hunting4anon33

I know exactly which story you are mentioning. The name, unfortunately, is eluding me.. I'll keep an eye out for it. I can't remember the story being "super caring," though.. Or perhaps it was for all I know. I know it mentions the guy who consentually pozzes the newest member is a nurse who looks after the guy during his sero-conversion. ( I remember mention of the story saying that the guy was a nurse & was administering the odd I.V. drug to help the guy tolerate sero-conversion better. )

I've lost track of how many times I've been shot down because of my weight - AKA poz related weight issues, the fact that I'm short ( 5 ft 4, ) or having lost most of my hair at a very young age. Honestly, most of the issues I can't change are medical problems that a doctor or healthcare team are simply too lazy to help me with - thus they are far out of my control.. The HIV phenotype I was infected with.. Was unfortunately not one that was known for weight loss. So my dark joke of at least being able to die skinny & be a slimmer guy for at least 1 time in my life.. Well, the joke died in a very painful manner. I'm a severe asthmatic, cardio is a cruel joke with HIV complicating asthma meds - just making the weight loss nightmare worse.. Thankfully I'm a non-smoker. Gotta say, I am really very tired of skinny bitch twinks & muscled businessmen ( AKA shallow, conceited, & "better than thou" douchebags ) whom are rich as fuck making snap judgements about "how easy it is to stay in shape.." No, I live in poverty, shunned by the gay male community, & I can't even eat properly. Body is in starvation mode half the time. REALLY?! I'm being judged & shunned because I'm man enough to own the fact that I need major help beyond my capabilities ?? I'd love to see their suicide attempt count after one year of losing virtually any real options of meeting people outside of the internet & see how they cope after at least 5 years of the above issues with no light at the end of the proverbial tunnel.. I bet they wouldn't want to live after the same amount of time. *Rant over*

I had been asked to breed a guy a week ago.. He wanted to have a 3-some with him tag teamed. I hadn't cum for at least 2 weeks. Drove him to a cruising area, & the first guy went before me. He had loaded the btm within a minute. ( Btm was not tight, but felt lkke velvet, & just sucked the load out. ) I had mounted the btm, held onto his hips, & drove down to the hilt. The first top wasn't kidding. I was fighting to keep from cumming the moment I slid inside. It didn't take me long before I felt my balls unload. I was moaning, cursing, & talking loudly.. As the btm said, I was not scared about announcing my intentions when I came. ( I'm a shorter guy, so I was cursing something about the application of proper physics - he was a taller btm who had to lean on a shorter level of a picnic table. ) I just felt his ass mold to my dick & pull my load out - I was cursing & moaning like a madman.

( My guide to picking up a hot homeless guy... ) I am a vers. guy visiting Victoria, BC, Canada - tried out a hostel for the second time. I was drunk, damned near shit faced plastered. Pissed off at my travelling companion. So I wander off after drinks are done. I'm passing by the hostel entrance, & this rugged white homeless guy ( 40's, skinny, shoulder length black hair, dirty. ) Yet he has this masculine, hardcore presence to him. So I follow him, ask how his night is going. Act like I'm more drunk than usual. We're shooting the shit, & he asks: "You looking for anything, dude ?" "Yeah, I am dude. Been having a rough night, & looking for stuff. "I say. " Although not sure if you have what I'm looking for tonight. " He looks at me expectantly after listing off a few substances ( I'm drug free, although I'm poz. ) "Anything I can help with ?" "Yeah, dude, a mouthful of cum. You're a good looking guy, you're looking like you're having a rough night too." So he gets his lube & stuff of choice. ( Hours later.. ) We find a secluded spot, & he sits down behind a dumpster. Spreads his legs, & proceeds to pull out a beautiful 9 inch cut dick. So I go to town, he is moaning about wishing he could fuck my ass while his 9 incher is disappearing down my throat. ( Apparently, he's bi.. ) I'm kicking myself for sharing a room with my travelling companion - because I'd love to bring the guy back to shower him off, & let him dump load after load in my gutz. Apparently he is really liking my mouth, because he barely lasts 5 minutes. He's moaning loud as he shoots a small load down my throat. Musky, salty & with a slight tang. I head back to the room, & crash. Thinking I'll try to get more dick from different guys tonight.

I'm trying to remember details about a particular Bugshare story of a guy talking about an experience at the baths - who watches a condumb Nazi get pozzed by a number of muscle studs. Specifically, the condumb Nazi insists on a condumb on each guy, & each guy has one of his buddies to bite off the tip of the condumb so that they're seeding his gutz. Of course, the condumb Nazi reaches around, feels the condumb on, & never has any clue.

Poptronic, This comment is late to the party - but I do feel your pain. I both empathize & sympathize. At the time of writing this comment - I'm 36 & not in the best of life situations. As such, I've been experiencing the same issues as you. Kinda glad to see gents talking about it so openly online. I've never tried cock rings - actually scared of getting the wrong type - & I'll admit I'm rather concerned about being ripped off in costs for trial & error. I've chatted with my doctor before ( when I've had a doc, ) - my testosterone levels aren't a problem. I think the problem in my own case is a rather unhealthy mix of diet, exercise, mental blocks, & really bad life circumstances that are just not within any real situation of control.. And truth be told, it is getting beyond annoying - it's aggravating to hear people suggest the circumstances are somehow controllable when they're *most definitely not.* I happen to be a moderately severe asthmatic, ( not under control ) & HIV really is a bad complementary condition. Let's just say that my particular HIV phenotype isn't the the one that is overly conducive to weight loss. I remember thinking when I got infected: "Well, at least I'll die skinny. " Yeah, that was a depressing day to find out that I couldn't at least eat whatever the fuck I wanted now that I got diagnosed with one of the world's worst conditions.. ) That was the opposite effect - I basically have to eat like a movie star on "a perfect body paleo diet" in order to maintain decency. Of course, this requires $$$$ that a person on disability just doesn't have access to for blatantly obvious reasons that are simply sickeningly & stupidly bureaucratic. I can't get real exercise in more times than none because I can barely breathe at the best of times - asthma is not under control as it should be due to gov't bureaucracy. And diet, well, can't get my basic human rights due to disability laws, let alone eat properly. So, you guessed it, have to be stuck with being treated as a fourth class human being because Canada doesn't believe in treating it's citizens properly. I had been fired from a good few jobs due to discriminatory employers. I guess you could say I've felt very much beaten down & in desperate need of advocates that are - for the most part - non-existent. Please note - not my intention to be depressing or having this thread become a competition - I'm simply speaking frankly. I have no other addictions - I don't smoke, I don't drink much. I've never done any hard drugs - no real desire to want to try them regardless. I have been forced to move around a lot due to the nature of disability. Being diagnosed with HIV had literally been a crippling proverbial shot. I went from being a self sufficient person to keeping medical assisted suicide documentation within easy access in case I wake up & just don't want to deal with stupidity anymore. I've gotten to the point where when I have to deal with ignorant haters, I ask them to please demonstrate just how easy it is to live with an episodic disability, a chronic condition, weight issues, massive depression & anxiety, not having enough to live on *properly,* ( let alone basic human rights, ) before they shame me for not being in absolute perfect shape. It's almost as if they feel no human compassion nor empathy for their own community of GBT men whom are poz. On top of all that - I've been forced to move into an area where the population of gay men is horrendously, stupidly low - or the guys are just so laughably shallow that they make the Pacific Ocean look like a children's wading pool.. So let me clarify when I say - I do feel your pain when I've experienced the very aggragating situation of hooking up with a guy who finally meets my criteria of what I get into - only to go soft when I meet up. Between the life issues that are not under any control mentioned above, & then realizing that a guy I meet up with is somehow not what I expected, or I'm having a mental block due to being frustrated with being lied to, or otherwise decieved. - yeah.. I suppose it doesn't help that whenever I'm horny, "Murphy's Law" dictates that I will likely not find a guy easily. I just tend to whack off more times than none due to almost never finding a guy to hook up with easily. Lack of meeting spaces, toxic bullshit, & really not being able to balance the basics more often than none become an issue that just keeps one from being able to enjoy a primal sexuality perk of humanity. Dude, I feel your pain.

Thanks, "calgary84". I've actually been around there a few times in the later evenings - not really very keen on daytime hookups - I suppose it stands to reason it's so much easier to have a quiet & uninterrupted hookup at night. More discrete for a potential str8 guy needing relief & he doesn't want to feel like he's under a microscope. Although I have not seen alot of guys out & about. Last time I was out & about, I made a pass at a drunk guy who seemed to be down on his luck. ( He was sobering up ) He was sober enough to be really very nice. Went out of his way to shake my hand, thank me for the offer to help him out with some sexual release. I haven't really noticed any other areas or places to goto. I hate to sound like a potentially fucking horrible person before I say this - ( being a guy with HIV whom has had one or two brushes with homelessness myself, ) one thing I liked about Vancouver & the GVRD was turning a bad thing into a good thing.. If a panhandler or misc. scruffy guy approached me ( & I felt like helping him out, ) I would ask him if he'd be up for some rough trade. If he was uncomfortable with the offer, I'd still offer to get him a meal or such ( fuck, I'm not heartless, & I have been involved with homeless HIV advocacy, ) but if he wanted the sexual relief, I usually found a buddy.. Seeing that Calgary has a fair & honest reputation for "working class regular joes," I suppose I might have been able to find the Calgary version of what I had found in Vancouver. So yeah.. Calgary seems like it's slim pickings for rough trade - at least this has been my experience thus far.

I've had some swing & miss situations with Doublelist.. The language barriers are flat out annoying.. It advertises itself as a site for adult activity, yet cannot tolerate adults speaking frankly with some adult language ?! Really?! I think the site designers need to get a flood of complaints suggesting them to grow a thicker skin regarding their adult language sensitivity.. FFS, users of the site are going to be vulgar, it comes with the territory of it being a sex hookup site. This is not a site looking for tea & crumpets. Seriously, I get the fact that they want the site to be clean of people selling shit, that they don't want prostitution, etc, but the designers really need to settle the fuck down with their over-active profanity & vulgar language preferences. I mean, if anthing, the designers should be paying much closer attention to the people being flagged for spam, improper ad category placement, & they should add specialized categories. Examples are: TS & CD's for guys, TS & CD's for st8, Str8 for TS / CD's, Guys for TS / CD's. I can only bet that I'm likely gonna be offending at least one person when I speak this opinion frankly - I think that there should be dedicated categories for trans or CD's & those who seek relations with them. I think they've earned that distinction to be given their own space. But yeah, the odd time when I do get an ad posted that actually makes it past the censors, it is extremely rare that anyone actually bothers to read in depth. The few that do answer are either too far away, or extreme flakes. So yeah.. Swing & miss.. I do have a favourite ad that I saved - the ad sounded like an expert in "ye olde English" vocab had written an outright hardcore sexually explicit ad & made it as absolutely scandalous as only the "olde English" can do so.. The first time I read it, I was actually chuckling at the apparent attempt of the author to make a blatant & purposeful slap to Doublelist's oppressive vulgarity standards. LMFAO.. I would have copied the text & posted it, but it seems it has expired.. If it is renewed, I will be sure to post it so that I can share the laugh.

When it comes to racial cravings, I've found myself drawn to Latino & First Nations men, hardcore.. I grew up around a First Nations community, so I grew up admiring native men in my younger years. Since then, have always had a deep seated admiration for Native men. As for Latino men, I've found them to be much moreso approachable, down to earth, & not stuck up versus the majority of the GBT community.

I have had some experience.. Sometimes all ya need is just be nice to them. Give a compliment, be blatant - say "hey dude, you seem like you're a nice guy, like you're down on your luck, & I'd like to help you out. I think you're hot, & I'd love to suck your dick, get fucked, fuck them, get a b/j, etc.." Yeah, it's not politicallly correct, but let's face it, sometimes ya gotta be bold, or go home. If they ask for $$$, well, you have some clear interest. I've actually dealt with many guys like this - the last guy actually went out of his way to shake my hand & thank me for the compliment. ( I offered to suck him off, & he didn't ask for $$. ) I find that guys like those are eit her religious or just not into guys - but they are respectful. Mind you, I have for a number of years in self defense, so I suppose I don't fear being bashed unless the guy is giving off a dangerous vibe. Above all, trust your instincts. If he seems mean, hostile, etc, best to simply recognise you might not be able to handle him.. However, it has been my experience that in some situations, you can often turn a potentially mean / hostile guy to talking to you.. Talking to him, asking how he's doing, being nice. Being a shoulder to lean on verbal - wise. I've had a few instances of chatting an angry guy up once or twice, saying that I was on my way to a liquor store, buying some booze after a hard day - & offering to share or buy him his favourite. Alcohol really does loosen situations. On the way to the store, dropping that compliment ( as mentioned above ) to him along the way. Important note: Some guys are openly homophobic, & some respond to gay guys badly. I've often lied & said I was bi.. ( I'm a platinum star masc. gay guy, never bothered with cunt in my life - but can pass as str8 due to being masculine. ) Sometimes ya gotta lie through your teeth, say that the g/f is pissing you off & sometimes you crave dick. Sometimes, some rough trade just likes to know that they are dealing with a fellow "str8" guy so that their sensibilities aren't offended due to toxic patriarchy.. Use your best judgement. As for where to hook up - a bath-house or a hotel is a good idea, if you expect a pump n' dump situation. Maybe you like the lug, maybe you want to really blow his mind, among other body parts.. Best advice in that case is to play it cool. You need to guage trust. If you are looking to hook up with him more than once, hook up with him outside of your home a few times, guage what he wants from you. Prepare your home as mentioned below. ( That way, you are prepared, & if you do bring him home, you don't need to keep as close an eye on him if you didn't hide your things. ) If you know you are bringing rough trade home, best to prepare ahead of time & hide your shit. Play it off as a bare bones furnishing. Treat him with respect & dignity. I know that it's somewhat funny to say that after you pick up a vulnerable guy off the street, but that extra bit of respect can do wonders.. If he thinks he was set up or treated badly, he could get angry, & cause problems. Show some interest in him - offer the use of your shower - you can get a free show if you ask nicely. Offer a massage, ( in the shower, etc, ) & with your own place, you can give him the privacy to indulge his MSM urges without him feeling like his heterosexuality is being threatened. Some str8 guys whom are potentially interested in MSM activities are often more cautious about their reputations than a puritanical evangelical virgin clutching a sheet. Sometimes a combination of liberal amounts of compliments, booze, & clarification that nobody will find out is enough. Of course, this is without being said - if you play with rough trade that you aren't 100% comfortable with - you must guage whether it is safe, & whether you think it's worth the risk. I myself have met guys that I could have sworn were bad news, & they turned out to be harmless. And vice versa. Best safety related strategy to do is to have a buddy or friend that you send a message to regarding a bare minimum amount of detail pertaining to what you are doing - who, what, when, where, how & why, etc. And when the guy leaves, if you are hosting at home.. That way, if something untoward does happen, say if you are hurt by the rough trade in question - we're hoping not - we're in the CYA ( cover your ass ) stage at this point in the plot, & you can then have some closure knowing that you will have some justice done. The worst that can happen is that your buddy knows beforehand to mention to the police that you seen a guy you thought was hot, gave him a compliment, & you were attacked for being a good samaritan of sorts... Let's face it, though.. By th at point, you are not gonna care if the guy slanders you, it will likely be a bad potential situation for you in terms of safety if your buddy needs to be involved with the police.. Finally, it'd end up being your word against the word of the rough trade.. The whole point of the buddy system is to make sure your ass is covered. This sort of above bad situation can, & does happen - you must be prepared to realize that you run the risk of this scenario, or different situations - every time that you hook up with rough trade. That said, there is nothing inherently wrong with approaching rough trade for sexual activities - you are simply being aware that not all guys will show the same respect to you, that you show them. If you cannot tolerate this level of awareness & understanding, then rough trade is not for you. Hard drugs can really help to smooth things out . If you don't partake - that can be an issue.. Although, again, it comes down to your comfort level, where you're hooking up, etc. Use your best judgement. So, I think that about covers what needs to be said in a bad situation... Talk to the guy like the unique person that he is. Be confident, polite, respectful, & give him compliments. Be bold. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. If he shakes your hand & thanks you while declining, f uck, that is a good sign. He appreciates your attention, & who knows.. Maybe if he sees you around, he might point you out to a buddy or two of his that might appreciate your attention. If he turns you down, or declines in a rude manner, just remember, you have gone out of your way to be nice, play it off as such. I'll be real with you - will likely face rejection. Some guys just can't handle compliments. That's their baggage - not yours. Brush his offense off & be real in the fact that you are just giving the guy a compliment, & he apparently couldn't take a nice gesture. Be the typical polite Canadian, don't take no shit, but be the bigger man. Tell 'em to have a good night, or day, etc. Then move on. Most guys down on their luck won't bother with getting involved in a potential confrontation - they usually have enough problems already. Who knows, maybe they might see you again down the road, remember your kindness & apologise, ( if they were having an exceptionally bad day ) & they might ask if the offer is still valid. The key to rough trade hookups is to be calm, easy-going, & easy to talk to. You are not better than them, you are just a fellow regular guy offering to show 'em a good time.

I have had some experience.. Sometimes all ya need is just be nice to them. Give a compliment, be blatant - say "hey dude, you seem like you're a nice guy, like you're down on your luck, & I'd like to help you out. I think you're hot, & I'd love to suck your dick, get fucked, fuck them, get a b/j, etc.." Yeah, it's not politicallly correct, but let's face it, sometimes ya gotta be bold, or go home. If they ask for $$$, well, you have some clear interest. I've actually dealt with many guys like this - the last guy actually went out of his way to shake my hand & thank me for the compliment. ( I offered to suck him off, & he didn't ask for $$. ) I find that guys like those are either religious or just not into guys - but they are respectful. Mind you, I have for a number of years in self defense, so I suppose I don't fear being bashed unless the guy is giving off a dangerous vibe. Above all, trust your instincts. If he seems mean, hostile, etc, best to simply recognise you might not be able to handle him.. However, it has been my experience that in some situations, you can often turn a potentially mean / hostile guy to a liking you.. Talking to him, asking how he's doing, being nice. Being a shoulder to lean on verbal - wise. I've had a few instances of chatting an angry guy up once or twice, saying that I was on my way to a liquor store, buying some booze after a hard day - & offering to share or buy him his favourite. Alcohol really does loosen situations. On the way to the store, dropping that compliment ( as mentioned above ) to him along the way. Important note: Some guys are openly homophobic, & some respond to gay guys badly. I've often lied & said I was bi.. ( I'm a platinum star gay guy, never bothered with cunt in my life - but can pass as str8 due to being able to pass as masculine. ) Sometimes ya gotta lie through your teeth, say that the g/f is pissing you off & sometimes you crave dick. Sometimes, some rough trade just likes to know that they are dealing with a fellow "str8" guy so that their sensibilities aren't offended due to toxic patriarchy.. Use your best judgement. As for where to hook up - a bath-house or a hotel is a good idea, if you expect a pump n' dump situation. Maybe you like the lug, maybe you want to really blow his mind, among other body parts.. Best advice in that case is to play it cool. You need to guage trust. If you are looking to hook up with him more than once, hook up with him outside of your home a few times, guage what he wants from you. Prepare your home as mentioned below. ( That way, you are prepared, & if you do bring him home, you don't need to keep as close an eye on him if you didn't hide your things. ) If you know you are bringing rough trade home, best to prepare ahead of time & hide your shit. Play it off as a bare bones furnishing. Treat him with respect & dignity. I know that it's somewhat funny to say that after you pick up a vulnerable guy off the street, but that extra bit of respect can do wonders.. If he thinks he was set up or treated badly, he could get angry, & cause problems. Show some interest in him - offer the use of your shower - you can get a free show if you ask nicely. Offer a massage, ( in the shower, etc, ) & with your own place, you can give him the privacy to indulge his MSM urges without him feeling like his heterosexuality is being threatened. Some str8 guys whom are potentially interested in MSM activities are often more cautious about their reputations than a puritanical evangelical virgin clutching a sheet. Sometimes a combination of liberal amounts of compliments, booze, & clarification that nobody will find out is enough. Of course, this is without being said - if you play with rough trade that you aren't 100% comfortable with - you must guage whether it is safe, & whether you think it's worth the risk. I myself have met guys that I could have sworn were bad news, & they turned out to be harmless. And vice versa. Best safety related strategy to do is to have a buddy or friend that you send a message to regarding a bare minimum amount of detail pertaining to what you are doing - who, what, when, where, how & why, etc. And when the guy leaves, if you are hosting at home.. That way, if something untoward does happen, say if you are hurt by the rough trade in question - we're hoping not - we're in the CYA ( cover your ass ) stage at this point in the plot, & you can then have some closure knowing that you will have some justice done. The worst that can happen is that your buddy knows beforehand to mention to the police that you seen a guy you thought was hot, gave him a compliment, & you were attacked for being a good samaritan of sorts... Let's face it, though.. By that point, you are not gonna care if the guy slanders you, it will likely be a bad potential situation for you in terms of safety if your buddy needs to be involved with the police.. Finally, it'd end up being your word against the word of the rough trade.. The whole point of the buddy system is to make sure your ass is covered. This sort of above bad situation can, & does happen - you must be prepared to realize that you run the risk of this scenario, or different situations - every time that you hook up with rough trade. That said, there is nothing inherently wrong with approaching rough trade for sexual activities - you are simply being aware that not all guys will show the same respect to you, that you show them. If you cannot tolerate this level of awareness & understanding, then rough trade is not for you. Hard drugs can really help to smooth things out . If you don't partake - that can be an issue.. Although, again, it comes down to your comfort level, where you're hooking up, etc. Use your best judgement. So, I think that about covers what needs to be said in a bad situation... Talk to the guy like the unique person that he is. Be confident, polite, respectful, & give him compliments. Be bold. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. If he shakes your hand & thanks you while declining, fuck, that is a good sign. He appreciates your attention, & who knows.. Maybe if he sees you around, he might point you out to a buddy or two of his that might appreciate your attention. If he turns you down, or declines in a rude manner, just remember, you have gone out of your way to be nice, play it off as such. I'll be real with you - will likely face rejection. Some guys just can't handle compliments. That's their baggage - not yours. Brush his offense off & be real in the fact that you are just giving the guy a compliment, & he apparently couldn't take a nice gesture. Be the typical polite Canadian, don't take no shit, but be the bigger man. Tell 'em to have a good night, or day, etc. Then move on. Most guys down on their luck won't bother with getting involved in a potential confrontation - they usually have enough problems already. Who knows, maybe they might see you again down the road, remember your kindness & apologise, ( if they were having an exceptionally bad day ) & they might ask if the offer is still valid. The key to rough trade hookups is to be calm, easy-going, & easy to talk to. You are not better than them, you are just a fellow regular guy offering to show 'em a good time.

Seriously, nobody whom has lived in Calgary for years has ever figured out that "hey, this seems like a hangout for ppl down on their luck. " ?? Fuck, if this were Edmonton or Vancouver I'd know exactly where to go to find some action...