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lol, Yeah, i tend to feel the same way. But cognitively i'm going to try to grasp where this Guy is coming from. i see a distinction between the act and the person performing the act. I.e., "...placing your dick inside another male's ass," as i see it, is a decided bi or gay act, but i'm not as decided on the person being bi or gay. To me, feelings, emotional dispositions, are not so easy to qualify or substantiate.

This is a fascinating topic to me. There's arguments on both sides when it comes to attraction, i.e., that it's a biologically ingrained response vs culturally conditioned. It's definitely culturally manipulated, eh? To me, that's the primary crux, or influence, when it comes to the stigma that becomes associated with body appearance. As an aside, we are beginning to understand that the main cause of "obesity" is not the affected person, but the food industry. "Tobacco conglomerates that used colors, flavors and marketing techniques to entice children as future smokers transferred these same strategies to sweetened beverages when they bought food and drinks companies starting in 1963, according to a study by researchers at UC San Francisco. The study, which draws from a cache of previously secret documents from the tobacco industry that is part of the UCSF Industry Documents Library tracked the acquisition and subsequent marketing campaigns of sweetened drink brands by two leading tobacco companies: R.J. Reynolds and Philip Morris. It found that as tobacco was facing increased scrutiny from health authorities, its executives transferred the same products and tactics to peddle soft drinks. The study publishes March 14, 2019, in the BMJ." [think before following links] https://tobacco.ucsf.edu/cigarette-giants-bought-food-companies-used-cartoon-characters-colors-flavors-boost-sales-sweetened-beverages

Here's a link, i checked out tension springs for a hammock or porch swing, which would be simimilar (actually more) weight than a sling holding one person distributed between four points vs 2 points on a swing or hammock that might hold 2 people. [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.amazon.com/s?k=tension+springs+for+porch+swing&crid=2066CUN7B395B&sprefix=tension+springs+for+porch+swing%2Caps%2C159&ref=nb_sb_noss edit: if it was me, i'd go for a closed loop at the end of the spring vs the open hook in your pic, more secure in my mind.

yep. "Absolute" identities seem to work better (socially) with cars than they do with sexuality.

my mind went here too, i.e., what if it were reverse? my story is all over BZ, came from a conservative religious culture and tried to be straight for half my life, blah, blah, blah. i appeared to function as a straight guy, married, fucked a woman (a lot), made babies, etc.. But i was never straight. After i divorced, i thought i might be Bi, based on the 'evidence' lol. i dated a woman who was a PhD and a professor of women's studies, visiting prof from Germany. She was good looking, intelligent and engaging. She also was lesbian... but had recently found she wanted to be with a man. She told me that she was a leader in the lesbian community in Germany, and if many in that community knew she was pursuing a relationship with a man, she would be ostracized. She wanted sex with me, and even though i had lots of experience fucking a woman, i didn't want it. All the right stuff was there for me, but i realized i really am "gay," not bi. That was 15 years ago. my former wife is the only woman i have ever had sex with. i also dated a trans person during that period (FtM). To this day i am not able to fully understand, but that didn't work for me either, even beyond the obvious that this person did not have a penis. Cognitively i accepted them as male, but beyond the physical, there was something/s about them that 'felt' female to me. They perceived their self as having a 'cock' of sorts (they fisted), and by my definition of "cock" they had more cock than i do, even though i have a penis-because they have the drive to penetrate. But that's my perception, i realize that's individual on my part. Ultimately though, we simply were not compatible.

Great topic Bottom Jim, thanks for posting. When i think about this question, my mind goes back to the spectrum theory of human sexuality. Looking at the big picture, there are no two people alike, but we can and do fall into general groups (in this case e.g., straight, gay, bi, etc..). We use labels when it comes to communication, e.g., i self identify as "gay total bottom with some sub thrown in." i use my label to try and present who and how i am sexually, in a general sense, but if someone is going to really connect with me, we're gonna have to talk and listen to each other. i put that identifier out there routinely, yet frequently have guys approach me who want to suck my 'cock.' If we talk, and they listen, they'll come to realize i do not perceive myself as having a "cock." lol, yeah, i know. i'm not self deluded, i realize i have a penis. i'm not wired trans, i don't want to lose my penis or have it wacked off... i like having one and it feels good physically to touch it, i just don't relate to it as a "cock." i see a "cock" as a part a Man Who is Top has and wants to use it to penetrate others with for infinite and individual reasons. That's just one of many examples of how my label/self identifier term may mean something different to me than it does to someone else. i think our labels are important and necessary, a vital piece of communication. i believe where we often get messed up with communication is with listening. The referenced "straight" guy may be deluded, idk, but on the other hand i think it's important to listen and hear him (or anyone). There's a reason he is saying he is straight, there is something he wants the person he says that to to see, to grasp. Granted, he may not even know what that "something" is, but he is putting it out there and i think it's better for the listener to try and hear what he is saying vs. only taking their perspective as reality. There's two perceptions in the room, and both are real. i too would perceive this guy as "bi" from my perspective, but i can also accept that he sees himself as straight... and since it's him we are talking about, i'll accept his label over my own. i don't feel like i have to discard my perception/label, but i also don't want to impose my perception/label on him. It's okay for him to see and label himself differently than i do, and he owns his identity, i don't.

Just left... my Sweet Latino Fuck Buddy. Damn, He's built, One of those Guys you see at the gym Who has muscle everywhere. It had been awhile, He got a second job so works more, He just got off work and wanted to breed before He had to go to His second job. Fucked me really hard, mauled my ass, spanked it, spat in my hole. Fuck, i love Him, i'm so fortunate to get repeatedly bred by Him... i'm definitely His addicted whore, i go through withdrawals when He doesn't dose me regularly. He's always more than perfect. i've got that wonderful almost came feeling, was so close coming hands free a couple of times. Almost like a 'ruined orgasm,' which i love when a Man gives me that, nothing makes me happier than a Mans Orgasm and Seed inside of me.... my own orgasms just disappoint me, i love that edgy feeling of contented hunger, it makes me continue to feel connected.

Here's a new study on the topic of Doxy as a prophylactic intervention for STD's. "The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention is drafting recommendations for using it as a kind of morning-after pill for preventing STDs, said Dr. Leandro Mena, director of the agency’s STD prevention division. The drug is already used to treat a range of infections. A study published last week in the New England Journal of Medicine showed its potential to prevent sexually transmitted infections. In the study, about 500 gay men, bisexual men and transgender women in Seattle and San Francisco with previous sexually transmitted infections took one doxycycline pill within 72 hours of unprotected sex. Those who took the pills were about 90% less likely to get chlamydia, about 80% less likely to get syphilis, and more than 50% less likely to get gonorrhea compared with people who did not take the pills after sex, the researchers found." [think before following links] https://www.oregonlive.com/health/2023/04/this-inexpensive-pill-might-fight-skyrocketing-sexually-transmitted-infections.html?utm_source=ground.news&utm_medium=referral

This alone would be huge progress, removing the (evil!!) manipulative algorithms that are ultimately divisive and antisocial would be a major step in the evolution of social media.

i had just turned 21, and it was given to another virgin... a woman. my story is all over BZ, conservative religious conditioning influenced my decision to marry a woman. Even though i knew i am attracted to males from an early age, i was conditioned to believe/feel that i was "sick, broken," and that hetero was the only acceptable form of sex. So, i lost my virginity with a woman. if she had had any questions about whether i was virgin, our first wedding night experience would have pretty much confirmed my virginity. i missed the first time. Yep, totally missed. I.e., i literally didn't get my penis in her vagina lol. It was dark, we were under covers and i was lying on top of her. Didn't take me long to orgasm, but essentially, i humped her. i remember thinking it didn't feel like i thought it would. She gently explained after that i had not gotten in, and she ended up on top for the first real sex between us. Which was probably a good thing since i was ignorant and didn't realize she needed to be opened, she was virgin and my girth is a bit more than average. Six years later, i had my first sex with a Man... i sucked Him off and swallowed every drop of His seed. After that, there was no putting the proverbial cat back in the bag, though i tried. Enough details to fill a book, and i'll spare BZ that ponderous tome. But i do not think that had i had 'lost my virginity' with a Man first, that i would have gone a different way. my conditioning that being attracted to Men was both "sick and sinful" was so strong and pervasive, i think i would have just felt ashamed and guilty and still tried to be straight. i honestly did not think/feel/believe gay was a real/honest option. After my first experience just sucking cock, which happened while i was married, i went home a told my wife (third time revealing this) that "i am gay and we need to separate." And we did, for 5 months or so, but it didn't stick. Guilt and shame on my part got us back together. It took me half my life to get free of the religious conditioning and accept who and how i am. i was having anonymous sex on the DL the entire time, fighting it the whole time. i was miserable with the lies and deception, but thought i was missing something, the 'key' to being able to resist my desires for a Man, that i was just a failure. Sex with Men didn't alter the conditioned response of guilt and shame. What did, was finally realizing that my beliefs were not in line with reality, that it wasn't me who was 'wrong' but my beliefs. i suspect had i had sex prior, and just made my decision to be with Men based on that, i would never have processed and seen through the religious conditioning... i would have just been sort of rebelling against it without understanding. Even though it seemed to take way to long for me to 'get it,' once i did, it was complete and thorough. It was instant peace after a lifetime of torture, and that has not changed to this day. i don't know if it's better this way, since i didn't go about it the other way, but i tend to feel the cost was worth the understanding i got out of it.

i've been having sex with men for 40 years (thousands of encounters) and i'd estimate 95% has been anonymous. Is it "the thrill of anonymous"? i honestly don't know, but i suspect not. Connecting with a Mans sexual want/need feeds my sexual want/need. For me, sex is ideally a symbiotic connection. The more elements to that connection, the better. i think a lot of us practicing 'anonymous' sex have just gotten so good at it that we've refined and streamlined the process lol, but i think we still may be extracting things from the experience that can also be had in an ongoing relationship of some sort. i don't purposely limit sex to anonymous, but lacking a standard relationship where i can get sex anytime, anonymous has become the default. i think there are plusses and minuses to both. i don't think there is such a thing as a relationship where one person can meet all of another persons needs, sexual or otherwise, so a lot of guys in ltr go to an open relationship where they get some important desires/needs met with one person, and supplement that relationship with guys on the side and it works for them. i don't think there is a one type relationship that fits all needs, that the social standard has foisted on people, i think we are all individuals and all relationship is better custom made than us trying to fit reality into a standard mold. Personally? i a combination of both works for me. i have one FB who i write about often in the "last load" thread. Lately, He breeds me a couple of times a week, and we've been fucking for about three years now. There are periods where He'll go a couple of weeks without any contact (He always initiates), and i will wonder if He has grown bored or tired of sex with me... but then, back He comes for more. i think what often happens with an ongoing relationship is having sex without mutual desire. With anonymous sex, mutual desire is pretty much guaranteed, otherwise it doesn't happen (how often do we discuss 'flakes' here?). Even at a sex club or ABS, Men pick and choose based on Their desire.. i think bottoms often take Whoever wants them, not because we do not have particular likes or taste, but because, for many, the desire/need to be fucked and bred supersedes any others ("refined"). i also see yin/Yang as a real force, especially for those who are wired on the extreme ends of the spectrum (i.e., Total Top on one end, total bottom on the other). i think there is a difference between being in control or controlled and independence/dependence. In my experience, the Top position is usually the One in charge, in control, and the bottom position is usually the submissive and controlled position. It's an opposites attracting and connecting dynamic. i think what is often (dis)missed is that both are dependent on the other's desire/need to achieve and maintain that full on expression of lust/need that attracts us to each other.

Over time, my hole has become more of a slash for fucking/receiving than an asshole for retaining and expelling. Getting to a place where i can take any Cock has been an opening process over the years. But that's just part of it. The anus is made to dilate, i think the problem most have is to much to fast. A lotta Tops know how to open Their bottom as part of the fuck, others are oblivious, and others still don't care. Most of us bottoms want to receive a Man, no matter which of those categories He may fall into. For me, a Man's need and desire to penetrate, fuck and seed me supersedes any skill level He may or may not have. If He doesn't have the knowledge or inclination to open me, i open myself. i had one FB in Virginia Who wasn't particularly long, but His girth was exceptional (to say the least). He also had a passion/lust that pushed all sorts of my buttons and opened me wide psychologically, so He was gonna get me one way or another. After the first fuck, part of me demurred the next time He wanted to breed me. He liked to go right in without any preamble, and it was honestly painful till i could finally open from His fucking and presence inside of me. He had the kind of Cock and demeanor that can make me come hands free. i learned early on, as soon as He would contact me, to plug myself and begin the opening process. That fixed it for me. He still opened me, but He was not too much too soon after that because i was already partly opened to receive Him. We had lots of babies together. 🙂

Just left lol. my usual Sweet Latino FB. He just got a second job at a tire store about 6 miles away from my house. He had a lunch break and wanted to fuck me. Damn, i love Men and the drive to breed, it can be so uncomplicated, and at the same time, seemingly all encompassing, sole focus, intense. i had to scramble to prep, which is always a little scary doing a quick douche, but i cannot say no to Him and His desire, just not an option or desire on my part... i want Him as much as He wants me. 10 minutes later i'm on my bed naked and ass up, and He's already parked in my driveway. He comes in in His greasy work clothes from changing tires and wants to suck me first... He really likes doing that, and so far i'm okay with it because He doesn't do it to make me cum, but because He likes doing it. Which as far as i'm concerned is the only good reason for my penis, i.e., to make me hornier for a Mans Cock (to me, it's sorta like a womans clit in that respect, not wired for penetration, but part of making me more needy for a Mans Cock inside of me. It's the effect for me anyway). Only sucked me a little and He wanted to get right to fucking. He is becoming less shy, after a few years lol, and more expressive. i am getting the impression that He comes pretty quickly, but keeps fucking after. i think He came early on this time anyway, but kept fucking, still, i'm pretty sure i heard His quiet sigh and moan when He bred me, which for me is the most amazing part of the fuck. i LOVE hearing and feeling that moment of a Mans peak pleasure inside of me, even more than His physical seed, to me it's like He plants a part of His soul into me, and it makes me simultaneously feel possessed and grateful. Having His physical Seed inside of me after, and to be able to hold Him and absorb Him makes the fuck last for hours for me. Fuck, i am happy.

the effect was more shaping than enlarging and it didn't last... though i imagine it would if i kept doing it? idk, probably not unlike other pumping. It gave me little titties when i was doing it. The feeling for me was unremarkable, but im not all that oriented to me chest, for me it was more of mind fuck thing that He liked and wanted me that way.

lol, yes, i stand corrected... still, the primary point being that glass still moves even though we don't generally think of, or use it, like a liquid. Fun to thin we drink fluid out of glass. "2. Glass is a Super-cooled liquid? : This misunderstood phrase from Gustav Tammann’s book is probably the origin of the myth that glass is a liquid. The quote “glass is a frozen supercooled liquid” has been misquoted hundreds of times with the word “frozen”, forgotten. Today, this misquotation has grown to such great levels that it is actually difficult to go down and extricate the original quote that contained the word “frozen” in it. One word can indeed make a huge difference. Finally, glasses are only amorphous solids. Where the term amorphous and solid have been separately been explained clearly in the year 1994 by Doremus R. H. Together, these two words mean the same as definition of two separate words put together. Glass is not a liquid." [think before following links] [think before following links] https://awesci.com/glass-liquid-or-solid/#:~:text=Glass is not a liquid.

Right? So many points here. To me, it all points to the sexual spectrum vs the black and white binary notions of sexuality that have dominated for some time (that seems to be changing?). i think the sexual spectrum makes a lot more sense, certainly has been my experience. That, and the fluidity of sexuality as well, though some 'fluids" move less and are slower or faster than others (e.g. glass is a fluid, but moves much slower than water). Growing up culturally programed (primarily religious) against myself (programed to be straight, but attracted to guys from a very early age), i got married to a woman at barely 21. We fucked a lot the whole time i was married. i came to see it as like being in prison. We hear stories of straight guys having sex with other guys in prison because that's all that's available. In my case, my "prison" was my beliefs, my conditioning. i suspect that is true about a lot, if not most of us. We grow up in culture that affects who and how we are, so separating our conditioning from our natural predisposition can be challenging. While i could function sexually with a woman, my 'prison' experience helped me finally process and realize that i'm wired for Men, not women. Also helped me realize just how bottom i am on that spectrum as well. In both those areas, being gay and bottom, my fluidity is more like glass than water lol.

Just left... a surprise, i thought He was at the beach for the weekend, but He came back today horny, so i got a call before He went to His friends house. There's so many great things about 2 males fucking, but one is the ease and simplicity of it. He calls: "you down to get fucked?" me: "yeah, let me hop in the shower i'll text You when i'm ready." Half hour later i text "ok" noticing His car in my driveway, i unlock my back door and lie on my be ass up. He comes in 30 seconds later: "i've be so horny for your ass," hops on the bed, straddles my thighs, quick lube and slides in. By now, He's very familiar with my hole and knows exactly what He wants and how to use it... He unloads, pauses a few, slides out and hops in the shower. Drying off He texts His friend while saying: "maybe i can hit you up later?" or "tomorrow after work?" i nod and smile "yeah", drugged and loaded by His lust, orgasm and seed. i get all three and they fill me up. i'm learning just how contented i can be receiving these things from a Man... it's as if we share all three between us and are both fulfilled in our own way. fuck, happy and high here. ❤️

i can't remember if i have posted on this thread before? idk, it's been around for awhile. i did see my dad naked a few times as a kid, and it just sorta scared me lol. i have never felt attraction to him as a kid or an adult, but i was attracted to boys my own age as far back as 7 from what i can recall. Never my dad, and really, never to older guys as a thing. i was fucked by some, but was never necessarily attracted to the Daddy/son dynamic. For me, it's always been Top/bottom, Dom/sub (of a particular type)... and if it's right, it can be any age. i also have 2 brothers, one 13 years older and one 10 years older. The oldest was gay and pretty blatant about it, from an early age. He died of AID's in the 80's, before i had accepted myself as gay (even though i was getting fucked a lot, i was still religious and fighting it unsuccessfully). i remember looking at a pic of Him after He died, when He was 20 or so, and He realizing just how hot He was. He was porn star hot, but i never saw that until after He died. Before or after though, i still was never attracted to Him or my other brother who was extra straight lol. Because of my religious past, i also ended up getting married to a woman and have 2 sons. Same there, never any sexual interest at all. Both turned out straight and just the idea of sex between us offends something in me. Not sure if that's a conditioned response or if it's just because i know it would offend them, but i don't have any desire independent of that either. i did, however, have a crush on my cousin as soon as we met (11 years old). He was one year older than me and was one Dom little fucker lol. He'd only play games with me that He knew He would win. He loved to wrestle and play tackle football. He was bigger and aggressive, and always wiped me out lol. i still have occasional dreams about Him and we are teens in my dreams and they are always romantic. Haven't seen Him in 35 years, but i don't think my feelings for Him ever went away on some level. That doesn't feel like incest to me though? idk, that doesn't factor in consciously for me.

Boys my own age. i can even remember Their names. i've written about it elsewhere on BZ, but at 7 (we were both the same age) a boy down the street (Danny Newberry) took me into His bathroom one day and showed me an enema nozzle. He was very excited as He explained to me what it was and where it went, nothing happened between us, but when i got home, i found our enema nozzle and it became the first thing to go into my ass. i had a crush on another boy (Craig) at the same age, second grade, and can still see Him in my minds eye... i used to just stare and pine over Him watching Him play dodge ball. i became fixated on the kind of shirt He wore and had to have one. There were others, i was boy crazy even at that age, and it never went away, we all just got older. Now i do pretty much the same thing at work and at the gym, i like Guys. i think i may be gay? As for actors/celebrities? i crushed big time on Jim Morrison of The Doors, and David Cassidy on The Partridge Family. He sang this song: "I Think I Love You" and i'd swoon every time i heard it lol.

Last night, my Latino FB. He's the proverbial "Brick House." He's a serious weight lifter and a solid mass of muscle. Which if i were at the gym, wouldn't be the Guy who got my attention. Visually? i'm attracted to lean, even slight Guys who have some shape, particularly a shapely ass. Which i always think is strange as a total bottom, just how turned on i get looking at Mens asses? The only thing i can figure is it's because i see it as Their fuck muscle? i'm a member of the >1000 Cocks club when it comes to bottoming, could be 2k, but it's been a lot. i can count on two hands the number of guys i've fucked... most of my topping days were when i was married to a woman and was 'role playing' a straight man. i think that burned my bottom identity deep into my soul. i can go through the motions of being top, but i'm simply not wired that way psychosexually. So, last night. Got off my rotation at the hospital at 730 pm, was a pretty brutal rotation, but made it through and dragged my tail to the gym afterwards to do my 'skinny white boy routine' (trying to make and maintain a fuckable ass and body). Drove home, showered and collapsed in bed a little after 9, been up since 4 am. And, i get a text from my FB: "are you free rn." Damn. i cannot say "no" to this Man, He really is a sweet Guy, and i want Him any chance i get. So i text back: "if You don't mind waiting while i prep." He's cool with that. After about 30 minutes, i'm good, and text Him, He shows up around 10. i'm always waiting naked, ass up on my bed, door open. He says "hi" and asks if i want to try something new... We've been FB's a couple of years now, He's always bred me. More recently, He's wanted to suck me, which i've been okay with because He really likes it and doesn't make me cum, sort of foreplay before He breeds me. Last night He wants to do 69. i know He doesn't have a lot of male with male experience, i'm pretty much it. He's Bi with a gf. I assented and He straddled me on Top. He has a descent sized Cock, and either didn't realize how to position Himself, or did lol, but He didn't move His hips, and i pretty much took Him to the hilt the whole time while He sucked me. i was so busy trying to breath and move this mountain of a muscle Man that i wasn't really aware of Him sucking me... though He is good at it. At one point He said: "if you are into it, You can do my ass too." I'm not, i don't rim, feels top to me. i don't get into penetrating a guy at all. But, i like this guy, so i started fingering Him while sucking Him, and He obviously liked it... and asked me to fuck Him. Apparently i was His first...pretty sure He was being honest about that. i was surprised i could even perform, but He's prolly the first guy i've bred in over 15 years? He got a substantial load, and then wanted to fuck me. i like this guy, so the sub part of my was in full force last night, i just went along with whatever He wanted, didn't assert myself at all. He's totally sweet, and doesn't have a forceful bone in His body. Force shuts me down, but desire opens me and accesses the sub part of me. i don't really like getting fucked once i have cum, just wanna have a snack then sleep lol, but i rolled over and He fucked me very hard... He was obviously very turned on. After He showered, He wanted to go again... but i was spent. Finally some of my assertion returned and i explained that my fucking Him was rare, not likely to happen again. And, while He enjoyed it, i get the impression He's still mostly Top, just wanted to try it. idk, but it was a really unusual night.

i got an oxballs pinhole about a month ago, still haven't used it. i got it because a recent hook up is into gaping and being able to look deep into my hole, we used a speculum, and this seems suited to being able to see deeper. As to getting fucked with a hollow plug in? Not for me... to me that's sort of like wearing an internal condom. Half my objection to condoms is the lack of skin on skin (the other half is obviously the prevention of seeding). i want to feel a Mans Cock, skin and all, i want to connect to the friction of His fucking me, and vice versa. As far as piss breeding is concerned? To me, a Mans piss is a second form of His Seed, so i don't really like when it doesn't all go inside and stay there lol. i'm the same with semen, i don't like it on the outside, or facials, etc., i want it deep and then i hold it in. Same with piss. i know not all Guys are able to piss while inside a hole, so i'm learning how to drink from a Mans Cock to accommodate His need/desire in that respect.

Yesterday evening, around the 630 pm. my Latino FB. It had been few weeks because i had been in Florida on vacation, and the He got a second job. He's Bi, has a GF and is on the DL. We have a spontaneous relationship where He texts and generally wants it "right now" when He does, so i've gotten better at quick clean out... and frankly take more chances. Last night i had some water left in me, but it was clean. i felt warm wetness running down my testicles as He slammed deep into me and released trapped water from beyond the S curve (aka "second hole"). i was totally clean, and that was just from a quick double check. i had cleaned out a few hours earlier hoping He would call and wanna breed. At first, i wondered if He was pissing in me... i've mentioned that a few times, but it's been awhile, not sure He is really turned on by the idea, so i don't push it, just want Him to know it's okay if He does. It wasn't a lot of water, just residual. He released it and left a puddle under me, and replaced it with His seed. i felt incredibly high as i thanked Him after. He's kinda shy when i thank Him, doesn't know quite how to respond to my genuine gratitude... He often thanks me back. ❤️

Everything. I've told the story a couple of times on BZ, but my first was at age 7 when a neighbor Boy i had a crush on showed me an enema nozzle and excitedly explained what it was and where it went. i found ours at home, and it was my first penetration. After that? Anything i could find that seemed it would fit. Veggies, those tooth paste plastic tubes that just looked like dildos. One of the more unusual items was a the pump on my 10 speed bike, which had a sort of 'cum' mechanism... okay, it was air, not cum. lol

Ideally for me? Au naturale: i.e., spit, cum or natural juices. But how often is life "ideal?" Douching, in my experience, dries my hole out. Yeah, i know, sounds counter intuitive, but douching not only removes unwanted stuff, it also washes out the bodies natural lube which mostly originates in the colon and is way more viscous than water... or spit. For me, lube mostly matters with the first penetration and fuck. Lube just works better and faster so there is no pulling and tearing in there. After i've been fucked once, i'm good for any cocks after that, usually no supplemental lube needed. Not necessarily just because of cum, some Men are long enough to seed me beyond the curve (aka "second hole"), so Their cum may not be lubricating where the next Man is fucking. But there's other factors, like precum, and just the friction of being fucked will stimulate natural lubricant production from the rectal tissue from the pressure of a Cock filling the hole. For those interested, from a purely scientific standpoint, an appropriate type anal lube is the healthiest option. “Whenever and wherever someone uses saliva, using spit alone elevates the potential risk of injury, as well as the possibilities of STDs,” Goldstein says. “Saliva in and of itself does not provide the appropriate lubricity to decrease friction during anal sex. These increased pressures lead to the possibility of tearing localized tissue (i.e. anal fissures) and the formation of dilated veins (i.e. hemorrhoids), and a possible result of either or both of these is a higher incidence of contracting STD’s. Anal sex, unfortunately, is traumatic and the way to minimize any complication is to use appropriate lubricants.” [think before following links] https://www.logotv.com/news/a4ktnd/gay-bottom-sex-self-lubricate

i think the refractory period is a factor that no one has mentioned. Not suggesting it is 'the' reason for His behavior, but i believe it factors in to all of our response post orgasm. "What Is the Refractory Period? The refractory period refers to a span of time in the sexual response cycle that occurs after orgasm or ejaculation, during which a person won’t respond (physiologically or psychologically) to sexual stimulation and is incapable of orgasming. During this time, blood pressure and heart rate decrease, the brain releases hormones, like prolactin or oxytocin, and dopamine levels lower to promote rest and recovery. All people, regardless of gender, experience a refractory period, lasting from a few seconds up to 24 hours." [think before following links] https://www.masterclass.com/articles/refractory-period-explained Personally, i want a dynamic where the Top is in charge of my orgasm. Ideally, i like the idea of a shared orgasm, i.e. His orgasm becomes mine when He fucks and releases into my body (lol, it's complicated). A big part of this for me is i do not like the "refractory period" where i do not have that intense drive, desire, need for a Mans drive, desire, need. For me, sex is mostly about the connection i feel and have with a Man through sex. Though i don't think a lot of bottoms, especially total bottoms, may articulate it as i do, i think there's similar elements bottoms experience. A bottom who is having sex without an orgasm is not going to have the refractory period that a Top has after orgasm. Whether stated as such, cuddling for many is a sort of foreplay, which a Top might not be inclined towards right after orgasm (depending on the length of His refractory period?), whereas a bottom who has not had and orgasm may want/need more (enter the "cum dump" lol).