Jump to content

BootmanLA

Senior Members
 View Profile  See their activity

  • Posts

    4,053

  • Joined

  • Last visited

  • Days Won

    6

 Content Type 

Everything posted by BootmanLA

  1. BootmanLA
    A therapist is the person you should discuss this with. Here on BZ, you are going to get a lot of "oh man that's hot, you should totally put the moves on him" crappy advice. Others will tell you that you need to get over that. Some will be quietly disgusted but won't say anything because they don't want to appear negative. The reality is, you need to figure out what it is that's driving this, and that's something you're unlikely to figure out without a trained therapist who can work this out with you. Sorry to be blunt, but this is the sort of thing for which there are no shortcuts, as you've already discovered.
  2. BootmanLA
    I agree with all ten, but I would note that I *suspect* there are large numbers of people out there who would flat-out disagree with the first point - that what they do affects others. Or at the very least, large numbers of people view that as "a problem for the others" - that is, it's incumbent on those who are worried about infection to do whatever it takes, including, if necessary, staying home 100% of the time in isolation, rather than expecting other people to alter their actions in any way. I think that's the key divide right now, between those who feel a sense of responsibility to the community at large and its weakest members to take reasonable precautions, and those who feel any limitations on what they can do are an intolerable restriction on their freedom.
  3. BootmanLA
    I'm not sure this makes sense. You tout PrEP (yay!) but then your profile says you're a poz bottom on meds. Being on meds largely means you don't have to worry about whether your partner(s) are on PrEP or not.
  4. BootmanLA
    I suspect that some are indeed time wasters, but also some people, despite just wanting sex, want that sex to be with someone that they actually might kind of like. And there's nothing wrong with that; just as there's nothing wrong with believing you don't need to know anything more about the guy than that he's willing to fuck, and now. But that's those are the kind of things that have to be made clear. So: if your profile says "I'm not interested in idle chat; I'm ready to fuck, so let's not waste time with pleasantries", you're in the clear. You made your interests known, and those who can't follow your lead can be safely ignored. On the other hand, if you HAVEN'T been that explicit, then you can't blame them for feeling you out to see what sort of guy you are.
  5. BootmanLA
    I would add this about New Orleans: it's a tourist destination town, and as such, it can be lively and busy when there are lots of tourists (major holidays, especially gay-centric ones like Mardi Gras, Southern Decadence, etc.), but it's not the same city when it's a typical mid-week evening or even a weekend in a slow period. That may not have always been the case, but remember that New Orleans has shrunk in size dramatically over the last few decades. At its peak, the city had over 625,000 residents. But today, most especially thanks to Hurricane Katrina, the population is only about 390,000, or less than 2/3 what it once was. Moreover, the character of the city has changed considerably too; pre-Katrina, the city had a very large LGBTQ population, with many of "our people" living in the French Quarter and the Marigny, where much of the city's gay culture thrived. Those neighborhoods have become dramatically more expensive and many former renters have been priced out of the market, especially by people buying former rental properties and turning them into short-term rentals (aka AirBnB and the like). As the community dispersed, so has the "local" culture. The bars are (mostly) still there, they still do good business, and so forth, but it's not what it once was.
  6. BootmanLA
    This is only relevant if you haven't showered/bathed since you "let to [sic] spunk run over them". Assuming you wash regularly, this should not be an ongoing problem. Sounds to me like (a) you like this, (b) other guys like this, so.... who says anything is "to be done"? If you like it, keep it going. If you don't, bathe. This is not rocket science.
  7. BootmanLA
    For me the best gifts have always been experiences, not objects, as well.
  8. BootmanLA
    Though I will say I wasn't in a fraternity myself, I was friendly with a number of frat boys in college, and while the ratty couch part may be realistic, the boys (in my experience) are not. At least here in the south, fraternities are much more about money and status, even when it's "rich good old boy", than about pure debauchery. Even back when I was in college, shortly after the dinosaurs were wiped out, the vast majority of frat boys didn't smoke, and with the declines in smoking in general, I suspect the percentage today is markedly lower; but it seems to be a huge fetish for the Fraternity X creators. I also realize that today tattoos are more accepted at various levels of society but the kind of "graffiti art" tats that are so common on tweaking porn boys today would still never be found in any fraternity I know. And speaking of, while most frat boys were no stranger to drink, and many were known to use some of the party substances of the day (mostly coke and the occasional pill), the meth-head aesthetic prevent in FratX videos is so far removed from the fraternities I saw (and still see)
  9. BootmanLA
    To expound on this a bit: I remember a scene in a Jeff Stryker compilation that was so incredibly silly and poorly made I don't know how anyone ever even got hard watching it. Stryker was portraying an "Indian" (their term) who rescued a white man who'd been staked down spread-eagled in the hot sun by someone (presumably, some "savage" natives), and took the man back to his cave encampment. Ostensibly this cave (which was pristine - no dirt, no loose rocks, almost perfectly smooth floor) was where he lived; there was a "campfire" but no signs of any means of cooking or food; and despite being a cave with no visible entrance for daylight was nonetheless as bright as a modern office building thanks to the lighting used. (The part that made it really laughable was the execrable dialogue - "Suck this red man's cock white boy" and the like - but it MIGHT have been almost passable if they'd managed the cave idea a little better.
  10. BootmanLA
    Obedience is not the same thing as consent. Sex without consent is rape. Period.
  11. BootmanLA
    I can understand the chuckle. But good porn often is good in part because of attention to details, and sets can be part of that (and conversely, bad porn can be worse because of the sets). I'd imagine that the proliferation of amateur porn, there are fewer "behind the scenes" jobs like this available, though.
  12. BootmanLA
    Yes. It's called rape.
  13. BootmanLA
    Not that I disagree, but... I think you're off on the age range. I was born in 1963, so in 1981, when Reagan took office, I turned 18. I'm much closer to 60 now than 50, so those of us in our 50's - particularly anyone who didn't come out right at 18 - also got those condom messages. I remember the first gay student organization meeting I went to, in 1983 (we didn't have a group until then) that was already emphasizing safer sex practices.
  14. BootmanLA
    1. Black people represent approximately 14% of the population of the United States. The percentage in other countries, of course, will differ dramatically. 2. I sincerely doubt that what percentage of your sexual partners have been black somehow affects the prevalence of HIV in the black community at large, and it's first-degree navel gazing to suggest that "we as bottoms" do anything in particular simply because you do.
  15. BootmanLA
    I can't answer definitively, but I'd guess it's like most jobs: by word of mouth and making a connection.
  16. BootmanLA
    I remember that too, but that was back in an era when most hookups took place after going to the bars/clubs, etc. and not from apps. I think partly it was a reaction to wanting to be among "more of our kind" after a day or days of being surrounded by biological family, some of whom were probably hostile to indifferent at best. (And for some, it was a chance to be around "more of our kind" after a day alone because the bio family rejected them long ago.) To some extent, as more of us have come out and families (broadly speaking) have become more accepting, there may be less demand for that need to socialize with our kind.
  17. BootmanLA
    You ask a pretty complex set of questions here that could have any number of answers. There are some generic, trite ones some of us might supply (i.e. you like bondage/restraint), but the truth is, if you want to explore what this means *TO YOU* I'd suggest getting a good therapist who specializes in fetish fantasies. A bunch of random theories spouted by BZ members are unlikely to prove definitive answers.
  18. BootmanLA
    The point is, there is literally no statistical evidence to support your notion that "some physical difference does exist". And you say "have fun" as though casual racism is a fun event. Though it's good to know you're showing you're a hypocrite with one face you'd show if you were "running for the councel [sic]" and then the more honest one you show here.
  19. BootmanLA
    It's a racist myth that blacks "dabble in recreational drug use more". Drug usage rates are pretty consistent across races; the KIND of drugs used may vary, though, and criminal sentences (naturally) tend to reflect that. White people, for instance, are far more likely to use powder cocaine than crack, black people the opposite (or at least, that was the case for a long time, not sure about current stats); but for decades a particular amount of crack had a minimum sentence up to 100 times as long as the same amount of powder form. One big reason that the powers that be keep wringing their hands over "the opioid epidemic" is that so many of the addicts who've gotten caught up with them are white (and poor).
  20. BootmanLA
    I think you're correct that "private mode" is the problem. If I remember correctly, the "Chat" system on here is a completely separate bit of software from the forum, and it relies on validating your identity back from the BZ forum. If you start off in "Private" mode, I suspect it's not visible to the separately running Chat software. I'd suggest trying it very briefly in normal mode, and if that works, at least you'll know that's the issue.
  21. BootmanLA
    Links are no longer posted as "clickable" HTML links - the "[think before following links]" language is standard on this site and has been for over two years now. That's well-documented here:
  22. BootmanLA
    Anyone who's too embarrassed to tell a health care worker who specializes in sexually transmitted infections that he might need to be tested for those STI's, is someone you should probably avoid. He's precisely the sort likely to acquire an STI and allow it to go untreated because of that embarrassment.
  23. BootmanLA
    The reason I mention this is that if you look at organized religions earlier than 4th century Christianity, there's still a pattern of attacking the outsider. For instance, post-Exodus Judaism: the Hebrews claimed God told them to take Canaan for themselves, and they did, annihilating the residents in many areas until control was established. Likewise, there was a mixture of religion and civil authority in many other cultures of the Middle East, most of which spent centuries attacking one another trying to control people and territories. The Romans were (to a large degree, with exceptions) tolerant of local religions in areas they conquered, as long as the locals added imperial worship to the menu, so to speak, but even they went to extremes at times to eradicate religions they found incompatible with the Imperial cult - Druids, for instance. So this isn't so much to excuse the militancy of early Christianity, post-Constantine; it's more to note it's in line with a long history of the state and religion merging, completely or not, and imposing both on others as a means of control.
  24. BootmanLA
    Then flush the toilet once or twice before taking any water from the tank or bowl. A single flush should largely empty the tank; a second should mean that virtually every drop of water in the tank is "new" (I hate to say "fresh" because, as you note, old pipes can be a problem). But if someone is worried about the water, just carry a few individual bottled water bottles in your bag as well. If you're a real snob about it, carry Perrier.
  25. BootmanLA
    You refer to plugs as an inch or an inch and a half in "radius". Radius is one-half of the distance across the "circle" (so to speak), from the center to the outer edge. A plug that is an inch and a half in radius would be three inches in diameter and over 9 inches in circumference. It would not be surprising that you couldn't take that - most guys, except experienced fisters, would have trouble getting a plug that large in. And honestly, I can't imagine you'd need to be able to take a plug more than 9" around in order to handle *any* human cock. It's overkill. If instead you mean the plus are an inch or an inch and a half in *diameter* - that is, that's the distance from one side of the plug to the opposite side - then one that's 1.5 inches in diameter would only be a little over 4.5" around. That should be manageable. But something else to remember: with a plug, once it's inserted, the anus closes around the narrow part of the plug, which is by design; that's what keeps it in place. It's great for feeling "full", but unless that "narrow" part of the plug is nearly as wide as the plug itself, it's not going to stretch your anal ring much at all. So when a cock any larger than that NARROW part of the plug - as opposed to its "fat" section that's kept inside you - goes in, it's going to stretch you again, and that's going to hurt some. If your goal is actually loosening the anal ring so that you can take larger cocks, you'd be better off loosening up with a dildo, not a plug, that is close to the size of the cock you want to take.

Other #BBBH Sites…

This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.

Top Bareback Porn Sites…

×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

By using this site, you agree to our Terms of Use, Privacy Policy, and Guidelines. We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.