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Thanks for that interesting response, RubberAustria. I do have a question, however: How different are "fascism" and "populism from the far right"? The only difference I see, is that one actually happened in Europe, and the other has not yet fully come to pass here in the US.

"Fascism is a far-right, authoritarian, and ultranationalist political ideology characterized by a dictatorial leader, centralized autocracy, militarism, and forcible suppression of opposition. It prioritizes nation and often race above individual rights, aiming for a national "rebirth" through total social and economic regimentation. " Wikipedia seems to think so ....

Sounds to me like you've already accomplished the most important part of the negotiation - that being making your limits clear, and he accepted them. The rest is just submersing your mind and body in the pleasure !!!

So do we, bareback-flipflop !!! Slammer is the thing that we locals want to share with EVERY GUY !!!! If you were there on a Fri and/or Sat night, there's a chance we know each other better than we think 😁

eeeeeeeeewwwwwww ............ the imaginary visuals are truly breath-taking 😱

you're all a bunch of PIGS - sweet, beautiful, wonderful PIGS ❤️

Kinda? Christ - it's downright vomit-inducing.

It's neither fun nor anywhere near to appropriate. Corporal distress can be a useful tool, provided the Top knows what he's doing. When that's simply not the case, it's downright dangerous for the sub. I don't know how a sub bottom could get the notion that just because a man says he's this or that, it's actually the case. In the case of Bd/Sm sex, that 'acceptance' of a statement as Whatever's Truth is downright dangerous. This is why I beat the drum occasionally (in appropriate threads) about the boy insisting on a negotiation well before any 'scene' is to take place. NO man, particularly a sub, is nothing but a piece of breedmeat, regardless of whether that concept raises a sweat on one's brow. It's downright fukkin dangerous for a boy to merely accept as fact what any man says when it comes to corporal distress. Boys simply need to insist on what's called a "negotiation-of-limits" meeting well prior to the actual event. A boys well-being, both physically and definitely emotionally depends on more than mere talk, it depends on taking the man's measure in person, wherein things such as limits, acts that are desired, acts that aren't, can be negotiated between the two equals, since until the scheduled moment the scene begins, that's exactly what they are. Tops that mistreat bottoms in an attempt to bolster their own weaknesses are beneath contempt. When two men meet, become acquainted, and grow close enough to establish a more regimented relationship, that's one thing. Until that point in the relationship is reached, however, it's up to each man to pointedly describe any sexual acts he's not comfortable with, and that means it's forbidden at the upcoming scene. Any man, T, b, or in between that won't accept those parameters is simply not trustworthy, and should be avoided. Every so often, when I lived in Chicago, there would be several murders, particularly in the highrises along the lake on the east end of boystown. And none of them needed to happen, but they did happen because some bottoms seem to think they have zero agency, when that is the farthest thing from the truth. Each man has equal agency while negotiating limits, what will happen during the scene, what will not, etc etc. Pardon the rant, but I wonder if anything other thing under the sun pisses me of more than losing men of tremendous value, merely because they don't believe they own just as much agency / value as any other man up to the moment a negotiated Bd/Sm scene commences. 😠

I guess it would depend on the venue ..... a regular fuckjoint, just jeans and a t .... mostly because they run the ac units full blast, and it gets really cold in some areas.

uhhh .... play with lego blocks ???

Shucks .... if I could still blush, I would ....

It's mutual, PBW ....

You're being most gracious in that description, blackrobe. I think the fact is, there aren't enough naturally-inclined Tops around to keep their bottoms satisfied. To your question above though, pleasing oneself above pleasing both partners has, I think, always been an issue for gay guys. Not because we're innately selfish, but more because we don't have the benefit of culturally-acceptable "family trees". Only in the large, major population centers do we find organizations dedicated to - and for the advancement of - men who hear (and answer) the Call to Dominance. I was fortunate, living in Chicago, to find and associate with a couple of those kinds of organizations, and benefitted from those experiences. Maybe that can be replicated (to some degree) in online organizations? We could most likely start one here on BZ, if enough guys would be interested. It wouldn't be like the in-the-flesh memberships in Leather or Bd/Sm clubs of the past, but these days nothing is like it used to be. You mention the issue of appearing "performative", and that's an astute perception. I'm not really sure how many (percentage-wise) men there that even remember those in-the-flesh membership organizations. For example, I well-remember being corrected years ago by a Master at CHC, when learning the proper way to handle a flogger. A Master observed me, interrupted me and then corrected me, and watched me continue to make sure he'd corrected the issue. Interesting that you comment about the appearance of being "performative"; for some guys, it isn't much more than that, and who needs to perpetuate that mess? I think that in any group setting, some measure of "performative" acts will take place, mostly by those men who aren't quite secure in their knowledge of self, which is reflected in their skills. I see you're in Seattle - are there any gay newspapers, periodicals in your area which would carry ads, announcements of Leather/Bd/Sm organizations? That would be a good start, and I'll cross my balls that there are (since obviously, my fingers are busy now). I'm not conflating the Leatherlife with Bondage or Sadomasochism; they are often related, but also have different goals. If you'd like, maybe further discussion via private message would be most appropriate?

That's a most laudable goal - lots of cumdumps are what I guess we'd call "toned"?, but not many are what we'd call a muscle-cumdump. I have nothing against a soft-ish ass - far from it - but rutting in a well-bred musclehole is a rare treat. Butch-as-nails guys need loads too !!!

Patel is reportedly (google) 5'9". He looks shorter though, because of that deflated-inner-tube-like belly. However, to the O.P., if running around the world to attend sporting events is the only misstep he makes, he's the paragon of virtue compared to his fellow cabinet members - Bottle Blondi, somehow leaps to mind. The "kava bag" Ice-clown isn't far behind either.