often a part of fucking, though quantity varies from Top to Top. So, if the bottom in question is not totally ignorant, i think he should not expect to have bare sex with anyone he doesn't accept the risk of fluids inside of him as part of the connection As for the Top? i agree with topblkmale. If a bottom doesn't want a Breeding Males seed then to me, His cock doesn't belong in that bottom. To me, a fuck without at least the potential of breeding, is not fucking. To me, the whole point is breeding... though i define "breeding" in a more detailed fashion than physical. For instance, a Top's desire to open, mold, penetrate, control, possess, etc., to me, are all forms of breeding... but that's another topic.

He just left. my sweet FB, usually 3 to 4 times a week. He wasn't feeling well today, said He'd been sick the last couple of days, probably food poisoning from how He described it. It didn't have and effect on His breeding though, even got a little vocal which He doesn't usually do when He is fucking. He pretty much always fucks hard, He's been weight lifting since He was 12 and it seems every single muscle on His body is hard, so fucking for Him has a lot of muscle behind it. But He seemed to be feeling particularly like He wanted to breed deep, even said: "I may need to come back for seconds tonight." i love when He slams deep when He shoots, i love when His seed goes past the curve... love being inseminated.

my whole body is pretty much an erogenous zone. A massage for me is foreplay, and sex for me is being bred. That said, a massage that leaves me horny is a really good erotic massage in my book. As a total bottom, i don't really want to orgasm when i have sex with a Guy. my "happy ending" is when He has an orgasm inside of me. Touch, from a Guy, for me, is about accessing, manipulating and ramping up my desire and need for Him. For me, being in that continual state of desire is a good thing, as long as i am receiving a Mans orgasm often enough.

As does fundamentalist Christianity. To me, it's more the mindset (emotional set?) of the espousing the religion, than the actual religion itself that makes for the bigger differences. After i stepped away from religion (fundamentalist Christianity in my case), i later ended up in a "Christian" church (to help them start a farmers market). The church was 150 years old, as were probably 70% of the congregants, and they voted unanimously to be a gay open and affirming church. As protest, they refused to perform any weddings until gays could get married legally. They were not fundamentalist in their approach, but still identified as "Christian," and they were accepting of me, not only as a gay guy, but also as someone who freely and openly debated many of their beliefs. After leaving religion, i also read the book Infidel by Ayaan Hirs Ali, who was raised in fundamentalist Islam. i was struck by the similarities between things and ways she was taught, to my own. i know people who espouse Islam and Judaism who are openly accepting of gay people. i know atheists who are just as hateful as many fundamentalists i have known. The US democracy long had laws against homosexuals, i was arrested and charged with a felony for asking an undercover vice cop if he wanted to fuck me (using a 100 year old 'sodomy' law). The state AG in office at the time was a rabid anti gay and had directed those under him to go for blood. i think there are, and have always been anti gay people in every corner and walk of life. I think those in power at the time largely set the stage for the performers, so, we will see.

You do realize that the stuff in yellow and quotes is an excerpt from an article? The writer is not here to respond.