I was always a top, though not necessarily "Dom", always more sub persona. Age 50 I was diagnosed with prostate cancer - didn't even know what my prostate was. Proton-radiatioin took care of the cancer and, left the effects that no doctor will tell you about - altered state of erection. I still get an erection, can cum, etc, but it's all different. Not long after I met my true soulmate in life (sadly now my ex-partner, but always soulmate) and we were always hot for sex. Finally one day out in the desert under the open skies and hot sun he said, "I'm going to fuck you." I think I always knew inside that that was my true purpose, my true role, but had just never fulfilled it, a great part out of fear of AIDs from the 80's on. Well it took a bit of time, and pain, for him to mount me but... from thereon there was no looking back. I became a bottom. Hallelujah! Now single, about 6 months ago I started on PrEP. Wow, that was like women starting to take "the Pill" in the 50's and 60's - totally liberating and freed me from fears. So needless to say in the past couple of months my inner pig has finally been let loose, gets what it was meant to get, serves the role it was meant to serve, and is living fully its true purpose in life. Only this Friday night did I watch for the first time "Fifty Shades of Grey". Saturday afternoon I went to Slammer (club in L.A.) and had the most out-of-body existential experience ever that. Totally awesome! I'm not sure if it was Christian or Priapus, or both, who took me there but I will never forget it and can just hope to recreate it again. FYI I don't party (just me, not a judgement, tho most tops I've found can't get hard enough to fuck) but I do take some pot and lots of poppers which allows my mind to go with my body. Oink!!