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@freshxtop5 Would probably be a good idea to start one. I'm familiar with most of the main terms, but there a few that stump me from time to time, usually related to drug use.

I suck off bi/married daddy types. I always suck until they unload in my mouth. So hot to hear them moan and tremble when they shoot. I usually keep their cock in my mouth and either use my lips or my hand to "milk" the last drops out before I lift off and swallow. Usually get a lot of "that was great bud, can I come back sometime?" I need to take my cue from some of you, though, and swish around that cum a little before I swallow next time.

Wish I had known you were going to be in the area. I would've come down to meet you.

A female friend and I split a two-pack of Squatty Potties we found at Costco. I don't bottom, so I can't comment on whether it helps with cleanout, but I have read somewhere (a book called "Gut" I think) about the angle of the intestines (and how in some countries, they already sort of know this when they just have the hole in the floor that they have to squat over). I don't use it every time I sit on the toilet, but when I do it does seem to help get everything out a little easier/faster.

Just curious about routines. Do you have one? For example, do you only look for hookups on Friday nights and the weekend? Do you see a fuckbud on a certain night and time? Do you only do hotel fucks? Do you go to the adult bookstore at the same time and same day every week? Or are you always on the lookout for sex anytime any day? For me, I suppose it depends on a variety of factors. This summer, I was open to hooking up any day and any time - mostly because as a grad student I had a lot of free time. Now that we're in the regular fall semester again, I'll likely look more on the weekends than during the week. But if something should come up during the evening (5pm-11pm) on a weeknight, I wouldn't turn it down. Also, a buddy and I have been going to the bathhouse (either Indy or Chicago) every few weeks, so I guess that could be considered a routine too.

There's research about this in areas like Human Factors and such. Lighter text on a darker background can be a lot easier to read and less fatiguing. I remember a professor telling us about this several years ago when I was in undergrad; encouraging us to go against the preset themes in powerpoint to make our own dark backgrounds with light text. Therefore, I also like the style of this site with the darker background - it not only makes things easier to read, but it sets the mood as well (the "darker" things we discuss on here).

I agree with the other two. I have a few extra pounds too, but I've had straight guys that come back for more head after the first time because they're not getting any at home. It's always them that contact me, though. Whenever I've tried to contact them, no response...it's only when they're ready.

Same here. Current PhD student here, on PrEP, and totally into fucking and breeding hot asses. There are times when I also feel the tension - see my comment below. I would tend to agree with your unscientific theory. I'm also doing a PhD and breed bottoms as often as I can. You're right about the other "nasties", though. Just today I was diagnosed with syphilis. I'm fortunate that I had the time to go get tested and treated, and that our student health insurance is really good. But, my campus doctor also made a comment about me getting STI's while I was in the clinic today - the "smart, intelligent" part of me is wondering why the fuck I am putting myself in such risky situations and wants to make behavioral changes and find someone to connect with and date. But I know that won't last. As soon as the recommended 2-week treatment period is over, I'll be back out there looking for hole again. I've often considered going to CumUnion, but your advice is sound. It's probably best to avoid it.

So as a follow-up to my post above...I had mentioned that I had some offers but passed on them. So, I went back and followed up on one of them. The guy came over and I fucked him. In terms of strictly sex, it was good - he gave good head, he had a nice clean hole to eat, and he took a good pounding. But, he was also precisely what I thought he would be...a 40 year old queen. I mean, I like my bottoms to moan and let me know they're enjoying it, but this guy was like the soundtrack to an 80's straight porn where he was the woman. That was something of a turn off. So, yeah...guys being picky sucks when you're on the wrong end of the stick, but you can be just as picky yourself, so keep that in mind. I think it's a good idea to say outright whether we are into someone or not, as opposed to just not replying at all when someone expresses interest. I'm just as guilty of doing that also, but it's something I'm going to try to be better about. I love it when I've messaged a guy a few times who's profile sounds great - nice stats, nice pic, and they seem to be into the right things like bottoming and being on PrEP - only to eventually get a rude reply of "stop messaging me you fucking fat slob". Why not just respond the first time that you're not interested? The only reason I keep messaging in situations like those is that it has worked out more often than not that if I do message someone a few times they will eventually respond and WILL hook up. So no, I'm not always going to "take the hint" when they don't respond. Take two seconds to tell me no upfront.

I agree, the porn out there certainly distorts reality. I do like daddy/boy scenes, but I'd rather find some grainy amateur footage of "real" older guys and younger guys than some of the professional porn. I also like to suck off the dad-bod bi/married types, so it's usually not hard to find those. I agree with this also...in a group it's more about what's going on that what the guys look like. I hosted a 4-way last week, and the only person I would've chosen to hookup with 1on1 was the twink bottom we were tag teaming...but in the group situation, both of the other tops were "hot" because of what we were doing to the bottom. This is good advice also. I live in a rural area, so anytime I message someone attractive on Grindr I get shot down immediately because I'm just "average". But, if I travel an hour to a nearby large city where my profile is "fresh meat" I get more attention, and when I go to the bathhouse there I get almost all the sex I want. All of that being said...I am guilty of being picky myself. I was just thinking of how I haven't found anything today...when in reality, I've had offers, but I've turned them down for one reason or another. I suppose we all know that we could lower our standards and have good sex...but we want to keep our high standards to have really GREAT sex. I suppose it also comes down to compulsion and "need" too...if we just "need" to get off or compulsively want to have sex, it might be easier to drop the standards a little to get it. On the other hand, if you're the type that isn't a horny pig and doesn't feel compelled to seek out sex everytime you're horny (ie. your hand will work fine for you), then maybe you'd be less likely to lower your standards so that when you allow yourself to have sex, it's with someone you really want to be with. *shrug*

When it rains, it pours. :-) I posted yesterday early evening about the hot latino muscle jock that stopped by to get my load. After he left, my buddy and I went out to dinner. I got home from that and was chatting on Grindr and a4a, and a twink that I fuck every other month or so (he's very inconsistent, and it's always when he wants it, if I ever contact him first he turns me down) said that he was horny and wanted some action, but he wanted to make sure everything was good "down there". So while I was waiting for him to respond, I was chatting with other guys on Grindr that were interested in playing. Twink got back to me and said he was good to go, so I asked if I could invite others to join...twink said sure, as long as they were negative as he hadn't started his PrEP yet (just got the prescription). I told the twink to head over, and I got on Grindr and messaged nearby profiles that were tops...a local mid 20's black guy and an early 30's chubby guy that was staying over in a hotel both said they were interested, so I invited them over. Twink arrived first and he and I played around a little...gave his hot hole a nice long rimming...while we waited for the other two to arrive. They both parked and messaged me at the same time, so I had twink put on his blindfold like he always does, and told the guys to come up to my apt. For the next hour or so, we all three took turns inside him. Black guy left early because he had an early morning, but chubby guy and I kept tagging him. Chubby guy bred him first and I got down there to felch his load out of the hole a bit, then I added mine. Twink isn't the most talkative guy, but he seemed to enjoy it. I was proud of him.

Been a little slow lately, with family visits and such, but a latino jock buddy of mine messaged me on Grindr about 45 minutes ago, asked if I had time to fuck before dinner, and said he was nearby. Sure enough, Grindr said he was about 2500 feet away. I asked him if he thought he was cleaned out and ready and he said yes (he always seems to be spotless, no matter what - it's odd, but nice). So I said to come over, and by the time I had put my sex blanket over the bed (to protect my bedding), and gotten the lube and poppers out, he messaged to say he was parking. I had to ask him to give me a second to undress and unlock the door LOL. Then it was business as usual, he came in, found me naked in bed, stripped down, started sucking me, I had him turn around to rim him while he sucked (69 position), then we moved into fucking position with him on his back...fucked him like that for a few minutes...then had him turn over on his hands and knees and pounded away for another few minutes until I unloaded. When he realized I was shooting, he jacked himself off to cum also. Then he went to the bathroom and cleaned up, came back to the bedroom to get dressed, and left. I swear this guy could be a GQ model...built/ripped, washboard abs, perfect ass, chiseled face and stylish hair. Yet, he likes coming over and finding an average looking cub like me naked in bed waiting to rim and fuck him...and he whimpers like a baby the entire time, saying how much he likes daddy's cock and how he wants my load. Fucking hot...but no more than 20-25 minutes total. And I've worked up an appetite for when my buddy picks me up for dinner in a few LOL

I can understand how you feel like he was taking something from you. I like to felch, but I always end up sliding in afterwards and fucking for awhile, whether I unload or not. I feel it's only polite to give something back ;-) Now, if I had a bf/partner that I was whoring out at a bathhouse or sex party or something, and he was taking loads throughout the session, I would want to get in there and clean up his hole every so often without necessarily sliding in after. But that's a different scenario than what you're describing. That being said, I also agree with the other replies that as long as he didn't overstay his welcome or prevent other tops from sliding in, it was probably fine.

Yes, this has been my line of thinking so far - I wouldn't have any sex during an outbreak. I agree on the disclosure prior to dating. However, the tricky part comes in if I fuck someone first and it turns into more. I'm listening to the discussion now... @topstud127 I appreciate your response and agree with most things you mentioned. I certainly wouldn't have sex during an outbreak, not only because it's the decent thing to do but also because it would be painful. However, I do hesitate on your comment about being HIV undetectable and not contagious. In both situations (HSV and HIV), the virus is present in the body, in whatever concentration, and thus able to be possibly transmitted. I have seen a couple of articles online just now that are saying that the risk of passing on HIV without condoms between an undetectable partner and a negative partner is zero...but really? That's almost like saying if a person drinks a can of Coca-Cola each day they won't get diabetes - some certainly will and others won't, depending on a variety of factors. (I know some of you will say it's not the same at all, but my point, after completing a master's degree in statistics, is that the results of a study are highly variable depending on the sample and data collection methods. One famous statistician asserted that there was no link between smoking and lung cancer based on early studies, but after years of repeated trials the medical world finally accepted that there was.) I keep a healthy skepticism when I read one or two studies that say it can't happen when it seems (to me at least) that there is always going to be a chance of passing on the virus as long as it's in your body (i.e. until there is a cure). Now, of course, that applies to my situation with HSV-2 also, so I'm not trying to suggest I'm in any better of a situation. I'm merely suggesting that your reasoning of "any fair chance of spreading then you should disclose" should apply to ANYONE with an incurable infection, including HIV undetectable persons. Further, it is a legal requirement in a lot of places that partners disclose their HIV status - but that's another topic for another time (how does that work with a bathhouse or anonymous encounter?). Also, as a side note, I'm technically undetectable for the HSV-2. My diagnosis was during the initial outbreak when my doctor took a swab of a sore and the lab returned with the results. I started taking the Valtrex daily, but my blood tests (mentioned in the Dan Savage discussion) for HSV-2 have always come back negative. Sorry, but I'm not fully sure of what you're saying here with the mechanic metaphors. Are you saying people should get tested and disclose all the time? Are you saying one should only disclose when they have symptoms? Again, thanks for your responses so far, including the link to the discussion.

This topic has been posted and commented on before, but most of them were more than 2 years ago and I thought it might be good to get some fresh eyes on it. Long story short, I've had HSV-2 (genital herpes) for just over a year....I've been on Valtrex (valacyclovir) once daily for almost the entire time, and other than the initial outbreak I've only had one small outbreak when I was off the Valtrex for a few days around the Christmas/New Year's holidays. Tonight, a buddy and I were having a text conversation and he basically said it was "fucking deplorable" that I was fucking guys bare without telling them about my HSV-2. Obviously it doesn't feel good to hear someone talk about being disappointed in you and calling your behavior deplorable. When I was first diagnosed and deciding whether to disclose to guys or not, I based my decision on the following: if a guy is willing to fuck bare without asking about STD status or in a situation like a bathhouse or sex party where there is little to no talking anyways, then they should understand the risks of what they could catch and perhaps they already would have it anyways. Therefore, I decided to keep on hooking up bare without disclosing, as most of the men I was fucking fit into that category. I still stand by that initial decision, but there are times like tonight (after the text convo) that I wonder if I should re-think my disclosure habits. So...what are your thoughts? Should I disclose to everyone I'm with? Is my initial decision (to not disclose unless asked) and reasoning valid? If I disclose in some situations and not others, what is the dividing line? For those of you with HSV-2, how do you handle disclosure? (NOTE: I respect that some of you actively chase STI's, but I'd rather NOT receive any responses about actively giving/chasing infections) Thanks guys, I appreciate the variety of opinions and lines of thinking on this site and look forward to your replies.

@hungry_hole thanks for another good topic for us tops to answer. I only top when I fuck at bathhouses, but I do like to suck sometimes. As long as I'm horned up to suck, there's no limit to how many loads I'll take...but I think my max at a bathhouse was 2. i tend to fuck more at bathhouses. That being said, I like to slide into a few holes, maybe 6-8 over the course of a couple hours. But I generally only breed 2-3. And by breed, I mean actually discharge my load. I may fuck and go through the motions of a 4th or 5th orgasm, but I think they're dry by then. The more I space out the fucks, the better chance of getting more cum into the asses.

Nice pics...how did it go? Did you find much in your hotel? Go to Steamworks or any of the bars?

I took a spontaneous road trip down to Louisville, KY (USA) on Friday late afternoon. Got into a hotel I found on a cheap deal website around 7pm. By 8pm I had a muscle daddy bear and a twink in my hotel room for a tag team on the twink. Daddy bear ended up not cumming, but I bred the boy. Then another older daddy type came up to the room (he had been waiting outside actually), and I was sucking him for awhile but he also didn't cum. With both daddy types not cumming, that was a foreshadow of the rest of the night... I went over to the bathhouse in town, Vapor, and got a room downstairs by the wet area. Now, I have been to this bathhouse before and I've always thought it was a nice facility - the private rooms are a little small, but the hot tub is huge, the outdoor pool area is nice, the steamroom is fairly big, and there's a nice TV lounge on the upstairs level that would be a good orgy room. This trip I noticed that some upkeep is needed - only a couple of the shower heads were working, the hot tub edges could be re-tiled, etc... But, I was there from about 9:30pm to 1am and I only played with 2 guys the entire time. I doubt there were more than 10 guys there at a time the entire evening. Most local guys I chatted with on the apps said they'd either never gone there or that they don't go often. I would offer some encouragement for those of you in Louisville - go and support it, and get your friends to go too! <end rant> After the disappointing night at the bathhouse, the next day on my way back up through Indiana I stopped at a state park that I had heard about and did some hiking (I had to justify the drive all the way down there somehow lol). It wasn't a cruisy park by any means...lots of families with kids....but it was a beautiful day for it. I made my way back up to Indianapolis and decided to stop at the bathhouse there for awhile. I thought maybe I'd just hang out by the pool and the hot tub to relax after the hiking, I wasn't really overly horny at the time (about 3pm, which made my checkout time 11pm). The parking lot was full, and there were indeed quite a few men walking around the facility, but I soon noticed that I was probably the youngest guy there by about 15-20 years. LOL. So, just as I planned, I spent some time in the hot tub and pool area for awhile. Eventually I fucked a latino guy in my room after he had come in and started sucking me. Pulled out dirty, though, so that was gross and I had to go get a clean towel. I then fucked a bi married guy in one of the suites after he messaged me on Grindr. I had to knock on his door (which was odd) but he let me in and without any talking on his part we got it on and I bred him and left. After some more relaxing, I noticed a couple guys on Grindr that were hot, partnered to each other, both vers/bottoms, and both undetectable. I messaged both and told them to come get my load with my room number. They both responded that they were definitely interested but were cleaning up and getting prepped. An hour went by with my jacking in my room waiting for them to come up...I actually declined advances from other guys while I waited. Then I decided I was going to go downstairs and see if they were playing down there. I sat in the hot tub and had a nice conversation with a couple that were trying to open up their relationship (they gave me their number before they left for a future time), but didn't see the Grindr guys at all. I decided to go back to my room for a little while more, and finally the guys from Grindr came by. I felched some of a load out of the one, but ended up fucking the other there in my room with the door open and a crowd outside watching. I told the other one I'd come find him in a little bit after I reloaded. And that's exactly what I did. I went down to his room, he had taken another load so I felched him a little again (he had a great hole to eat), and then I fucked him some more along with another older guy that had joined us. After I bred him (not sure how much I had left to give at that point, but I went through the motions), I showered and had to get going. It was close to 11pm and my rental period was about up. I've never actually stayed for the entire 8 hours like this visit, but a lot of it was waiting around and relaxing. All in all, some good and some bad for the weekend, but the good was really good. ;-)