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It varies for me. While I like to get fucked, sucking a guy off is great too. If I am with a guy and we are in for a long night, I like to suck him hard and depending on if it is what his wants, I will suck him off so he shoots that first load in my mouth. Typically the force depends on when he came last. If it has been a while, I usually feel it and love to have is leaking out of my mouth because I prefer to do all things sex completely nude and get the full effect of cum running down my skin. After getting him off the first time I like to work him hard again and then have him fuck me, because he typically lasts longer. Feeling those shots of cum gets my motor running, it helps sell the slutty feeling I have. But I also enjoy the slutty feel of cum running down my skin, either down my chest from my mouth or down my legs from my ass. If I can get both sensations, those explosive shots of cum in my mouth and cum running down my skin, it's been a hot night.

@Phallarchist pretty much hit the nail on the head, sorry to say. There are way more tops than bottoms in my experience, so many more that they (tops) can afford to pick and choose their fantasy hookups. I have found that getting out in the real world helps, going to bars and whatnot and actually meeting people so they can see a better picture of who you are and not just use a few sentences in an ad or online site to paint their mental picture of you.

Sorry to hear about the issues you are having, it's tough when it affects such a fun activity. I was lucky, I had a fuck-buddy top who was patient. He taught me to deep throat by having me lay on my back on the bed with my head over the side, and he would fuck my throat from that angle. It didn't start with full-on swallowing his cock, it took a lot of practice. I had a gag reflex, not quite as bad as yours sounds, but I guess the standard reflex. We practiced A LOT. I got to the point where I was used to feeling his cock head touching the back of my throat, and I could control the reflex, then he could fuck a bit harder and push a bit farther. It took a while, not a long while but there was definitely a time investment. But man it was worth it, and we had a lot of fun getting there! My best advice based on my experience is to start with a buddy who loves to get sucked, and go slow. Maybe try the bed position I mentioned. If he loved to have a wet mouth wrapped around his cock, he should enjoy your journey from starter to full-on sucker.

I have to say it's a combination: the feel of skin against skin, the psychological idea of submitting my body to him so he can "mark his territory" with his cum, the sound of wet fucking when he is cumming and still pounding me, the slutty feeling of his cum leaking out of me... For me, basically the sensory and psychological build off of each other in a loop. The sounds and feeling heighten the psychological lust, which heightens the feelings, which heightens the lust, etc... In the end, I tend to lapse into a slutty frenzy. I like to say I am submissive, but I sure as hell can't lay there when I am driven into a lust, once he pulls out I practically pounce on his cummy dick trying to get him hard again. I like sex hot, wet, and messy, and bareback is definitely a big part of it.

I've never been on either side of a gloryhole. I'm a bottom myself but love mutual oral (69 is divine!). The gloryholes I've seen advertised fairly local online seemed to always stress "no talking, just come get sucked". Until reading this I guess I never realized there were discussions to be had. Learn something new every day I guess!

I agree with the exercises mentioned, but wanted to throw in that doing them with a weight will really build you up. I do squats and lunges with weights every other day and have phenomenal legs and staying power when it comes to riding. The added benefit is that my ass is well rounded and my legs are very muscular, and this seems to be popular with the tops I've attracted. Good luck to you, and let us know what process you find that works for you!

I personally like to see it when people post whatever variation of the "45" age they come up with, because I know to avoid them. In the end, it's their fantasy hookup they are advertising for so whatever makes them happy. I am less than slightly curious as to how it works out for them. My best guess is they end up hooking up with their hand that night.

Last Friday. As soon as I made it through the door and it closed behind me I stripped because I love being nude when playing, it really brings out the slutty side of me. My ongoing fuck-buddy had his cock out for me to get to work on. We've been meeting up for sex on Friday nights because we both need to unwind from respectfully crappy weeks, so I was good with sucking him until he shot his load down my throat. Based on previous weeks I knew we were in for an all-night sex marathon, and after some small-talk and recovery time I sucked him hard again and we got down to fucking. And here we are with another Friday... we'll have to see how tonight progresses!

Not sure if this is particularly rough. I have water and breath control kinks. Through wayyy too many years of running I can hold my breath for several minutes. I'm in a pool or lake and a few feet under the surface, supported by the guy holding my hips and fucking my ass and also supported by the other guy holding my head as he fucks my throat. I'm suspended between them with my back toward the bottom of the pool or lake, my head bent so he is sliding into my throat. I am gripping his hips and working his cock with my mouth and tightening my throat to get him to cum. Both guys are totally into what they are doing and are looking to get off, they don't care about the fuck toy they are sharing. Being able to hold my breathe for a while only goes so far, you'd be surprised at how you lose a little here and there when you are being manhandled and roughly fucked. I'm trying to get the guy in my throat off so he'll relax his grip and let me up for a quick breath of air. The guy fucking my ass is breaking his rythmn, I can tell he is about to shoot a load deep into me. I moan underwater, letting the vibrations flow up my throat to help stimulate my sadistic throat-fucker to cum. My chest is getting tight and starting to burn as I clamp the muscles in my ass around his cock as he thrusts in, and I feel him dig his fingers into my hips as he cums hard. The guy holding my head roars as he brutally shoves his cock into my throat and holds still, I grab his hips and pull him as deep as possible and start choking on his spitting load. Swallowing his cum and feeling my chest burning, my cock explodes, sending cummy pearls floating into the water. Both guys let go and I start to sink, then weakly get my legs under me and push to the surface. Now that I am able to focus, I see that we attracted attention and there are a few more guys collected around us. "Looks like you need some more practice", one said as he comes closer, stroking his cock. One of the guys comes up behind me, gripping my hips and sliding his cock head along my wet crack. I moan, totally under their control and loving it. "Better take a big breath of air before going down, because you are not coming up until"... I don't hear the rest, I don't care, I'm driven by lust as I take a deep breath and go down on his fat cock, and have to stifle a moan to prevent losing anymore air as the guy behind me pushes into my ass, pulling my legs up so I am suspended underwater between them, looking to take their loads and hoping for the loads of the other that have gathered around us...

I like pain, but I want the pain to come organically. I don't want to have a conversation at the beginning to say what he and I do and don't like. I like when the top explores his urges and is spontaneous. Plus, I just plain like the surprise. When I am lucky enough to meet a top with his own special BDSM-oriented urges, I do my best to keep him going once he gets started by throwing myself into whatever road he starts down and being compliant and receptive to whatever he wants to do.

I didn't start sex with men until the last decade or so, and I wish I had started earlier. But even still, as time progressed and I got more experience under my belt, I definitely got sluttier/piggier. I was fairly reserved when I started, give a blowjob, maybe get fucked with a condom. This progressed to relationships and bareback... then more daring sex acts (the first time outside was a thrill) and kinky/BDSM acts. Now I am to the point where once my clothes come off I lose all inhibitions and anyone can tell me to do anything, or if left to my own "judgment" (or lack thereof) I will take the initiative and jump on any cock in the room.

Sad to say I don't get fucked as much as I would like, and am still pretty tight. Based on what I've seen on this site that can be a turnoff. The few tops in my area that I have been with haven't complained, but there have been instances where a lot of lube and patience came into play before actually being able to play. I honestly enjoy the pain of being stretched (yup, giving away my kinks) because it helps sell the "being dommed" fantasies I like to have. I guess until I get into a long term situation where I am getting fucked a lot (as in daily or close to daily and by many different cocks), I'm going to keep up the kegels to stay as tight as possible.

That's five to ten minutes more of perfecting my craft. 😉 Seriously, I've seen variation in time and never took offense or been turned off. Hell, it becomes a personal goal to get him hard, either for the first time or again after he has cum. What I REALLY like are the longer sessions where I can suck him hard, have him cum in my mouth or ass, then work him hard again so he can cum in me again. It's sex and it's hot, but it is also me practicing for the next sex act. I love hearing from a top when they are surprised I was able to get them hard again so quickly (and I also love when they show their appreciation). All guys are different, some of us get hard when we take a breath (as in get hard pretty much instantly), some of us take a little longer, some of us need some inspiration. I enjoy helping with that inspirational journey 😊 so it's all good with me.

Very rarely. I usually feel his cock twitching which lets me know he is cumming, but unless it is an "I haven't cum in two weeks" explosion, I have to go off other cues.

Done that! I like cucumbers in salads, and then one day got to thinking... yeah, this is one of the few times something good came out of my thinking. I used a vegetable peeler to get the skin off the cucumber, and added just a little lube and worked the wet vegetable into my ass. Damn, it stretched and damn I loved it! Used it like a dildo for a while, and pretty much destroyed the cucumber (they don't hold up as long as you would like). If there are any chefs out there that have any suggestions for some hot "food prep", let me know!

Mine is pretty tame in comparison. Two in one day, but both in the same session. I sucked both and they both fucked me, but they didn't want to touch so the interactions were pretty much one-on-one while the other watched. I was ok with it, it was still hot in my book!

Last Friday (7/16) in NY in his living room (starter blowjob), then bedroom (doggy, missionary, and lying on my stomach), rode him in the middle of the night when he woke up hard, then in the shower the next morning (and it was fucking hot in more ways than one) as he was getting ready for work. He is a male nurse I'd been talking to during the pandemic. We had been avoiding sex because of Covid and our respective jobs and responsibilities to others. He is a top and we had really worked each other up during our talks over the months. About a month ago I was fully vaccinated (waited the allotted amount of time after the second shot) and was raring to go. We met up that next Friday as our schedules allowed and fucked for the first time and damn we went wild. I enjoy taking black cock, and have to say after the Covid-abstinence his cock was all the sweeter. We've been fucking every Friday night into Saturday morning since, and are looking to keep the trend going tomorrow night!

I've never ran into the situation where the guy had straight porn on. I think I could go through with the sex, but it would be fairly mechanical (Step 1: suck... Step 2: fuck) because I'd know he was thinking about a woman and not me. I've had a few running gay porn, and it was fun because we ended up mimicking what was happening on the screen. It felt like playing chicken, seeing who would take a look at what was happening and say "Nope, not doing it." The porn they were playing was fairly straight forward, standard suck and fuck. It would have made things REALLY interesting if that had some kind of kink or BDSM running, I would have jumped on that! I think that would be a fun game: have a play list of porn scenarios, and have an app randomly choose what the couple/group is going to do. See who taps out first. It would definitely help get your Sex bucket list score up!

During my time on this site I've come to realize my user name isn't correct. After months of reading posts and people's takes on matters, I have to say I'm more of a power bottom. I've only rarely had the pleasure of being with a somewhat dominant top. I've been with guys who said they were dominant tops during discussions, but they seemed to lose any notion of exerting control once the clothes come off. I more than make up for it by letting my inner-slut take over and take control, because once my clothes come off I lose all inhibitions. At least once I start sucking then sit on his cock and start bouncing, it typically gets him fired up to where he wants to fuck me in his favorite position. Then he starts making some decisions. I'm not going to complain, cock is cock and cum is awesome, but I do fantasize about one day being in the middle of a room with a true group of horny Dom tops looking to truly take control over me.

I've heard that saying, but don't really put much stock in it. You are definitely right about size not being the thing, the black guys I have known have had average sized cocks. My one friend has an average size cock, but has no end of guys trying to get him to fuck them simply because of that old saying. What I do find different and exciting is the contrast of skin against skin, and imagining what he is seeing when he is fucking me doggy style. That visual stimulus and hyping it up in my head helps with the sexual experience. For me, sex is made up of multiple stimuli that combine to drive me wild with lust. Dark hands against my white skin produce an exciting visual which heightens the experience. Him laying on me, our dark and light skin sliding against each other as our sweat and leaking cocks make our bodies slick... just thinking about it as I type, hyping it up in my head, makes me horny as hell... But in the end, I am still attracted to guys of all descriptions. Every guy (hopefully) has an attribute or two that makes them sexually exciting!

Once a day, easily. Whenever the clothes come off, pretty much no matter the reason, my overactive imagination kicks in and I have to play.

I just met a guy recently who loves to fuck guys in this position. I've never actually been fucked like this, but we are going to change that next weekend. Plus he has a Dom streak and handcuffs to back it up, so it just gets better and better. He only fucks with a condom, but hey, handcuffs!

I've never been to steam works, sounds like a pretty hot time! But I have been to bars and such and been both the center of attention and the guy sitting off to the side. I'm not a 20-something anymore and am ok that that is what some guys are looking for. I enjoy the friendships I've made, and have been hooked up with some hot tops by some bottom buddies that I've made over time. In short, time flies by and you won't always attract the same attention. It's good to make friends along the way, and competition can hinder that. Making real friends can help you stay in the game long after looks fade.

I should probably expand on what I wrote before. How I got over the overwhelming urge to need to fuck was to get out to the real world and meet people. Sitting at home and consuming gay porn and letting my thoughts go wild ended up isolating me in a growing fantasy. Getting out in the world allowed me to actually meet people. Building friendships and social circles and talking to people helped put those feelings into perspective. The real world wasn't the crazy fantasy orgy the stories and porn and my own thoughts made it out to be. It was the same as the straight life with new friends, fun, hookups and relationships, love, heartbreak, drama, etc. And oh yes, the sex came along with it. Some of that sex was awesome, some mediocre, some forgettable. Not every encounter was on the porn-fantasy level. But it beat just sitting fantasizing about it. It wasn't easy getting out and meeting people, but damn was it worth the effort.

I got out in the world and started meeting people. It certainly wasn't easy, I was scared to death and worried and... hell, insert one-hundred and one different anxiety-ridden descriptors here. But I had hit a point where sitting thinking about it and watching and reading porn wasn't doing it for me. I started small, meeting up with someone from an ad. After a few of those I went to my first gay bar. And you know what? The bar was pretty much like any other bar I had been to. Guys talking, playing pool, drinking, just enjoying a night out. Nothing like what I had built up in my mind based on the stereotype crap I'd seen on TV and movies. That was a monumental step for me, and it really opened doors to new friendships and social circles that have lead to more of those elusive tops I crave. From there it's been a lot easier to enjoy life because I got past that initial fear of stepping out of the shadows.