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  1. tallslenderguy
    i've tried it a few times, but at best i think phone could only ever be foreplay for me. i have to physically be with the person to qualify as actual sex. Prior to cell phones, aps and hookup sites, there were 'personal ads' in newspapers, or the gay section of throw away publications that had phone sex services. Writing back and forth prior to meeting can be good foreplay for me, but so many guys seem to use that as an end in itself. Enter the age of the "flake," where there is a whole cadre of guys who only seem to engage in wank sex? Even with writing/sexting, i find very few who give as good as they get. i'll write a detailed, imaginative paragraph and get a two word reply. It becomes obvious i'm just their porn source. The few times i experienced phone sex it was similar. Input and Feed back fuels my desire. If i'm gonna have sex, i want the real thing. If i'm just gonna jerk off, i'll watch an amateur vid on squirt and imagine i'm the bottom.
  2. tallslenderguy
    Just left about 5 minutes ago. He called while i was in the middle of lunch and laundry, but it had been a week... hell, it doesn't matter how long it's been, if He wants it, i do. We have a very non traditional connection now for over three years. As He's leaving, He'll often talk about hitting me up the same night for another round, but rarely does. Usually breeds me once or twice a week, sometimes 10 days. i start to really miss Him beyond a week, but i also have come to appreciate that more frequently might be too much? Not that one can fuck too much, i can take it all day, if the chemistry and energy is there. The way it is now, it's always fresh... for both of us. Which strikes me as pretty special. We don't really have much in common other than the Top/bottom dynamic... He loves to fuck and i love to get fucked. He loves for me to go down on Him, and i get totally zoned by His obvious pleasure when my mouth is on Him . He's normally so quiet when He fucks, i make all the involuntary moaning noises (He sent me a video of Him fucking me and i was really surprised by the sounds that He fucked out of me). But He is so expressive when my mouth is on Him, kissing, licking, biting, sucking everywhere between HIs knees and navel. His expressiveness drives me wild and fuels my lust, i never get tired or wanna stop until He says He wants to fuck me. It's really remarkable to me how long and how fresh our mutual lust and enjoyment has stayed. i think if we tried to force it into some mold, it wouldn't work. As it is, it's just stayed organic, natural my hole is so creamy right now. Some of His semen gets on the outside of my hole... well, it's really more of a gaped cream pie, and i have taken to fingering and tasting Him after He pulls out and takes a shower before leaving.
  3. tallslenderguy
    i'm very sensitive about any exchange of remuneration for sex, be it dinner, a place to stay or outright cash. i only want sex with a Guy Who wants me for the connection that happens through the sex. For me, sex is a mutual connection of desire and i lose that connection if i know the guy wouldn't do it without money. But that's just me, it's not a standard i think should be universal. i get that there are guys who get turned on by being paid or paying for it, to me, that is different. i'm not into it, but i'm not opposed to it either. i have nothing against sex work or exchanging money for sex. i think my needs and desires should NEVER be imposed as a standard for others. I've been approached and asked for money in exchange for sex and i simply say, no thanks and wish the person good luck. Theft and extortion, black mail, those are different issues.
  4. tallslenderguy
    i don't think this has a one size fits all answer. To me, one of the worst offenses a person can commit against another is to violate their volition. Public figures who purposely influence legislation or social standards that affect gay people in a negative way? Yeah, i think they have given up any reasonable respect of their privacy as regards gay matters. If they are attacking gays, it borders on ridiculous to me to expect that gay people will not fight back. To me, their attacking gay sexuality is a violation of gay peoples privacy, so it seems to me, outing them is subjecting them to their own standards. By the same token, a public figure who has no record of causing harm to gay people and chooses to keep their sexuality private? i'd consider it morally wrong to violate their privacy. As far as it ever being "acceptable for a gay/bi person to pass as straight?" Lol, i'm a critical care nurse, a stereotypical gay profession for a male, and i have to frequently explain to people that i'm gay. Apparently, i do not come off as gay, can't tell by looking. i'm actually kind of disappointed that i get asked out on dates from women and have never been approached by a guy where i work. Apparently i don't "pass" as gay.
  5. tallslenderguy
    Technology has influenced and evolved the mating ritual, eh? This reads to me like a part of you already knew you were dealing with someone who had minimal potential for deep connection lol. As you note, "rando... no profile." And, fetishizing STD's, which while not all that rare, still isn't mainstream. You didn't like it, but a part of you saw the "red flags." Or, at least, you see them retrospectively. i suspect, with time and experience, those things will mold you to some degree and you (all of us really)will develop new responses to new situations? We adapt or respond and are a part of the social evolution. The thing about aps/online is it's a worldwide melting pot. There really isn't one set standard. Online is still sorta unprecedented as a social environment to the point we have terms with new meaning like: "IRL," "virtual," "ghosting." Such terms, and what they convey with their current meaning, didn't exist prior to the internet and "social media."
  6. tallslenderguy
    i rarely hear/read this from... anyone really. i often get blank stares when i try and explain i'm wired to be seeded, like a garden. To me, what You describe is a defining attribute of being a Top. i see a Top as so much more than a sexual position and i see "cock" as more than a penis. To me, both are part of His nature and drive to penetrate, fuck, seed, impregnate, create, possess. i see "bottom" as natures provision for Tops and Tops as natures provision for bottoms. we see the attraction of opposites throughout nature, Protons, electrons (and the versatile neutron lol), so it all makes sense to me and seems natural.
  7. tallslenderguy
    It's been a long while really, 8 years? That's when i got both HIV and Syphilis from the same Guy before moving from VA to OR. He bred me regularly and said He was disease free. No biggie, i don't ask, He just volunteered, but apparently didn't know or was lying. i don't sweat it or stigmatize STD's, to me it's like catching a cold, just from the other end. i'd take His cock again, anytime. Since then, i've had plenty of cock, just have managed to not get anything, even with sexcations to gay resorts in Ft Lauderdale and Palm Springs (both this year). i have a regular FB who breeds me a couple of times a week for the last 3 years, but i think i'm His only male sex partner, and have never gotten anything from Him. So i guess i'm 'blessed' lol.
  8. tallslenderguy
    Hi, And welcome. There's a great group of guys on BZ, lots of interesting, informative discussion, not to mention a lot of variety. i've been here for several years and have not found it's equal as an online gay community... a lot more here than "breeding." It seems nature has instilled a strong sex drive in most guys, probably why it's called a "drive," because it often drives us vs us controlling it lol. You sound like a perfectly normal guy, and being "a little scared" is part of that normalcy me thinks. Strange about the "invisible barrier" you speak of. i think it likely that people are afraid when in a foreign environment, especially as a tourist. Maybe not being familiar with customs and culture makes one more cautious, and frankly, afraid. Even in this country, i remember that getting sex was a process i had to figure out, not something that happened in a week... which may be all a tourist has in your country? This seems one instance where Aps actually may facilitate things, though i've read of fears from guys touring other countries where they were afraid to hook up with locals because of fears of being victimized by predators. i imagine that would be a fear any could have visiting any new environment. Too bad, likely a lot of lost opportunities. Hope you stick around and get to know us, interact and become part of the BZ community.
  9. tallslenderguy
    Agreed x10. We have no control over how others perceive us, we can only control our own self perception and our attitude and actions that result. To me, the question of equality is way too involved and complex to answer in most hook up situations. To me, D/s, Top./bottom are not about equality or inequality. They're about attraction of opposites, and ideally, the balance of symbiosis where each person naturally gets their need/desires met by being who and how they are sexually. The reason i take a hard pass on a guy that doesn't want/need me as much as i want/need Him is because, to me, that is an essential ingredient. Guys who have to make a point of inequality, asserting supposed superiority, come off as disingenuous at best. The top doth protest too much methinks. It has the opposite effect on me, like driving a big truck to try and compensate or cover for feelings that are not superior at all. i find honest, open, vulnerable expression of need/desire to be courageous and powerful, not weak or inferior. To me, a superior attitude is just a costume in an act, and i don't want to play with sex, i want the real thing, the real person.
  10. tallslenderguy
    ^^ditto this.^^ (though i'd trade out use for "select." It's another step forward in prevention. Here's a link to cost info for Apretude (brand name of the injection). "Federal law requires that insurance plans cover certain items and services associated with PrEP. Call your insurance company to see how this may impact you." [think before following links] https://apretude.com/apretude-cost/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=what+is+apretude+used+for&gclid=CjwKCAjwgZCoBhBnEiwAz35RwsO1sEy4QdtL8UHWiYDarkfIuqsa1Az54MRvoFnp7QaixZQUqNQ1cBoCDkIQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
  11. tallslenderguy
    "FDA Approves Apretude: First Injectable Option for HIV Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis" "Key takeaways: Apretude (cabotegravir) is a long-acting injectable medication that can prevent HIV contraction and is targeted at people at high risk for exposure. Apretude is typically injected into the muscles of your buttocks every 2 months by a healthcare professional. There are ways to save on Apretude. If you’re eligible, a manufacturer savings card can help you access Apretude for as little as $0 per injection. A patient assistance program is also available." [think before following links] https://www.goodrx.com/apretude/fda-approves-apretude "WHO recommends long-acting cabotegravir for HIV prevention" [think before following links] https://www.who.int/news/item/28-07-2022-who-recommends-long-acting-cabotegravir-for-hiv-prevention
  12. tallslenderguy
    When i was younger, almost all of my sex was through a GH in a restroom, or on the floor of a restroom getting fucked under a stall wall. i cannot say i'm into dirty walls, floors or dirty bodies (unless it's cum, cum is never "dirty," cum is always better than gold) , but none of those is enough to keep me from receiving a Mans cock and lust. i've run into a few cocks that were so smelly that it gave me a moments pause, but once it's in me, that is never an issue.
  13. tallslenderguy
    i cannot say i've ever encountered an "ugly dick," and i'm part of the >1000's club. Of course, most know that sort of assessment is subjective. i hooked with a Guy once who had no legs, amputee up to His pelvis. Had been in an accident as a kid. Because He didn't have legs, His ass was pretty much non existent and His cock had also gotten injured in the accident, so it wasn't 'normal.' i had a great time with Him. His dick was different, but was all Cock and i loved being with Him and receiving His Cock. On a different note, i see a cock as being both physical and as part of a Mans psychological wiring, e.g., His want/need/drive to penetrate, fuck, orgasm, seed, impregnate, etc.. As one of those on the far end of the sexual spectrum, i don't perceive myself as having a "cock." Sure, i have a penis, i'm not deluded, i just do not associate with what i have and what a Man Who has the above mentioned drives/needs/wants has. i have met a few men who's internal dick was not attractive to me, but i still would not call that "ugly."
  14. tallslenderguy
    This is a big eye roll for me. i figure it's usually one of two reasons: laziness or ignorance. "Lazy" because they simply haven't updated their profile if they get checked more regularly. "Ignorance" for the very reasons you and others note. One sexual encounter can change that status, so if one is going to post status it makes more sense to me to post how frequently one gets tested, or that they can document their status if they hook. i still see that on rare occasions, but really unless you go to the clinic with the person and are with that person all the time till the test results, declaring negative status is not really all the effective. When i see stuff like "D&D free," i typically pass because i'm not really looking for a virgin.
  15. tallslenderguy
    This is a tricky one for me, i know this is an individual thing, not a one size fits all topic. "Abuse" shuts me down, it doesn't open or bring out the sub in me. i'm not a physical masochist either and pain has the same effect of shutting me down. i do not equate "Dom" with Sadist. For me, being with a Man sexually is about connection and bonding and it's especially intense the more synergy we have, the more symbiotic it is. That said, i am deeply aroused by what i perceive as "affectionate degradation/humiliation." Mostly it's about mind fuck, but is more subtle than overt, finessed vs crude or forced. The difference? The Top/Dom shows His desire/need as part of the dynamic. To me, force, bullying comes off as disingenuous, a contradiction. E.g., a Dom/Top telling me how "worthless" i am and how i "mean nothing" to Him, all while He is purposefully using me, comes off as denial. On the other hand, there are lots of kinks that, when they are mutual, involve degradation and humiliation. Being trained and used as a toilet is just one example for me (there are others). When a Top/Dom tells me, or shyly, subtly lets me know that He wants to have and use me in that way, it deeply triggers a sub response in me of need and desire to please Him. Us both knowing that He has that kind of power, where we both want that, sets up a power dynamic that is more powerful than force or bullying is to me. To me, it's mind fuck and can go all sorts of places. For Him to be able to smile and have me honestly admit that i love being His toilet is deeply degrading/humilating, but at the same time is affirming need/desire in both of us.
  16. tallslenderguy
    Ditto. A sense of entitlement is a turn off coming from anyone, Top, bottom or anywhere in between. i only want to present to Someone Who wants me as much as i want them. If that 'chemistry' is not there, i'll take a hard pass thank you. To me, incompatibility is sort of like wearing a condom, it puts a barrier between us where sex for me is the connection and bonding of mutual lust and need, not one-sided.
  17. tallslenderguy
    lol, Right? Even though stereotypes usually have some reality mixed in, at the end of the day we are all complex individuals. There are slutty women and chaste men. i think there is a mix of physical (e.g. hormones) and psychological factors that contribute. i think the OP's post is a good example of ego/ethnocentricity, he takes his own perceptions and applies them universally. Which we all do to some degree, because we all have an ego and we are all influenced by culture. i think what differentiates people (and what i see as maturity level) is the degree of self awareness and openness to things that are different than our ideas and conclusions. i think as gay people, we are better equipped to get that because most of us have experienced rejection and misunderstanding because we didn't fit the 'norm.' To me, 'immaturity' instead forms a new culture perpetuating the same old biases with a different face instead of extending openness and acceptance to people who do not fit our 'norm.'
  18. tallslenderguy
    Not sure i can add anything new. Like others, i see the term as a social or cultural construct. Go to a gay sex club and ask and one will likely get a different answer than if they asked Jimmy Swaggart (and he's gotta have some inner conflict lol). To me it's one of those words like "faggot" or "queer" that has been taken back by a lot of gays and owned. Labels are always just a starting place for me, people are individuals and there seems infinite variation on those labels. i think communication is necessary to see the real person beyond the label.
  19. tallslenderguy
    Just left about 10 minutes ago... great way to start a Sunday morning. He was gone a few days and got home horny. Our sex is always intense, He is so verbal when i'm giving Him oral, really puts me in the zone and keeps me there as long as He wants, but always ends with: "I wanna fuck you." i'm finally pretty sure He's a fast cummer by the time it gets to fucking, almost instantly feel creamed. i've tried talking to Him about it, telling Him how hot i think it is and how it doesn't matter if it takes a long time to cum or no time at all. Too bad there's such a stigma attached to it, especially since He's bi. i think He's just conditioned Himself to keep fucking even after He has cum. i also know He's a multiple shooter, so that also may be why He keeps fucking after initially cumming. i have no preference, as long as He is just being Him and is happy about it. Feels so good to have Him in me, even after He leaves. Heaven.
  20. tallslenderguy
    i wonder if Dorothy has figured out this is not Kansas and left. It's pretty remarkable how much stereotyping, transference and ignorance he put into so few words.
  21. tallslenderguy
    Personally, i'm all for group sex... one at a time. i couldn't mark any of the survey answers because i would not want to do any of those. i don't want to ever "ignore" a Man Who wants to penetrate me, but i want to be all His when it's happening, and the notion of multitasking has been proven to be an illusion. Our brains are quick, and can switch back and forth between 'tasks,' giving the illusion of giving attention to two things simultaneously, but we are dividing our time. Which is fine if that's what everyone wants, but personally, i want to spend my full attention on the Man inside of me and cannot do that with two Guys at a time. "We sacrifice our power of full presence when we're multitasking, and we do so for a perceived benefit of improved productivity that simply doesn't exist. Research indicates that multitaskers are actually less likely to be productive, yet they feel more emotionally satisfied with their work, thus creating an illusion of productivity." [think before following links] https://www.inc.com/scott-mautz/psychology-and-neuroscience-blow-up-the-myth-of-effective-multitasking.html
  22. tallslenderguy
    About 30 minutes ago. FB lots of oral, He loves it so much and is so expressive. Him being turned is like fuel for me and keeps me so horny and in heat. i think He was particularly turned on this time, He came almost instantly and continues to pound me. i love how gaped and slippery cum wet He leaves me. Gotta really clench to hold His cum in, though i did finger myself after and lick my fingers, so fucking good. His scent is all over my face, better than poppers.
  23. tallslenderguy
    Not into being sucked or touched, except to edge, and my balls are super sensitive to pain. but when i'm between a Guys legs, pretty much everything between His knees and His navel are 'cock' to me. my mouth and tongue are gonna be all over His places, depending on what He likes and turns Him on. its particularly hot when i can fit His cock and both His balls in my mouth at once.
  24. tallslenderguy
    i think the Top requiring pics and stats wants more than just a body or hole to dump His cum into.
  25. tallslenderguy
    lol... spell check strikes again, shoulda been cocks not "cops". (i don't know how many of the cocks belonged to "cops")

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