PhoenixGeoff

Thirteen guys in four years? That qualifies as being a slut? Jeez...what the fuck ever happened to having some standards? Thirteen guys in a night is worth being proud of. Thirteen guys in a week is pretty good too. Frankly, I'd be disappointed with thirteen guys in a single year, let alone four. Sometimes, you just gotta thank the deity of your choice that you were born gay.

Yeah, there's a real thrill having illicit sex of pretty much any kind, whether it's anonymous, in a public place, cheating, whatever. Hell, just being gay used to give me a bit of a thrill simply because so many people disapproved. Seeing some fundie get all tweaked over two guys in a relationship still makes me wanna go fuck in his church's sanctuary.... Just remember that slutty, cheating sex can lead to bad consequences. My suggestion: I think it's a LOT more fun if your partner is as much of a pig as you are (especially if your tastes in other guys is similar). Lots more opportunities for really fun parties and sex. Personally, if I were looking for a new relationship right now, I would make it absolutely clear right from the beginning that I expect it to be totally open and that I want him taking advantage of that at least as much as me. But then, I really get off on the thought of my bf having sex with other guys.

Lots of guys talk about a "fuck flu" when they convert. Personally, I don't recall any sickness at all...it's one reason I have no clue who gave it to me...I could have been infected at any point over a few years. The only things I noticed were (1) my seasonal allergies went away and (2) in the six months before I tested poz, I had two colds, both of which really knocked me on my ass for a week. At the time I got my first CD4 count, it was already fairly low (~320 or so, I remember they wanted me to start meds right away) so I figure I'd probably been carrying it around for quite a while already, so neither of those colds came from primary infection. Really, an HIV test is the only reliable means of knowing and even then, there are false positives (unlikely but they do happen), so if you do come up poz you should get a second test to be sure.

The trick is making sure your eyehooks are big enough and that you get all four securely in a joist (NOT just drywall). Having someone with a right tools (insert stud detector joke here) do it for you is definitely a good idea...having your bottom come crashing down is not a good scene (and potentially a really dangerous one, especially if someone's hand or a large toy is inside him at the time). The Fort Troff design is fairly standard from what I've seen. I personally would not recommend using PVC or other plastic pipe to construct it if you are going to go that way. Steel is much more reliable, ideally welded, like likaleather says. But then, of course, it's probably not going to be easy to put it away. I'd personally recommend biting the bullet and just buying the sling from someone like Fort Troff if you want to go that way. That way someone else will have already worried about the design and materials and you'll feel more confident about your setup.

I never asked while I was neg. I didn't really care whether I converted or not and figured I wasn't endangering who I was with. Now that I'm poz, I'm very open about my status. It's on all of my online profiles, and I usually bring it up when setting up a hookup as well, whether that's online or in person. I always answer honestly if asked as well. There are a few situations where I might not mention it...anonymous sex being the obvious one (like fucking through a glory hole). I figure if you are having truly anonymous bareback sex with no questions asked, you're either poz already or chasing or don't care.

I've seen and been in slings built with frames of varying kinds before and I have to say that I really don't like them much at all. Even if the frame is well built and can support plenty of weight, they usually feel less than safe, which can be a real distraction. Remember, a sling not only has to support the weight of the bottom but also will be subjected to forces backwards and forwards (when you get a reasonably active top fucking) or even side to side. It's very difficult to create a rigid structure that will stand up to all of that force and still feel (and be) solid. IMO, you're much better off going for the eyehooks in beams if that's at all possible. It's still fairly easy to remove the sling when its not in use and the eyehooks themselves can be camouflaged pretty effectively if you don't want to have to explain what they're doing there (hang potted plants, suspend lamps, whatever).

Yeah, I definitely like to fantasize about a world where all men are forced to turn to each other for sexual gratification. Frankly, I believe that if straight guys could get over the whole gay stigma, they'd rapidly reach the decision to fuck other men because (a) in general, we're much fucking easier ( NSA with guys really means NSA...you can fuck a man and never see him again if you want © we know how to make a cock feel good, after all we have one of our own, and (d) sex with guys is MUCH better...from real blowjobs to holes that feel much better to sex partners with a lot more experience and skill. Reproduction could be fixed through technology...maybe a method of combining genes from two guys and implanting the new DNA in a clone or something.

Out of curiosity, assuming the ban is lifted and the bar to reenlistment on my record goes away (I was kicked out under DADT), would it be possible to go back on active duty even though I'm HIV+? Question's kind of moot, since I'm 38 here (although still keep in shape...I could probably pass an APFT fairly easily)

Personally, I gotta say that all of the really sick, twisted, perverted, cum-swapping, poz pigs out there is a HUGE plus to HIV! It's good to really feel like your among your own kind

Incredibly hot, but not quite perfect....needs some cum leaking out of it, preferably mine!

Honestly? Practice, practice, practice. The more you get fucked, the more you learn how to open up and take a cock. Eventually you'll get to the point where all you have to do is bend over, use a little spit and that raw cock will slide right in. If you want a loose and sloppy hole (not exactly the same thing as a guy who can easily take a cock up the ass), then get fucked and bred multiple times in a night (at a bath, party, whatever). I guess you could open it up with toys and lube or whatever first. Personally, I love fucking a sloppy ass, but I want it to be that way because the bottom I'm fucking is a slut who's already been fucked by other guys.

I make a pretty decent ws bottom...love to drink it, get it up my ass, have a guy piss all over me...very hot! I wish I can be a good piss top too, but the truth of the matter is I generally get stage fright and can't get things going. Closest I ever got was when this bottom guy followed me in to the man's room at my favorite bar. I was a little drunk (which helps) and started pissing in the trough they have there, then let him wrap his mouth around my cock. Very hot! So I'm working on getting more versatile there too.

I've had a major crush on Titpig ever since I first saw him in the '90s. He gets bonus points for being a big part of getting bareback porn started again.

Bingo...we have a winner!

In the last 10-15 years or so, I think I can count on one hand the number of times a condom has been involved (the most recent time and the only one in the last five years was when I got fucked in a video). It takes a seriously good reason for me to even consider allowing a rubber to touch me. With so many hot men out there who really love to bareback, why would I ever want to settle?

Interesting point. Lots of bottoms here have emphasized their submissive side (taking loads from any top, getting fucked in whatever position the top wants, letting themselves be whored out, etc.) Does that submissiveness extend to allowing the dom/top to decide whether the bottom has sex with or without condoms? Personally, I don't see myself as submissive, so I have no trouble with telling a guy to GTFO if he doesn't want to fuck raw

Did not know that. Thanks for the tip.

Most major places have an online presence (Mr. S in SF is high quality but expensive, Fort Troff is another one I've heard good things about). However, if you actually want to buy stuff like chaps or the like (including metal cock rings), I highly, highly recommend that you go to a leather store in person to be fitted or at least try on off the rack stuff first. You'll be much happier with the result. If you're just looking for toys or things that are relatively generic or adjustable (hats, half harnesses perhaps), buying online is fine. If you're looking for things like boots, remember, there are always places like army surplus stores and the like. My favorite pair of boots is the old leg boots they issued me at basic training at Fort Benning, GA in 1995. You might also find some of the leather stuff you're looking for at motorcycle shops like your local Harley dealership, although the leather will be heavier and probably not as well fitted (it'll be primarily designed to protect you from road rash, and the biker and leather fetish looks diverged about 35 or 40 years ago).

Damn, really hard to say...they're all so much fun. It had actually been a while since I'd gotten into longer sessions with just one guy but I did it a couple times this last weekend. One was with a very experienced and energetic top. The other was with someone pretty new to the gay scene (who I suppose ended up in more of a bottom role, but only because I took the lead throughout and played with his ass a bit...no other penetration...I can be a gentleman as well as a pig ). Both were immensely satisfying in their own way. I really like how a longer session can really take off in completely different ways depending on your partner and the setting and the chemistry and vibe. And boycunt's right...riding that edge as a top is really a hell of a lot of fun. I tend to spend a lot more time when I'm fucking a guy just because I really, really love having my bare cock buried in his ass and watching his reaction as I vary my pace and positioning and angle...bringing myself to the edge and then backing off and doing that over and over again.

Do I have to pick just one?

I personally find that rimming is a hell of a lot more common in a one-on-one scene before any fucking happens. Obviously, it's a great way of opening up a tight hole and giving it some natural lube. At least that's why I really get into it (OK fine, I really love a hot ass too!). But I'm finding that less and less of the sex I have is of the type where I'll hook up someplace private with one other guy for a long extended fuck in the bed. Don't get me wrong...I still enjoy that kinda thing, but I think the combination of having a partner who expects me home at a certain time and a certain desire for novelty has made the all-night one-on-one less common for me. I see it a lot less in quick, sleazy, anonymous scenes, where the top will usually at most finger some spit into the ass he's about to fuck (I find that often when I get fucked in this kind of scene, I have to provide the spit for my own ass to make sure things go, uh, smoothly). On the other hand, in group scenes or sex parties, bottoms are usually pretty well lubed up (either with actual lube-yuck!-or cum and spit) so I often just bypass the rimming part and jump right to the fucking (or fisting or whatever), especially if there's a good sized group that I want to make the rounds of. I have almost never found a total top who enjoys felching for its own sake. It's rare in my experience to find guys (bottom, top or vers) who get into it in anonymous scenes, probably because you can't be sure of just how clean a particular bottom may be since you just, uh, met, as it were, although it does happen once in a blue moon (I personally don't felch guys in that scenario because of the cleanliness issue). In groups, felching is a bit more common, though still fairly rare. I usually won't get into it if the bottom's been using artificial lubes of any kind (I hate the taste of pretty much every lube ever invented). Most guys who get into felching seem to really prefer an ass with multiple loads in it (I know I do), and since the bottom-to-top ratio is usually skewed the wrong way for that kind of thing, it doesn't seem to happen as much. I find myself eating cum out of my own ass (either off another guy's cock or my own fingers) far more often.

Palm Springs. Last weekend. In spite of mostly being a happy and contented slug laying by the pool (with occasional cannonballs into the water to liven things up), I took and gave quite a few loads, including really getting pounded hard and bred multiple times by this insanely hot man I'd been lusting after for years

Interesting blog. I'm a former active-duty 11B myself. Even a former Catholic Funny how we both end up being bareback pigs. Let me know if there's anything you'd like to discuss, in public or private.

Just came across this. It's worth reading as an example of just how bad things can get. Reading this makes me very grateful to be living as well as I do. Does it get this bad for everyone with HIV? To tell you the truth, I don't know. The writer has been living with it for quite some time, and it's possible that he's running into some of the longer-term complications that will eventually catch up with me as well. Or perhaps he's just unlucky (the combination of HIV, diabetes and probably untreated depression suggests that that might be the case) And to be sure, a lot of his trouble stems not from HIV but from homophobia, both institutional (the problems with his partner's estate) and personal (the terrible if all too common attitudes of both his partner's family and his own siblings). Still, I do take one clear point from this: living with HIV means that many options you may have right now will close. Where you live (forget about retiring to a rural area, either to get some peace for yourself or to live with or look after family). What kind of work you can do. Whether you even can work or not . And disability sounds considerably less charming when you hear about the hoops you have to jump through in order to receive a pittance.

Hmm...that's a bad thing? Granted, the top should make sure he's not hitting anything uncomfortable or painful, but I like the challenge of a cock that big