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Had a couple busy weeks with grading exams for the class I assist with and a persistent sore throat. Of course, my doctor automatically assumed it was gono/chlamydia *sigh* and did two swabs of my throat for that and the usual strep test. Turns out it was strep (for those that don't know, since I was informed from one of my international friends that he didn't know what this was - strep is short for streptococcus, a bacterial infection in the throat that you can pick up through kissing, or being coughed on, or touching an infected surface, etc... it clears up with antibiotics). I immediately started feeling better the morning after I started the antibiotic, and was horny after being stressed the last couple weeks. Friday night I hit up a guy on Grindr that I didn't recognize as being local, and he came over and found me naked in bed (my usual setup). He was slim, nice ass, semi-attractive face. I avoided kissing him or breathing on him too much due to the strep (although it had been long enough after starting the antibiotics that I was no longer contagious). We had a good fuck for awhile, and when I blew my load inside him I could tell it was huge...it had been a few days since I got off! He asked me to keep fucking him, so I did as best as I could. Eventually I pulled out and we laid there chatting for a bit and watching the RawFuckClub porn I had on the TV. I got myself hard again and we went at it for awhile longer, but eventually he said it was starting to hurt and I pulled out. Laid there for a bit more, chatting and such, and then he wanted to get himself so I moved closer and felt him up while he jacked and eventually shot a load. Then he had to get on the road to continue the 10-hour drive down to North Carolina! Saturday late morning, a guy that has sucked me off before came over while he was running errands (he may be bi and married, not really sure) and sucked a load out of me. I've fucked him once before awhile ago, and I tried feeling up his ass to see if he wanted it that morning, but no dice. Saturday night, I got a message from a mostly blank profile on Grindr that was really close, like less than 1500 feet away. Turned out to be a 21 year old (at least that's what he said) twink who wanted to suck, and he was working across the street from my apartment complex. He said he could "take a lunch break" and come suck me off, so I said sure. Didn't really know what to expect, but within 5 minutes he was opening the door and walking in to kneel in front of me in my chair. For being so young (I'm wondering if he wasn't actually more like 18/19 instead of 21), he gave really good head. I had him stand up and show me his ass and I felt it up quite a bit to see if he'd say "fuck me", but he didn't. He said he was getting close while rubbing himself against my leg, and came in his hand. I told him I wanted to fuck him, to which he replied, "I have to get back to work, but I'll be off in an hour and I can come back and you can fuck me." I said sure and told him to message me when he was on his way back over. Sure enough, 20 minutes later, I realized he had blocked me. Not sure why, since he seemed to be really into me (kissing my neck and ear, sucking with enthusiasm, etc...), but oh well. Maybe he'll pop up again sometime.

In contrast to NLBear, I feel like I've been on the fringes of the gay community but am possibly getting a little more integrated at this stage in my life. Some explanation... I grew up in a rural area where we knew there were gay people, but it wasn't discussed and those gay people didn't really do anything to express their sexuality outside of the local community theater (where they were "free" and accepted for who they truly were). So, I grew up that way - I knew I was gay and had come to terms with it by my senior year in high school, but I just kept it to myself and a few close friends, even in college. I was never a bar type, both because I grew up in a household where my parents didn't drink and also because I was shy and introverted and honestly afraid to go to a gay bar. However, I did get up the courage to do online hookups and go to adult bookstores and such in college and after college (yeah, I realize that's backwards - I should've easily been more comfortable going to a bar than meeting anonymous people online or in seedy booths LOL). So, because of that shyness and meeting people in bookstores and online, I never really got to be part of the gay community in the small city where I went to college. I stayed around that area and continued the same kind of "anonymous hookup" lifestyle after college for a couple years, then I went to do a master's degree at another smaller city. It was during my masters that I started doing bareback sex, and I did some bi/straight "swinger" kind of sex too. I then moved to a larger city (Indianapolis) and tried to dip my toes in the gay community, but wasn't very successful. I had some gay friends, I went to a couple of the Pride festivals, I eventually did go to a couple of the gay bars (but with people I knew, and didn't stay long), and I visited the bathhouse at times. I managed to date one guy, but it lasted less than a year for various reasons. Maybe it was because of the cliques around Indy (the bears, the "club" types, etc...), or maybe it was me, but I just never felt like I could say I was part of the "gay community" overall. However... One place that I've always felt welcome is church, and I still am involved in a church in the smaller town where I'm doing my PhD. The church I attended in Indianapolis was a mainline Protestant church, and it was/is very inclusive and welcoming for the LGBTQ+ community. As a church, we marched in the Pride parade, had a booth at the Pride festival, and had Sunday School groups specifically for LGBTQ+ people and issues. During my time at the church, we participated in events rallying for marriage equality and for more inclusiveness in our church denomination (i.e. church politics). It was in this capacity that I felt like I was part of the "gay community". We had several gay couples in the congregation, some with children, and everyone was so accepting and welcoming. My participation in that congregation began to spark my inner activist. That's not to say I'll be protesting or holding a loudspeaker at rallies or anything, cause that's just not me...but I came to realize that some things are worth fighting for, and that I can support causes I believe in. That leads me to now. Am I part of the "gay community"? It depends. I have "gay sex", I feel like I do my part in the gay sexual community by being on PrEP, getting tested regularly, and telling people on the apps and on sites like this my stories of why I am on PrEP and my thoughts on sexual education. Does that make me part of the gay community - yes, I think so. Do I have a lot of gay friends? No, not really. Do I go to a lot of "gay" events? Nope, but there's not many opportunities around where I live, either. Do I care about social justice issues for LGBTQ+ AND non-LGBTQ+ people? Hell yes. But I've also read that things like gay marriage have contributed to rifts/arguments IN the gay community also...so it's a continuing education to always get multiple perspectives and have an open mind to everything. To the original poster's (BottomKink) point, I suppose you could be right that "being" LGBTQ+ has more to do with who/how we love romantically than it has to do with what we like sexually. I've gotten to know a few guys on here through private messaging who have expressed that they have no, or little, interest in being romantically involved with someone at their current stage of life and they just want to have a lot of sex. I'm torn on that issue myself - I'm a romantic person and think I'd enjoy the companionship and intimacy of a relationship, but like most on here, I enjoy random/anon sex too (sometimes even in a situation where a woman could be involved, rarely, or some kind of kink/fetish). So, I'm not ruling out a relationship. And if a relationship were to happen, it would be with another man. Thus, I consider myself a G in the LGBTQ+ categorization. Now I'm just rambling...so I'll stop.

There was a kid (legal and all, but maturity of a teenager) from Grindr that a buddy and I tag teamed bare this summer. Right after that was when I found out I had syphilis, so I told both of them and encouraged them to get tested. When I talked to him later, he insisted that I had to use a condom if we fucked again, even though he had since been fucking my buddy bare still. I called him out on it, and we won't be fucking again. But, I notice that his profile usually (not always) says "safe only" now. So, I agree with others that say it might've been an STD scare. I've mentioned in another post or two that it's sad that we get shamed for informing partners of our STDs when we're doing the right thing. And it's a shame that guys DO get scared, when a little education about the STDs and their treatment would help.

I went back to the origins of this thread (back in 2012) and found it interesting that some people were NOT putting BB on their profiles, especially if they're in a small town. I live in a small town now and I've never kept it a secret that I BB. It has cut down on the amount of sex I can find around here (but I think that's due to ignorance about sexual health and a lack of sex education) and I obviously don't go around to my church friends and blurt it out that I practice anonymous raw sex all the time, but on websites and apps where people are looking for sex I'm open about it. If a guy says he only does safe sex, I'll likely say "good luck" and move on. As for the quote above from BBBoyfromTN, I agree. If I'm talking to someone and their profile doesn't explicitly say "safe sex only", I assume they are looking for BB. If there's any question/doubt, I will ask them if they're into BB or just state outright that I only fuck BB and we go from there. It's interesting how this view has changed over the past 5 years, due to PrEP and such perhaps...that instead of hiding our preference for BB, we now just assume that most people are into it (or at least I assume this).

I agree with those who have posted before. I'd rather the first time be an anonymous or otherwise "straight to sex" encounter than a date. I often find that the more I get to know someone, the less I'm physically attracted to them. So, having sex first works for me. I've had several guys turn into good friends as a result of fooling around and THEN getting to know each other and realizing that we're better friends than lovers. Of course, this is problematic when I think about dating (in the heteronormative sense), since I want to get to know someone on a deeper level to date them, but I also want the sexual desire to be kept at a high level. It's something I'm working on figuring out. I agree, monogamy isn't an answer to STDs, and removing sexual stigma is a good thing to work towards. I think a big factor in the stigma is sexual health education. In the US, it's crazy that there is no common curriculum for how to teach sex ed. I didn't grow up here in Indiana, but I've heard from other students here on campus that some of them had "abstinence-only" sex ed while others were focused only on condom use while others didn't get any formal sex ed at all, etc... In talking to local (rural, small-town) guys on Grindr, the sex education ignorance is very obvious. I've been shamed for telling people that I had an STI and got treated for it....it should be the opposite. We should be open and proud about being tested and taking care of our bodies, not shamed. (I realize there will be some on here that disagree with this, but this is my own personal view on this issue.)

I'll echo the congrats for being true to who you are, and good luck. As a top, I won't turn down fucking any ass, regardless of whether it's hairy or smooth - decisions on fucking tend to have to do with the guy himself, or cleanliness of the hole rather than whether there is hair or not. I think a smooth hole on a twink can be hot to eat - but I think that's more of a fetish of mine rather than something I require. I've eaten hairy asses too.

Hey guys, I'll be in Vegas from December 2nd (Sat) through December 6 (Wed) for an academic conference at Red Rock. The conference starts on Sunday afternoon, so I'll be up for some fun Saturday night when I arrive and possibly in the evenings after 8pm. Send me a note if you're out in Vegas (or will be visiting at the same time) and might be interested in chatting. Would be best if you could come out to my hotel room since I plan on using the shuttles to/from the airport (and the strip if I have time to make it over there).

Only once that I remember. When I was in grad school the first time (several years ago), I met someone at the mall after dark and we drove to a nearby warehouse or industrial lot that was dark and empty. He sucked me while I sat in the driver's seat and then he moved over onto my lap and started riding me, while I was still in the driver's seat. It was awkward, but somehow it worked and I remember unloading into him. I haven't done it since, though, although I have had some offers. It was alright, but I prefer some extra space than what a car provides.

I realize this is an old post, but I just found it. I suppose it depends. I love fucking shorter twinks or jocks that I could "throw around" in the heat of the moment. Same with certain cub types. But generally I find guys around my height or between 5'9" and 6'3". I generally am not into taller guys than me.

I've wondered about the theaters up near Gary - sites like cruisingforsex say they are hit or miss, though. The bookstore/theater down by Mammoth Cave (Horse Cave is the actual town) in Kentucky would be great to get used in. I've only been there once, on a Thursday night, and it was full of smoke so I didn't stay very long...but I can see how it could be an extremely raunchy and hot place to play. It has 2 theaters, a hallway of booths, and no trouble from the staff since you pay $20 to stay pretty much as long as you like.

I've gotten the message a couple times now, but both times when I logged into my normal computer. I think it has stopped, though.

I've mentioned before that this fall has been busy with school stuff, and I've been wanting/needing some stress-relief sex. Well, I finally had a good evening yesterday (Friday). 1) Came home from campus mid-afternoon, and my latino muscle jock buddy messaged me on Grindr and said he needed fucked. He asked if he could rinse off in my shower when he got here as he'd be coming straight from the gym, to which I said yes. He's always very intense (nothing slow, once I get inside him he just starts bucking away), but has such a nice body and hole that I don't mind the somewhat quick fuck-n-go that we have. After I unloaded in him doggy style, he kept jacking while my cock was inside him and shot a huge load on the "sex blanket" I put over the bed when I host hookups. 2) Since I had been planning on going down to Indianapolis, I messaged a daddy bear on Growlr that I knew from when I lived down there. Every time I come down, I see if he's available for me to stop by to suck him off, and the last few times he's been out of town or timing didn't work out. This time he was going to be free until 5:30, and he said he needed to unload a few day's worth. I managed to get to his place in time, and I got him off within about 5 minutes - quick in and out. 3) After getting a load from the daddy bear, I made my way downtown to the bathhouse. The parking lot was fairly full, but that doesn't always mean it's crowded unfortunately. It was an interesting evening... First "playtime" was with an older (50s-60s) muscle daddy bear in his suite room - I had gone in to suck him off, but it ended up being a passionate makeout and frottage session. I eventually said I needed a break and moved on. A latino muscle beefy guy (probably 30s, not hairy) came into my room and we fooled around. Lots of oral, licking, kissing, eye-staring. There was a little bit of a communication issue - he admitted his English wasn't very good. I got him turned around and rimmed him (great beefy ass to get my face in) but he didn't make any indication that he wanted to fuck, and with the communication issues, I didn't want to push it. Eventually I told him I needed a break, which he seemed to understand. I didn't see him much after that, otherwise I might've tried to get in his ass, or at least rimmed him again. Another daddy "bear" (probably 40s, little chubby but not hairy), I'll call him J, came into my room and we did some mutual oral and that ALSO turned into a makeout/cuddle session where we learned we were both tops. We said we'd share a bottom together if we found one. Another muscular daddy type (40s or early 50s) came into my room, said "hey bud", dropped his towel, and stood next to where I was laying on the bed. Nothing happened for a few seconds until I realized he just wanted me to suck him. So I did, and a within a few minutes he dropped his load down my throat, said "thanks" and left. I imagine he had been there for awhile and it was time to go home to the family and he just needed to get off. Awhile later a smooth former-USMC guy came in (late 30s or early 40s) and started sucking me, and left my room door open. As he sucked, I saw J watching and talking to someone outside the room, and a few seconds later J and this cute cub (20s) came into the room and he asked if they could share the space for a few (I think the cub was going to go down on him or something) but then they immediately left. Then the guy sucking me got off the bed and said thanks and was going to leave. I sucked him for a minute or two and tried to turn him around to rim him, but he stopped me and said he didn't want full sex. I respected that and said to come back later if he wanted. I went down to the hot tub and the cute cub was talking to someone else about bathhouses he had been to, so I joined the conversation. Damn that cub was handsome, had a great voice, great smile...and as he left the hot tub we exchanged a glance and smiles...I should've followed him out, but I didn't. I didn't see him anymore after that, and I'm kicking myself for not pursuing him. I talked to J about why they didn't stay in the room when he and the cub came in when the guy was sucking me, and he said the cub didn't like being watched - we both agreed that maybe he should reconsider coming to a bathhouse then! The bathhouse was doing a "movie night" in the lounge area that night, and they provided some food while the movie was showing, so a lot of us took a break to get some food and watch a little of the movie before heading back to the hallways. Nothing special with the food, but it was nice that they had it. Awhile later, J and I were laying on my bed with the room door open, just sorta cuddling and kissing, and hoping that some bottom would come in and start servicing us. Some older guys (60s+) did come in and sucked us a little, but I wasn't interested in returning the favor or fucking them (sorry, I know most of you on here would take anyone, and I'm pretty open but there are just some guys I can't get into). Then out of the blue this young twink (21 or 22) came in, said "hi" directly to me (after a bit I realized who he was - I had been with him before from BBRTS and he had seen the Quick Connect I posted about being at the bathhouse), and started sucking me and then J. I eventually moved behind him and gave him a fucking while he sucked J. As I unloaded in his ass, J unloaded also..and of course we had onlookers from the doorway. The three of us (me, J, and the twink) ended up in the hot tub after cleaning up...and another older daddy guy that I know from online (50s, he's always looking for twinks to fuck) joined us. Although the older guy kept the conversation generic, he gradually inched closer to the twink and started rubbing his leg, etc...pretty soon they were going off together to the older guy's room...can't say I didn't see that coming! lol After that, J and I talked a little more and exchanged contact info, and he left. I stuck around for another half hour or so, but the crowd had died down (it was about 11:30pm). I knew it would pick back up again (and be younger) if I stayed longer, but I was getting tired and had an hour-long drive back home, so I called it a night. In summary for the day, I bred two asses, swallowed two loads, and made out and cuddled with more guys in one night than I ever have before. LOL It was also refreshing to have so many guys tell me that I was handsome and that I had a nice cock or that I was funny, etc...after so much rejection lately on Grindr and from the locals. That, and the general relaxation in the hot tub, made the night worth it, despite not having a lot of cum exchange.

As the holidays are drawing near and many of us may be traveling, I figured I'd post this... 1) Do we have any transportation workers on this site that have any good stories to share about sex on the job or as a result of the job? Pilots/flight attendants? Engineers/conductors? Bus drivers? Subway workers? Truck drivers? Boat captains? 2) Do any non-transportation workers have stories/experiences to share about sex with a transportation worker? 3) Any tips that you've come up with over the years to find sex while traveling (other than the apps, BBRTS, etc...)? As a starter, I've had a handful of experiences with flight attendants that were in hotels on layovers in various cities, but nothing on a plane. I've stopped at interstate highway rest areas and adult bookstores and had plenty of fun with truckers, like many of you have as well. I'm a big fan of railroading, so I'm especially curious about experiences on passenger trains with staff members, or experiences with freight train staff in the yards or during a cross-country trip.

Interesting post. When I do hookups at my apartment, I usually have porn playing with the volume turned down (mostly because I don't want my neighbors to hear lol). I haven't ever played music while I fucked. But you're right, I suppose it could influence the scene in a positive way, like the music they play at bathhouses. With that in mind, it would have to be something like that bathhouse "club"-type music that I don't listen to other than at the bathhouse. I am an amateur musician myself, so if I had something playing that I listen to often, there's a chance that I may be distracted by it.

Just read this whole story this evening...very hot. Very well written as well. Hope to read more soon!

I don't know if this is karma (and she's a bitch) or not. So here's my last couple weeks in a nutshell... 1) very busy with my job as a teaching assistant over the past 2 weeks, putting in extra hours than normal to get things done in time, grading 200+ exams, etc.. 2) went to Indianapolis last weekend and got stood up by two guys for meeting up non-sexually, sort of bummed me out 3) had my 3-month PrEP testing and all was fine (no STDs or anything amiss with my bloodwork) So that all leads up to this weekend, when I finally have some free time, I know I'm STD-free, and I'm horny as hell from all the stress I've been under. And of course, as much as I want to fuck some ass, none is available or interested in me on the apps or what not. Until this evening...a guy hits me up on Grindr, we exchange pics, he looks like he has a nice body, he says he wants his cock in me and that he's ok with bare, so i give him my building address and tell him to message me when he parks (like I do with any hookup that's coming over - I want to know when they arrive). He responds that he's using wifi wherever he is and that his phone is almost dead. So I go against my rule and tell him my apt number and say to just come on in when he gets here. His location listed him as a mile away...so I expect him to show up within 10-15 minutes max. So 30-40 minutes goes by, and he finally knocks on the door and comes in (I had given up on him, so this was a surprise that he actually showed - I was still sitting here jacking to some porn anyways). He's obviously a redneck/ghetto guy as he tells me that he had trouble finding the place and tried my neighbors doors (great...). He's only half-decent at sucking, then we get on the floor and I start lubing my cock up and slide a finger in his hole and it doesn't feel super clean...but I've been horned up all weekend, so I still push in and fuck away for a few minutes. End up blowing one load inside him, and I keep fucking to see if I can another one but it wasn't happening. I eventually slip out even though he keeps trying to buck away on my cock...and sure enough my cock is covered in shit. I wipe it off on my towel nearby (glad I had that handy) as he tries to jack himself, but I think he saw that I was just done by then so he said he wasn't going to get off and starts getting up (thank God). He uses the restroom, and comes out to find me spraying off my towel in the sink and asks what's wrong..."you were a little dirty back there"...and gives me a little flippant "sorry". It's like he didn't know what I meant when I asked if he was "cleaned out and ready". Ugh...I hate that. Anyways, he left and I'm about to go shower. This seems more like a rant, sorry. I suppose should focus on the positive side of things, which was that I got off in a decent hole. Just wish it would've been a bit cleaner.

A couple years ago I stopped at an adult bookstore on the side of the highway and within an hour sucked off about 9-10 guys (probably truckers and farmers, but almost all of them were through gloryholes). I just went from booth to booth and got straight on my knees at the hole. It was a one-of-a-kind experience for sure, I know there weren't that many guys in the place when I arrived - so they must have been filing in and out pretty quickly as it was happening. I haven't had that kind of luck since.

Recap of trip to Chicago the past few days: 1) Thursday: arrived on the train in the morning and made it to my hotel - they had a room ready for me despite me getting there before noon. I got up to the room and started browsing the apps and BBRTS. Connected with a stocky cub from BBRTS that I had fucked on a previous trip last winter. Turned out he was on a medical campus nearby for a class, so he came over to my room, took a shower, and i dropped a load in him. We chatted for quite awhile after. We're going to keep in better touch this time and try to hang out more in the future. I kept looking for some more action after he left but didn't find any. Eventually took a walk to find a bite to eat and had to stop to get some clothes on Mag Mile before going back to the hotel (the clothes are another story, but not relevant for this site lol). By then, my friend and her parents were almost up to Chicago and I had to make my way out to the United Center to meet them for an amazing opening night for the Blackhawks (they won 10-1, which is impressive in hockey scoring, and we had seats 2 rows from the glass). By the time I got back to my room after the game, I was too tired to do anything else and went to bed. 2) Friday: Attempted to get some action in the morning, but again it was mostly talk and no action. Walked to a favorite breakfast place of mine, ate, and then made my way down to the loop where I browsed at the architecture foundation store and went to a great afternoon symphony/chorus concert that moved me to tears (I needed an experience like this even more than I needed some good sex lol). After the concert, I went back to my room and found a bb bttm bear visiting from Vegas on Growlr that wanted to come get a load. While he was coming over, I asked another guy that was within 500 feet if he wanted to join us and he said yes. So that turned into a hot threeway where the second guy and I loaded him up. The Vegas bottom said it was the hottest of all the fucks he had taken that week he was in town. After they left, I kept looking for more, but nothing really crept up. I considered going up to Steamworks - that was the original plan for Friday evening - but I just wasn't feeling it, although I kept seeing QuickConnects on BBRTS that were stating room numbers and such. I eventually walked down the block to find some food and snacks for the hotel that night. Much later, after midnight, I eventually found another bearish guy to walk over to get my load. We had a hot time, lots of him sucking me, me rimming him (he claimed to have a couple loads in him already), and me fucking him. Brief chat after and then he left. I went to bed. 3) Saturday: Tried looking for some action before I checked out of the hotel, but no luck. Spent the afternoon "shopping" (aka browsing and getting step count in - I'm a poor grad student after all), and then made my way to Union Station to catch my train back to Indiana. Of course, just like always, I had guys hitting me up expressing interest while I was on the way back to the station....ugh, timing. So, I loaded 3 bear asses over the course of about 36 hours. Not disappointed by them at all. But I was hoping to pound a twink or two, and maybe unload more than those 3 times. I probably should've done Steamworks or Manscountry, or traveled to some guys that were advertising on BBRTS, but *shrug*...there's always next time.

I'm often asked if I'm into any kinks. I usually respond that I'm into bb, rimming, felching, and that I'm interested in trying WS. But, I guess I'm curious as to the differences between fetishes and kinks and what are examples of each? Is barebacking a fetish, a kink, or both? Is liking to see my bottoms in a jockstrap a fetish/kink, or is underwear a fetish/kink only if you actually want to "play" with it in some way (sniffing, putting it in your mouth, etc...)? Same with leather. What makes leather/underwear a fetish/kink as opposed to just something that one likes to see (and turns them on)? I'm sure there are official definitions of these somewhere, but I'd like to see what all of you think/say. Thanks.

@NLbear and @Felchingpisser, thanks for the book recommendations. I'm always looking for things to read about this kind of topic as well as just gay culture in general. I recently read "City of Night", which I thought was very good.