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Not always. My life-partner and I made all the end-of-life decisions decades ago, had counsel draft all the legal documents many years before he became ill. And yes, his family did contest the decisions. And no, they did not prevail, since the documents had been created by our counsel in as iron-clad a fashion as possible, and many years before they were needed. I happen to have some dreaded cousins, who I absolutely know will try to cash in when I kick it. In my final arrangements.* I left each of them exactly $1.00 which demonstrates that 25 years ago, being of sound mind, body, blah blah blah, proves they were in my consciousness, my "thoughts & prayers" as well as my anticipations of their grasping greed in the future, and thus reflects my enduring love and disaffection when I'm outta here and cannot do that in-the-flesh. btw - that chess-move was suggested by counsel; I didn't come up with it. *and yes, they are turned out to be not only republikans, they're fukkin clerics !!!

#1. "Has been out ..." I'm assuming you mean 'out-of-the-closet', as in openly gay? If not, what do you mean? #2. "just a couple of years" If he's been out of the closet for 2 years, but doesn't need sex to be happy in a relationship, what does he need out of a relationship? Does that mean he's a-sexual? Does that mean he doesn't need "relationship" sex, but does need 'outside' sex with strangers? You call him your 'boyfriend', but there's no sex with him. That's not a "boyfriend" relationship, that's a "roommate" relationship - at best. Your question implies whether you should "cheat" or not. Cheat on what? There's nothing to cheat on in the first place. Relationships are two-way constructs. Each guy gives what the other needs, and gets what he needs. Give and take. Sharing. If he's your roommate, you're not cheating on anyone when you head out for sex. If he's your boyfriend, that implies a closer construct that would normally need an honest conversation to discuss needs being met and those not being met. There are tons of relationships like yours. They're called platonic relationships, and they're perfectly acceptable. One thing they're not called though, is "boyfriend". He treats you like a king, and that's great, but it's not meeting your sexual needs. Thus, whatever your relationship is, it's not giving you what you need. Have you discussed this issue with him? Does he know that you and he see the issue of sex differently? It sounds like you could be happy enough by heading out solo to get fucked, and that might be enough for you. That said, it would be far better for you to tell - tell him that you are unfulfilled in (at least) one important way, and you need to get the issue resolved. 1. The word "cheat" implies a previous commitment not to have outside sex. Is that the case? If so, then you should re-visit the subject with him, since it's not proving sufficient for your sexual needs. He must accept that your needs for getting fucked are equally valid as his for not having sex are. If he's not comfortable having sex, so be it. That's his choice, right? His reticence cannot be controlling of your needs though. That's entirely unfair to you, to the relationship, and eventually to him. 2. Would you be happy merely jacking off all by yourself? It doesn't sound like it, since you're already considering getting outside sex. I certainly wouldn't call it cheating though, since you're not having sex with him after 5 months. You don't mention whether or not you made any promises to him, so we can't comment on that issue. I think you should have a frank conversation with him, explain it all, and see how he handles this exceptionally odd "boyfriend" set-up. Then, you'll have your answer, and you won't have to carry the burden of "cheating" on someone you clearly care deeply about. Good luck !!

It didn't occur to me that could possibly happen. But then, lots of things don't occur to me, I guess. This is why I asked the question - I get to learn new things (however disappointing they are) from other guys that know more than I do about all of this. Really, NEDenver .... you're being overly polite. Chumphood is something those guys aspire to ....

Not any more, perhaps. Maybe it was one of the many that were washed away yesterday, with that terrible flooding in KY. Or, maybe one a bit further east, which area the storms are heading for in the next couple of days.

My apologies for being unclear. I am equally, if not more so, focused on guys that want (or will want) to get married at some point in the future. I'm hardly qualified to offer legal opinions - just asking questions, hoping other guys have a lot more to offer than questions. I didn't know , for instance, that recognition could be limited to a single State. But, now I do. Thanks for your reply.

Good news indeed. The question though, is why? Are guys limiting their sexual escapades because of the risk? Are guys having the same amount, and the same 'type' of sex regardless of the monkey business? Until we know those answers, we don't really know all that much yet.

Getting back to the original post: Since the right for two men to be legally married was established years ago, and thousands upon thousands of men have legally married, exactly what could Clancy take away? These extant marriages were entered into as fully legal marriages (at the time, and to this day). Isn't it legally impossible for the SCOTUS to declare these legally-performed marriages illegal? If worse comes to worse, maybe they could make it illegal for any new gay marriages to take place after X date, but can they touch the extant ones? So what if they were based on privacy rights recognized years ago: they're still legal marriages. Right? The difference between marriages and pregnancies (I mean, for the purposes of this thought-exercise) is that pregnancies end after 9 months at most, and marriages can last life-times. Even allowing existing marriages to continue until one of the partners passes, therefore ending the marriage*, and at the same time making new ones illegal - two entirely different answers to an absurdly perverse issue - is completely nuts .... right ??? Any legal-eagles (and also rawfuckers) here on BZ ? on the other hand, we could claim that although our partner-in-marriage has passed, the union still endures in heaven !!! There's nothing they could say to counter that !!!

Is a variation on the theme permitted? Don't forget that there are plenty of Tops that love eating a Hole they've just Bred - and even better, after a number of other, pervious Cocks have Bred it too. I can't think of a better way for a bottom to increase, deepen his satisfaction, than to add the sensation of taste to the sensation of being fucked full by multiple Cocks by oral cleaning-up of a Cock that has been rutting in his well-filled Hole.

Thanks, TotalTop, for posting that most interesting video. As one of those kids who never heard much more about the Civil War in public school other than the traditional "us vs them", every viewpoint is welcome and worthy of introspection. I would be interested to know more about the "cash flow" thought-train. I do know about the problems with status (s.o.f.) as new States in the West began to form, but there must be more to the cash-flow idea than travelers with their belongings. The land-purchases idea is one that could involve a decent chunk of change. Thanks again.

So Trip: one more thing: the Dolphin Democrats is a great resource, if you're inclined to vote Liberal. There's a meeting over at some brewery in O.P. a little later, near the O.P. Post office, but it might be too late to register for it. There are meetings regularly during election season ..... might kill two birds with one stone, as the saying goes .....

I'll take experience and skill over youth and beauty (i.e. beginners) any day. True, some young men possess both beauty and skill, but one seldom runs into them in the fuckjoints.

Of course. Whether it's this crippling of his intellectual capacity or that crippling - the result is the same. I wouldn't use the word "seem" though. These old men, subsumed by their firm belief in something intrinsically false, have actually said (vocal or via the written word) that they intend to proceed with the repressions based on the privacy rights. The way I see it, there's no "seeming" about it. They're gonna just do it, or die trying. I hope Whoever or Whatever is reading this last sentence ......

Yeah, I know so well. Another guy on here (I'll let him identify himself if he wants to) gave me some great advice on getting a shot via the Broward County Health Dept. The woman I spoke to regarding getting an appt for the shot was very nice, not a smidgeon of judgement, and while they're out of vacces just now, she offered to call me back when they get more. Can't really ask for more than that. But, I'm putting my regular schedule at the fuckjoints on pause until I do get it. This one seems to be really fast-moving (in areas where we seem to be more 'active' in practicing our proclivities), and I'm playing this one safe. But, this too shall pass at some point. I've almost got the garage cleaned up ... so there's that, anyway ...

Welllllllllllll ...... if I saw that in a backroom, I'd definitely 'cop' a feel ..... and do pardon the wordplay ......

Hang onto your seats, guys - for once, I'm actually not going to blame Cheeto-Head. I don't believe he possess the intelligence to actually "plan" something like that. He's hardly intelligent, he's merely clever - like every other conman. More, I don't think he gives a rats ass about anything other than his own fat ass. He's just too dull to plan out something like that himself. He's only able to take advantage of situations begun by others, as you point out. Rikers, baby !!!!

That's how to do it, ffunguy5. The more you post/reply/take part in the discourse, the more you'll be able to do. We'll be waiting to hear more from you 😉

Well put. Even when a clearly humanistic message is brought forth, it gradually gets perverted into a fundamentalist message - which is far easier to live down to than the original, inspirational message is to live up to. Here in the US, there are millions who have been taught this gradually dissolving humanistic, uplifting message into a carved-in-stone set of intractable rules by almighty Gawd. Admittedly, the Universal Message is at once extremely simple, and yet almost impossibly difficult. So difficult, in fact, that it becomes far, far easier to follow the rules as set forth by crafty, "noisy gongs" like Jim and Tammy - the Queen of the running eye-paint. Like Franklin Graham, whose riding the wave of selfishness disguised as a religion, and on and on and on. The best thing to come out of the whole Billy/Franklin carnival show was Ethyl Waters croaking her way through His Eye is on the Sparrow. How do these people dare to claim to speak for the Unimaginable? To those who actually believe that Gawd Almighty has forbidden abortion, that life begins the moment the load is pumped in, I say: Don't like abortion? Don't have one then. And keep your long, pointy noses out of your neighbors pants. To those who believe that marriage can only be between opposite genders, I say: Don't like gay marriage? Don't marry one then. And keep your long, pointy noses out of your neighbors pants. Or, as a certain someone more sublimely put it: Pull the log out of your own eye before you worry about the speck in other peoples eyes. It's not just a universal of fundamentalist religions, either. Nationalism can foment the same kind of myopia in a population. Take the centuries-long hatred of the Jewish People, for instance. Why hate our Jewish brothers and sisters? Because "they" killed Jesus? What a laughably insane notion, yet it is espoused by so-called "christians" the world over. Tell folks that if they do x,y, and z, hate who they're told to hate, cough up the dough each Sunday, they'll fly off to cloud-cuckoo-land one day and be clothed in jewels, blah blah blah. Like that's going to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, house the homeless, comfort the sick. One of the worst human characteristics, in my view, is embracing "Willful Ignorance". Or, to put another name on it, Fundamentalism - of whatever stripe. Willful ignorance, choosing to remain ignorant is nothing short of enraging. Rejecting our intelligence, our powers of reason, in favor of willful ignorance is nothing short of anti-human.

That propensity is hardly limited to Greek Christians. It seems that "Christians" world-wide seem to think they know better than anyone else, and about every possible facet of human existence. However, as the old saying goes: Pride goeth before the fall. Hopefully sooner than later.

Hey, Trip .... welcome back !! Glad whatever that family situation was resolved itself, and you got out of Texas. That doesn't seem to be a very healthy place to be these days. Not that our State Government is much better though. Our primaries are Aug 23rd, so get your registration stuff taken care of. The Dolphin Democrats (local gay Democratic organization) do the research on candidates, make endorsements, so even the more obscure, down-ballot positions are investigated and endorsements made. Seeya around, maybe ....

<<<trying to blush, but it's not happening>>> Guilty as charged. That was one of the more exceptional times over at RR. Lately, I only write about particularly thrilling nights-out though. It's a bit unseemly, since apparently so many BZ'ers don't have anywhere near the opportunities we do here in Ft. Breedingdale. btw - that kid did stop by a while ago, but I wasn't home, and he just left a short note stuck into the storm door. No contact information, just a note thanking me for a great time, all of that. I just hope he got rid of that asshole bf, and found some guy with a little more generous outlook on keeping his Hole fucked full. He seemed to be a really nice kid.

Welcome, NegBtm4Tops. Thanks for coming out of the "lurking" closet and joining up. We'll be looking forward to hearing from you !!

Nope (knocking on wood). But then, I have never been much into sex where I could get pinched for it. I much prefer the fleshpots, backrooms of bars, fuckjoints. The only risks there are bugs, and if a cop shows up, he's not on duty and only wants to join in the rutting.

After all these years, it's almost too good to believe. Bittersweet though, considering all those we've lost over the years.

Welcome, DesparateSoftboy, to your Life. First, take all the precautions to guard your health. Get on PReP. Get all the inoculations against the sexual bugs that will come right along with all the loads. Be sure to wait long enough for all of them to "take". Taking these precautions will not guarantee that you'll never get sti's - you will. But you will have taken every step you can to mitigate against them. Get tested very regularly, so they can be treated asap. When all of that is taken care of, jump right into the middle of the writhing knot of Breeding men, offering what you have to others to sate their Lusts - taking from others what you need to fulfill your own Lusts. Enjoy every moment of it - love it - practice your skills often - and become the man you were born to be. And be sure to love yourself for having the courage and honesty to be the best man you can possibly be. Best of luck !!

Exactly. In your case, it's your magnificent Calling that obviates any silly physical barriers. In mine, it's the enduring effort to avoid guys that look like me. That's perhaps because I ditched the cultural bullshit I was raised with many years ago, and - (maybe subconsciously?) - seem to avoid guys that might carry the same cultural baggage I threw off. Probably not the most fair way to cruise, but then I've fucked plenty of loaves of white-bread through the years. Compensatory, maybe? All I know is the one-eyed-jack in my jeans takes notice of men that don't look like me a lot <polite cough> harder than some others.