Closet? Poll

[Guest]

This might seem a bit personal to some people, but who all here is in the closet, DL, out, etc.? Obviously I'm speaking of your sexuality, not our kinks. ?

It's more out of curiosity. Don't answer if you don't want to (obviously) but also don't be afraid to share your stories here (whatever direction you swing). No judgment.

[Guest]

Looking at the choices now, I think I may have (at one point or another) gone through every single one of these. lol

When I was younger I thought I'd never come out. Then I dated a woman for a while and cheated on her with a few guys. Then I met someone and suddenly thought that maybe it'd be possible for me to come out one day. Then I actually did it a few years back in staggering steps (starting with my friends and then moving on to my family). Most people didn't think it was that big of a deal. Glad I did it, though.

[Qban]

Other - Out to everyone except parents/family.

[ErosWired]

Other. It’s complicated. Out to certain individuals, kinda/sorta out to others, family is a mixed bag. On the one hand I have AIDS and how did I get that, but on the other I’m a father of two and was married to a woman for 17 years, so it confuses the issue in the minds of many.

I think I prefer it that way. I don’t think sexual labels are actually very useful. If asked whether I’m gay, straight or bi, I’m often tempted to reply, “I’m sexy.”

[tallslenderguy]

Out to close friends/family here.

i don't have any stereotypical traits that incline people to label me as gay, so the only way people know is if i come out to them. The first time i came out was when i was 19 and still very religious and unaccepting of myself. At that point i thought gay was sick and sinful, so i "confessed" my attraction to guys in front of my church. i thought the reason i could not "overcome" my desires or "get free" was because i was too proud to admit my 'problem.'   One of the people who was there when i "confessed" was my future wife to be.  It was still the 70's and coming out was still a big deal in those days. No one at my church, including myself, really knew what it meant to be gay, so that coming out was an admission , not a declaration. 

There have been various times over the years where i told people, but for the most part, i lived on the DL till 2006. At that point, i came out to my kids and anyone who was around me. Kids and former wife are still religious and disowned me, excommunicated, etc..

These days i just tell people when the topic comes up or to women who seem interested in me and wonder why i don't hit on them lol. 

[tallslenderguy]

27 minutes ago, ErosWired said:

Other. It’s complicated. Out to certain individuals, kinda/sorta out to others, family is a mixed bag. On the one hand I have AIDS and how did I get that, but on the other I’m a father of two and was married to a woman for 17 years, so it confuses the issue in the minds of many.

I think I prefer it that way. I don’t think sexual labels are actually very useful. If asked whether I’m gay, straight or bi, I’m often tempted to reply, “I’m sexy.”

Wow, thank you for sharing, i never would have guessed this.  From the things you have written about yourself, i had thought of you as having a history of being a gay sex slave, i never would have imagined you being married with kids.  As you say: "it's complicated."  Life can have so many variations. 

[workmyhole]

I'm so out, my family and friends had a good idea when I was on the local news radio years ago talking about the need for repeal of the sodomy laws in DC.

[Cumfilledbottomboi]

I can easily “pass” as straight but I’ve known I was gay since age 11. I didn’t officially come out until my early 20s and even further, I’ve been a total sub bottom the whole time and have never topped anyone.

[Pozguyinchi]

I know from family that they say I was playing with dolls at an early age. I know I started having feelings for other boys around 5. I was so fortunate to have a loving family that realizes what made me different made me special. I was out to everyone at age 13. Both of my parents and my siblings were always on board and supporting. When I was 19 I tested positive and the first people I told were my parents. I think because of the love and support and my outlook on life I have been able to achieve great success personally. I speak with my dad a couple times a week. He is the best listener, most supportive and hottest dad around. I hear stories of people that still have not come out and I can’t imagine what it would be like to hide who you are. I really think it’s more about yourself than the others around you. 

[Guest FinalDL2021]

I will come out, that I am Bisexual, for the right man. I have personally accepted that I am bisexual, and I am not ashamed of It. I just want to make sure, it will be worth all the turbulence, with my family, once it happens ?

[Sunovabesh]

For me, I was always kinda out.

5-ish-10-ish: Liked girls more than I liked boys (kinda) but I did try to kiss a boy at age 7. Got smacked for that shit...... Why is everyone calling me a sissy?

10-12: I might be gay, but, maybe it's just hormones..... Why do I wanna lick the pits of all my male teachers?

12-14: Mom, dad, I'm sorry to tell you, but you guys got a huge bill to pay from Charter on Demand - I'm gay as fuck, and I jerk off to Colby Keller a bit too much.

13-15: Gay. Gay. And Gay. Gay, Gay. I love being friends with girls in my ghetto-ass school. Gay, Gay. No, not many boys noticed, just knew I was a nice guy (Only wanted the teachers - Mature smells turned me on).

16: ..... wHY DOES THIS FEMALE INTRIGUE ME???????

17-18: I guess into girls, guys and whatever is in between? But, then, why do I like gay porn so much?........ Wait, what's a strap-on?

18-19: Guys ain't shit.

19-20: Girls ain't shit.

20-22: What the fuck am I so I can tell mOTHER FUCKERS WHAT I AM!!!

23-now: Fuck it, fuck it, fuck it, fuck it. I'm just pansexual. If y'all can suck my dick and bend over, good enough.

 

Virgins/Young Folk: Wow! You don't look gay.

Sexperts/Older Guys (Gay): Honey, you are flaming.

Me: Fuck it. If they ask, I'll answer. If they don't know, well.... They finna know from how many jokes I can cram into an awkward situation. 

 

 

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So, my answer is I'm out to every-god damn-body.

[Pozlover1]

After I came out to myself I still had all my friends to deal with who thought I was crazy. Most gays were insufferable preppies who I had no interest in. Finally one soft spoken Black gentleman took an interest and I started meeting gays I liked.