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@brnbk - quick question. Have you reached out to management of Grindr and asked them why only certain countries are being offered these free kits? I am just curious as to their response, and if they are willing to offer these kits to all their subscribers. I think it's a valid question. You might get them to expand the option to everyone.

For me, it has been a situation where my name and even home phone number was given to the health department, and based on timing, I had an idea as to who it was that said they passed it along to me. But I understand what you are saying, I wouldn't know people's names and phone numbers from a large majority of the guys I hooked up with. I may know their first name, their screen name and what app or site I met them on. Funny, the few times I was called by the health department they never asked me questions about contact. All they wanted my doctor to contact them and let them know he was treating me so that I wouldn't spread any further. For me, I never felt interrogated, the person contacting me almost seemed relieved I was willing to cooperate and that was the end of our interaction. My doctor's office did the rest.

I don't know when you live but I can say in Pinellas and Manatee county, Florida, if your name is given as a sexual contact for someone testing positive for syphilis, you will get a phone call from the health department. I know in Hillsborough county they will put notes under your door and call the house and threaten to come and pick you up if you don't get treatment. I have found that, at least it's been my experience, that the majority of these calls are "false alarms". Since I see a private infectious disease specialist I contact him, make an appointment and his office staff deals with the health department. It's only been once or twice but they are very persistent in this area, and generally nice about it once you tell them you have a private doctor and he'll handle the treatment.

Actually this same video company has filmed a number of flicks in what looks like the basement of an apartment or a place for residents use for storage. No mattress, no bed, no nothing - just the floor. So I guess we are not far off from the laundromat.........(for those who don't have hookups in their apartments-lol).

I mean I always have it agreed upon that I am going to bottom. It's true, I think there are some tops (especially those who identify as being straight, or bi, or whatever) don't realize the time and effort that goes into douching and preparing to bottom. It's like they are oblivious to the whole situation..... So yes, I discuss it, and if the guy is ah, "on the fence", or "I am not sure" then usually it's a no go. I had a situation where it was late on a weekend I was really horny, the guy was not from the US, but I really wanted to meet him and he said he just wanted head. I agreed. Funny, we started doing that and suddenly he changed his mind and wanted to fuck me. Well, I figured he was leaving Florida in a few days and this was going to be my one opportunity to hook up with him. So even though I wasn't expecting it. I agreed to let him fuck me bb. Everything was fine in the end, no issues, but the entire time he was fucking me I was worried, like, what if I am not perfectly clean? I normally don't go online without being prepared anyway, so the basics were done, but still he did change his mind and I was caught off guard. In the end it turned out fine, he got off and I was happy that he was happy. But I shy away from guys who say "Oral Only" in their profile, that's the reason the word "bottom" is clearly stated in my profiles.

I have, in the past, taken the contents of that condom and used it for lube for the next top - so you are right, it has a duel purpose. I also had a very hot guy jack off into a cup (as a birthday present for me) and mail it to me and I then used it for lube, It smelled bad but personally he was so hot, I used ever bit of his cum for lube. I let him watch on the ICU webcam program.

Sir Peter, no doubt.

@BootmanLA - glad to hear you are healing and this didn't manifest into something terrible. I know some people are not fans of antibiotics, but as you said you are almost back to normal and that's what is most important. Take care!

Like you said, we're all different and have various views , especially when it comes to condoms. I respect your opinion, I just know myself and I think of all the hot men I would have missed out on sleeping with because I refused to allow them to wear condoms. For me, I made the right choice to allow them to use one.....

I started in 7th grade at an all boys Catholic school, nothing too serious at first. Senior year of high school I played high school and would hang out in the locker room, which was shared by guys who played all sports. Again, just giving head when no one was around. After graduating the summer before I started college I took some courses at the University I attended and that gave me access to guys who had dorm rooms that were upper classman that were taking summer courses. It was a great way to have privacy, get to bottom and by the time classes started for me officially in the fall I had a number of guys I could count on who would want some head or a piece of ass. High school and college were a blast for me.

@NudistBBBLK - I'll back you up on educating married or straight guys regarding BB sex. It's been my experience that they are well aware of the dangers involved, even if you are undetectable. Depending on what site I met them on, most expect you to have condoms or bring them with them. One of my favorite repeats initially started out with me blowing him, but once he became comfortable he wanted to fuck. I actually had to put the condom on his dick, he had never used one in his married life. Again, I agree with you on Barebackrt, it is useless in some rural areas. Many married guys have never heard of that site, yet everyone knows Grindr. I have made the decision if the guy is hot, and I really want to have sex with him, that little piece of plastic he wants to wear is not going to deter me. Why pass up an opportunity to have sex with an incredibly attractive man who is equally as eager to get naked with you? I have had some of the best sex with these guys and that condom didn't matter. I stopped trying to educate them because frankly, I respect the fact they want to be as safe as possible and I don't want to have them walk out the door.

I spent one evening at Canyon Club, and one night was enough for me. It was a real fuck fest once the sun went down, but the property itself isn't up to the standards of alot of the other guest houses. To answer the question posted by @Gekfun - yes the did allow me to have visitors, and actually asked me if the two were "visiting" in my room when I went in to buy lube at the front office. It seems if you don't rent a room or have a reservation, they allow people in but they keep their photo ID until they leave the property. At least that was the policy when I was there.. The back play room was very busy, and if you are an exhibitionist this place has no problem with that. One room in particular set up a sling and left the blinds open so everyone could watch. A very diverse group of men, 20s to 60s, Americans as well as Canadians and Europeans. The rooms could have used some remodeling, or updating, and getting towels became difficult as the night wore on. But for one night, it helped me greatly as I flew stand by and could not get into the resort I had booked until the following day. Granted the staff does the bare minimum, but the price was reasonable, there is plenty of sex available, especially in the evenings. The year I was there I went in March, the weather was warm enough during the day and in the evenings you could still be naked and not freeze your ass off outside. You won't have a problem getting laid there, and no one will hassle you about where on the property you do it.

I happen to live near the Sunshine Skyway Bridge and many of the Sniffies hookups wanted to play in their car at Maximo Park, which is like a 5 minute drive for me. One problem - Pinellas County Sheriff got wind of what was going on and started "ticketing" guys for having sex in vehicles and referring their information to the State Attorney's Office. I had a friend who was snagged doing it and it has literally turned his world upside down, as there is a fear of possibly ending up on the sexual offender's list. Granted the probability of that happening is small, but still he had to hire an attorney, go to court, it really was a nightmare for him. What makes me scratch my head is it's just as easy to come to my place than to find a place in the park that is out of view. So you are right, "traffic" as I call it, is down on Sniffies, at least in the Saint Pete area. One bright side is it now Spring Break/Snowbird Season so there are alot of out of towners in my area and they are more willing to come to the house and less likely to pressure me to have sex in a car. However, once summer comes and they go home, I think Sniffies will go back to being kind of slow. I don't understand this sudden "sex the the car phenomenon" as it is risky, and in my case I live so close to the area it just makes sense to come here.

This isn't anything new. Even in rural areas, the percentage of those guys who identify as "straight" but were still on the DL is very high, almost equal to those living in metropolitan areas. As I have gotten older, many of the guys I have hooked up with were formerly married to women, or have children from past relationships. I figured that was a "sign of the times" as many who were willing to talk about the subject said family pressure was the main reason they married and had children, not because they really wanted to. I moved from a more rural area to a metropolitan one, and I found that the percent was about the same. Also, if I met guys through say through the now defunct Craigslist, those guys were not the same as those who would post profiles on say adam4adam, or barebackrt. I would say the majority identified as bisexual or said they were straight, but wanted to have sex with a guy once in a while. I heard reasons like "My wife won't suck my dick" or "She won't do anal". When I lived in "the country" so to speak, the three guys who I saw on a regular basis were either married, previously married or were living with a woman. I used to think there was something wrong with me that I attracted guys that used to have sex only with women, but after talking to other guys I found that they too, were having sex with guys who identified as bisexual or wouldn't even go that far. I make it a point not to ask personal questions when I first meet someone. It's not my business, no one forced them to respond to my profiles or come over my place. But after a few years and seeing a personal twenty or thirty times, I felt a question here and there was fair game and those who continued to stop by eventually opened up and talked about their personal lives. After all, it's just sex, there is no emotional involvement, and no one owes anyone an explanation. But a little background info about how you ended up in my bed on multiple occasions made me more comfortable with them . In most instances, I answer their texts first.

No, I didn't think bashing was what you had in mind. More like use your common sense, it'll make your life a lot less complicated. I get it.......thanks.

Sleeping with the brother of your boyfriend? His brother is a bit too close to home. If you really value your relationship with your boyfriend I would file that fantasy away in the "If I only could sleep with....." part of your brain. Because frankly, that's a recipe for disaster, at least in my opinion. Now, if some glorious day your bf tells you he wants to include his brother in a little three way play - JUMP ON THAT OPPORTUNITY. It never happened to me when it comes to boyfriends. But I have slept with two brothers at the same time, as well as a father/son duo (dad in his late 40s, son in his early 20s). The "two brothers" scenario ended with one of them crying, the "father/son" combination has come over multiple times. I'd really tread lightly here, and like you posted, you are not even sure his brother his gay....

I got the flu shot in November. I didn't socialize much, wore a mask at the Supermarket and Walmart, and still ended up getting the flu the week before Christmas. Tamiflu (I believe that is what is was called) was prescribed by my doctor and I felt so much better in two days, though it was a five day treatment. Sad thing was trying to find a pharmacy that had it in stock, an out-of-the way Walgreens finally had some in available. The toughest part was conniving my doctor I didn't have Covid, my "at home" tests were expired and they didn't want me coming into the office. Thank God fhey were willing to do my visit via web-cam because I was really suffering, I thought my head was ready to explode. I am convinced you can get the flu almost anywhere, I think next year I won't wait till November but I was also getting vaccinated for MPK and another covid booster that month and I just didn't remember to do it. I won't make that mistake next yet.

Well I don't share the files, I don't use the "torrents" app either to view them. I watch them, then delete. I took the advice from torrents themselves when they say studios like Corbin Fisher and Lucas Entertainment are known to prosecute people who illegally download their movies, which is nothing I am crying over as those studies are two I stay away from. I am aware of an individual in my area who downloaded the entire server from a now closed bath house in Tampa, and he was arrested on site and spent time in Federal prison. Not the way I want to spend my time, so I have limited my downloads to a few times a year but I have wanted to keep the account active as new memberships have become increasing difficult to obtain. Not making excuses for my behavior but it just has been something I have had for so many years and it wasn't until I joined this Forum that I have heard negative feed back on it being either illegal or unethical (granted downloading the entire server from a bath house seemed to me to be somewhat different). One poster stated I was stealing from OnlyFans models, but I was in contact with one performer who told me he sold his entire collection to torrents that was made up to a certain date, and he said he has no issue with downloading his sold movies as he feels he has been fairly compensated. Granted I reached out to him on Twitter (when it was under different ownership) however I can 't say honestly I asked each guy individually if he had a problem with it. I am curious how their movies end up there in the first place? I don't see an "upload" button under the list of movies so somehow torrents is obtaining them. I guess I'll keep comments regarding torrents to myself from now on, it seems to be the dirty little secret that people know about but few admit to participating in. I wonder just how many people (especially those who came online in the early 2000s) have active accounts but won't admit to it. But I will follow the forum rules here, I wouldn't know how to upload material anyway yet I see many photos or still shots posted by others and I have always wondered why those are allowed. Again, I had no plans doing that here but it does make me wonder when I see phots in galleries and it is clear that the pics posted are not the member, why is that okay? Those pics had to come from somewhere.........

Question.......when I first joined about a year ago a very nice moderator told me that discussing "torrents" was some what prohibited. I have seen it mentioned in the past and I was curious as to what the situation is now. I was told certain production companies (Lucas Entertainment, etc.) were aggressive in prosecuting those who downloaded from that site. What I have found is it is not the actual downloading, but the sharing of files, that gets you in trouble legally. Can you tell me what you know persoanally? Lucas Entertainment (and Corbin Fisher for that matter) have a reputation for going after individuals, but if you download and then erase that video from your torrents streaming platform, how can they track an individual down and what, if you know, are the consequences?

Yep, I will do just that....thanks.....

Wow, do we have a lot in common. I got bounced from a Zoom room for partying, and Skype for having sex in a group where I thought that was the reason we were all there. WTF? Where are we supposed to go? Are you banned from MeWe? 😯 Wow I don’t know what they think you did but that is rough. I used to party openly on Google Zoom rooms and I always asked the moderator if it was allowed, so I knew I was safe. I don’t know if you tried my-slam.com but they are very lenient. Just an opinion…. Take care

I'll say this regarding those parties. If you go to the one's closest to you geographically, you are going to see and find guys that you often see on hook uo sites in your area and that's fine. It's like "speed fucking" like the old fashioned "speed dating" you might see on some cheesy movie. However most guys want to spend just a limited about of time with someone because they are always afraid they will miss out on someone hotter. Now, going to one in a city where you don't know anyone - that's the deal! You're the new guy, many want to find out who you are and what you are into, so I suggest going on "road trips" and making it like a 4 day weekend. You can exchange numbers so when the "party" ends that evening, you still have a bunch of other options to play with. Are these parties worth it? They are what you make them, I know Barebackrt will list those whose invitation has been accepted so you have an idea as to the top/vers/bttm ratio that should be in attendance. Don't have your heart set on one guy, probably he won't be there. DON'T be fashionably late either because all the hot guys may have cum and gone by the time you get there. It amazes me the invite attendees often are people you never normally see online, barebackrt.com is notorious for that scenario. But having a whole bunch of guys to choose from seems to get the ultra-hotties to come out. I guess they are pretty much "booked-in-advance" on a normal weekend.

In 2009 I flew from Tampa, Florida to Vancouver, Canada to spend 5 days (actually evenings) with a married law enforcement officer. I met him on the ICU Web Cam program and since I had a "buddy pass" I used it to fly to Vancouver and every evening at 5 pm I got a knock on my hotel room door and there he was, in his uniform. He spent the day on horseback, so once his shift was over he just returned his horse to, I don't know where, but my hotel was in his work area so it was convenient. He explained to me he loved his wife and two kids and that ICU was a great program for him as he was closeted and unless someone saved one of his "instant" messages, he had little chance of getting caught. We didn't go out to eat, out for drinks, nothing. Just sex. I had friends in Vancouver who insisted I was joking, saying that there were NO TOPS in Vancouver, but I had promised him I wouldn't give out his name or that he was part of the city's law enforcement unit. People thought I was nuts to fly to Canada to hook up with a guy who could only spend two hours an evening with me. But it was some of the best sex I have ever had and I would do it again if asked.

Floridian, gay, the gym. Yep, I go. In my 20s and 30s I did it because it got me laid more, I did the entire extreme dieting, high protein, "assistance from my doctor". Now I do it because I want to prevent heart disease. I also walk two a miles a day. I keep reading articles "sitting is the new smoking" But yeah for gay men who are younger, the gym is a part of life, no doubt.

thia ís one sick thread that needs to be closed by the moderators.....