PozBearWI

Not all strep comes from sex though; probably not worth fretting but I feel for you that you got it this time.  

9 minutes ago, jd13 said:

Well sometimes I can take that unethicality to a different level. There's a guy I've been chatting to at my gym for several months now. He's in a monogamous gay relationship but we're obviously into each other and we've both acknowledged that. Several times he's 'caught' me in the changing rooms (he times it well), and I've made sure each time to continue our conversations while stripping off naked. Noticed on each occasion, he's sat down, with an obvious boner, while I'm shaking my ass at him if I have to turn around.

I really shouldn't be doing this tbh, but yeah on some level I kinda feel like... I'm working on this guy. I'll make it happen. And it's a bit of a thrill to be steadily corrupting and tempting him. I really fucking shouldn'r but... hey, I am who I am. I want him to fuck me 😉 

His timing it well can't be an accident...

Grindr has for me become spam central.  Easily half, maybe more messages are just spam from some GQ photo that undoubtedly isn't the guy sending the message.  

Indeed @jd13 from time to time we're going to get stuff.  Even if we aren't at the sauna we are occasionally going to get stuff.  Obviously you also have experience and know how to handle the stuff that shows up...

23 minutes ago, jd13 said:

I'm in an open relationship, but I have absolutely no problem with getting fucked by guys in monogamous relationships, whether with a man or woman, on the downlow. I do it all the time. I admit I get a thrill out of it when a guy is cheating with me, even though another more sensible part of me thinks that I am participating in his unethical actions. But all too often I can't resist.

Indeed.  There certainly is a school of thought that if it weren't for guys like us, the married guys wouldn't have guys with whom they can cheat.  But I've always thought that was a lame claim.  If not us it'll be someone else.  

We aren't the one cheating.  And honestly it is up to the one cheating to decide if cheating works better than candor.  My mate knows I fuck around, and I know he does too.  And that's OK.  The whole "controlling another" thing really kinda sucks, whether it is us owning another human, or demanding that our mates only play with us.  (and fuck, really, how is that fun?).  

🙂  @jd13 oh fuck yes....

@Bokkierob I have never once regretted getting my PA piercing fifteen years ago.  Does it enhance the fuck?  Yes but not always, but after a few months of getting familiar with PA jewelry you'll be able to put it in, take it out however you wish.  The hole becomes permanent after a few uninterrupted months.  Most piercers will put something like a 12 or 10 g in to start and best you keep that one in place for every bit of three months.  

You'll heal up in a day or two.  Your own urine which might as well be sterile (to you) flushes it regularly.  The little sting from those early peeing for me felt fantastic.  Nothing severe, just a nice reminder slight sting.  That's over by day 2.  

I can never answer for someone else what they "should" do.  Make your own decision.  But my experience was fantastic.  Compared to any other piercing this was the easiest.  

I like the start and how I imagine the next chapter is going to unfold.  

Hotness and romance...  Lovely!

Um  sure, I get that.  Our democracy's mostly have a certain amount of delay built in to avoid hasty and often unwise decisions from occurring.  But they do.  While they haven't yet the USA path to destruction of our current method of funding healthcare is driven by a desire to eliminate the costs, not to solve the issue in a better way.  Revolutions don't all involve gunplay...

I stumble on the word "tricking".  For me that is turning tricks, not fooling.  And fooling others is a hot button thing for me these days.  How is fooling someone a good thing?  If I need to "trick" my top into bottoming then we didn't have much of a meaningful conversation to begin with...  

I have met tops who I eventually topped myself.  But I didn't have to "trick" them into bottoming.  

I think one of the interesting things for us to watch for is whether these social health programs continue or if the oligarchs gain more global control, and just decide that illness isn't their problem to solve....

Man I love flip fucking especially.  And if a guy insists on condoms I offer up a bare blowjob.  There hasn't been a cock yet I wasn't happy to suck.   And over time "I have a particular set of skills....."  🙂

It didn't take too long in my adult life to toss back to the intended insult "cocksucker!!!" my "you bet your ass" response.  

Generally speaking if the guys cock is long enough it goes directly down, never getting to the back of my tongue (well at least the taste but part).  But it is a pleasure when it pools in my mouth and upper throat.  Kinda bathing my tonsils as it were...  

Oh @jd13 of that I have absolutely no doubt.  I would love to fuck my jizz into you.  

@VivienCumSlut There is currently an authoritarian movement in Australia with elections coming up.  So it is certainly possible the Australian Trump if in the offing.  My hope is that our Australian brothers and sisters will learn from the USA and not elect the authoritarian.  Sorry you're confused...

1 hour ago, partying.hard said:

Plenty of men have walked up to me in a bar, handed me an empty beer bottle, and ask me to fill it.

Perhaps midwest is a bit more conservative.  I've never experienced someone asking me to fill their empty beer bottle....

7 hours ago, Erik62 said:

I am so sorry for yourself & all US citizens who struggle for access to life improvement & saving drugs. Despite me being a GRUMP😡 on Australia's political idiacy, I do appreciate my ability to access free & subsidised hospital, GP & drug care. Hope your stats continue to keep you healthy. 

Hopefully that will remain if the authoritarians running there get in....

Thanks @Westhamsmoker.  USA guy, poz for 18 months.  Not on meds and not under any pressure from my HIV doc to do so.  My experience is mine and not generally shared.  Most poz folk I know have found some low copay methods of getting ARVs.  But with federal funding for research off the table it is unlikely we'll see anything new come along.  Unless those are put out by First World nations such as the UK or EU.

But I have extenuating circumstances.  Upon diagnosis I was informed I have been too successful in life and if I wanted to be on meds, I will kindly pay my pharmacy $4,500 per month.  I found that off putting, but perhaps others are cool with that.  

Ultimately, as we were learning a bit more about how HIV was behaving in my body; the concern for medicating reduced.  It was not progressing much at all.  In fact all the numbers fell into a line indicating I was pretty well controlled by my own immune system.  At the same time I was offered a grant to cover the cost.  I started to develop an inventory as my thinking was I would start; but did not want to begin when I could not rely upon monthly availability.  By the time I had that inventory; we learned even more about HIV within me, I was 9 months post diagnosis by this time.  The discussion I had with my doc was what my body does on its own, combined with other medications I was on which added challenge to my liver and kidneys already; why add an unnecessary drug for a marginal benefit?  It might be years before viral load gets to a point of concern, and CD4 stops rising and begins to drop again.  

With the current world debacle the chief toddler in the White House underway as we have this discussion; it might very well be the case I'll never have the option anyway.  The idea of growing disease is obviously not of concern to the new ones in charge.  Nor is fear of more fires, floods, famine, drought, etc.  In fact they seem to embrace is as a way to control us, for whom they refer to as "vermin".  We have reason for concern about Medicare and Social Security.  In fact it gives me NO COMFORT when the orange one says he won't touch it; as he most often speaks in opposites.  

To the original question, should the US leave NATO?  It doesn't really matter, we have at the words of one man.  I don't think it was in anyway a shared collective decision, but the orange one has taken us there nonetheless.  Now, should we complete the task might be the question.  With us functionally already gone, the question now is "now what?".  NATO has done pretty well for it's better part of a century controlling much of global interactions.  It has been a pretty effective check and balance.  When we look across the globe now compared to 1940; we've seen a lot of economies grow and humans prosper.  One might argue we've prospered too well.  

If our oligarch lords have their way, we will become more subservient to them.  Do we want that?  It's a pretty simple question.  Do we want a ruler, or do we want the affect of our shared voices to bring about our day to day lives?

1 hour ago, TT2025 said:

Yea, real candles on Christmas tree are nice, but you have to be REALLY careful. Real tree catching fire in living room is Christmas nightmare. I used to beg grandma not to use real candles. Never had incident, thank God. When we had a cat real candles were off limit - tree went to floor at least four times a season (with cat always surviving without a  scratch).

The apartment building I lived in on Christmas Eve 1977 burned down due to the "live" christmas tree catching fire.  

3 hours ago, viking8x6 said:

In this context, that suddenly reminds me of my (now deceased) ex-BF, who, back in his glory days, used to have a Christmas party every year with a real tree lit with real candles.

Fuck you knew Fred too?

It is largely the "neg guys", in particular those who are towards the end of their window period.  Back when we had tests but no treatment, there were considerably more in that window period.  Or those whose HIV had advanced; which back then was more often than not "when" we found out we were poz.  

PrEP, ARVs though have done a hell of a lot to reduce infections.  I think ARVs mostly.  TasP preceded PrEP.  With HIV often coming back from the edge of AIDS back to better functioning immune systems; new infections are reduced.  It also seems that guys aren't fucking as much as they used to.  Or perhaps that's my own aging reducing my options....

My experience mostly in rural USA was that bareback was more common than guys advertised.  In fact many who I fucked, or who fucked me, who claimed "safe only" in their profiles weren't.  

@Poz50something part of what makes HIV so interesting to me is that it is wicked difficult to get infected.  Many of the stories make it seem "easy peasy", but for most these days it just doesn't happen.  And from a social health perspective we might celebrate this.