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There has been at least some social sciences research suggesting that intense romantic friendships like bromances began to get stigmatized in North America culture, at least, as a result of anxiety about changing gender norms including a new awareness of homosexuality. Homophobes' stigmatization of any close relationship between men does not do guys a favour. We know nothing first hand about these two guys; I don't know them, you don't, and so on. Even the OP knows them only as colleagues. If the OP knew that, say, they were fucking each other in the showers at work, presumably he would have said. What has been described does fit perfectly well with the idea that these guys are just close friends who enjoy spending time with each other.
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It is impossible for strangers to make definitive statements about what third parties with no connection to these strangers are doing. I would just note that straight guys actually are capable of being close friends. It is something that society can discourage, looking down on two guys who spend a lot of time together instead of going after women, but it is something that still happens despite that. Based just on what I have seen heterosexual guys say, a close friendship with a straight guy (or a non-sexual friendship with a gay/bi guy) is something that might be appealing. Heterosexuals are finding dating and everything afterwards hard and some guys just want to opt out. Why not?
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My most recent sex was spectacular, even transformative, more than six hours of intense body connection with a talented top. (An actual eight inches, he is.) We bonded. One thing that surprised me was how I was able to take him with so little lube. I brought some J-Jelly with me, and I did use some the first time I rode him and then again when he used the speculum. After that, though, I was able to take him comfortably in me with spit. The last time he fucked me, he was able to slide in with nothing apart from his pre-cum.
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Speaking as someone who has shifted from being versatile to being—at most vers bottom, I don't think I have had this problem. I bottom for most of the guys I regularly play with, and in scenes like sex parties I can also usually find guys who would want to top me. It is true that I never encounter situations where everyone I would like to fuck me does so, but that is life.
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Hook up sites like Recon and Adam4 Adam
garsento replied to BearPleaser's topic in General Discussion
BBRT is my go-to site, and Recon my favourite app. Scruff comes next, and I have Grindr and Planet Romeo installed. That is it. -
I went to Fukd last night after work curious. Apparently neighbours of the location complained that there was sex happening on the main floor, so as of at least the last event everything was confined in the basement. I was told that party was crowded, almost too crowded, but I decided to see what things were like. I had a fantastic time. I got in soon after the party started at 10 pm. In the big basement, there was a stable number I guys, twenty to thirty for he couple of hours past 10:30. There was a large diversity of body types, everyone from bears to gym guys. I had a lot of fun. The sex took a while to get started, but once it did it was great. I did have a great time fucking a few guys, but I had not fun bottoming. Most of the guys who fucked me were authentically hung, a real 6 or 7 inches and thick. One guy, a local I think who looked like Iggy Pop, pounded my hole; another, a visitor from Montréal who was thicker and had a nice twink digger piercing, pounded me from different positions. (If either of you are reading this, message me.) It was all kind of amazing. Being on PrEP and having this protection really me relax and enjoy sex in ways I had never imagined. Sex was always about planning for me. Thus spontaneity, and the lack of limits, is great. Fukd stays recommended. They seem to be doing two parties a month, on the second and fourth Fridays of the month. By the way, if anyone reading this wants to fuck a guy who wants to bottom, message me. I really want to play and take loads this hot spring in the city.
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More would be cool.
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Hasn't he also been associated with anti-Muslim statements? The man is a mess.
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If you are unhappy with the configuration. Of your relationship, don't change it without asking your partner. Definitely don't do something, like having bareback sex with third parties of unknown status, that could cause him serious harm.
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Yesterday afternoon, I went over to Spa Excess to attend Rough House. This Rough House was the first one in just over two years. Whereas the March 2020 Rough House was held in the now-demolished Club 120, this one was held in Spa Excess. It was a success. The numbers were certainly there: Perhaps a couple hundred people went, easily surpassing the bathhouse's normal Sunday afternoon attendance, and at one point the lines for entry were big enough that one friend decided not to go. Plenty of people went, and I had lots of fun. I think this location is an improvement, not least because Spa Excess is in good shape, has a licensed bar, and has douching stations. I heard that Rough House organizers might be looking for a different place, but really, Spa Excess at the south end of the gaybourhood is probably as good as you can get. The only problem with the location of the party inside a bathhouse, with its dozens of private rooms, is that this dynamic tends to make private a sex party that at Club 120 was quite public. Still, the upstairs darkroom and maze were well-populated throughout; public play was an option.
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I do not think we are in fundamental disagreement. I was not thinking of bugchasing, never mind bugspreading. I was thinking more of people who encountered HIV in the course of a normal sexual career, people who might well have been inhibited for fear of HIV. In settings where HIV is essentially a perfectly treatable long-term condition, many people might well wonder why not explore.
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I think it also quite possible that people who contract HIV might well lose their inhibitions as a consequence. Consider: If the worst that you have to fear from gay sex is getting HIV with all that implies, and you get HIV anyway, why not lose your inhibitions? If the worst has happened, so what? Why not?
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Should I continue to take it BB when I have a girlfriend?
garsento replied to a topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
You have to be open to her. You may or may not have understood the risks to you, but you have absolutely no right to expose her unknowing to the consequences of your actions. If you do not want to tell her what you are doing, break up with her. -
^ Agreed. Prevention is still a much better option for people who want to avoid HIV, and current antiretroviral therapies are considerably less risky and more cost-effective.
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[think before following links] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10738050/ [think before following links] https://i-base.info/guides/testing/viral-load ^ This is from the study I mentioned yesterday. The recent studies on undetectability in same-sex couples were working from an assumption of 200 copies per millilitre as the upper limit of undetectability.
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I am not inclined to rate all of my sex on a scale. There is good sex and bad sex, sure, and great sex and terrible sex, but there are.so many different kinds of sex out there.it makes no sense to rate them as fundamentally alike. There are big differences between topping and bottoming, just to start.
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bareback What do you do when the top wants to use condoms?
garsento replied to a topic in General Discussion
Why not? Sex is still sex, with or without condoms. Whatever works. -
One 2000 paper looking at straight couples in Uganda found a sharp fall in HIV transmission rates depending on viral load, with people with under 400 copies per millimetre not being linked to any transmissions.
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I am in such a relationship now.
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I think you mostly did one with me? Do you know how those are sized in inches?
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Please check this out and respond…
garsento replied to rawTOP's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
10 of 10. My only issue is that the tenth point is variable, depending on fine details and individual evaluations of risk. -
I was alerted to the fact of Fukd's revival by an email sent by a friend just two hours after Fukd's alert went out. I was surprised to read that—I had heard nothing after the last Fukd ever at Club 120 back in March of 2020—but not so surprised that I decided not to go. (That, I read, vaccine passports were enforced was a point in Fukd's favour.) So, I headed over after work to the new location, after paying $27.50 for my ticket, to see what was going on. I think this new incarnation of Fukd has the potential to be better than ever. It is housed in a location much easier to get to than the old Club 120, stranded on lower Church. Fukd now takes place in a new location on the Danforth, just a couple minutes' walk from the Broadview subway station. This is a smaller space than the old Club 120, but there is still almost as much usable space, with more than enough space for the two slings upstairs and for a smaller play area in the basement next to the coat check and the washrooms. The facilities are clean and new, in good shape. As for the crowd, there were a lot of people there. I got there just before a quarter to seven, more than midway through the stated 2-10 window, but there were a couple dozen people there still. Some were people I remembered from previous Fukd's, others were new, and everyone was up to fun in a friendly atmosphere. (I got fucked by four guys, fucked one, got blown for a couple of guys, and ate one of my fuckers' asses.) I strongly recommend the new Fukd. I was afraid it might be underperforming, but it was not. If anything, the new location with its accessibility and its new facilities may make this new incarnation of Fukd even better than the old one.
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I was just there for the first Fukd. I think it even better.
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Where did you get (or give) your last load?
garsento replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
Last Wednesday, I went over to meet up with a guy I had been chatting with on Recon about fisting; we progressed quickly than I had expected. I fisted him, he played with my ass and also (surprising to him) fucked me. Then, I met up with my partner at a local bathhouse for some fun; two friends also had celebrated their birthday there, so it was a belated celebration. He fucked me at length in my rented room and then in a public swing; one of the guys saw him and mostly watched. It ended with a couple of people groping his big cock and complimenting it. -
Where did you get (or give) your last load?
garsento replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
Yesterday evening, I went to Steamworks after work. I had some fun there, flip-flopping with a slim hung guy, getting fucked by another with a nicely curved dick who I fingered to orgasm, and some light dark room fun.
