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  1. rawTOP
    People just have their preferences. They always will. There's a point to which what you're describing will always exist. BUT I think what you're asking for is a place where skin color isn't such a big deal. I'm white and I live in the middle of Harlem. I constantly see black guys saying they only want to hookup with black or latino guys. The black community here has faced so much racism over the years that it has become racist in that they completely jump to conclusions about white folks. Just the other day a woman from our block tried to explain to my boyfriend how some of her best friends were gay, but yes, she thought nothing of using the word faggot. People are weird. People are often xenophobic. The key to finding people who aren't xenophobic is to find a place where races mix. The problem with middle America or Harlem is that the communities are only of one race - that leads to xenophobia. Despite communities like Harlem or East New York which historically have been black ghettos, in general there's a lot of mixing in New York - and that's true sexually too. The average white gay guy here in NYC is a lot more likely to have sex with a black guy than they would in Omaha. There's still plenty of racism, but IMHO, there's less than you'd find elsewhere.
  2. rawTOP
    For me it's more of an ick factor and a turn off. "Disgusted" is too strong of a term. I don't have anything against it other than I don't personally like it. The funny part is I sorta enjoy reading threads like the "Last hetero load" - my imagination is able to concentrate on the parts I think are hot without the distractions of things I think are icky.
  3. rawTOP
    Yes, please don't stop posting. I don't think that many of the gay guys have a problem with it.
  4. rawTOP
    Poz guys take Truvada too… But I agree that wasn't the intention of #TruvadaWhore, and shouldn't it be #TruvadaSlut? Whores get paid for their services, sluts give it away for free…
  5. rawTOP
    That's just fucked up. But you should know that your parents cannot claim you as a dependent unless they give you more financial support than you earn on your own. Doesn't sound like that's the case. Though I'm sure the taxes are done for last year and hopefully you'll be out of their place by next April. IMHO though, you need to concentrate on becoming independent (school can wait a couple years until you're on your feet). Becoming poz in the middle of all that drama just sounds like you're inflicting self-harm because somehow you've bought into your parents' view of you. Get away from them and never go back unless they apologize and change. Never see yourself through their eyes. Once you're independent and taking pride in who you are, then revisit the idea of becoming poz. But don't go down that path just because you have low self-esteem.
  6. rawTOP
    Not sure how that will work. Even if Gilead will cover the cost of your meds (not sure if they do this for neg guys), you still have to pay for doctors visits and labs every 3 months which will be costly. Maybe try to find a study near you? But if you're not in a major city, that's gonna be difficult as well.
  7. rawTOP
    BTW, I actually asked two doctors - my colo-rectal surgeon - who didn't think twice with her answer of "it's not a problem" - and my GP who thought aloud as he ran down the list of meds I took and then said "no problem". I trust my GP's answer more than the colo-rectal surgeon's answer.
  8. rawTOP
    I asked my doctor about that 'cause I saw the warning on the bottle - and he said it was fine - at least for the meds I'm taking (including Truvada). There are meds that aren't compatible with psyllium, but none of mine fall in that category.
  9. rawTOP
    Is there a decent bathhouse in Las Vegas? If so, just go and put your ass up and take loads from whoever fucks you. Or get a cheap no-tell motel room and put an ad on Craigslist and the hookup sites with your room number and just take loads from whoever shows up. Bottom line - you don't really need a top to organize things, though it is a bit safer to have someone watching over you in a motel setting.
  10. rawTOP
    That's not my point - I can deal with details. My point is why are public health officials obsessed with such low viral loads? Why aren't they happy with relatively low viral loads? It would seem to me that if the person is on treatment and the treatment is working pretty well, that they should be happy with that result and see it as success.
  11. rawTOP
    My point is that if you get into a relationship your boyfriend is going to want to have sex with other guys at some point. You may be monogamous, but your boyfriend and your relationship won't be. That is the price of a long term gay relationship. Unless you accept that fact, you'll never have a long term relationship (or your boyfriend will be forced to lie to you).
  12. rawTOP
    To that point isn't the graphic above a bit misleading? Wouldn't "well-controlled" be more of an objective and set it in the 200 to 500 range? That achieves the public health goals they're looking for, etc.
  13. rawTOP
    That means when you top, when you bottom - so vers guys could answer both questions. Bottoms often look for 100% tops because they're considered "cleaner" (less likely to have STDs, less likely to be poz). Also - as Max Sohl once told me - bottoms are bottoms, vers bottoms are bottoms, vers guys are bottoms, vers tops are often bottoms, only tops are really tops. In other words, if a bottom just wants to get fucked and doesn't want the guy to ask the bottom to fuck him- then the only safe bet is a strict top.
  14. rawTOP
    Long story - but the one you're thinking of will continue to be a primary pic. These were for something else. I take it out when I'm jacking my cock.
  15. rawTOP
    I thought it was more like 1/4 didn't know. Yeah, I get all that, the only thing I may have misstated is saying "guys" in the title. I still find 37% a bit shocking. I'd love to know the percentage for MSMs / gay guys.
  16. rawTOP
    Not to be Debbie Downer, but… 90+% of long term gay relationships are NOT monogamous. My bf and I have been together for over 16 years now. I've seen a lot of long term gay couples. There are maybe 2 or 3 couples who I think are more or less monogamous. The rest would probably say that if they stuck with monogamy they'd have broken up. In other words long term monogamous gay relationships are only slightly more common than unicorns. The sooner you embrace that fact the sooner you'll find yourself a long-term relationship. Personally I'm much more interested in getting sluts to form long term relationships with other sluts. Somehow our society has taught sluts that they're not deserving of real love or even companionship. That's wrong.
  17. rawTOP
    Sorry, we're too far along to make that change.
  18. rawTOP
    Just saw this graphic in an article I was reading… I was a little shocked to see that only 37% of people with HIV have an undetectable viral load. Based on what I see online it just seems a lot higher than that. Or are the guys lying about being undetectable? It's also a little unexpected that only around half of people with HIV have medical care. That also seems really low. Do these numbers ring true for any of you? They seem wrong to me.
  19. rawTOP
    I, once again, have no clue what you're talking about. AFAIK there's no Facebook setting on my end that would do what you want to do. If anything you need to control your own privacy settings - so the job is yours, not mine. Unless I'm misunderstanding something.
  20. rawTOP
    It's not the pride that's the problem, it's the expression of the pride. It doesn't suit someone who's primary role is service. I'd almost say the same thing of tops. A cocky, arrogant top can be a bad lay too. Self-assured is good, arrogant about it is bad.
  21. rawTOP
    Honestly, I have to disagree a bit. I feel like the term "power bottom" has been taken over by pushy, controlling bottoms who think they're more important than the top. That the top is there to serve their needs, not the other way around. IMHO, those folks aren't "power bottoms" - they're bad lays. To me a power bottom is someone who is there to service and can take pretty much anything that's dished out to him for hours on end. He's the bottom other bottoms look at and think "how in the hell can he manage all that for so long?" Power bottoms have a lot of the characteristics that the guy mentioned, but they lack the arrogance. They're quietly self-confident - they don't need to make statements like "They have an extensive amount of self-worth and value" or "power bottoms, indeed, have more power than any other sexual prototype".
  22. rawTOP
    otebbtop - This site is what it is. Major changes like that won't be made here. (Plus, I don't quite understand what you're asking for - I think you want me to mine other sites for data on users - but not completely sure). BUT, I'm (slowly) working on BBBH.com - it will be more flexible and have more of the features you're looking for.
  23. rawTOP
    otebbtop - take a look at your own profile page. It has all the activity for people you've friended. The only thing that's missing is the concept of a "status update" - because forums are more about longer-length discussion.
  24. rawTOP
    That's how the "What's New" page is supposed to feel. But describe what you're looking for exactly - I'm programming BBBH.com from scratch - I can implement something like that there, and try for more of that feel when I migrate this site to other software.
  25. rawTOP
    Just took two pics of my cock. Not sure which I should upload to my profiles. (Click the pics to see bigger versions of them). #1 is a vertical. My balls look huge for some reason… #2 is a horizontal pic… Which one makes you think "I wanna get fucked by that"?

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