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I am switching back to descovy, and thought I'd share my thoughts somewhere about it. I was on Apretude for almost a year I think, and switching back to descovy now. Going in, my expectation was that not needing to take a daily pill would make things a lot easier / simpler for me. However, I found the opposite to be the case. Yes, I felt protected without having to have a habit of taking daily PrEP, but there were hidden difficulties with Apretude I didn't expect. The first headache with Apretude is that it's much more heavily regulated / locked down as a medication for some reason. This makes actually getting the dose each time more of a headache in a few ways: More questions and scrutiny from healthcare providers Medication has to be administered by a healthcare provider, not at home Test results for the injection need to be taken no more than one week before the injection, a somewhat tight window As a result, you need to find time for two separate appointments at a healthcare provider one week apart The healthcare appointment for the injection itself is a bit of a hassle. Healthcare providers are required to assess labs, ask questions, and then finally retrieve the injection that's in a secured container elsewhere before being able to administer it, overall this just takes time The next headache were the minor but not insignificant side effects from the injection that I do not experience from daily PrEP. The apretude medication for me caused fatigue / aches / feverishness for a few days after the injection. Depending on the person administering the injection, too, there can be some soreness as the needle is not small itself. Overall, if you can't be bothered taking daily PrEP it's a good option. For me I do think daily PrEP is better. Ideally, I'll switch to some other medication that would only need to be taken once every six months to a year if it becomes available, or even better get a vaccine one day.

After my buddy introduced me to sites like sniffies, I have had no shortage of married “straight” men who are looking to drop a load. I don’t think this is something new, likely just better known with how easy it is to hook up now.

Different hookup sites seem to work differently - influenced I suppose by local customs.

I certainly see your points @onlyraw. Honestly why are we even fretting safe sex anymore?

BBRT is definitely "dated" and in need of a refresh for better user interface. that being said, i find that a separate issue from success rate of hookups. in my experience the main problem w niche sites like recon and bbrt is distance. apparently i live in the vanilla sex capital of the world (i dont believe that but have yet to figure out why the local kink scene is so undercover) and having to cross state lines for a hook up gets old fast. at least IME bbrt has hookups. i was on recon for 2 years and never got anywhere past chats. another issue imo is that sites change focus and tone over years. i've always had a soft spot for the interface of scruff but i have noticed it's gotten far more vanilla "dating app" over the last couple of years - getting rid of a lot of the headless torso look for a face pic centric out gay look and getting rid of the search feature. and don't get me started on grindr - talk about taking a great idea and slowly ruining it!

My first encounter with another guy was during a school trip, no mention of protection were made. After feeling that first raw cock in me, I wanted every cock after that to be bare as well.

Although with BBRT - you know everyone is looking for raw sex my problem Recon there is no way to easily search for other guys into BB Recon is still stuck in the 90’s with their “safe sex” category… they ignore completely that bareback sex - if the bottom is on PrEP, or if at least one of the guys is poz and on meds so is undetectable…. is really safe So being an undetectable barebacker …. I could fill in “Safe sex =‘Always” - but guys searching for other Barebackers will not find me and I am offended by thier “safe sex = never” unless they mean that for viral guys who only fuck raw we need to start a campaign to get recon to change “safe sex” to “condom use”

It had been a few weeks for me, as I found myself with some down time I went looking on the apps and started chatting with a local daddy. When I pulled up to the house I knew the address looked familiar to me as my regular fuck buddy lives at the same place. My fuck buddy’s dad answered the door and welcomed me inside. There were no pleasantries, he stripped me down, bent me over, and gave me the hard fuck I needed.

I've been on the site several times today, it's up and working. I just tried it again.

Although guys who just “oink” you is not really BBRTs fault, that is the guys fault…. Recon has its “cruise” feature….. and even sites that don’t have a similar feature…. I think I am not alone in just getting a one word message like “hey” or if you are “lucky” you may get a “hot” I supposed these are all just trying to replace the visual cues we used to be able to send when we were in the back room of the the local bar and able to cruise in person. So maybe the oinks need to be replaced with emojis of … a glance with raised eyebrow? Maybe of grabbing our crotch?… or brushing our hand across the other guys ass or crotch as we passed him on our way up to the bar …. Or the men’s room ….? Or … at least if they would send something more specific they made it easier to respond to … At least …”I like your photos (or profile) … are you looking?”

I met a "straight" guy on sniffies that liked to cheat with guys on his girlfriend. He had a fantasy of a cop handcuffing him and being used and fucked. So I went over in my security uniform, handcuffed him, poppered him up, fucked his throat, turned him around and blew a big load in his ass. He wants to get together again and do more. Even though I'm negative and on prep, wenever discussed my status. He wants to get together again and do more.