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To me this seems sort of like going to a restaurant and the waiter telling you they would not feed you until you purged. It seems to me he was in the wrong place for his expectations.

As an aside, i'd like to express a bit about the word "promiscuity." It's generally used pejoratively as a social norm. One might suggest, from a different perspective, that those who are not similar are "frigid."

To me the idea of expelling or losing a drop of a Mans seed once He has planted it inside of me is offensive. "Cleaning" it out is psychologically tantamount to an abortion to me. Then there is this: "Despite the lack of direct research, Gallup said he “wouldn’t be a bit surprised” if oral and anal sex provided a mood boost. “There’s no guarantee that all of the ingredients in semen will survive the digestion process and stomach acid, which could conceivably change some of the semen chemistry. But given what we know about birth control pills, most of the hormones should survive.”Regarding anal sex, he added: “My guess would be that the chemicals in semen would be absorbed through the lining of the colon.” Here’s some related research that’s worth mentioning: “There’s some evidence that gay males following anal intercourse will go out of their way to try to retain the semen for extended periods of time, which suggests psychotropic effects,” Gallup says. (I wonder whether the “sexiness” quotient of having your partner’s semen inside you might be another, perhaps complimentary, explanation.)" [think before following links] https://www.popsci.com/science/article/2011-05/come-again-science-semen-part-deux/

yeah :-). i have two pumps. Here's one of them. i don't typically use 'toys' on myself, but sometimes a Man likes using toys on/with me.

i can't remember ever trying to keep count long term... even short term (like in one night) it's not something i really focused on. Mostly, when it was asked here how many over a life time, i'd have to estimate. 40 (years) x approximately how many a week. So 40x52xapproximately=_________. And that's varied. Some years it was at least a couple of times a day. Others, a couple of times a week. But really, is it's been an estimate since the second time? idk. Somewhere between 3000 and 6000 cocks (not loads) conservatively. But never counted after the first couple of times. Apps have made sex much harder and less frequent to get in my experience. When cruising was the way i got sex, i went to a location and got fucked, usually several times a visit. It was dependable and easy. So i got a lot more sex that way. Less now, it's more of a process and not as dependable.

This is pretty much as far as i have gone.

Ditto this. Also depends on the Tops Cock length and whether He is seeding me past the 'second hole' (the sigmoid curve). For me, once it gets past that curve, it's not gonna come back out or "leak." If it doesn't get past that curve, even if i sleep with the cum inside of me over night, it comes back out eventually. my sense is, if it gets past the curve, i absorb the seed and am impregnated by Him... which "feels" awesome. For me though, it's not all about the cum. Don't get me wrong, i love and crave a Mans seed inside of me... i'm one of those guys who doesn't hesitate to empty a found condom into my hole. But when it comes to fucking? The dynamic meeting mutual need/desire is trump for me and that is more expressed in receiving a Tops pleasure and orgasm into me than the actual evidence of that (i.e., His cum). p.s. no matter how deeply i've been bred, i always clench and try to retain every drop... i don't want it to leak out

A few more thoughts (not conclusions). "Superiority" seems to be a (the?) qualifying factor in hierarchy? If control is deemed the superior position in hierarchy, and the sub is ultimately in control. do some mis-perceive/label the roles in a D/s dynamic by concluding the alpha superior and the sub inferior? Though there is overlap/blending, to me there is physical and psychological dominance. Is one 'superior' to the other? Personally, i perceive one who solely uses physical dominance as a bully. Physical force does not elicit a submissive response in me, but the opposite. Even if someone manages to dominate me physically, they still do not have my psychological submission. To me, the Man Who manages to elicit my psychological submission, engaging my need and desire ends up leading the dance with me. But to me, that approaches symbiosis because it involves His need/desire to be in control. Though this kind of symbiosis has opposite sides that attract, if an actual state of symbiosis is achieved, it seems to me that balanced state/blend/result sort of changes to neutral? Relational homeostasis?

my sweet FB just left. Called an hour before He got off work, and i was so worked up by the time He got here, i had an erection (which i never feel the desire to use, it's a good meter though). He really likes when i lie between His thighs and lick, kiss and suck on Him. i'm really learning His body from that perspective and He is much more expressive when i am sucking Him than when He is fucking me. When i'm between His legs, most of the expressions come from Him, when He is fucking me, it gets reversed. He really brings out the cocksucker in me though, His obvious pleasure is like fuel on my fire and i get wilder and wilder with desire in synch with Him till He finally wants to fuck me. He's never cum in my mouth before, i think because He would rather fuck His cum into my hole... and i love and am grateful for that sweet chemistry we have. Three years and it's like it only gets better. Something i have with Him is i don't feel the need for more cock when He is done breeding me. Sure, i'd gladly receive it, and even though i have not climaxed, His climax really fills and sustains me, it's really a fucking awesome dynamic... seems to break all the rules and expectations.

Do you perceive your self as masochist along with/as well as submissive? To me that seems part of the mix that makes you who and how you are? Or do you see what you describe as solely an expression of your submissive need/desire/tendency/_________? While you say your "former Master required" of you, at the same time, you were in control. It seems that the dynamic you experienced with Him was an alignment of desire/need? In other places i recall you writing of being hypnotized, was that with this same Master? my sense and recall of your hypnotism experience is that person crossed a boundary with you and thus did you harm? As i see it, this thread (not just this post) is about a driving energy, tendency (force?), ____________ in 'life', 'nature' towards balance. This is foundational in my profession of healthcare, expressed in what seems a constant tendency towards homeostasis. As a holistic thinker, when it comes to humans, i connect the psychological with the physiological in that dynamic. Off the cuff, to me, the "stasis" part of that word seems contradictory. i wonder if "stasis" is even achieved in 'death,' or if there is such a thing as "death" given it's dual meaning of balance and inactivity? That what we call death is a change in existence, not a cessation. Sorry, this kind of discussion has rabbit hole for me. While i think hierarchy exists, i wonder if it serves the bigger picture, that hierarchy is within the tendency of homeostasis or if it is an evolutionary force that works against balance, or maybe it can be either?

i'm writing this before work today and hope to join this conversation when i am off and can give it more time, but wanted to start a response. i learned about my own submissive side later in life, and i think it's because how, what to me is crude definitions of D/s, just didn't fit. Then i was picked up and Dommed by a Man on a vacation to Palm Springs one year and i knew by experience how profound the connection can be when it's real and 'right' (for both involved). Speaking of "nuance" though, i'd make a distinction between submissive and passive. To me, the "doormat level" is passivity. A profound part of a D/s dynamic to me is the dance of a Dom eliciting the submission of a sub. As i see is, submission is not a given, it is given. Most of my sub nature is locked in a room inside of me and it's not a simple or automatic process for a Man to access, occupy and possess that space.

no. i think what strikes me is not so much the amount, but the constancy and how being with Him never gets old or routine (though it would be a really nice routine). 🙂

i don't think the traditional relationship model works as well as often idealized. i think there is something to be said about relationships where two people don't place unrealistic expectations on each other because of having to meet some ideal. Why not get what each can with each other and not try to force it to be more or different than what it is? To me, the fact that two people are "exe's" means there was likely some connection... which i understand can go away or get destroyed,, but just because two people become "ex" doesn't mean the relationship has to end, it can be redefined i think, to fit present realities.

my sweet Babe FB just left. idk what else to call this, but we're on our third year and it never gets old. i can't see a traditional relationship, forced into some sort of mold, ever working for us... but the way we touch and kiss each others bodies (never kissed on the mouth?) goes beyond 'just sex' (if there is even such a thing as "just sex?"). We manage to have an ongoing affection for each other that makes the sex that much better, and the sex is always incredible. my guess is if we tried to make it different, we might ruin it? Sometimes i don't realize how much i want Him until i'm actually between His legs kissing and licking His thighs and balls, swallowing His cock... then He penetrates and fucks me, and He owns me. i don't think He realizes it, but there's a definite oneness thing that happens and i meld into Him. i do think He is starting to grasp just how much i love His seed inside of me. i have an awful lot of it after 3 years, i have His mark on me. sigh.

idk, not an easy question for me to answer. i guess i'm a romantic in many respects, when i feel a certain energy from a Man fucking me, intense desire and need in His focused fucking, i have to bite my mattress to keep from declaring: "i love You!" Doesn't matter if He's a complete stranger prior to Him having His cock in me, it's that "connection" some of us on BZ obsess about lol. For me it's about having and feeling that intense special kind of desire/need connection He has to pleasure and impart a part of Himself into me. i think it's easy to reduce that process down to "cum," but i think there's more to it than that? Then i have to be honest and admit i'll take a found condom with cum in it and empty it into my hole, butt even that seems connected to my concern that some Man wasted His seed on a condom? i get that a Top would want to rut and fuck lots of bottoms without cumming. That makes sense to me. To me, that's not all that different of energy than what a bottom expresses by taking multiple cocks. i see a sort of edging going on with both Tops and bottoms, trying to extend the experience and get around the reality of refractory. Let's say there was some unwritten rule of nature that a bottom had to shoot his load every time he got fucked, what would that do to a lot of bottoms craving for cock in the moment? Personally, i'm one of those guys who'll edge for 10 days and not cum because of how needy it makes me for a Top. Still, even with that understanding, i feel incomplete if a Man fucks me and doesn't cum. It's not just the cum, it's all that goes with it. i'd actually rather a Man slide in and piss inside of me without the fuck, than Him fuck me and not have a release of Himself into me as part of the connection. There's a part of me that craves a permanent connection to Him, even after He is gone? It's complicated, i feel like i'm leaving a lot out and i don't quite understand or am able to articulate all the feelings i have, and the ones a Top has, that i want to connect with when we fuck. i think quantity is often (in part?) an unconscious drive to find and sustain that "quality" that ErosWired notes. Not finding it all in one Man, we look for and get it in lots of pieces in lots of Men?

i have not encountered a prolapse with a guy or in my sex life others, but then i'm a total bottom. i've had lots of guys interested in it from me though. The most i'll go for is a rosebud, don't really want to have a prolapse. As a side note, i have encountered anal prolapse as a nurse with patients. i had one woman patient who had gotten to a place where she could no longer reach back and digitally replace the prolapse and we had to do it for her.

Just left, my sweet FB. When He walked in He apologetically said it would have to be a quickie. He's been breeding me for 3 years, and despite my telling Him several times in many ways, i don't want Him to ever feel like He has to perform for me. i often feel like He keeps fucking even after He comes... which means i get more than one load, but i also get this sense that He feels like He has to fuck me good. He doesn't get that any way He fucks me is "good" as long as He really gets off on it. i'm not altruistic, i love the fact that He enjoys fucking and leaving His seed in me. When He was done, i told Him again that He never has to apologize for a "quickie," that i love having Him however i can get Him, how much i love His orgasm inside of me. He told me He'd been saving it all day and i told Him i was grateful that He saved it for me. We both agreed we have good chemistry. i don't care if He slides in and comes immediately, the fact that He wants to put His cock and seed in me is awesome... i love being he place He gets His pleasure and plants His seed. i'd much rather Him do that than jack off. i think it's awesome that He knew He could save if for me and that i'd want Him/It.

About 30 minutes ago. FB contacted me while i was doing some paver work in my front yard. Spontaneous, butt cannot say no. i ran in to my shower, prepped and thankfully was able to prep fast. He is really getting into oral and loves when i suck Him, lick and kiss His thighs, balls and taint, it's the most expressive i ever see Him... He really wants me to rim Him too. Seems like i'm going that direction, though it's not really my inclination... but it really turns Him on, so i seem to be inching my way there. For His it's all foreplay for fucking and breeding me, so i think that's what's making it something i love doing for Him. He definitely breeds hard after, and i have Him inside of me the whole day after He leaves. Back to laying pavers, just have a funny smile on my face now. life's sweet.

As a bottom, it seems to work best if the Top initiates? idk, i'd think some Tops would appreciate a demonstration of being wanted, but it never really seems to work with the FB's i've had? The rule of thumb seems to be a bottom can always be ready to fuck (despite the prep involved), but a Top has to be in the mood? That's the feel/impression i have gotten with my FB's over the years, and there is no discerning how or when that's going to happen. i have a current FB Who is very spontaneous, and not very verbal about His feelings. Sometimes He will want it a couple of times a day, other times He can go a week, ten days. i'm not in His head, and He doesn't share those feelings with me, so i pretty much just make myself available whenever He wants. Last time we fucked (three days ago), i had just eaten dinner when He called. i told Him i'd just eaten and was preparing for my work day the next day, but i was so easy to persuade, and ran to the shower to prep, he was fucking me 15 minutes later.

i'd guess the real answer for most of us would be "both" and the minority of us would be strictly one or the other. Personally, i make a distinction between a connection and a bond. To me, the former can lead to the latter, but not necessarily. But i value both. For me, any Man Who wants to penetrate, fuck and breed me is a wonderful connection of our mutual need/desire. Just the "wanting" is meaningful for me. "Bonding" can happen faster with some than others, for me, and some bonds are stronger than others, but i always seem to bond with an ongoing FB.

Then there's this... a bit of extrapolation since the study was hetero, but i don't think it's a stretch to be inclusive. "Does semen have antidepressant properties? Gordon G Gallup Jr 1, Rebecca L Burch, Steven M Platek Affiliations expand PMID: 12049024 DOI: 10.1023/a:1015257004839 Abstract In a sample of sexually active college females, condom use, as an indirect measure of the presence of semen in the reproductive tract, was related to scores on the Beck Depression Inventory. Not only were females who were having sex without condoms less depressed, but depressive symptoms and suicide attempts among females who used condoms were proportional to the consistency of condom use. For females who did not use condoms, depression scores went up as the amount of time since their last sexual encounter increased. These data are consistent with the possibility that semen may antagonize depressive symptoms and evidence which shows that the vagina absorbs a number of components of semen that can be detected in the bloodstream within a few hours of administration." [think before following links] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12049024/

Can't have too much anatomy info. 🙂

^this i’m a critical care nurse. In school we learn all kinds of ‘norms’, but in a hospital environment, more often than not, our parents are outside some of those standards. Blood pressure is a common one. The ‘norm’ is bad on the Western diet, high in sodium. So the “normal BP “ ends up being higher. You get fucked a lot, it can change from the norm where most are not getting fucked.

i love a PA on a Top. To me, a PA screams "TOP." Don't know why, but it's a Top accessory in my mind, so i would not be inclined to get one. i love getting fucked and bred by a Man wearing one. As to pics, if you're willing, i'd appreciate seeing pics in all stages of healing, even right after it's done.

i'd go with Pals as well. Surprised no one has mentioned all the flakes you have to deal with with anonymous hook up. Just not as reliable or easy to arrange. With a FB, i can get a text and have His cock in me soon after. With anonymous, you never know if the person will even show up. Even at a sex venue, no guarantee you're gonna get bred. Pals are a sure and constant source of lust for me. i get anonymous in between, but if i had to choose? Pals. i'll add that i also like the connection and bond that forms with a Pal. To me, sex that goes beyond the physical is sexier. you get to know what works and what doesn't and just do what works with a Pal. Anonymous can go either way, sort of roulette. If you have a FB/Pal, there's reasons that you keep fucking together over and over again.