barecubtop

Just read this whole story this evening...very hot. Very well written as well. Hope to read more soon!

I don't know if this is karma (and she's a bitch) or not. So here's my last couple weeks in a nutshell... 1) very busy with my job as a teaching assistant over the past 2 weeks, putting in extra hours than normal to get things done in time, grading 200+ exams, etc.. 2) went to Indianapolis last weekend and got stood up by two guys for meeting up non-sexually, sort of bummed me out 3) had my 3-month PrEP testing and all was fine (no STDs or anything amiss with my bloodwork) So that all leads up to this weekend, when I finally have some free time, I know I'm STD-free, and I'm horny as hell from all the stress I've been under. And of course, as much as I want to fuck some ass, none is available or interested in me on the apps or what not. Until this evening...a guy hits me up on Grindr, we exchange pics, he looks like he has a nice body, he says he wants his cock in me and that he's ok with bare, so i give him my building address and tell him to message me when he parks (like I do with any hookup that's coming over - I want to know when they arrive). He responds that he's using wifi wherever he is and that his phone is almost dead. So I go against my rule and tell him my apt number and say to just come on in when he gets here. His location listed him as a mile away...so I expect him to show up within 10-15 minutes max. So 30-40 minutes goes by, and he finally knocks on the door and comes in (I had given up on him, so this was a surprise that he actually showed - I was still sitting here jacking to some porn anyways). He's obviously a redneck/ghetto guy as he tells me that he had trouble finding the place and tried my neighbors doors (great...). He's only half-decent at sucking, then we get on the floor and I start lubing my cock up and slide a finger in his hole and it doesn't feel super clean...but I've been horned up all weekend, so I still push in and fuck away for a few minutes. End up blowing one load inside him, and I keep fucking to see if I can another one but it wasn't happening. I eventually slip out even though he keeps trying to buck away on my cock...and sure enough my cock is covered in shit. I wipe it off on my towel nearby (glad I had that handy) as he tries to jack himself, but I think he saw that I was just done by then so he said he wasn't going to get off and starts getting up (thank God). He uses the restroom, and comes out to find me spraying off my towel in the sink and asks what's wrong..."you were a little dirty back there"...and gives me a little flippant "sorry". It's like he didn't know what I meant when I asked if he was "cleaned out and ready". Ugh...I hate that. Anyways, he left and I'm about to go shower. This seems more like a rant, sorry. I suppose should focus on the positive side of things, which was that I got off in a decent hole. Just wish it would've been a bit cleaner.

A couple years ago I stopped at an adult bookstore on the side of the highway and within an hour sucked off about 9-10 guys (probably truckers and farmers, but almost all of them were through gloryholes). I just went from booth to booth and got straight on my knees at the hole. It was a one-of-a-kind experience for sure, I know there weren't that many guys in the place when I arrived - so they must have been filing in and out pretty quickly as it was happening. I haven't had that kind of luck since.

Recap of trip to Chicago the past few days: 1) Thursday: arrived on the train in the morning and made it to my hotel - they had a room ready for me despite me getting there before noon. I got up to the room and started browsing the apps and BBRTS. Connected with a stocky cub from BBRTS that I had fucked on a previous trip last winter. Turned out he was on a medical campus nearby for a class, so he came over to my room, took a shower, and i dropped a load in him. We chatted for quite awhile after. We're going to keep in better touch this time and try to hang out more in the future. I kept looking for some more action after he left but didn't find any. Eventually took a walk to find a bite to eat and had to stop to get some clothes on Mag Mile before going back to the hotel (the clothes are another story, but not relevant for this site lol). By then, my friend and her parents were almost up to Chicago and I had to make my way out to the United Center to meet them for an amazing opening night for the Blackhawks (they won 10-1, which is impressive in hockey scoring, and we had seats 2 rows from the glass). By the time I got back to my room after the game, I was too tired to do anything else and went to bed. 2) Friday: Attempted to get some action in the morning, but again it was mostly talk and no action. Walked to a favorite breakfast place of mine, ate, and then made my way down to the loop where I browsed at the architecture foundation store and went to a great afternoon symphony/chorus concert that moved me to tears (I needed an experience like this even more than I needed some good sex lol). After the concert, I went back to my room and found a bb bttm bear visiting from Vegas on Growlr that wanted to come get a load. While he was coming over, I asked another guy that was within 500 feet if he wanted to join us and he said yes. So that turned into a hot threeway where the second guy and I loaded him up. The Vegas bottom said it was the hottest of all the fucks he had taken that week he was in town. After they left, I kept looking for more, but nothing really crept up. I considered going up to Steamworks - that was the original plan for Friday evening - but I just wasn't feeling it, although I kept seeing QuickConnects on BBRTS that were stating room numbers and such. I eventually walked down the block to find some food and snacks for the hotel that night. Much later, after midnight, I eventually found another bearish guy to walk over to get my load. We had a hot time, lots of him sucking me, me rimming him (he claimed to have a couple loads in him already), and me fucking him. Brief chat after and then he left. I went to bed. 3) Saturday: Tried looking for some action before I checked out of the hotel, but no luck. Spent the afternoon "shopping" (aka browsing and getting step count in - I'm a poor grad student after all), and then made my way to Union Station to catch my train back to Indiana. Of course, just like always, I had guys hitting me up expressing interest while I was on the way back to the station....ugh, timing. So, I loaded 3 bear asses over the course of about 36 hours. Not disappointed by them at all. But I was hoping to pound a twink or two, and maybe unload more than those 3 times. I probably should've done Steamworks or Manscountry, or traveled to some guys that were advertising on BBRTS, but *shrug*...there's always next time.

I'm often asked if I'm into any kinks. I usually respond that I'm into bb, rimming, felching, and that I'm interested in trying WS. But, I guess I'm curious as to the differences between fetishes and kinks and what are examples of each? Is barebacking a fetish, a kink, or both? Is liking to see my bottoms in a jockstrap a fetish/kink, or is underwear a fetish/kink only if you actually want to "play" with it in some way (sniffing, putting it in your mouth, etc...)? Same with leather. What makes leather/underwear a fetish/kink as opposed to just something that one likes to see (and turns them on)? I'm sure there are official definitions of these somewhere, but I'd like to see what all of you think/say. Thanks.

@NLbear and @Felchingpisser, thanks for the book recommendations. I'm always looking for things to read about this kind of topic as well as just gay culture in general. I recently read "City of Night", which I thought was very good.

Update: staying in a hotel near the Hancock Tower Thursday and Friday nights. Only plans so far are the Blackhawks game Thurs night, the symphony concert on Friday afternoon (1:30pm start). Nothing else until the train home on Saturday evening.

Went down to Indianapolis last night. I wasn't feeling in the mood for the bathhouse, so I was hoping to line something up before I got in the car to drive down - no luck. I had messaged a couple other top buddies to say I was coming down if they knew of any bottoms that wanted tag teamed, etc...but they weren't finding anyone either. Eventually I gave up on looking and got in the car to drive down. If anything I would go do a couple errands around the mall area I needed to do and then decide what to do from there. I got to my first stop and got on the apps. There were a couple of quick replies on Grindr, but once I mentioned bb they backed off. After going into the store and getting back out to the car, I got a message from a vers buddy of mine...he said he had a muscular black kid (jock, early 20's) that wanted multiple loads and he would be ready in an hour. I went over to the mall (Lego store lol), and then headed to my buddy's place. Turns out another top buddy of mine was going to join us also. Walked in to find the bottom ass up on the couch and my two buds already naked and stroking. The kid was piggy, sucking my cock after it had been in his hole, etc...my two buds didn't fuck him much (boner problems) but I did, and I finally unloaded my several-day load deep inside him - he actually physically pulled me deeper inside him as I shot. We all talked for a few minutes, the kid said he once took about 13 loads in one night at the local bathhouse, then I went to clean up in the bathroom a few feet away. The kid got dressed pretty quick and left. As I was finishing cleaning up and getting dressed, my buddy that hosted and set it up told us that the piggy kid we just fucked was on a local college football team. :-) After I left, I may have gone over to another bottom's place nearby to get rid of the rest of the several-day backup I had. This was a guy I had been with before earlier in the summer - nice ass, but sort of tweaked-out and hosted in a ghetto basement apartment. Oh well, it was still a good, but quick and anon, fuck.

Coming up to Chicago on Oct. 5th for the Blackhawks game with a friend. I will definitely be staying overnight that night (will have a hotel room to myself, likely in the loop). I'm still debating on whether I will stay additional nights as well. If not, I'll be looking to play during the day on Thursday Oct 5th and during the day on Friday Oct 6th before my train back to Indiana. Obviously if I stay more nights, then I'll have more time to fuck around as well.... Oral vers, anal top. Like to use poppers, rim, and wouldn't mind trying some WS. Threeway or group would be fun. Open to meeting up for lunch/dinner/coffee too, if you're into that. cubtop4boysnbears on BBRTS, barecubtop on A4A

Interesting post. I don't have this happen to me when I host. But, that's probably because local hookups are traveling less than 20 minutes to get to me and there are very few touristy types around here that would need to recharge because they didn't have a "pad" to go to. Most travelers are passing through on the interstate and are likely charging their phones in their cars. When I go to a larger city like Chicago, I have often run into the situation where I'm on my phone just enough during the day that my battery gets low and I'm either checked out of my hotel room already or can't get back to it easily (and I use public transit, so no charging in my car). I've started to take my charging cord with me, either in a jacket pocket or my shorts/jeans pocket, so that I could stop at a place like Starbucks or something and plug in for awhile if I needed to. I wouldn't necessarily ask to plug in during a hookup, but I guess it makes sense.

I'm a little torn on how to respond, which maybe means I shouldn't. lol As someone who does not have a gym body, just an average guy with a little gut, I appreciate when "hotter" guys DO lower their standards and want to play with me. Sure, there are some guys that are totally into me the way I am, and I appreciate that, but it's nice when a "hot" guy wants me to fuck him at a bathhouse or from a GrindR hookup too. On the other hand, being a top in a seemingly more bottom-dominated world, I like to be able to pick and change my standards once in awhile too, since I have options to choose from. That being said, there have been times when I've had awful sex with "hot" guys, and great sex with guys that I wasn't expecting to be too much into.

Somewhat related to this topic...my mother recently came to stay with me when I was having some health (GI) issues earlier this month. She arrived on a Saturday morning to find me in bed, and when I said I wanted to sleep awhile more she asked if I had any of my recent medical records. Well, I did (since my campus doctor wanted me to print out her notes and my lab results to take to my appt with the gastroenterologist the next week), and they were in a folder on my end table in the living room that Mom would've found anyways, so I told her yes and where they were. The whole time I was laying in bed, I imagined what kind of questions she might ask about the Truvada and the STD testing that would be shown in the records - so I was planning on explaining what PrEP was and such. What I did NOT know was that my doc had copy/pasted some of those sexual history questions (possibly from my initial visit) when she did the 3-month PrEP testing. So, I tentatively asked her if she had read the records and she said, "yes, but you probably didn't want me to". So I said I hadn't read them and didn't know what was in it (which was true at the time). She then mentioned that she was concerned about my multiple partners and not using protection, and proceeded to ask me whether I was trying to kill myself. (sigh) I managed to explain PrEP and she seemed happy that I was on it, but still did the mom-lecture about protection and being more selective, etc... Fortunately(?), I was sick enough that she let it drop at the time and focused on getting me to eat/drink (which I needed). So yeah...she doesn't know the extent of it at all, but Mom knows I fuck guys bare. Yay. That being said, she will probably never bring it up again...that's just how our family works.

Colby Jansen has always been one of my faves. He does gay porn, but in the link he says in an interview that he refers to himself as bisexual and is married to a transsexual. http://www.nightcharm.com/2014/06/03/tackling-the-mans-man-of-gay-porn-the-nightcharm-interview-with-colby-jansen

Do you have an adult bookstore in your town? While I haven't been to ours lately, when I was going in the past it was a married cock buffet. After a while, or after talking to some people that go there, you'll figure out what times are best. For instance, we have a car assembly plant here in town and I eventually figured out that right around 3pm-4pm is a good time at the bookstore since one of the shifts ends at 3pm. In general, I agree, it sucks to have to schedule around the family and get cancelled on. But, I've found that if they have a good time with you the first time they will likely be repeat "offenders" in the sense that they are happy to have found someone that will help them out with no strings.

While this is an interesting poll/topic, I think we are seeing from the above posts that it really varies from place to place and guy to guy. Here are my brief thoughts on the different options: Bars: I've never been a bar type, not really a big drinker, and I can be fairly shy at times, so this has never been an option for me. I'll gladly go to a quiet neighborhood bar with friends to grab a drink and talk, but the hookup/dance bars are just not my style at all. Bathhouses: Yes. I can count on getting off at least 1-2 times, no matter what the crowd or day. And over the last year or so of going to a bathhouse about once a month, I've only come across someone that wanted to use a condom maybe twice. GrindR: This app can be extremely frustrating at times. As a 34 year old with a cub type build, many of the younger (and hot) guys that I want to fuck on this app will not give me the time of day, never respond, are rude, etc... That being said, I've gotten some really good raw ass on there too. I've just had to learn to accept rejection the right way and learn how to best word my profile and select a pic for the particular crowd on there. Scruff and Growlr: In my local area, I don't get much from these apps - hardly any responses to even a simple "hi". However, when I go to Chicago or Indy, I get more woofs on Scruff and more chatting on Growlr too. I do like these apps in general, though, as they are more user-friendly than Grindr for sure. A4A: It's gotten to the point where I see the same guys, usually 50+ in age, in my local area. Every once in awhile I'll talk to someone on here, but rarely hookup with anyone. Again, I think in a bigger city/metro area this can still be a good site. Plus, they added the safe/bb option in your profile, so it's easier to filter to find bb action. BBRTS: I've found in the Indy area this is a lot of talk but little action. Every once in awhile a traveler will come through and post a quick connect or party ad, and I've heard some of them have good luck in getting multiple guys to show up. Again, when I go to Chicago, I see a lot more opportunities on BBRTS, but actually connecting in person tends to be problematic sometimes. It's almost like there's too many choices on there, so people don't commit to anything because they're always looking for someone new/better. CL: I've had some good hookups from posting CL ads. When I get in the mood to suck off married/bi men, I always find them on here in my local area. Younger bottoms tend to be harder to find on here, and I often get responses from the same guys over and over again (but this is a smaller rural community, so that's to be expected). What irks me about CL is the fact that people don't seem to read and follow instructions. If I say "reply with age, stats, and a pic" in my ad, it's amazing how many replies I'll get with none of those listed. I have accounts with other sites (NKP, squirt, Fet, etc...) but I generally don't use them as much as I use the ones I listed above. In general, location matters a LOT but I think a lot of whether we enjoy a site or not depends on how we're using it and our attitudes about rejection and what kinds of types we're into. We could argue all day long about which sites are best, but we will never come to an agreement. :-)

I already posted above that I've been keeping track of my encounters this year. This has been with a little notebook and a pen. After reading through this thread again, though, quite a few have been using a spreadsheet of some kind. That may be something I move to next year. It's a little interesting that I'm not doing the record-keeping necessarily to remember any fucks or keep contact info (I don't know any names for 90% of my encounters), but more so because I got tired of not having any idea of how to answer the clinic questions of " how many guys in the last 30 days? in the last year?". I recently got syphilis also, so the diary has been helpful to remember who I was with recently and enable me to inform some of the guys that I was able to contact.

I've only used poppers as an enhancement during sex, but I don't need it to have a good time. I'm one of those Midwestern (USA) boys that didn't do much experimenting when I was younger. I've never smoked anything, I've never really been drunk (buzzed a couple times, but nothing that made me sick the night of or in the morning), and I've never done 420. Now, that being said, this part of me that likes barebacking also makes me wonder about trying something like 420 or something harder in the right circumstances (with people I trusted, at a time when I would have enough time off to recover, etc...). Will I ever branch out and try any of it? I don't know. That's another thing that makes me curious about some of the harder drugs - people say that it makes the sex so much more intense and uninhibited, etc...and you see/hear things about PNP group sex and such as mentioned above. So, I thought, "well maybe I can fuck a bottom who's already high on something", but the few times I've tried this has been very disappointing (bottom was distracted, not focused, never got the actual sex going because of it).

Just depends on the situation/guy for me. I generally do rim any ass that I'm going to fuck (a few exceptions where I haven't due to not knowing whether he had cleaned out or something) and I like to take a few hits of poppers while I do it. Most of the time when I have anonymous encounters, I just get a taste and get it wet, maybe 2-5 minutes, then move on to fucking. With someone I've been with before, I tend to go longer. I hosted a 4-way last month with a bottom twink that I've fucked a few times, and while we were waiting for the other two tops to show up I was eating him out the entire time, probably a good 15-20 minutes. That's probably the longest though, 20 minutes or so. I'm intrigued by those of you who have stated that you've rimmed or been rimmed for over an hour. I mean, I enjoy doing it...but it seems like one or both would get tired (either from being in a position or doing the actual tongue work) after awhile. Poppers keep me going for awhile, but does it take the harder drugs for the long sessions?

I love to rim a hole if it's showered or otherwise clean. I also love to felch loads out of an ass before I fuck it, usually at a bathhouse. I don't usually go back down after I cum, though. For those of you that don't require a squeaky-clean hole, do you catch many stomach bugs that way? I've had some stomach issues this year, which could be from some internal issues (getting probed later this month to check for things), but I've often wondered if some of my issues have been from rimming, even though most, if not all, of the holes I've rimmed have seemed squeaky-clean.