SpectreAgent

Look on the positive (no pun intended) side: you've been saved from hooking up with an obvious jerk. I recently chatted to a guy on FabGuys in the UK. His ad specified that he was looking for bareback sex. I was honest with him about my status and he turned vile - asserting that he never plays with + or +UD guys ever. Ordinarily, I wouldn't have reacted but there was something about his nastiness that riled me. I told him tersely that if he regularly plays bareback, he will have - and will again - encounter guys who aren't as honest about their status as I am and maybe, just maybe, he might have cause to reconsider his attitude at some point. I state on profiles on other sites that I have no interest in chatting to, or hooking up with, guys who use "clean" to descibe their or others' status. But I still get messaged by guys who do. They get awfully defensive and cross when I point they clearly haven't read my profile. That isn't the same as the racism you encountered, and I wouldn't pretend it is. But the sad fact of online life is that sometimes people don't read profiles. Or maybe the guy you encountered just gets off on hurting and insulting people. I have come across that, but thankfully it is rare. There was one guy in Manchester who haunted Scruff, luring guys in until they'd been chatting a while after which he'd turn on them with the most hideous insults and then block. I understand he did it once too often... He certainly hasn't been much of an online presence recently. By stating on his profile that he doesn't like racism or bigots and then demonstrating both in his dealings with you, it suggests the guy you messaged has a similar modus operandi. Fortunately, such cases aren't the norm. If I were charitable, I would conclude guys who do that are very unhappy souls inside. But I am not charitable. What you encountered is unacceptable. It's easy to say just ignore it, but it isn't always as simple as that. But you can be sure that decent guys don't judge on skin colour, religion, class... And if anyone else puts you down, it will almost certainly be more a reflection on him than it ever could on you.

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And more besides...😂

I won’t pretend I understand much of that. But it’s pretty clear from what you’ve written that you’re watching our backs, so thank you.

This is very true!!

I thought that about ThisVid - but actually when you start using it, it’s really quite easy to become friends with thx posters. Still prefer Bareback Bastards though.

You looked pretty bloody fit in those black ones when we met, Andy...

Treat everyone as you would wish to be treated yourself, but perfect the art of not giving a damn about what others think of what you do with your genitals.

I have those Timberland ones, too. They’re actually very comfortable.

I love your posts! I have slept with a lot - and I mean a lot - of black guys in my time. In fact, three out of my last four sexual partners, not counting my regular fuckbuds, has been a black guy. Not by design, that’s just how it happened. But each one has not been because of objectification - simply because we’ve found each other mutually attractive. One of things I’ve embraced in my life is how my sexuality has offered me opportunities I really don’t think I would have had had I been straight. I’m from a working class background but I’ve dined at the heart of the British establishment thanks to an ex, who is a high flying lawyer. I’ve also shagged scallies from council estates. I’ve worked my way steadily through most religions and nationalities (not knowingly taken a Russian yet - bucket list) to the extent that if Jules Verne were alive today he could write my life story and call it Around The World In 8000 Cocks. And it’s the sheer differences in guys I relish. So any kind of sexual racism, class bias or objectification is anathema to me. That isn’t to say I don’t have preferences. Course I do. I prefer not to shag twats. They, alas, are to be found in every race and religion. On a side note, I’m sure every UK guy is amused by “BBC” - as it’s the initials of our national broadcaster. I’ve worked for them. I didn’t enjoy it.

Well, if you’re ever in Manchester...😈

Manchester, but often in London pandemic permitting (although I’ve been allowed to travel with work).

It’ll be interesting to see what difference there will be next week when Boris lifts the “stay at home” order on Monday.

I know it works for you and it would for me. My ex and I shared many passions - and some that we didn’t. We had a similar relationship to yours and that wasn’t the reason he’s now my ex. In fact, he remains my best mate who would get a kidney if he needed it.

I think that ship had already sailed. Already guys in the UK are adding “vaccinated” on their profiles. And it has been noticeable just how busier BBRT has been - in Manchester at least - these past couple of weeks.

Paul Rudd is my future husband. But you can join us on the honeymoon...

Daniel Craig or Tom Hardy because they both look like they’d be filthy in bed. Paul Rudd because, well, he’s Paul Rudd...

Count me in, Andy. (You didn’t really need me to say, did you...?)

Incidentally, I’ve always worn my locker key tab on my right wrist or ankle in saunas. That does seem more effective...

The watch thing was weird because, as you point out, it really was influenced by whether you were right or left handed. Signet rings on the left of right little finger were signals, too. Mind you, to this day I only ever travel in the last carriage of a Northern Line tube train. It’s never got me a shag, though. I suspect its reputation came about because it’s the Tube route to Hampstead Heath...

I voted rarely, only because I find so few guys seem to know about it. I wish more guys would use it as it makes life so much easier. It pays to advertise, as they used to say. Mind you, when I was coming out in the 80s (who am I kidding, I was never in!) there were also loads of other codes in the UK. Such as which hand you wore your wristwatch on, or only travelling in the last carriage of a Tube train on the Northern Line in London. Still, we now have the “gay Sainsbury’s” in Salford, so I guess some things never change...

I managed six weeks of abstinence after Boris put us under house arrest in March last year, but I fell off the wagon with a construction worker at Euston Station (I’ve been allowed to continue travelling for work throughout the pandemic). After that, as I said above I largely stayed within a tight bbubble in Manchester. That said, all the apps etc in Manchester haven’t seemed any less busy all year.

I need to be your friend...😂

I’m aware of that. I’m just stating the fact that’s what some guys are doing. And the emerging evidence suggests an efficacy of up to 90% even with a first dose and much reduced transmission. If I had those odds on a lottery ticket I’d be buying them by the bucketload.

Here in the UK, guys are now adding “vaccinated” on their online profiles. It was quite a surprise when I first saw it.