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How and when did you start lowering your standards ?
blackrobe replied to IntoBBvisitor's topic in General Discussion
I'm going to push back on the idea that everyone has "standards" or the presumption that they get lowered. Instead, I think people can grow, learn, and change their behavior for lots of other reasons. I mean, even the idea that you "lower your standards" is really judgy and unpleasant to think about. Even that concept *way oversimplifies* how sexual attraction works, at least the way I experience it. I'm always looking to find chemistry and connection in the sex I have, whatever that might look like in the moment. That doesn't happen along age, racial, body type, etc. lines because I've had chemistry with so many different types of men. When I say a blanket "no" to someone fucking me, its usually because they want to use a condom, I've seen them being unkind or an asshole to someone (I don't reward that with hole), or they trigger my self-preservation/safety spidey-senses, etc. My turning point came from realizing that awesome sex is purely a numbers game. The more guys you fuck, the more likely you'll find good, satisfying sex. It's just probability. I also realized that the more filtering criteria you have, the less candidates are available to provide that satisfying sex. There is this weird thing we've been trained to believe that we can magically decide who will float our boat just from some arbitrary criteria. Then once you've fucked some guys who are absolutely fantastic at sex that you and other guys have routinely overlooked, you start to realize how little the things we thought were important have to do with being sexually fulfilled and satisfied. When I let go of the ideas I had about what I *thought* would make me feel good, and instead just tried lots of kinds of men to see what actually *did* make me feel good, then things got interesting. I don't think that was dropping my standards so much as letting go some impractical BS and taking a practical and pragmatic approach. -
I think there's an important place for older men mentoring younger men, with the "Campfire Rule" being in full effect. (The campfire rule is where you leave everything and everyone in better condition than you found it.) I wish I'd had that kind of man in my life as a young man.
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Let's see... legal adults having sex they choose with someone who turns them on and they keep coming back to? There's no problem here.
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If you're concerned, just go and get STI testing.
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If you're calibrated so 11" is "boyfriend dick", I'm somewhat envious. I need to be in good fighting trim to handle anything over 9".
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A quibble is a very small nit picking after all. The fates need to mend their ways to allow some of those decisions. Let's hope.
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I think when bottoms use the word "heat" they're talking about a cycle of dramatically increased horniness over a period of time that then reduces to either a more normal level, or much lower horniness.
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I get what you're driving at. Allow me a small quibble? I think the preponderance of men do have *very general* preferences about the holes they breed. Some men are only going to breed specific genders and specific holes that align with their desires. Outside that, the intensity of a man's need to breed (rut, deprivation, intoxication, etc.) rules what individual's holes they will settle for breeding. This is what makes your statement so true in spirit. Straight men talk about women's role as sexual gatekeepers and that is from where so much grievance, privation, and pathology springs. They also talk about the ease and low cost of getting relief from other men. In a world where what you propose is true in every way, men would be infinitely happier. Breeders would rut in as many holes (many male because - gatekeeping) as pleases them, depositing their seed. So many men would line up to help fulfill that unmet need. That's a world I want to live in.
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FYI, the slurp ramp that was in Steamworks Seattle has been removed and replaced with a more open play area with a large bed and a sling. Make of that what you will. There's always been plenty of cock sucking at SW, after all it is the gay handshake and an almost required prelude to fucking. In eCommerce terms, sucking a man's dick is a "conversion opportunity" - you engage with sucking and close the deal by fucking. There's plenty of fucking going on from the smashing and moaning noises that are clearly audible as you walk around. And when I've been fucked in the public spaces guys seem to want to either fuck me, or catch some of my top's dick.
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I have to ask. What SharePoint site were you intending to post to where that pic did belong?
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There are plenty of men hardwired to be load cherishing bottoms.
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Anyother bottoms have trouble saying no to a Top
blackrobe replied to Pigmansex's topic in General Discussion
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Every time I see this poll question I want to fix it. There's so much ambiguity and overlap in the choices, so it doesn't make a clean forced choice. The fixed pairings are too limiting as well. Intercourse (isn't that the same as bottoming and topping and piggy raw sex?) and kissing at 1.11%? I don't think so.
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I use the same app. It's a great tool for answering questions at STI screenings and for personal interest. At the end of each year it helps me to recognize the MVB (Most Valued Breeder) of the year, who has pumped the most loads inside me.
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This ^^^. You embed your dick inside the bottoms mind long before you stretch his hole around it. Getting the bottom to let go of any anxiety and feel all their needs and arousal is key. The more turned on and needy for dick I am, the more ready my hole is. Even eleven thick inches slide in a treat with the right mind-fucking beforehand.
