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Thanks for posting. I think many on here dont understand that even regular STD's can be a royal bitch. Im not saying we are all going to stop playing bare, but they can really suck too.

Hows it going Pop!

I have a feeling you might be having a psychosomatic response to certain things. Generics MUST be made in a way that they are chemically identical and metabolized the same way, or they are not thee same drug. The only difference in that could be coatings, fillers, and binders which do not effect the chemical mechanism of the drug, but might effect things like indigestion, or stomach reaction to the medication. For example the generic prilosec may take a bit longer to work (but will always be effective within the same specified window as the name brand drug. A good example of this is the multitude of different formulations of acetaminophen/paracetamol/aspirin/ibuprofen, etc etc. Advil, can come out with "liquigels" that may claim faster delivery, and it may very well be true, but its still the same drug. The drug industry and VERY tightly controlled pretty much all around the world. The main exception of course being China. Even in India drugs are highly regulated to the point that it is considered that india has some of the best drug makers in the world, despite mainly producing generics.

Its Funny, you say you are "healthy" but you have nothing to back that up except your knowledge of not having a known opportunistic infection, and still being alive.... Right. I've had friends and relatives that have had SERIOUS health problems that also had no symptoms. the only thing your statements here mean is that "ignorance is bliss" for you. BTW there have been plenty of people like you in the past that were perfectly fine until they dropped dead from a VERY minor illness. Back to the statements from the OP. I ignore people like that. I trust in science because science can be proven. Its not perfect, but its the best thing that we have.

Note: This is really old, but it popped up in my feed at the bottom. With that said, I really feel this is a great idea. Iits one thing that can be done to really stop HIV in its tracks. As I have said before I would go one step further and make them mandatory, and tie them to educational services and taxes. Even if they were anonymous and administered by a third party that did not tell the government I would be okay with that because then at least the people infected would know their status, and could be referred to governmental agencies if they desire. I know that many people would consider this a huge invasion in privacy, and I would fully admit that its drastic. However with TASP, and PrEP, there really is a chance now that if real action is taken we could see the next generation not having to worry about HIV. Testing and knowledge is paramount to making TASP and PrEP a reality.

bingo, its up to you rawtop, but with all the new domains coming online I think what you are going to see is just more people using searches to find what they want instead of the actually domain address.

Bingo, you will work it out in time. Also counseling will help. I used to in a slight way, but it had more to do with risk of HIV. Now with PrEP, I dont feel bad at all.

overpriced? maybe, but its honestly so unique that I cant say that it is overpriced. Not enough sex? well again, its about expectations. Its not a bathhouse, so if you just put yourself ass up in a room you will probably be disappointed. People in Fire Island like to be social, and also love sex, so if you are social, and want to hookup, It will happen, alot. The Attitude is much less than NYC, but then again there are many people from NYC there, so its somewhere in the middle.

Ohhh take me with you! Usually I have some friends that get a quarter or half share in a place during the summer, not sure about this summer. Is it overpriced? yes, Is it worth every penny? yes. To the OP, yes the "hotel ciel" or botel is a shithole, and most people wont stay at it. the best thing to do is to find a person you know with a share, or try and look for someone who wants to rent out their share of a house for the week/weekend. Many of the places are also not fancy, but comfortable. Many have pools which is great for hanging out at when you are not at the beach. What I love about Fire Island is how freeing it is. I didn't wear my trunks for the majority of the time I was there, and it didnt matter. Also unlike the scene in the village/Chelsea/hells kitchen, etc. I find the majority of the people in fire island to be much more laid back. Cherry grove is also worth a walk too, and is really nice in its own way. Ironically I have been there many times and only had sex once. For whatever reason it just isnt a priority when i am there, and Id rather just enjoy myself in other ways. With that said sex is EVERYWHERE. Also make friends with other people!! its a lot more fun to hop from house to house than to just sit at home once things die down at night. Most people are pretty open about other people visiting, but be warned, because space in bedrooms is at a premium, many people wont let you stay overnight. Its not personal, its just the way it is. There really isn't another place like it on earth that I know of. Its so detached from reality that it really is its own little slice of heaven. You get a tad of the BS attitude from people in NYC, but not that much, and I have generally found people to be friendly. You also get the whole gamut of people there, from young twinks to older daddies and bears. Personally I *LOVE* Fire Island, and hope I get back this summer. As others have noted, bring bug spray, lube, and condoms (if you do that, which I am speaking to the wrong crowd here, lol) Otherwise all you really need is swim gear, a couple shirts/shorts, sunscreen, and whatever consumables you desire. On that note, bring your liquor and food from the mainland unless you want to pay 1.5-2x the cost at the pines pantry.

Or it could have just went away on its own.. As others have said, it could be the lube you were using. Also For me, I have had guys with a hairy ass really irritate my dick. Usually its when they shave it, and there is stubble, but sometimes even non-shaven has irritated my dick, depending on how i was fucking. just a thought. One last note, finish all antibiotics! even if it has gone away.

mmm okay how about he uses that thing, and I get to turn him over.. YUMMY. Also If you are REALLY planning on getting fucked, I would suggest not eating the day before. your intestines are always processing if there is new stuff to process. Therefore if you introduce new food into your system, everything else "down the line" is getting moved further back. Everyone is also different in how they process different foods. Some foods will go right through some people, while that same food can take forever in others. Everyone is different. If you dont eat the day prior, it keeps new food from entering your gut, while the food you already ate processes through. For most people, most foods will take about a day to go through, but again that varies. One word of caution about excessive douching. It really is hard on your intestines and rectum, and causes a fair bit of irritation, so you only want to do whats needed. Also douching leaves your rectum more susceptible to infection because it strips away protective mucous, so you want a to leave a few hours between finishing douching, and sex.

yeah I doubt its low testosterone...true low T ratings are fairly rare. You porobably wont like my answer but its the most likely one... Its all in your head. You may have had trouble getting hard once, for any number of reasons, but almost certainly not an ongoing physical issue. However because you have that memory of that issue, its something you always remember, and continue going back to that same memory when thinking about sex, thus it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Very few people have a physical manifestation of ED at your age, and even when guys are older, percentage wise its not that high. I dont have a solution for you, but its going to be something along the lines of stop worrying about it, your dick is fine.

Did you tell him you were HIV+ If you did, then its no issue, there was consent. If you didnt tell him, or lied to him that's a whole other story.

Agree 100%, I dont think ANYTHING in sex should be one sided. With that said, undetectable HIV+ guys on meds deserve treatment, because they are protecting others by staying healthy. As I have said before I always believe in disclosure, but an undetectable bottom guy not saying anything when the top doesn't either? Ehh there is so little harm there I wouldn't care. The one undetectable top/vers guy I am seeing right now was very hesitant at first to top me, I then explained PrEP and such and it put his mind at ease, but he still seems a bit nervous about it...which I am not, lol. This is why I believe there needs to be mandatory testing, combined with education programs that are realistic, and not just about condom nazi's. All of the education programs now enforce the same message, If you slip up once it can ruin your life!!! It doesn't work, and what really doesn't work about it is that people will play raw a bit and be okay giving them a false sense of security, they then play raw with anyone who says "Im clean" or DDF here, until they test positive. If they were more realistic and said stuff like; "yeah you probably wont get HIV the first time you have sex, or even the second time, but you may get warts which hurt like a bitch to get removed, so try and wrap it up. You may also want to consider PrEP if you are having sex with high risk people such as gay men, it reduces your chance of getting HIV even in cases of condom breakage or faliure to use. Get tested for HIV often, its quick and easy, and testing makes sure you and your partners are protected from HIV and other STI's. obviously that's quite abridged, but instead of being confrontational an nagging, its just about basic stuff you can do to protect yourself.

I would define stealthing as the deliberate act of trying to go against the other partners wishes in order to attempt transfer of bodily fluids. I would argue that a bottom who purposely sabotages condoms, and then purposely fuck in a manner where it is difficult for the top to move is stealthing. its not traditional, but I could see it happening. I don't really agree with don't ask don't tell, but I also don't see it as stealthing. IMO for stealthing to occur you have to directly go against the other parties wishes. if the other party says nothing, I wouldn't classify that as stealthing. As its been discussed in other threads I do this a person who is HIV, especially those not on meds should disclose, but thats another matter not for this thread.

I think this is the biggest issue, although in reality even if both parties are neg stealthing can still occur. I think the severity of stealthing has levels, some of which IMO are criminal, some of which are just kind of rude. The highest risk of transmission and the most lies come first, and would eventually go down to stuff like undetectable bottom not disclosing status, in a status not discussed situation, or even less. IMO for undetectable guys on meds because the transmission risk has been shown to be so low now, it really does fall into a much different and lower category than the highest risk stealthing acts. I would actually argue that guys who consistently fuck raw, and never get tested should be put in a higher "category" than undetectable guys. Its pretty simple, the most risk to the other person, and the more reprehensible the act the worse the case of stealthing is. So the guy who is poz, knows it, has never been treated, has a high VL, and other STI's, but lies to purposely try to infect a neg guy who is trying to be safe, Thats awful, and criminal IMO. But the neg guy on PrEP who has consensual raw sex with another guy but doesnt pull out when he asks, not so bad IMO. Both are stealthing but in vastly different ways.

Undoubtedly many are. However, lately I have been questioning how much of the "fantasy" may actually be real. I am not saying that most guys lie, but I do think that in the heat of the moment it is entirely possible that some guys may not tell the truth. Also I cant help but think that there may be a very small subset of guys who get off on actually infecting other men.

I just went to my doc today for my regular 3 month check (still fine and neg) and talked to my doctor a bit. When I went on it about 10 months ago, he said he has written a couple scripts at that point. Now he said, and I quote "We are handing it out like candy" lol. They have a brochure for it in their office too. Im glad to see its catching on.

Thank you! rawtop should sticky this to the top. When I started PrEP close to a year ago now, even the gay doctor I go to was somewhat unfamiliar with it. Now they have a link on their website, hahaha

I agree, but PrEP is not widely discussed and in some areas unless they are reading medical journals everyday (which I would venture most GP's are not) they probably wont know about it, and will also assume the worst. IE the medication is extremely toxic (its not) or that the person may have all sorts of other health risks. Because of this they refer to ID docs because they dont want to get sued. One of the main reasons many doctors are leaving the field of GP is that they have sky high insurance costs, and they payoff isnt there anymore. They also dont want to be acused of making a mistake so they refer more often to specialists. I agree it would be nice to have an intro to PrEP handbook, and IMO it would be a good start, but frankly there are much bigger health concerns all throughout north america. Diabetes, heart disease, cancer, etc. I know as gay men we see PrEP as a pet cause, but frankly I am much more concerned about diabetes for the country. Hell someone quoted on here, a doctor who said if he had to choose between HIV and diabetes he would be hard pressed to pick diabetes because its much harder to deal with.

Well to be honest, you dont need anyone other than a GP. Any doctor can prescribe PrEP. You may have to print out some info and give it to them, and be prepared for backlash, but they can do it.

very different. *for hookups, I will go to them, or they dont stay over. *for fuckbuddies, either works, they can stay over, and I enjoy more than sex with them usually. *dating is something completely different that involves going out, doing things, and having non sexual experiences together. With that said I enjoy sleeping with another person, (sleeping not sex)

increase the post edit time. I get that you dont want it to be always open, but I think 20-30 mins would be great. I often see too many mistakes in mine, and others post that I think could be avoided by increasing the edit time.

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This is true.... stay away from fucking till you get on it, lol. I just recently reconnected with a guy who I gave some info about PrEP to back in October. He had just got tested and was going to go back to his doctor and get it. Well he didnt get around to it until Jan, at which point his test came back HIV+ :-(