SpectreAgent
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Most guys will go in raw given the chance.
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Increase on getting ghosted on apps?
SpectreAgent replied to Oldercumslut's topic in General Discussion
Haha. I’m sure you’re not. The perils of abbreviation. -
Increase on getting ghosted on apps?
SpectreAgent replied to Oldercumslut's topic in General Discussion
This is very true. That said, I’ve found that the quality of meets from apps I have had this past year - admittedly bending restrictions a little - have been with some of the most terrific guys I’ve ever met online. One from BBRT has become a fabulous fuckbud as has another from BBRT, who I found lives in the next building… There is also a BZ regular, who I finally met last year after months of chatting, who is one of the nicest guys I’ve ever met/played with (he knows who he is!) . -
Your post brings up a really interesting dilemma and it’s hard to give advice. As far as I can see, your information is based on the word of a third party who may, or may not, have her own agenda. I’m a little unclear if she knows you’re gay. If she does, she may be entirely altruistic in warning you - or may have more Machiavellian reasons to stir things. If she doesn’t, she may suspect you are and is trying to test it. Or, she might just be sharing some titbit of information about a co-worker. It might be instructive to know why she has told you this. We are all human and it’s only natural to feel some bitterness to someone you otherwise respect and rate. I would feel the same - also if I learned a co-worker was racist or anti-Semitic. If you found out that this woman is telling the truth and if his homophobia would impact on his role, then you certainly have much to ponder. Otherwise, I should rise above it and perhaps just be aware of it. Interestingly, I have just left a company in the UK where I was very much able to be open. In fact, I spotted two co-workers on BBRT and if I ever opened Grindr at work I would see a dozen more. All forms of discrimination were frowned upon and I could talk openly about partners, and invite them to company events. But I had one line-manager who, while outwardly very liberal, one just knew had a problem with gay men. Nothing was ever said, or acted upon, but instinctively one knew it was there. That is an equally difficult path to navigate.
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Time for BBRT to reopen the party listings
SpectreAgent replied to Truversebb's topic in General Discussion
You’re absolutely right. Guys have been meeting up all the way through. It will be interesting to see how busy the saunas will be once they’re allowed to reopen next week. -
Ah, the red triangle programming on Channel 4. I recall being bitterly disappointed one week to have gone to all the subterfuge of creeping back downstairs to watch the TV with the sound turned right down while my parents slept (why the hell weren’t AirPods invented for another 30 years?) only to find they were focussing on a Lesbian who used her own pubic hair in her art. Queer As Folk it wasn’t!
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FabGuys is surprisingly good here in Manchester. A lot of closeted married guys, of course, but they’ll still go in raw. Grindr and Scruff have been very active during lockdown locally, but BBRT has inexplicably waned a tad in recent weeks despite our easing restrictions.
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The men’s underwear and swimwear pages in Freeman’s catalogues…
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“Working in the porn industry as I do…” would probably be the very definition of an ideal life for some…
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Money can’t buy happiness. But it sure as hell makes misery a lot more bearable.
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I agree. I’m finding myself drawn more to amateur porn for those very reasons. It’s the authenticity, I guess.
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Fuckbuds are the best. All of the benefits. None of the slamming of doors or throwing of crockery.
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I can only speak from a UK/Manchester perspective, but I can’t recall the last time any guy asked to use a rubber in an encounter. It’s sort of a given now that any guy will go in raw.
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Second AZ jab done this morning.
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In the UK, the government opted for a twelve week interval to allow more people to be vaccinated asap. The plummeting infection and death rates here appear to suggest it was the correct call. I had my first AZ shot 11th February and have my second on Friday - less than a week before the 12 week deadline was up.
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The beauty of the Uber option is the possibility of the Uber driver himself. Wouldn’t be my first time...
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I’m another who’s embarked on this rather fruitless search. My best solution was a hotel in the King’s Cross-Euston area coupled with an Uber to the Heath.
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I think your post illustrates how everyone’s journey through this has been very personal and different. I was furloughed on full pay for four months. The weather was great and I have a huge garden. I set about an exercise regime and started writing things that my paid writing job didn’t ever allow time for. By the end of the summer, everyone commented that I was looking more relaxed, fitter and tanned than they’d ever seen me. I certainly felt happier. After World War II, some people were considered to have had “a good war”. I think some of us in the coming months and years will be thought to have had a good pandemic. I know this hasn’t been the case for everyone, perhaps the majority. I am very, very fortunate that none of my loved ones or myself caught the damned thing. God knows, I’m not a COVID denier, especially having survived a really nasty bout of Swine Flu back when that was a thing. But having spent 30 years working in the media in various roles, I also didn’t allow myself to be terrified by whipped up hysteria from newspapers and TV stations trying to generate clicks for their websites. Nothing sells papers or TV shows like grief porn - that’s the basic tenet of journalism. It’s cynical of them, but they’re in the business of making money. Such is my laid back attitude to life that I have been very relaxed, even gung ho, about the pandemic (you know this to be true, Andy). Possibly too much. But there it is. However, there’s a marvellous saying that I’ve always lived my life by: “I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them. I’ll use my time.” It’s certainly how I’ve got through the past 12 months.
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It’s been the reverse for me. In fact, I’ve rather enjoyed lockdown. No more making spurious excuses for avoiding social events/invitations I don’t really want to go to, for starters. As I’m inherently self-sufficient, working on my own has allowed me to focus on what really matters in my life and career. And I’ve still been hooking up, but differently - with a small number of trusted fuckbuds in a bbubble - so that side of life has been fine. If anything, I would say I’m emerging from the pandemic mentally stronger and healthier.
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Thanks. I just answered you.
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Hi there. Welcome. And I’m already following.
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I think it would be down to the individual manager, to be honest. In the case I mentioned, he was actually okay and, as I said, didn't call the police - he just asked us to leave. But I do know the host was blacklisted from staying there again. Not that we were doing anything illegal, as such. But some hotels are now posting security on the doors in Manchester, or at least were before lockdown. Then again, there's at least one hotel I know in Blackpool that would probably have chucked you out if you didn't have an orgy in your room at least once during your stay!
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There is, of course, much sense in what you say. And, in fact, even Manchester’s lower end hotels which had become notorious for hook ups (pre-covid) started posting security guards on the doors.
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I suspect it was to do with the fact we might sully the good name of the hotel.
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Some years ago, I was invited to a small regular gathering at the Lowry Hotel in Manchester. You can tell it's a posh joint because all the upmarket hookers sit in the bar hoping to snare the premiership footballers etc who often stay there. Anyway, one of the guys attending was obnoxious and the host very politely suggested that he cleary wasn't getting the most out of the evening and asked him to leave. The guy promptly went downstairs and told the manager what was going on. We were busted and he at least let us leave without calling the police (given that half of Greater Manchester Police officers seem to be gay or Lesbian, I'm not sure it would have been too bad). Suffice to say, the host was barred from ever staying at the hotel again and the regular partieds ceased. A pity.
