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Grindr is the most compromised, awful experience. The most enshitified app I've ever seen that is no longer fit for purpose, awash in bad actors, and priced outrageously if it delivered what you wanted. It doesn't. I'd avoid it and just use Sniffies to start with.

This phenomena is real. I have more than a few ostensibly bottom guys who love to fuck me and I'm pretty sure I get what's happening. These guys feel a lot of pressure around topping and expectation and have been defaulting to bottoming to avoid it. When I meet a guy like this and there's a connection, we make out and talk and I lower the stakes so that anything we do is just fun. Meeting sexy guys where they are and supporting them allows them to let go and just let their lust flow. When they can't get hard or can't penetrate, I smile and roll into sucking them so filthy that they realize it's no big deal. More than one of these men has become a regular and they enjoy how they feel like a different man when we connect and fuck. Being empathetic is what every sex partner deserves. The same kind of grace is deserved by every man who tops. Desire and arousal is complicated and multifaceted. I pay attention to men's faces and bodies to learn how they feel and find out how I can help them relax and enjoy the moment we're taking. I have a strong drive to turn men on hard and listen to what they say they like as well as what they react and show they like. I've found making a man your sole focus goes a long way to helping them relax and enjoy their lust. Yes, I'm a bottom who loves getting fucked and bred, but my empathy has helped me connect with (a very few) bottom guys and fucked and bred them. One sexy slutty asian bottom with the softest, wettest hole was getting ignored and looking at him I could feel where he was. He was so in need of dick that I started working his nipples and stroking and eating his hole. Eventually I put him in a sling, ate him, and slowly fucked him while other men gathered to watch. When I bred him I pulled on his nipples and told him he was a good boy for everyone to hear. The look on his face told me how much he appreciated my load. There's not much that's worse than a bottom leaving a bathhouse without having been bred. I enjoyed watching a few men using my load as lube to fuck him afterwards. We're not machines. We're not single purpose. Pay attention and that's how you find the amazing moments.

TL;DR: If you fuck, don't put side in your profiles. Yes, and the vast majority of men are misusing the term side because they have also selected either top or bottom. Sides don't have penetrative sex. At all. It's the reason the definition was created. If you fuck at all, you're not a side. If you are a side, you never fuck. Even if a guy has top as well as side in his profile, I've learned from experience not to reach out. If they reach out to me with fucking on their mind I'll be up front that fucking is the main event.

Sigh. I'm sorry you didn't find a bottom brother who was simply grateful to be getting a man's dick inside him. Being a good bottom means meeting guys where they are. Also, "experience" is a weird filter because the only way to credibly see whether a guy is a good fuck, is to fuck. BTW, that is a hot ass you have there. I'd love watching you taking dick.

The sample Top 5 list was a prompt to aid others in producing their own list, not a straw man. What customers want is the first order of business. Risk analysis and other decisions are downstream. There is already a completed business plan with competitive analysis, customer metrics, price modeling, positioning, and differentiation. Commercial real estate involves negotiation for build out funds from the owner to secure the rental, especially with long vacancy properties. I scoped my questions very intentionally to the needs of customers only.

Already a part of the build out plan.

Moderator: This topic was split off from "Death of Porn Cinemas" Not exactly on topic, but I think really relevant given everyone's sharp recollections. I have a friend who is looking to OPEN a porn theatre in Seattle. It will likely be built out inside an existing property in a commercial corridor of a residential area where it can meet all local codes and service a large community. He's focused on driving heavy engagement (sex) once people are in the doors and deplores spaces where guys aren't all going at it. He's not interested in just taking the money, he wants guys to really let go and participate. Think about the best porn theatre environments/public sex spaces you've ever experienced and what made them awesome in terms of layout, facilities, look and feel, etc.. What are the top 5 attributes of a porn theatre where you want to spend time and fuck and suck? What draws you in? What keeps you there? Physical layout and facilities definitely, but also any policies or intangibles that you think make a huge difference in a great public sex environment. Here's a sample Top 5 things for a porn theater: Decent bathrooms that allow for convenient clean out (water in the cubicle). Glory hole booths designed for men of all heights with smooth finished edges. Dark room with signage indicating required participation Fuck supplies (lube, condoms, poppers),drinks, and light snacks available. Cell phone lock up at specific times/days (Drive focus on in-person cruising). What would your top 5 be?

I'm sure plenty of other guys were happy to take it.

Hmmm. Climacturia affects ~25% of men and weak pelvic floor muscles is one of the possible causes.

Can you elaborate, please? I've had my sigmoid flexure opened several times and it doesn't exactly match what's described.

TL;DR: Finding sex is a numbers game, and most poor suckers are starving themselves of candidates. In-person cruising means you look at and consider *all* the men you can see. In-app cruising means you only consider the small number of men that get through your chosen filters. Where in-app cruising goes wrong is in the users head, not so much the app. In person, you can be surprised and affected by serendipity. With in-app cruising, you have to rely on what you think/guess will make you happy. It doesn't leave room for the unexpected, or for what *actually* works for you versus what you think might work for you. The "no profile" people avoid getting filtered out by not having anything in commonly filtered fields. They can't be eliminated if they don't populate the field. For me, I only filter for men who top and sometimes for those who like daddies and guys next door (as I'm most often described). Any adult man, any ethnicity, any build, etc. I know it's a numbers game and I want to keep the pipe full of options on my end.

One time a guy was asking me very detailed questions about my body musculature and specifically my abs. I'd sent him pics and he'd agree to hookup. I was younger and 165 lbs so in pretty decent shape, just not his ideal target of a dehydrated fitness model. This not very good looking, not very fit, not very hung guy was not even in the same country, let alone zip code, as the requirements he wanted of me. It was obsessive, unhealthy, and unfair. I told him we weren't hooking up and said his obsession with crazy body standards he didn't even meet himself was why. Fuck that guy, he was a walking body dysmorphia contagion.

A random guy's arbitrary standards are hardly useful inputs to your worth as a dick-taking, seed-absorbing cumdump. I hope you soon realized his erotic fixations aren't your problem.

His contact details? Asking for a friend...

I have many questions...