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First, I would like to say that now this issue of stealthing is not as relevant as it was years ago before PrEP and medications. At least not for men who have sex with men. I recognize "anonymous stealthing" as a valid fetish so as long as the encounter is anonymous the stealthing is just part of a fetish. I find it naive to think that a law is going to prevent some horny poz drunken guy from stealth fucking some guy at the bathhouse. One of the wonders of sex with men is the huge availability of choices of flavors of sex, from top-bottom to vanilla-kinky. Anonymous stealthing can be a big fetish for many men including bottoms who get a kick out of the fantasy of being stealthed at the bathhouse. It should not be censored because it's a fetish but also because it would be impractical to prove and to charge. A law may make things worse because guys will now believe everything a stranger tells them. If two guys meet on Grindr where they exchange phone numbers and later discuss the issue of STD's, and stealthing occurs, I would then find it morally reprehensible.

If you were talking about fucking women I would see it as a problem, but one of the many advantages of sex with men is that you can be a committed bottom and ignore your cock, something many bottoms do all the time. I've been a bottom for decades and who hasn't fucked and bred too many holes but from hearing the many moans, groans and dirty-talk out of a guy's mouth while he unloads in my hole, I know that fucking and breeding can be a hot experience, even for bottom guys. This tells me that you recognize that topping may be fun and worth while exploring. I don't know much about you and what you are into. Assuming you are open to kinky/group sex I would recommend you go to a bathhouse with different environments and find the one you like. In a bathhouse it's easy to get horny just by watching guys having sex. Plus you can always try fucking someone and if it doesn't work nobody will be offended. It happens all the time. Eventually you'll find a loaded hole that will turn you on when you stick your fingers and find the cum leaking out. In a one-on-one encounter not getting a hard-on may be more of a problem than at a bathhouse.

Because stealthing is part of the repertoire of fetishes in the anonymous all-male environment. But it's not part of women's repertoire of fetishes.

I all for anonymous stealthing at the bathhouse, darkrooms and parks, and in these cases it's almost impossible to apply any kind of law like that. These laws are intended for regular sexual interactions where people involved have some idea of who the other is. Let's assume someone at the sauna gets stealth by a guy who walked into his room, fucks him with a condom that the guy takes off in the middle of the fuck. After the breeding the guy walks out of the room and the guy notices his hole is leaking cum. What can this guy to to "apply" the law? Go after him in the hallways of the sauna demanding his name and address so he can charge him? No changes in anonymous stealthing.

I meant to say that if I had a list of qualities I would definitely be a top or at least versatile because I would truly enjoy topping. Partly because I'm uncut and very sensitive I tend to cum too quickly whereas if I lasted for a log time, I would probably enjoy fucking. It would be interesting to hear from men reading this discussion and who enjoy topping and consider themselves a top or versatile. Someone that can moves from hole to hole without losing the erection or shooting his load is one reason to be a top or versatile/top. I have a weakness for taking a load from a bottom so at the sauna I would usually stay up late and wait when cumdumps and other bottoms were going home and tried getting the9ir loads. They usually didn't last long and some had half-erection and cum almost right away. I can't imagine someone with reliable and long-lasting erections and who could fuck holes for a long time without cumming, and not wanting to top.

It depends: (1) On the cock and the way he handles his cock, and (2) the situation, which means whether I'm at the bathhouse trying to collect loads, or on a one-to-one private meeting, when 15-20 minutes should be right. But again, that depends also on the size and shape of the cock and how the guys handles his cock. Some cocks are perfect and the guy is a master, which in this case could be an hour.

I've been bottoming since my 20's and I have enjoyed it tremendously. I've had several long-time fuck-buddies that have appreciated my hole, some total tops and others who really enjoy fucking and breeding a hole. I think that in order to be a "good Top" the guy must really enjoy fucking, which in my opinion it means that he can: Easily get hard and stay hard Fuck for a long time Controls his orgasm I had a fuck buddy who would fuck me for at least 30 minutes in all different positions, never losing his hard-on. And after a while of him pumping my hole he would unload. I only bottom but I'm sure I would gladly top if I could.

This makes sense because we all know that after shooting most guys don't want to think about sex. It's happened to me a few times with my gloryhole, where some guys don't show up. But that's the name of the game

I haven't been either, but I'll try going to Club Ottawa next weekend, probably Saturday night. I'll be meeting a guy who wants to be able to fuck and breed my hole in public. Sounds good to me.

That's an amazing experience for a bottom, still enjoying the fresh load when a new cock goes in and dumps another load. Wow!🥵

I'm sure that this has probably happened to many bottoms, that a Top fuck-buddy is now a bottom. I've had 3 fuck-buddies that I know of that no longer fuck and breed holes, because now they want their hole to be bred.

And as a bottom, I hate it when the top is playing with my cock while his cock is up my hole. It doesn't let me focus on his cock in my hole.

This is probably how tops who go to saunas and never bottom get infected. The top fucks a cumdump on the public sling with a fresh poz load.

I'm a bottom who doesn't particularly like rimming a hole. I do it to a top who likes to get rimmed before the fuck, but I do it to get him horny. I love it when at the sauna a guy with a limp cock walks into my room, he starts rimming my hole and his cock begins to grow, he fucks me, breeds me, and leaves. I love it!

This is so important in places where men cruise for sex. There are many bathhouses with public slings but with no decent place to clean a hole properly.

I think Loveitraw is right when he says: "As far as I can tell you've just described the difference between cruising and dating."

Before the pandemic I was at the sauna on a public sling and a young hot guy started to fuck me surrounded by guys watching. After shooting his load, he pulled out and left but one of the guys watching started immediately felching the load, and once finished he fucked me and gave me a second load. It was hot!

You have to be patient and pleasure his cock without focusing so much on the load. I always pay attention to the amount of pressure on the cock, especially when shooting. To avoid this: If the pressure or friction is the perfect one, he will dump his load in your throat. But while this is happening make sure not to go crazy sucking so hard that the guy will pull-out. When I'm getting fucked I do the same, especially when the guy is shooting inside. I never go crazy squeezing the cock to avoid the guy pulling out.

When I'm sucking cock in a gloryhole at a bathhouse, because I know men like to "save" their load, I take my time when I notice that the guy on the other side of the gloryhole is holding his load. Instead of trying to make the guy shoot his load, I lick his balls and the shaft of his cock, deep-throating for only a few seconds, making him feel good but without him cumming. I like it when a guy leaves but minutes later he's back to get sucked again. Usually it means I'm getting his load. Once the guy is ready to cum, I deep-throat his cock and swallow his load. Gloryholes are great!

Especially with anonymous sex, I feel an incredible emotional connection when a guy is breeding me, almost in-love.

A pre-loaded hole can make a bottom want to fuck it and breed it.

Ask the bottom to relax and open up his hole to reduce the pressure on your cock and that may help. I know from experience that tightening my hole increases the chance of the top shooting his load. When a top says "I'm close but I don't want to cum yet" I know the load is mine but I then play with my hole and when I want the load I tighten my hole, and voila!

The first gloryhole I saw was at a university, in the Student's Building, near the pool tables. I visited this gloryhole for years which had 4 toilets in a row with a metal partition in front of the toilets for privacy. This partition allowed the suck and fuck action to take place in the two toilets at the end, with a huge hole between them. Occasionally the holes in the metal partitions were covered up but very quickly the holes were back. There was a Pub in the same building so on Friday or Saturday nights, when the pub was open, the gloryhole was busy with horny drunken students. Lots of fun! I think that a gloryhole is great for the guy getting sucked because after he shoots he doesn't have to talk to anybody, just pull out, clean up and leave. Same for the guy sucking, after the load, no need to deal with anyone. The ultimate of objectification!

I think that this is actually true, especially in anonymous settings like saunas, where bottoms are cum-receptacles, and HIV is in cum. Years ago I knew a guy who was a "TOTAL TOP" in his BBrt profile, portraying himself as very masculine and in-control. He always claimed he pozzed just by topping and that he never got fucked. I think that it is possible to poz exclusively by topping, 0% bottoming, but it is rare plus we must account by the problem some men have with wanting to bottom. Some men associate bottoming with a female role. There is a book about anonymous sex in parks from 1965. In this book the author noted that in terms of roles, the bottom role is what he calls "the base role".

I don't think this is an easy question to answer because from a bottom like myself, anyone who fucks me and breeds my hole is a "top". This may include a horny bottom who at the sauna just wants to unload so he can go home or take a break. But I'm sure that most guys who fuck want a clean hole. Tops, or guys who enjoy fucking, most likely can pound a hole for a long time or can fuck several holes without shooting their load. So what they want is not only a clean hole, but a hole that is in tune with his needs in terms of the right pressure on the cock and a nice experience while shooting their load inside the hole. I pay a lot of attention to the pressure that my hole applies on the cock and because every cock needs different pressure, like uncut vs. cut, I always play with my hole and get the feedback from the guy fucking me. Some guys need more pressure during the fucking and while the shoot their loads, while others need less pressure otherwise they cum to quickly. Once a guy at the sauna throughout the night fucked me three times and gave me three loads, which told me that what he wanted my hole was providing. But before fucking the guy needs a good hard-on and here is what every guy is different. Twink holes are very popular but many guys prefer to fuck and breed mature holes. Others need some kink. Once in a Montreal sauna I made sure to have in my room a French version of my "CREAM MY HOLE" glow-in-the-dark sign "Trou à décharge". I was on the sling in my room wearing my shorts with a green hole that glows in the dark. My lights were dimmed and had the door open. Some French speaking guy came in, uncut, fucked me for a few minutes and eventually shot inside while uttering some hot talk in French. He pulled out, was very happy, and before leaving he managed to tell me that he liked the sign which turned him on and made him came in. What did this "top" want? Hard to tell. He didn't come into my room because I was a twink or a mature bottom, He simply read the sign in French and when he saw my hole on the sling and the glowing sign "Hole to cum inside", he was compelled to fuck it and cum inside. I've had many ongoing fuck-buddies, some 8-10 years, that I've met in the parks and saunas, on telephone hook-up systems, and later, in the Internet. With these guys who knew me as a bareback bottom, would come over to my place and would have sex. Some wanted me on my bed on my fours, others wanted to use my gloryhole. Why would these "tops", for years, come back, over and over again? Number one, a clean hole. After a clean hole, if a guy comes back for another session it means that he probably enjoyed the fucking itself, the way the hole grips the cock, etc, and also the experience of blowing a load inside the hole, which usually feels soft and moist and which can adapt to the needs of the cock at the time of explosion. I had one long-time fuck-buddy (he had an 8" cut cock, more than 8 years, I met him on the telephone system), who when he was cumming inside me, he would ask me not to touch any part of his body. With him I would open up my hole wide so he would stay inside for a couple of minutes. He would eventually be back, which meant he liked the experience, starting from the clean hole. I say this because sometimes a "top" may want to fuck me again simply because he found a "hole" that he feels comfortable with, and sticks to it. This is actually true in my case, where a much younger guy constantly wants to have sex with me because he is too shy to cruise around and find other holes. It is a boost to the bottom's ego to feel that guys want their hole, independent on "what do tops want?" It can be kink, like at the sauna, but it can also be a fantasy like "masculine bottoms" or "twink bottoms". In Montreal you go to one sauna if you want twinks and to another if you're into masculine/leather types. "What do tops want?" may depend on if the top is looking for a bottom for a boyfriend/lover/relationship, or is in at a sauna/bathhouse/darkrooms. I've been assuming that is a top looking for an anonymous bottom at a sauna.