How has porn influenced you?

[Ranger Rick]

Established completely unrealistic  expectations that could never be met in the real world.

[blackrobe]

Commercial porn doesn't hit the spot with me most of the time. There are a few exceptions that line up with my specific kinks, but mostly it doesn't meet the "it feels authentic" bar for me. It's not to do with the quality of the porn or the men in it, instead it's to do with the psychological component of sex and how it plays out between the men.  I learned that watching regular guys with a real world connection when they play and fuck and breed gets straight into my mind and nipples and cunt.

I hesitate to call it "amateur porn", as that's now become a commercial porn genre, but it's the simplicity of horny guys who record themselves fucking unselfconsciously for their own pleasure and share it. It's made me want connected and intense fucking and breeding in my cunt, not a performance.

[MuscledHorse]

When I discovered porn as a teen my first thought was "wow! guys get to wake up everyday and get paid to have sex with each other? I envy that life."  I loved porn and it showed me all that was possible. I was a bottom and promiscuous  from the start and really got off on size so I gravitated towards the sideshow freak type porn showing guys taking huge toys and getting fisted and the like. "Flashpoint" from Falcon, where a guy took huge toys like they were a couple fingers and then sat on a traffic cone, taking a large portion of it become my gold standard for what I wanted my own ass to be.  Since that time I have been in porn work myself and have a hole that earned me my pup nickname of Canyon.  Porn shows is what is possible for the male body to experience and explore in the realm of sexual pleasure and celebrates that indulgence as positive male behavior.

[hexfet]

Porn is strange - I like how some of the videos are a little more unleashed - but still soooo scripted and needing to meet the "normal way we do these things" - and way too much pulling out to cum craziness.  That drives me crazy.  Just fucking nutt in there like you would do if the cameras were off - that's what I want to see!

So I guess it doesn't impact me too much.

An aside:  I think the online fiction forums have riled up my appetite for rough nasty fucking more than anything else - certainly more than porn does.  I'm a good gentle top until you are decently opened up - and then the gloves come off and I fuck you as I want until I'm done.  If that's deciding your deep ring feels amazing and I wanna keep rutting into it aggressively - that's my option.  And you might struggle but hell I know you'll jerk off thinking about it later so shut up!  Or don't really, watching you grunt makes me harder.

You know that kinda stuff. 🙂

[Guest qqq]

On 9/2/2019 at 3:18 PM, hornyson said:

Porn corrupted me completely. I eventually became bored of vanilla sex and porn. In the age of tumblr discovered some tumblrs full of pozzing porn and worshipping cock and S a t a n  and it felt hotter than anything I had ever seen. No way vanilla does it for me now.

Amen to that! Same with me hornyson 😈

[RaunchFilthPup]

On 9/14/2019 at 8:39 PM, hexfet said:

Porn is strange - I like how some of the videos are a little more unleashed - but still soooo scripted and needing to meet the "normal way we do these things" - and way too much pulling out to cum craziness.  That drives me crazy.  Just fucking nutt in there like you would do if the cameras were off - that's what I want to see!

So I guess it doesn't impact me too much.

An aside:  I think the online fiction forums have riled up my appetite for rough nasty fucking more than anything else - certainly more than porn does.  I'm a good gentle top until you are decently opened up - and then the gloves come off and I fuck you as I want until I'm done.  If that's deciding your deep ring feels amazing and I wanna keep rutting into it aggressively - that's my option.  And you might struggle but hell I know you'll jerk off thinking about it later so shut up!  Or don't really, watching you grunt makes me harder.

You know that kinda stuff. 🙂

The fiction/story sites were more what got to me.   I eventually found tumblr and it’s more amateur/home movies.  Those were hot  

[blackrobe]

On 9/14/2019 at 5:39 PM, hexfet said:

An aside:  I think the online fiction forums have riled up my appetite for rough nasty fucking more than anything else - certainly more than porn does.  I'm a good gentle top until you are decently opened up - and then the gloves come off and I fuck you as I want until I'm done.  If that's deciding your deep ring feels amazing and I wanna keep rutting into it aggressively - that's my option.  And you might struggle but hell I know you'll jerk off thinking about it later so shut up!  Or don't really, watching you grunt makes me harder.

You know that kinda stuff. 🙂

I have to agree. Online fiction (like what you outlined) has led me into discovering a great deal about what I'm built for. Care to share your online fiction favorites with me/us?

[Guest BritBottom]

I grew up in semi-rural UK at time when being a “queer” or “homo” was considered the worst insult and actually being one had just been decriminalised. I was an early developer and very quickly became aware I was ‘different’. I hated it and was terrified of being found out but also had raging hormones in play. The nearest thing to porn in my childhood was ‘Marborough Man adverts, underwear adverts in mail order catalogues, and if really lucky copies of “Health & Efficiency” (a nudist magazine). There was no internet and no mobile phones - porn was hard to come by. It was my mid-teens when I found out about proper gay sex and porn from a magazine called “Forum” and this led to me visiting the ‘big city’ and porn cinemas, even found gay porn cinemas. It was this that opened me up to the process of accepting my orientation and accepting I was not a defective monster – Apart from the porn - I learned a lot in those dingy dark cinemas.  Early Mustang & Falcon shorts were my starting point – no condoms, less contrived and proper men.

Has porn influenced me?  Apart from giving me a strong right arm? Oh yes, and helped me through my youth more than I can say.  It also opened my horizons about what sex could be.  I agree about “amateur” or realistic porn and about especially online fiction where the pictures are in my head.

[NLbear]

I had forgotten about the mail oder catalogues! I remember going through those when my mother wasn't looking, going straight to the Men's underwear section and drooling over the hot bodies and bulges 😉 

[Guest Reeo]

I went from being shy and curious about gay sex, to realizing there men worldwide like me. Realizing my sexual fetishes were common and nothing to be ashamed of. Most importantly it gave validation to experiment and indulge in gay sex...pushing my sexual boundaries. Porn turned me out, from a nervous boy to a cockhungry bottom faggot.

Edited September 22, 2019 by Reeo

[BREEDmeRAW]

On 9/2/2019 at 6:53 AM, Spunkinmyarse said:

Interesting theory, @RawCunt.  It’s usually the dating apps that get blamed for the death of fuck clubs, bathhouses, cruising grounds, etc.  But you think it’s the easy availability of free porn.  I think there’s a lot of truth in that, and it doesn’t bode well for the future, once VR really starts to kick in.  Are we heading for a place where no-one meets in real life at all, and everyone just stays at home fulfilling their fantasies digitally?  Makes me glad I’m old lol.

The "death" of Gay Bars and Bathhouses is also because in the USA Marriage is Legal in All 50 states. We can go single or couple with a partner into ANY bar or business and we don't have to sneak around or keep things quiet.  The main reason bathhouses were allowed was to "give the gays" a place to go and not in public parks or back alley. When cities started to "force" bathhouses to close they used Federal handicaps regulations such as parking and elevators if the building is more than one floor. 

The internet and gay/sex apps did decrease attendance at bathhouses and owners either had to make changes or close. There was a bathhouse in Palm Springs, CA that got shut down because an aide to a congressmen overdosed and died. Thank goodness PS has about 30 Gay/Lesbians resorts that are active.

Chicago had Mans World about 3 blocks from Mans Country/Leather bar next door and a small Leather Museum and gift shop. He never got the entire block but Thanks to Chuck we have IML over 30 years. Now only Steamworks is left but since it is in "Boystown" Wrigglevil with 30+ gay bars and the Ram bookstore down the street. 

San Diego went from 4 to 2 to only 1 ClubSD in Hillcrest. Many cities only have 1 or none.

[BREEDmeRAW]

Porn influenced me when I rented "The Big Switch" a bisexual film and I was looking at the men's body and cock more than any female. I rented it several time and lead me to purchase gay porn videos. VHS back then. It might show my age and also my experience of taking loads. I went to college with my porn locked in a filing cabinet and my mom busted the lock (she claimed that she thought it was stuck with a bunch of papers) and I was OUT. Since then my policy has been if you don't want to know, don't go through my stuff or ask questions.

I did work at our local bathhouse for 2 years -- Free room at Any of the Clubs in the chain let me take anonymous loads from Strangers in multiple cities. Club Indy, Dallas, Austin and Houston.

A couple of years later I respond to an email for guys willing to get Fucked Bareback on camera. That part of porn Changed my life forever. 8 years in front and behind the camera.  Some guys might have pulled out for the "money shot" but I can quarentee everyone played off camera and No Pull Out. I show up in 8-10 videos but was on set for over 50 as my ex was the cameraman. 

[Guest takingdeepanal]

On 9/15/2019 at 10:39 AM, hexfet said:

Porn is strange - I like how some of the videos are a little more unleashed - but still soooo scripted and needing to meet the "normal way we do these things" - and way too much pulling out to cum craziness.  That drives me crazy.  Just fucking nutt in there like you would do if the cameras were off - that's what I want to see!

So I guess it doesn't impact me too much.

An aside:  I think the online fiction forums have riled up my appetite for rough nasty fucking more than anything else - certainly more than porn does.  I'm a good gentle top until you are decently opened up - and then the gloves come off and I fuck you as I want until I'm done.  If that's deciding your deep ring feels amazing and I wanna keep rutting into it aggressively - that's my option.  And you might struggle but hell I know you'll jerk off thinking about it later so shut up!  Or don't really, watching you grunt makes me harder.

You know that kinda stuff. 🙂

 In other words, the kind of stuff that I want you to do to me ...

[Guest takingdeepanal]

49 minutes ago, BREEDmeRAW said:

Porn influenced me when I rented "The Big Switch" a bisexual film and I was looking at the men's body and cock more than any female. I rented it several time and lead me to purchase gay porn videos. VHS back then. It might show my age and also my experience of taking loads. I went to college with my porn locked in a filing cabinet and my mom busted the lock (she claimed that she thought it was stuck with a bunch of papers) and I was OUT. Since then my policy has been if you don't want to know, don't go through my stuff or ask questions.

I did work at our local bathhouse for 2 years -- Free room at Any of the Clubs in the chain let me take anonymous loads from Strangers in multiple cities. Club Indy, Dallas, Austin and Houston.

A couple of years later I respond to an email for guys willing to get Fucked Bareback on camera. That part of porn Changed my life forever. 8 years in front and behind the camera.  Some guys might have pulled out for the "money shot" but I can quarentee everyone played off camera and No Pull Out. I show up in 8-10 videos but was on set for over 50 as my ex was the cameraman. 

 Is there still a decent male adult film industry where you are? There's still an itch I long to scratch ...

[Guest CuriousDallas]

In a sense gay porn was my introduction to what gay sex looked like and it both intrigued and appalled me. So many of the guys getting fucked made it look painful, like it was something to be endured, or that they didn’t want to do. I started out watching the Dink Flamingo military porn, which to me at least looked like real guys fucking and not the stylized and overly processed gay porn that’s so common. What I choose reflected my world...I grew up near a military base and saw a lot of guys that looked like the ones in the porno I watched. They seemed approachable and real, plus most of it was bareback and a lot of times the tip came while inside the bottom, which to me is super hot. Buds would watch all kinds of porn, whatever turned them on. It was OK to watch but I’d rather do the real thing than watch it. I can’t control what’s on film, I can’t change the outcome. It’s cool to watch to get horned up if I need it, but I don’t watch for the sake of jacking off...I watch it before I go to class or the gym so I’m ready to cruise. Most porn just bores me. I hate it when the guy pulls out to cum. Most of the guys in it do nothing for me. It also idealizes and romanticizes it to a great extent. In real life it’s almost impossible to line up a “50 load weekend” or you’re gonna wind up taking indiscriminate loads from any guy. I’m luckier in what I want sexually. I also know that they’re fantasies and the porn industry chews up and spits out the guys who populate the movies. They’re mostly desperate young guys with no employable skills who’ve run out of luck and money and need to do it to make ends meet. They’re probably on drugs, hustling, and doing whatever they can to get by. Typically they only do a few and then disappear. Who knows what happens to them. My hunch is some move on to live normal-ish lives but for others it probably ruins them and their prospects. But for me I don’t watch much porn and it doesn’t really do that much for me, other than get my motor running. I still watch the old Dink Flamingo vids...some things never change.