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Of course it's ok. Consider yourself invited !!!

My favorite fuckjoint - and it was simply crazy over there last night. Even though it's unusually been cold here (40's nights), it was packed.

I don't feel badly at all about 2025, sexually speaking. So, if 2026 turns out to be similar, and I see no reason it shouldn't be, that'll be fine with me.

Thanks for your interesting response, PozToxVersePig. I appreciate it; these discussions are one of the major reasons I enjoy BZ. to the quote above, the implication is/was the fact that a certain type of learned behavior was suddenly cut off, in the view of the majority of their peers at that time. As you point out, yes - I was a part of the community at that time, and while it seemed a stunning choice for most, there actually were guys that felt that their lives were so interwoven with their sexual practices, nothing else was worth the bother. I thought then, and I think now that was an over-reaction to all the burgeoning mortalities, but that's my un-researched opinion. There were guys I tangentially "knew" who became so depressed, they simply ended their lives, rather than wait for the grinding down of their bodies, that whole horrific process. For that matter, when one of the gay news-weeklies (Gay Chicago) began publishing all the notifications, it went out of business because no one wanted to pick it up anymore. I'm not saying that level of despair was widespread, but it did exist, and I find no fault with the men who made that seemingly-impossible choice. One guy simply laid down in our driveway and died. Imagine trying to process that in your mind. That's an interesting p.o.v., and perhaps it has merit. I'll chew on that one for a while ... I think that being "forced" into using barriers (assuming one wanted to live for a myriad of reasons), automatically created an 'anti-barriers' reaction in men who had become immersed in the various "anti" movements in the country, and either felt that "it couldn't happen to me" or simply didn't care anymore. After all, we had marched, we had organized, we had almost kicked down the societal doors to be allowed out of the closet, and that was a huge achievement. There was a mindset of "yes, we can and we will", at least in the major metro areas. Rather than "created", it was more a re-normalization of what had always been the norm. If you accept that there is a level of "connection" between two men when they fuck raw, that is unavailable when they use barriers, then perhaps you can understand how displeasing barriers was/is to some men. This website exists for men that are disinclined to use barriers when they fuck, and those types of men have always been around. Thus, I stand by the phrasing initially used. Thank you for your perspective, never-the-less. Sharing opinions about all kinds of issues, relevant to our particular needs or not, is probably the most pleasurable part of BZ for me. Thanks for your opinions and your post, however I don't believe I oversimplified by a lot (sic).

... if we wanted to live our our lives. There were a handful of guys that were so offended by having to use rubbers - in other words, became so "attached" to fucking raw - that they actually kept taking raw cock, knowing it may very well kill them. This was before PrEP or similar appeared. I can't quite wrap my head around those choices, but I knew a few for whom life without taking loads was simply not worth living. When any one "thing" simply takes over one's life - whatever it is - the results can be tragic. Now, of course, the medical arts can offer us ways to live our lives and maintain a sexual life relatively free of what used to be virtually guaranteed mortality. Every single one of us should be grateful for the choices we currently have. Those choices came at a terrible price.

Well, you don't have to keep the door to your room (if you get one) cracked open. Just keep the room-key (comes with an elastic wrist-band) so you can close and lock it. That way, if a guy you run into wants a slingfuck, you and accommodate* him (or, obviously, the reverse). Cruise around, do what you want/need to do, anywhere you decide to do it. You have options at I. L. That said, be certain to check the local weather forecast. Lately it's been really cold, and that's about the only thing that can put a damper on outside sex. Around here, the mid 60's is considered really cold. There wouldn't be many locals around, when the weather isn't in the high 70's/low 80's. I wonder what attendance at the fuckjoints will be tonight: Hopefully there will be plenty of guys full of "anti-freeze" out tonight 💦💦💦 *there's a sling in every room.

Actually, not at my usual fuckjoint. Was invited to a small group-event Sunday night at a guy's place (I know him of course, but we're not close friends), there were 6 guys there, 3 of each "persuasion". One was his "new" boyfriend (read "latest"), a guy from the Islands. He's the type that, if he's going to do it, he does it to the 9's - there was plenty of great food/drinks, his pool was heated (it's been cold as cunt around here lately), and there's a sign forbidding any swimming suits, lots of cock-sucking, plenty of fucking - all raw. It was a lot of fun, and I didn't have to drive - just walked over there.

Welcum new members ... we look forward to hearing more from each of you !!!

That's easily understandable; t's true for many of us, regardless of "position", which is why we do so much of it. I'll grant that having sex is hardly our "purpose" in living; there are many more worthy issues to address than exercising our sexual depravities. For instance, working towards the collective "good" in politics, giving something to relieve inequality in resource-allocations, doing what we can to help alleviate the damage we've done to our planet, etc, etc, etc. Those are self-less acts that benefit everyone those acts touch, and are acts that do give purpose to our lives. On the other hand though, our base, sexual inclinations can only be sated when there's some measure of equilibrium in the world, and in ourselves. Thus, the important fragment of this discussion is that we do both: Help our neighbors, our country, our world however we're able, and answer our sexual outrages as often as we need to. A well-rounded, open-minded citizen is always better than a narrow-minded one.