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To be fair, this doesn't happen much, and I do wipe my dick off. By clean, I meant a full shower. However, to play devil's advocate, we tops wouldn't be responsible for spreading it from one bottom to another if the bottoms were clean of bacteria and infection to begin with. I don't think there's any blame to be put on either tops or bottoms - if you're participating in bareback sex in either position, there will inevitably be possibilities of infection.

Nice to see something focused on us tops ;-) Here are some of my thoughts about what I like the most, but each fuck is different depending on the guy I'm fucking, the situation, etc... 1. Clean hole - yes. I like to eat a hole before I fuck it, and cleanliness is essential. And if I pull out and my dick is dirty, that's an automatic turn-off (for me personally, I know others on here would be into that) and I can't wait to get the bottom out of my apt so I can go shower. 2. Prefer to cum inside. I refuse to waste my load outside of a hole (mouth or ass, but prefer ass) unless it's the rare night that i jack myself off because I can't find anyone to fuck. Additionally, with certain men, I would swallow their load during or after the fuck instead of letting them jack off onto themselves. Also, I tend to be more of a dribbler than a shooter, so it's just easier to be inside a hole than to disappoint myself or the bottom without a "shot" on their face or wherever. 3. I don't like my holes too tight - I don't like having to fight to get in, nor do I want it so tight that I cum too quickly. That being said, I don't want it so loose that there's no friction either. Sometimes when I fuck a guy on a fuckbench or in a private room at a bathhouse, they're so loose and cummy that it gives me no friction and I can't cum (but mentally it's hot that they're slutty and cum-filled). 4. I like it to last as long as possible, but keep it intense without any "pull out" breaks. So, what I mean by this is, once I get inside someone, other than pulling out to change positions and getting back in, I don't want to have to take a break and pull out to prevent myself from cumming...I want to be inside him the whole time. This might mean slowing down or holding myself deep in him for a few seconds at a time to try to hold myself off from cumming, maybe lean down to make out with him to hold off, etc... This can be interesting, though. I've found with certain guys, their ass is just the right tightness/looseness, and the positioning is just right, etc... that I've fucked them so long that we're both covered in sweat by the time I unload in them. With others, I might only last 5 minutes or so. *shrug* 5. Poppers. I like taking a couple hits of poppers before I eat a nice hole. It just makes me that much more hungry for it. I also like taking a couple hits while I'm in a hole and fucking them. While fucking, the poppers will make me fuck that much harder/faster - which can either help me cum if the hole is loose/sloppy and I need an extra boost, or leads to an explosion deep in him as I pound away. Sometimes the poppers will make me deflate a little, though...other times they don't. *shrug* again lol 6. Threesomes/groups/bathhouses. I've found that in tag team threesomes, it usually ends after the two tops unload once in the bottom. So, in that case, I want it to last as long as possible and if I feel myself getting too close I'll pull out and let the other top take a turn. If the threeway was discussed in advance that the bottom wanted multiples from both tops, then I might not wait as long to give him the first load. Groups and bathhouses: I'll go around and try a few holes, with or without clean up in between, before I breed any. Then I may go back to the ones that I liked the best to unload in. Although if the ass is hot enough the first go-around, or the bathhouse isn't very busy or something, I may just let it go in the first fuck. 7. Multiple loads. In one of my ideal scenarios (fantasies?), a bottom would come over some evening and we'd fuck multiple times throughout the night with some making out and cuddling and chatting in between, and some sleep at some point...then fuck again in the morning before he leaves. That hasn't happened so far, unfortunately. There have been a couple guys that I've done 2-3 rounds with in one session, but it takes the right chemistry for that to happen (i.e. there have been a couple guys that have wanted multiples and I'm like, "sorry, I'm done for the night with that load I just gave you" even though I might fuck someone later, I just wasn't into multiples with the one). Only once or twice have I been able to go through the motions of cumming twice without pulling out or getting soft in between - it's more likely that I'll need to pull out, go soft, and then get hard again for multiples to happen. 8. You mentioned that you didn't want this post to be about the types of bottoms we fuck, but it does play a role in my enjoyment of the fuck and how it all goes down. A guy that I know is a cumslut whore will be a different fuck than a college undergrad who has only taken it a couple times. As a cub type myself, nailing a twink is different than slamming into a fellow cub/bear. I fuck all of those types, and enjoy all of them, but knowing who I'm getting into affects my mental preparation, whether I get into a more dom mood or not, and even the location/setup. Thanks again for posting this topic, I'm sure I've missed some things that other tops might point out...if so, I'll add more later.

I've only gone to SW but always find lots of bottoms to fuck. So, you'll have competition...but if you get ass up in your dark room, or position yourself on one of the fuckbenches on the 2nd or 3rd floor, you're sure to get some loads. I'm curious about MC but just haven't made it there. Regardless of where you go, I hope you come back here and tell us about it!

I'm up in Lafayette, but make it down to Indy every so often...usually on a Friday or Saturday.

Where do you get $10 doughnuts?!?! I bet that would be amazing! Seriously, though, I agree with the others that feel for you and your situation. I can't offer any advice or comments really, as I have not experienced many relationships up to this point. I will relate a similar story of a guy I've fooled around with in my town. He's also married to a man and they don't have sex anymore and he's frustrated. Unlike you, my buddy is afraid to even broach the topic with his partner, for some fear about lack of attraction or something - from an outside perspective (mine), it sounds surprising that two partners who agreed to enter something as serious as a marriage would have problems talking about issues like sex/intimacy. However, both your situation and my buddy here in town have proven that it's apparently tough for some people. I do agree that your partner is the one who most likely needs therapy and some evaluation to see what's going on. If he's really not having sex with ANYONE after being such a slutty bottom before your marriage, perhaps something IS unbalanced in his body that needs treating.

A fuckbud and his buddy were in town last night. They stopped at the local ABS and didn't find much, so I told them to come over when they were done there. Had them walk in and find me naked in bed like I do with all my bottoms...my fuckbud didn't waste any time getting undressed and sucking me, had my cock in him in no time and was pounding him. His buddy stripped down and all, but seemed fidgety and...weird. The buddy eventually got dressed and said he was going down to the car...he never came back in. Oh well. My fuckbud and I kept fucking for a few and then would stop to see if we could find others on websites or apps to join us (I knew it was pretty useless, but we tried). We fucked/rested like this a few times, but ultimately we got going and he had brought some spray poppers that we both inhaled through a cloth in our mouths and I just went crazy on his hole until I blasted my nut. It was pretty intense. He's a relatively new fuckbud to me, but damn his hole is nice.

Nothing amazing lately, but I'll fill you in on some 1) fucked a younger guy that had tremors last week...was interesting to say the least. Said he was really tight, yet I slid in easily (he seemed surprised at that, maybe it was doing his first hit of poppers that helped) 2) after being home over the 4th of July holiday, I was horny for a couple days and posted my usual CL ads. Had a married guy come over for his first ever m2m experience...mostly me sucking him (got 2 loads out of him down my throat) but he did some sucking too. 3) beefy daddy type was traveling through on the interstate and I caught him on Grindr...he came to my apt for a quickie raw fuck. Nice ass, eager guy, but he wasn't cleaned out at all....gross. 4) went down to Indy on Friday evening, fucked and bred a hot daddy at his apt downtown, then drove over a few blocks to another daddy buddy's place where he had a younger chubby cumslut tied to the bed...the cumslut didn't know I was coming, but loved getting used by the two of us. Working on some more for tonight...haha

I also started a basic log this year...date, what I did (BB, rim, oral, swallow), and a one or two word description of the guy (names of guys I know, "grindr guy", bathhouse guy, etc...). I'm finding that I average around 18-20 different partners per month...mix of BB and oral swallowing

If you're coming through Indiana on I-65, stop by in Lafayette and I'll fuck around with you guys for awhile

As a top, this is what I enjoy also...a mix of both...

I would hope that there would be enough respect for guys to back off if you said no in a situation that was going too far. But yeah, I would join in a train on a shorter boyish guy if I saw it happening in a public play area. If you are able to get a private room with a closable door, that might help...you could lay on the bed ass up and face down and let guys come in to fuck you...and there would only be room for 1-2 guys in there with you (or you could ask each top to close the door while they fuck you).

I generally don't care about the bottom's cock and whether it's hard or not. If the guy is really my type and we have a special kind of chemistry, I may want his load down my throat after I fuck mine into him, but during the fuck I don't care.

@BiCollegeBtm When are you headed down there in August? I was just talking to @justsexnowatl about how I wanted to get down to ATL sometime for some raw fucking. Would be hot for him and I to whore you out at the hotel, Manifest, Flex, etc...

I've told a couple guys that I fuck that they are welcome to get a load or two before coming over sometime. Where I live, it's not very realistic to expect any bottoms to already have loads before they come over...unless they are passing through on the interstate to/from Chicago or Indy. So I usually don't get many opportunities to slide into a pre-lubed hole. But whenever I go to a bathhouse and find a bottom ass-up and waiting in their room, I always ask whether they have any loads or not, and immediately drop down to felch them if they say yes. After I fuck them, I usually tell them to go get a few more and let them know I'll be back later. Sometimes that works, sometimes they leave before I get back around to them.

I'll see what I can do to get up there for CumUnion that week also. At Steamworks this weekend there was no extra security or anything that I noticed. It was a fairly busy afternoon on Saturday.