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Isn't that the point 😵‍💫

I think bigotry is the wrong word. The idea that "trans men are 'men'" is a pretty novel one, and not universal among gay men, let alone among society at large. It is a stretch to lob that word, "bigotry," at somebody who has trouble with this idea.

Not interested in seeing trans people at the bathhouse.

We gotta fuck at Cellblock sometime. I'll get other tops to help me.

If this is the law, I haven't seen it followed my last four trips to Vegas. The super big hotels can be great honestly because you have two thousand guys an elevator ride away.

Keep going, you're writing it well...

How can we know that? It was only the airplane and the liberal sex culture that allowed HIV to hitch a ride to global pandemic status. In the last 50,000 years there could have been dozens of HIVs that died out.

Kinky stuff

You chipped a tooth on a guy's junk?

Good boy!

I used to have someone on "ignore" and I am seeing his stuff again. Going back to check, it now says "You are not allowed to ignore that member." So far as I know, he isn't an administrator. Is this a bug or by design?

Don't be. Good writing. And if you need an editor, msg me.

Bro, the bitter attitude is not needed around here.

Why don't you post some results 😉

Generally going to agree that they are usually treatable and a nuisance, but there are exceptions. One of my friends contracted syphilis and within eight weeks (!) it had advanced to neurosyphilis. Usually this only happens after years and years of untreated infection, but in this case he was just super unlucky. He was in the hospital for weeks on IV antibiotics, trying to kill it off, and still has dizzy spells and headaches and other general weird things. I know it's rare, but it did happen. Made me rethink syphilis as "no big deal." Occasionally it is.

Nah, this is false. There is no "memory" in the body on bacterial infections. The bugs are changing, but you aren't.

Thank you for saying this, because you're right.

Have you considered that you're getting older each year... And maybe there's a tendency for older guys to be more bottom? In other words, maybe what's changing is you. Just a theory.

Thank God!

Sounds perfect to me... 🙂

If we're gonna start asking, Chicago here. Been a while since I got ripped up.

I'm not even a Devotee. I feel sadness. 😞 Congratulations on reaching the top of the bottoms.

Happy to answer although I don't know why I'm the authority on this. 🙂 I mean I guess I see a spectrum here. From most "innocent" to most "guilty" (put your own labels on the end of the spectrum, I don't care about the names): I'm a 17-year-old farm boy from Iowa and I never heard of STIs. I know nothing, so I am not culpable, because I'm clueless. I test every 3 months and I do my level best to affirmatively disclose whenever I know something. I think I'm "clean..." and I get tested whenever the doc tells me to. I'm following all medical advice but I'm not really being aggressive or diligent in my test strategy. I don't have anything to disclose. I "don't ask / don't tell" about this because the risk is oh-so-horrifying. I'll hope 'n' pray. (I see as this like driving a car with the hood up and just hoping I don't hit someone.) I "don't ask / don't tell" about this because I have pretty good hunches I'm carrying bugs. [your scenario, maybe?] (I see this as more like driving knowing I'm drunk -- and dangerous.) I knew I had a bug, and I purposely injected it into somebody else who presumably would really have liked to have known. [my former friend] Sure, we all have to accept risk, and when we've got our asses up for loads, we're running a risk. But do we have to be completely reckless about it? Don't we also: 1) have to be honest about facts that most people would like to know? 2) need to disclose if we have herpes, HIV, syph, or anything else that people need to know to make an informed choice? 3) have to take care of our brothers out there in this gay world? What was so infuriating about my former friend is he got it bad -- he had green jizz coming out -- and he knowingly fucked a guy specifically to spread it. I said, "You got to tell him what you did. Who knows how many more cases he will spread to the next guy, and then from him to the next guy, and so on, till somebody figures it out? You have potentially caused so much untold misery, when we could all just be fucking happily, even if that means you need to get out of the pool till you're cured." His response was like some of the assholes on this board: "Whatever he got, that's on him, and he should have asked, and he should know better." I just don't think that's ethical. And honestly I don't understand those on here who think it is up for debate. P.S. I'm almost completely of the mind now that there's no special "bathhouse rule" either. I used to go along with those who say, "Any raw player in a bathhouse must know the risks and therefore is accepting any possible outcome." Not sure I buy that any more. And yeah, if that means you can't top a guy wordlessly in the dark . . . I'm starting to think that's just too bad. Deal with it. Be a man and disclose.

Join the club, I blocked Kimberley months ago. I'm only reading all this mess out of horror. I think we have proof that, yup, people exist who do shitty things. I dumped a friend this summer who intentionally spread an STI. No idea how much misery that man caused. But when he bragged about it, I said, I don't need this in my life.

What could go wrong. Nobody gossips in a hospital!